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i dont no who i am evry1 hate everything i do
13/f.i just turned 13 this month.i go to a death trap of a school.i used to be really quiet till i was like 12.now im the freaky kind of person that scares people and i like freaky stuff like disecting brains and hearts in science classes. and i give people nightmares a lot. i do like that kind of stuff but im not a freak.and now aduldts are sayin im gothic to my parents.ok im not tryin to be.yes most of my clothes are black yes my jewelery is mainly chokers and big rings yes i love rock and metal and screamo and yes most of the people who dont hate me are goths emo or freaks but my best 2 friends are a preppy pink girl and a guy who is prep to. my parents took it all away all my stuff like that and wont let me see my goth emo and freak friends everything gone. but if i would tell my mom that thats just how i am shed freak out and get a therapist and hate me forever. I HATE MY LIFE im not gettin help like phsyciatrists or watever. i cant tell my mom im goth which i dont really think i am but if id write out my life ya i guess i am.my bff said its because i was a goody goody bitch all my life. he doesnt say it in a mean way but ya.even he says it!what do i tell my mom and i cant just sit down and talk to her...we dont get along since ive changed. what do i do she hates me now and took away everything.
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Hon, I was a goody-good girl all my life. I'm almost 18 now and am suffering from an addiction problem (alcohol) and when I tried telling my parents, they did not believe me...They just thought that I'm too good to be doing something like that.
The whole point behind my 'story' is that your parents might still be seeing you as their goody-good daughter and it's just too difficult for them to accept the fact that you want to change. Goth, emo, nerd - whatever the stereotype - you're still their daughter. If you sit around blaming your mother for ruining your social life and dreams, you won't solve anything. Try reversing your actions. This tends to surprise parents and confuses them, BUT works all the time. Instead of shouting or screaming or arguing, say "Yes mom...you're right". Do things they'd never expect you to do - while you're still YOU as a 'goth' or whatever. This will make them see that no matter how different you may seem, you're still a good person and your friends aren't being a bad influence on you. They'll see that it's your choice to act that way and there's no peer pressure whatsoever.
If I were you, I'd write down little notes every night and put them on your mom's pillow. There's no way she'll avoid you that way - if you're afraid that she won't listen. Eventually she'll come around and see that taking your friends away from you was wrong.
Trust me ... I've been there. =)
Hope this helps.
Kay.
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your parents should accept you for who you are and who said you need to have a label.she doesn't hate you she just doesn't understand you. it was wrong for her to take away your things, and that makes you more rebellious. there isn't anything wrong with seeing a shrink. i advise that you do see one and if you put things in perspective for them then they can help you talk to your mom about it. you also may find that sitting down and talking to your mom could actually work or maybe write her a letter and slip it under her bedroom door one night or leave it on the counter one day before you go out to school. maybe you could even come up with a compromise, like you get your stuff back but start wearing a few more colors, its better to compromise than lose everything.
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Hey. It sounds a lot like your parents are shocked because of how much you've changed. This happens to a lot of people so don't feel bad. If this is the real you than you can't change yourself. Just try to be you and dress how you like no matter what clothing you wear (it could be a rainbow jumpsuit if you really wanted to) but clothing doesn't make a person. It's what's inside that counts. Your mom just probably misses the relationship you used to have and she feels bad that other parents are talking about you this way. If you just be cordial and don't rebel I'm sure she'll let you hang out with whatever friends are nice and who you like. She's just looking out for your best interests and she cares about you. I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
Chrissabelle<3
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If you're depressed because of the way things are going for you, I'd see a counselor & get your life back. I realize your parents are freaking out because you're "gothic" but if that's just how you are, you need to explain that to them. Tell them that they should love you for you, and not judge you by the clothes you wear or the things you like. Or if you show them that you don't care what they think, they'll probably just stop.
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