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I'm a 23 year old girl
This is important ,...I love my bf with all my heart but it seems like I completley lost interest in sex .
To be honest I never was interested to have sex with any one ,....I do love him but I just don't want people to get close to me ..I DON'T LIKE THAT.When he is on top of me I get sick and very uncomfortable and sometimes want even to cry ....But I never told him nothing
I hate the fact that I can't satisfy him ,since I always has an excuse or come home very late just to escape from the occassion....
I want to stop feeling this way ,.....The problem is me not him
Tell me what to do ....,
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Tell him the truth if he was your love of your life he will understand.If he don't understand why that mean he is proubably useing for sex but hopefully hes not so tell him the truth. thats the best thing to do trust me on this one.
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Your not alone. Some girls just aren't into sex. The reasons are because bad experience or your uncomfortable. That is totally fine!
It's your choice, do you want to make love to your bf but your uncomfortable? Or you don't want to make it at all, even though if your no uncomfortable.
Your not sexually active, which I consider normal. There are people are like that! Just sit down at the dinner table and discuss with your bf. If he loves you, he will understand your reasons. Open out to him, he needs to know. You don't want him to wonder why you don't like sex. If he was a true man, also, he won't go searching for sex. Sex is a minor thing but over the years, it's become more major because people put porn on the internet, which stimulate young people into doing it and they grow up with that.
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A psychosexual therapist is trained to work with people who are having sexual problems. When you met them for the first time, they would do an assessment to see if your problem was mainly sexual or emotional, and they would work from there.
If you are unhappy with not liking sex, this might be a good way to really understand what's going on and try to solve it. This therapy would involve a lot of talking about your feelings about sex in general, your relationship, and yourself. It could also include 'homework' or techniques to help you begin to overcome some of your difficulties with sex.
It might also be helpful to let your boyfriend know that you are having these problems. A strong relationship depends on honesty and good communication - if you can be clear about your feelings towards him and also explain your difficulties, he might be able to support you. It would also mean that you would not have to put yourself through the ordeal of having sex until you were ready for it.
I wish you the absolute best.
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Tell your boyfriend about it. Be honest. Or you could go see a doctor about it.
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Talk to him about it. Tell him that you don't really like sex. It's completely normal not to like it, and to feel that you HAVE to do it to please your partner, but if it makes you uncomfortable & you don't like it, then don't do it. If your boyfriend really loves you, he'll respect your decision.
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Since you mentioned that you don't like people to get close to you, I highly doubt that you have a physical problem. However, it would be wise to see your physician to rule out any health issues before doing anything else.
Since I don't know your background, I can only touch on these things here..but I am not saying that this happened. Sometimes woman who were abused as children, or have been taken advantage of as a teen or adult feel the way you do. Also it often depends on the attitude of your parents or other adults around you took towards sex. If any of these things have been an issue with you, look towards counseling to help you overcome those obsticles then work on the sexual relationship.
It may be that you love your boyfriend, but it is so much of a brotherly or friendship type love that it is difficult to be attracted to him physically. In that case he may not be the partner that would suit you best in an intimate relationship. If you are trying to escape from sex now, pretty soon it will be everything little thing about him that irks you. Even the most insignificant things. If you see that as happening you may want to consider moving on from the relationship. Two people who are in deep serious love, usually feel completely comfortable with one another, if it is one sided, it will never work.
If you are committed to making the relationship work out, ask him to start over. Take it slow and learn to accept his touch in a non sexual manner. It can be as simple as holding hands or kissing, and stopping there for a while before moving on to the next stage. I have always had this saying "Making love starts outside the bedroom" meaning if he is not loving you in a nonsexual way, and helping you feel good about yourself, the sex part will become dull and pretty soon you will feel like you are making a sacrafice for him and getting nothing in return.
There is probably no quick easy answer, but will take a series of steps to find the solution. Take it one day at a time and relax...you are not the only one who has ever felt this way.
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