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Hi I'm Dee. I'm 23 and married. I've worked in health care as well as office settings but am now a home-maker. I'm knowledgeable in a variety of subjects but don't mind doing a little research if asked about something I don't know about. Most of my friends come to me for advice. I read several advice columns and would like to help you also.

I'm not judgemental. Your life is yours to live it as you choose. I believe asking for advice is good, but ultimately the choice is yours. You WILL NOT find a hurtful or smartass answer here.

If you have a question that you would like to keep private, you can email me and I'll get back to you as soon as possible.

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so im 14/f and i got contacts like 2 days ago. and i start high school on tuesday. im gonna be a freshman anywho. i look like a total GEEK with my glasses on and the problem is i cant get my contacts in. but when other people put them in for me im okay. i can poke my eye and stuff but idk why i cant put contacts in. can some one give me any good tips on how you can put in your contacts?

i rate good.

It takes a bit to get used to contacts. I've found that putting some eye drops in my eyes before trying to put the contacts in helps since it avoids some of the irritation and seems to help make the contact stick better. Personally, I find it easier to look in a mirror when I put my contacts in. Since I'm right-handed I use my right pointer finger to put contacts in but you can reverse these directions if you're left-handed.

Try to stare straight ahead. Put the contact on the tip of your right pointer finger making sure the contact is a little moist. Gently pull your eyelid up with a finger on your left hand. Bring your right hand up to your eye and pull the skin below your eye down a bit with your right middle finger. Bring the contact straight in and try to place it on the colored part of your eye. Once you have it in, immediately shut your eye and gently massage the lid to get the contact in place. Once it feels like it's in place, slowly open your eyes. The contact should stay in place. If your eyes feel a little irritated, put another eye drop in then close your eyes for another few seconds.

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Well my hair is pretty thin and I got a perm when I was in 6th grade but it never really grew out because I had wavy hair anyways. Well my hair falls out quite a bit when I shower and stuff and I was wondering if anyone knew any homemade hair stuff to use or salon stuff... Please any advice is great!

Heather

I would suggest investing in a shampoo and/or conditioner for damaged hair. You can also use a hot oil or deep conditioning treatment. Drinking lots of water and eating plenty of fruits and veggies will provide your hair with the vitamins and minerals it needs to regain health.

You can make a home deep conditioning treatment with the recipe below.
Avocado Deep Conditioner
Ingredients
1 small jar of mayonnaise
1/2 avocado
Directions
Peel avocado and remove pit. Mix all ingredients in a medium-sized bowl with your hands until it's a consistent green color. Smooth into hair being careful to work it to the ends. Use shower cap or plastic wrap to seal body heat in. Leave on hair for 20 minutes. For deeper conditioning wrap a hot, damp towel around your head over the plastic, or use a hair dryer set to a low to medium heat setting.

Hope this helps.

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the following is something i found on another website..im asking this question becausee the same thing happened to me. in the answer, the person menitoned how the liklness goes down after more time passes..what about 10 minutes? and is this persons answer entirely correct? and guys, you dont jizz on your hands right? i mean why would you?

Me and my bf were messing around and he ejaculated. A bit after this, he was fingering me and I'm just wondering, is there any possible way sperm could be on his hands and enter my vagina in this way to cause me to get pregnant?

- warpedo, 15, female from

[bio's comment: Yep, especially if he got ejaculate on his hands and fingered you immediately afterwards. The risk goes down the more time there is between the two activities, but it's not entirely impossible to get pregnant that way.]

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Sperm can still cause pregnancy up to 72 hours as long as the environment is right. The chance does go down with time, but without knowing other factors such as how strong the sperm are, what condition the sperm are in, and how fertile you might be it's impossible to give a certain percentage of how likely it would be.

The answer is correct. If a guy is getting himself off, there is a chance some of the semen will land on his hands.

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Are there any word processing programs that i can download onto my computer from the internet... get it?? Like you know is there some kind of wordpadish type thingy that you can use with ABC check and that stuff???

You might try NoteTab Light. I'm not sure if it has spell check or not but you can do word processing with it. The download link is below.
http://www.download.com/NoteTab-Light/3000-2352_4-10294450.html?tag=lst-0-1

Another option is Angel Writer. It's supposed to be similar to Microsoft Word.
http://www.download.com/Angel-Writer/3000-2079_4-10419752.html?tag=lst-0-1

You can also try Simple Notepad. It's supposed to be similar to Microsoft Notepad.
http://www.download.com/Simple-Notepad/3000-2079_4-10405899.html?tag=lst-0-7

I hope these help.

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My mothers' doctor tells me anti-depressants (SSRI's like prozac) will reduced the effectiveness of the birth control pill. I'm not sure I can trust him, as he is very sexually conservative and doesn't beleive unmarried people should have sex. He always seems to be trying to scare me out of having sex. (I rather not go to him anymore, but there are very very few family doctors where I live.)

I know the normal issues and chances with the pill, but I can't seem to find any reasources online that deal with this specifically. Does anyone have any idea or personal experience?

(20/f)

I do know that some medications can decrease the effectiveness of birth control, but as far as I know taking anti-depressants isn't one of the ones that can interact. I did some research online but was unable to find anything supporting what your doctor said. I would suggest talking to your pharmacist to see if they have heard anything different.


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The first day i get my period i always feel sick. i feel like i have to vomit and i get these really horrible cramps that actually make me cry. its only the first day i get my period. after the first day is over i dont even get cramps anymore..but my question is why do i get like that the first day of my period.

thanks

Hormonal changes can make you feel sick at the beginning of your period. I would suggest talking to your family doctor or gynecologist to be checked out. They may be able to prescribe something to balance your hormones so you don't have to go through this every month.

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Okay, well one of my friends was talking to me, and she said she thought she was overwieght. She doesn't really look it, but she said she's gained about 20lbs in the past year. She thinks it may be due to stress because she moved just this past year. Well she had to leave her boyfriend behind and everything, and now she's maintaining a long distance relationship, which we all know can be stressful. Anyway, her boss usues relacore, and has an extra bottle, and my friend told me she was thinking about using it. So I asked her if it was safe and she said she wasn't sure. So I visited a website, relacore.com and I still wasn't completely sure if it was safe or not. She's only 15 and I wasn't sure if this was something that only adults should use, or something of the such. Anyway, we just wanted to know if relacore is okay for a 15 year old girl to take, and if not are there any other diet pills you could reccommend? Thanks in advance

Generally weight loss pills such as Relacore should only be used by adults, if at all. I'm usually a big fan of natural remedies but I wouldn't recommend taking Relacore simply because it has not been out long enough to see if there are serious side effects or possible interactions with other medications.

Slimfast, if used in moderation, would be ok for weight loss. However, from experience I can tell you that the shakes can sometimes taste chalky. If your friend does decide to go the Slimfast, the prepackaged meals would be her best bet with the Slimfast snackbars as snacks. This could get expensive for your friend after a while though.

A better idea would be to do it the old-fashioned way, simple diet and exercise. Tell your friend to cut down on breads and pastas unless they are whole grain or wheat. Only eat foods that are boiled, baked, broiled, grilled, or steamed. Drink lots of water. Eat plenty of fruits and veggies.

If simple diet and exercise aren't enough, your friend needs to talk to her doctor to rule out any underlying conditions that may be preventing her from losing the weight.

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hello, i was wondering if anyone had any beauty tips like homemade face masks or homemade hairdye, anything i wouldnt have to buy

sry about the category i couldnt find the right one

You can find some natural hair remedies at the link below. A lot of the stuff you may already have in your kitchen so all you have to do is prepare it.
http://www.longlocks.com/hair-care-recipes-cookbook.htm

You can find natural skin care recipes at these links.
http://www.best-home-remedies.com/skin_disorders/skin_disorder.htm
http://www.answerbag.com/c_view.php/1424

I hope these were what you were looking for.

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ok! i have a camera, its a dsnap and all, and i have cords to it for the usb ports and theres 3 on my comp. well i've been using my camera for awhile and suddenly 1 day they juss stopped working. when you plug it in, this thing is suppose to come up saying what you wanna do like transfer photos etc. and it doesnt anymore. when i go into the hpzone program for pictures, and try connected that way it says its not connected. i even tried taking the card outta my camera, putting it in my comp. doesnt work either. at last, i tried taking the card and putting it in my printer, trying to transfer the pictures to the comp, and it said that its still not connected!

ill try ANYTHING, so please give advice and ill rate high.

thanks!

Try plugging it into the other USB ports to see if it will work then. If it doesn't, you may need to replace your cord or USB ports. You can also try reinstalling the camera software.

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I wear a DD size bra. Like, does that make me fat? And do boys like boobs that r like, DD size? Is it common do wear DD, or is that like wayy huge. Please be serious nd just answer, i'll rate high

It does not make you fat if you have large breasts. It depends on the guy as to whether they like big boobs. I'm also a DD and have actually had a guy tell me once that they were too big. Boob size generally depends on heredity. If your mom or your grandmothers have them, chances are you will also. I inherited them from both grandmothers.

If they seriously bother you or cause health problems (back strain, headaches, etc), I would consider talking to your doctor about a breast reduction. Most insurance companies will cover the surgery if your doctor states that it is a medical necessity to treat a problem.

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my husband is an alcholic, he promises to stop drinking but i always seem to find bottles of beer hidden in different places how can i help him stop he seems to think he is not hurting anyone but i dont like the drunken behaviour in front of my kids even though they are grown up but now he has his first grandchild and yet he still wont stop, you see he stopped drinking for 22 years and for the last 5 he has been secretly drinking cause everytime i find his bottl es we argue can you advise me please.

Until your husband admits he's has a problem, there's little that you can do. I would suggest you visit the link below or call 1-800-4AL-ANON. They provide information and support for dealing with alcoholism in someone you know. The idea of taping him while drinking so he can see what he's like is also a good idea. Most people are embarassed when they see how they are under the influence.
http://www.al-anon.org/

Good luck. I hope your husband realizes that he does have a problem and seeks help.

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uch this is driving me crazy i downloaded stuff from the sims 2 (characters) and i dont no where to put them i just guessed for some random places i went to TSData, Res, UserData, Neighborhoods, N003, Characters which i have done before and it showed up in the game but it deleted my families. i dont no how to upload my characters, lots, objects, etc how do i do that? ill rate fives if there correct answers

There's a great explanation of how to use downloaded objects for The Sims at the link below. I hope this helps clear up the issue for you.
http://www.bellaonline.com/gaming/strategy_lib_simwalk_dn.html

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hello...
im 13/f and my friend was over at my house today and i showed her this site and she wanted an advice column. i told her that she was to young (shes 11) and she got really mad. so my question is:
why doesnt this site allow anyone under 13 to be a columnist?

will rate

The Federal Online Children's Online Privacy Protection Act restricts the type of information a website can ask of children under 13. You can find a more complete explanation at the link below.
http://www.advicenators.com/faq.php?f=84

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I asked a question before about my nephews army themed birthday party and I had another question:

I am thinking about letting them have a water war with water balloons and water guns. But it's really hot and I'm not to thrilled with the idea of having to pick up all the pieces of balloons out of the yard. So, I was thinking that maybe I could offer a prize to the kid that picks up the most pieces. My question is: Do you think it would be rude to ask the kids/guests to clean up the yard, even if I turn it in to a game?

If I remember right your nephew is 11. 11 year old aren't likely to be fooled into cleaning by making it a game. Technically since the kids are guests, you shouldn't really ask them to clean up. I would just stick with the water guns and not do the water balloons. Trust me they can get soaked enough with the water guns without the mess of the balloon pieces.

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well, my mom doesnt know i am having the discharge thing, how can i tell her? i alwys email her but i dont wanna tell her though that way.... or talk to her in person eather.. or a note and that shizzz. i dont wanna tell my sister bc shel be like "okay idc" so how can i tell my mom?

There's nothing wrong with telling your mom that you're having a discharge. It's completely natural. Every woman has it. She'll understand. Just take her aside in private and tell her that you're having a discharge and that you're worried it might be a sign of a yeast infection.

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I know this might sound nasty but ever since i can remember i have been having this really bad smell in my private area. i know most boys joke around talking about tuna smelling and stuff but i dont think its a joke. i dont think people can smell it when i hang out with them but im not sure if they smell it when i wear shorts? and i get this nasty white stuff in my under wear and mom knows about it. and my boyfriend wants to have sex with me but i dont want to smell and i dont want him to see that white stuff in my underwear. is there anything i could do to prevent from smelling because i wear purfume anyways. and how could i keep this stuff from my boyfriend. i really havent been smelling that bad lately but i dont want him to see the white stuff. can you please help me? anything will help!
thanx so much!

always kayla i rate high

Most people think they have a strong odor even when others don't believe so. If you feel that your odor is really strong, try switching to loose cotton underwear. Trying a feminine hygiene spray or wipe may also help. You can get odor-absorbing pantyliners to help control the discharge and odor. Another option is to simply sprinkle some baby powder in your underwear. It will help control the discharge and absorb the odor.

A clear to white discharge is normal. However, if it's really thick or looks like cottage cheese or smells extremely strong, that may be a sign of a yeast infection. Are you also having problems with vaginal itching? That's usually a sign also. I would talk to your mom about it and see what she says. If it is a yeast infection, it can be treated relatively quickly, usually within a few days.

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Okay, I'm about to go to college for the first time. Way back at orientation, I signed up for my classes and all was good. But recently I found out the Spanish class I signed up for was cancelled. So I signed up for one of the remaining periods, the only one I could take. Problem? I'm #11 on the waitlist. Is there any hope of getting into that class, which I need to take for my major, or do I put aside taking it, and sign up for something else, which might be something totally unrelated to my major and uninteresting to me? Please help, I need to decide soon! Thanks!

I would stay on the waitlist. If enough people want to take the class, they may start another one. Just in case, I would try to find another class needed for your major and sign up for it if you can.

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I got sunburn on my cheeks about a week ago and now it's starting to peel. The problem is It's coming off in tiny peices so when I try to get it odd I pull the little hairs on my cheek...is there anyway to get rid of the dead skin without purchasing anything. (I have no loofah.) Exfoliating tips??

Thanx I'l rate appropriately!

Try rubbing your face with a dry washcloth. It will gently exfoliate the dead skin. Follow up with some moisturizing lotion or vaseline if you have it.

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ok i do about 300 sit ups a night and im not feeling "the burn" lol that sounds kinda weird

i was just wondering if there is any other way i can work my abs...
i kno they're machine for doing sit ups...but i dont have any of them and i dont really feel like buying them...i just wanna do something i can do right in my room...on the floor...in minutes....

i just wanna work my abs more

You should try doing more than one kind of exercise to get an all over ab workout. There are several varieties of crunches you can try. I'm including a few here for you to try.

Side Crunch

Lay on your back with your knees bent, as if you were setting up for a traditional crunch. Put your feet on the ground, your left hand at the side of your head, and your right on the left side of your midsection. Keeping your knees together as one unit, let them both fall to the right. Make sure you keep your head and chest facing the ceiling. Crunch your chest toward the hip that is facing up. Even though your lower trunk is twisted to one side, crunch your upper torso straight up. When you have completed one set, change your body position to exactly opposite, and do an equal number of repetitions with your knees and lower torso turned to the other side.

Cross Crunch

Lie on your back, knees bent, so your left foot is resting flat on the floor. With your right knee bent, place your right foot across your left knee. Your neck and head should be relaxed with your left hand at the side of your head and your right hand on the left side of your abdominals. Curl your body up with a twisting movement, bringing your left shoulder toward your right knee. "Unwind" as you slowly lower yourself back to the floor—touch your shoulders to the floor and repeat. After completing the set number of reps on the left side, switch to the right side and do the same.

Long Arm Crunch

Lie on a mat and extend the arms straight out behind the head with hands clasped, keeping the arms next to the ears. Contract the abs and lift the shoulder blades off the floor. Lower and repeat for 12-16 reps.

Reverse Crunch

Lie on the floor and place hands on the floor or behind the head. Bring the knees in towards the chest until they're bent to 90 degrees, with feet together or crossed. Contract the abs to curl the hips off the floor, reaching the legs up towards the ceiling. Lower and repeat for 12-16 reps. It's a very small movement, so try to use your abs to lift your hips rather than swinging your legs and creating momentum.

Full Vertical Crunch

Lie on your back and extend the legs up towards the ceiling. Place hands behind your head (lightly cupping it) and contract the abs to lift the shoulder blades off the floor. At the same time, press the heels towards the ceiling, creating a 'u' shape with the torso. Lower down and repeat for 12-16 reps.

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okay. so i like this kid. and i have for a while now. we're really really good friends. me and my ex actually broke up because he was jealous of him. i always denied liking him... but i knew i did. we flirt all the time, and i heard that he likes me too. idk what to do. it seems like hes always trying to avoid me and ignore me when i try to IM him. he never wants to hang out or anything. i mean, i want something more to happen with us.. but idk how if he wont do anything with me.
i just dont know what to do. any advice??

If he's avoiding or ignoring you, I don't really think he likes you, unless he's extremely shy. I would try talking to him one more time in person. If he still avoids or ignores you, I would move on. You deserve a guy that will pay attention.

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