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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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Where is the Strait of Magellan located?

It's in South America at the tip of Chile.

I have this friend named Tony, i met him when i used to date this boy Al. Al and Tony are really good friends, but Al broke up with me sometime in January. Lately Tony and I have been hanging out a lot lately. He just got a car so he drives me around everywhere and we really do have a lot of fun when we hang out. One day, me and him went to his house to get something. While he was doing whatever i just watched TV and then he came and laid with me and it ended up leading to sex. The issue is that I really like Tony and I'm worried that might have ruined our chances together.. He's coming over today and I kind of what to tell him how i feel but I'm not sure of how he does, so what should I say to him?

Just come out & tell him. It's the best way to tell someone you like them. In person, up front & to the point.

my arms are both fat and muscular and i want then to be skinnier. does anyone know any workouts or anything to help them get slimmer? thanks in advance.

Do push ups, pull ups & lift weights. =)

well here's my situation. I dated this guy for a year and a half and we broke up 8 or 9 months ago. But we have remained fairly good friends since then.
Well when we first started dating, he told me all the time that he hadn't drank in 2 years and he was always so proud of that. even one time he was at a bar with some of his friends (not drinking) and someone saw him there and told people that he was drinking even though he wasn't. well he got reaaallly mad about it.
So after all that and after we broke up, he got into drinking again. He would call my friends up and tell them to come drink with him and stuff. I always heard him talk about it but I had never actually seen him do it. Well last week, i went to the movies with him and one of his friends and they went in a restaurant to have a drink before the movie. It made me so nauseaus to see him drinking when I know how much he hated i before.
So my question is, what is something I can say to him to remind him of how he used to be without being to condescending? I am 20 and he is 22.

I'm sure he knows how he used to be, but I'm thinking he figured "Oh, well she hates drinking, and I love her, so I'll stop for her." so he stopped drinking & put up a front that he hated it. Now that he's single & has no one to stop him or get mad at him for it, he's free to do as he pleases. Let him become an alcoholic & ruin his life. You can't stop him from drinking. He's an adult & he'll do what he wants.

i was thinking for my non school uniform day(red nose day), i was going to wear them footless tights with a nice skirt but i was thinking would red footless tights look nice with a black skirt??

anyone got any ideas??

thanks xx

I think black leggings [footless tights] & a red shirt would look better. Red tights aren't too common, and I don't think they'd look good.

Also, wear some black/red flats if you can find some. You'd probably be able to find some at Hot Topic. You can also wear a necklace with a red gem or some red/black pearls. =)

Hi.

Sorry, for the extremly dumb question but I need to know before I go out of town to look for it, because there is no game stores in town. No, not even Wal-Mart.

Anyways, Do they make DDR for Xbox? Not 360, just the plain regular blah xbox.

Thanks.

You could always check xbox.com like so:

http://www.xbox.com/en-US/games/catalog.aspx?r=0&s=0&g=0&c=10&xlm=0&h=0&p=1&st=DDR

They've got it. =) I'm not sure if you can buy it off the site, but you should be able to.

i have the strangest feeling my boyfriend is cheating on me is there anyway i can spy on him?
I really want to get his text messages sent to my phone too?Is that possible or is there something else i could try? Some one help please!

What lead you to think that he was cheating on you? I doubt you can have his texts sent to you, but you could always check his cell phone when he's not around. But then again, a relationship with no trust & no honesty might as well not even exist since it's not really a relationship anyway. Talk to him & ask him straight out. He might get mad because you know "MY GIRLFRIEND TOTALLY JUST ACCUSED ME OF CHEATING." but, you have the right to know, and if he is or he completely denies it & you find out otherwise, drop him like a bad habit.

when i first told my girlfriend i loved her, i really thought i did, but now as the days are passing by shes just getting too clingy and way too emotional, shell call me crying, saying how much she loves me and in the beginning i was thinking "aww how cute", but now i just feel bad, and irratated... whats a good way to break up with her without her going crazy and shit?

You should only tell someone you love them if you really mean it. It's not a word to throw around like it's a frisbee. Next time, be more careful with it. Anyways, tell her that things are getting too overwhelming, and you'd like to be just friends.

what is your opinion on shaving down there?

16 female

and should i let my boyfriend finger me?

I think that shaving your other half is completely your choice. It's a personal decision & nobody can tell you whether to do it or not. It's completely up to you. You don't have to, but it looks better, and a lot cleaner. I do it.

If you're ready for the next step in your relationship with your boyfriend [which is him fingering you], then go for it. But only do it if you're ready. If not, then don't until you're positive it's what you wanna do.

you know how like on myspace and stuff some people have the word 'represent' after their names? or even just after a sentence? what does that mean? thanks

Say someone has like Tiana! [LA REPRESENT] or something like that, LA is Los Angeles, and if that's where they're from, that's what they're representing. Just like I would represent New York, and you would represent wherever you're from.

im 14 female and im bi, i have a gf. but im starting to like a boy is that cheating tho?

It's only cheating if you act on your feelings towards him.

okay so i want to know what is the best way to lose about 50 pounds in 3 months.

Is that possible?

Could you possibly list some excersices (spelling?) that could work.

I want to basically tone my abs, arms, and thighs.

and im willing to do like crash diets too.

just want to know if its possible and if so how?

thanks in advance.

I doubt you could lose THAT much weight in 3 months. You could probably lose about 30, but 50? Nah.

Crash diets don't work, and they're dangerous. Don't do them. Just, drink 8 glasses of water a day, 4 glasses of milk. Eat really healthy. Cut junkfood, sweets, & sodas out of your life. Anything high in sugar with a lot of calories are bad for you, so don't eat them. Eat tons of fruits & veggies, and meat. Exercise for 30 minutes a day everyday & lift weights. Go for a run, swim or jog. Or talk walks to build muscle.

Don't be discouraged though if you end up gaing weight instead of losing it. Muscle weighs more than fat.

A couple of weeks ago, I was supposed to go to this party with one of my good friends, but she ended up going without me. Let's call her Kaylee.

After that night, when we all came back to school, "rumors" were starting that my brother and her did things together. Of course they both denied it. I told her, honestly.. if you did do that, tell me the truth and I won't be mad. You know me better than that.

She kept saying "Wowwww, that's so gay. People are just saying stuff!" & I was like okay, but tell me the truth.

Last night, I didn't go to a party that everyone went to, so one of my friends called me saying I'm going to tell you this because you deserve to know. She said " Kaylee admited to me that the rumors are true and that she did have sex with your brother." I was in schock.

So I call Kaylee and comfront her about it and she's like Omg, I told you that it was a rumor. All I said to her was tell me the truth, you know I hate liers more than anything. She kept swearing that she didn't and she finally admited to me. I was really frustarted how my own BROTHER and one of my closest friends would lie to me about this.

My question is, has this ever happened to any of you & how did you react. Am I over reacting by beaing mad?

My

Nope. That's totally freaky. I'd be pretty pissed off if my brother had sex with my best friend & then lied to my face about it. I'm dating my brother's best friend, and my brother knows, and doesn't care. So, I'm not holding back. But it's just weird. I know how you feel. One of my best friends dated my brother & I ended up hating her. We're friends now that they're broken up, but still. She lied to you about something knowing you dislike them. She broke your trust, they both did. Neither of them deserve it back.

5'4" 110-115 lbs.

i'm so grossed out by my body. i feel so fat all the time. how can I learn to love my body? or at least be okay with it?

You're a perfect weight, and I wish I weighed what you do. Fortunately, I don't. Just tell yourself that you're beautiful. The more you hear it, the more you'll believe it.

I have an ex-boyfriend who is like a total jerk. (or at least everyone thinks so) He's really mean to me, but I feel sorry for him.
Well, he kinda has hard time with his family, and he has hard time to fit in at our school... and almost everyone hates him..
But I know that he really is not that bad and he just needs friends.
My friends always keep me away from him, well, maybe that's kinda because he's been following me around and messing up with my personal stuff with my (current) boyfriend. And now, I hear that my friends are going to do something to him. (I do not know what, but I think they are going to blame him on something he doesnt do or take something that is precious to him) and I dont want them to do whatever they are planning because he is just a poor kid who needs attention... and so.. I really do not know what to do.

Stand up for him. Even if he's a jerk, he still shouldn't be treated like shit. Yeah, he's done bad things or whatever they think, but doesn't everyone make mistakes? Stand up for him, and if they rag on you for it, or give you shit, then they're dumb, and they don't know how to see past actions or fronts that people put up.

if you have to debate with yourself whether or not you love someone, then you cant really be in love with then huh?

If you're questions yourself about loving someone, or debating about it, then no, you're not in love. You know when you are, it's not a maybe thing.

when does Borat come out on DVD? when can you rent it? thanks!

It coms out March 6th. It's better to just buy the copy than to rent it. You can never rent a movie whenever you want, especially that one since it's funny. That's gonna go fast, so I'd just buy a copy that way you can watch it whenever you want.

Does anyone know any sad songs to just have a good cry to...like rock and alternitive...please...thankyou if you do.

Senses Fail__The Priest and The Matador.
The Red Jumpsuit Apparatus__Your Guardian Angel.
My Chemical Romance__Disenchanted.
My Chemical Romance__Cancer.
Gym Class Heroes__Faces In The Hall.

I'm trying to find something outside of just going to school.I don't like the social aspect of it and I hate all of my teacher's methods.In fact,I'd feel better just teaching myself.Other than dropping out or being homeschooled,what are some alternatives?

You can be tutored somewhere else, or you can get your GED.

ok i wanna go on the pill for my period because it HORRIBLE.but i kinda wanna be on it so that when it comes time to have sex i can just use a condom too and then ill be set.
my question.
do i have to go to the gyno or can i just get a perscription from my doctor?

If your doctor does pelvic exams, they can prescribe it to you. If not, then you need to see a gynocologist.

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