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Many of my friends say that I am a good listener and advice giver. Because I have experienced many good and bad situations, I know what it is like to feel down or confused. I am a mother, daughter, sister, girl friend, and friend. And if I can't figure out how to answer a question, I'm sure I know someone who can. And I've come to notice that most of the questions people ask they already know the answer to, they just need a little reassurance. But I will warn you that my policy is, if you ask a stupid question, you will get a stupid answer. But i will say that it is my joy to help anyone with a real problem, so ask away!




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me and my frend meaghan hav been in a fight and i rele think thats she hates me and she was yellin at me online and took me out of her shoutoutz i rele hope that we can cum back together What do i do?
Signed
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your friend meaghan is acting like alittle kid and needs to get over herself. if you wanna stay her friend, then tell her to cut the kid shit cuz all that stupidness is not really worth losing a friendship.

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I use Spermicidal condoms. Everytime after I have sex it seems liek I'll end up with a yeast infection. I heard your suppose to "pee" before and right after sex. I do that and still I end up with a yeast infection more times than not. Do you think its the spermicide on the condoms or maybe an allegy to latex? If any1 else has had this problem what type of condom do you perfer? Thank You so much for your time!

okay i dont think its the spremicide. you may be allergic to latex. i am and many women in my family are. if it burns after sex or during, it is definitely the larex. personally i dont use any condoms, i use birth control. but some women in my family use lamb skin condoms. they are kinda expensive, but they work just as well if your trying not to get pregnant. they dont prevent you from getting stds though. non-latex dont prevent stds either. only latex condoms do. if i were you i would try the lamb skin condoms and see how they work with you. if you still have problems, you may not be getting yeast infections, you body may be reacting to sexual intercourse because you have an std , if the condoms dont change what is happening to you, i suggest you go get checked out.

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ok like me and my ex / bf have been on and off like 15 times and like after every other bf i go out wiht him again and lk im wondering will i ever get over him for the final time
like i know i like other guys and i like the ex to and now were going out again and this guy that i have gotten to like know alot me likes me and i liked him before but he said he will never like me and now he does and like im soo confused i dont know what to do and i dk if ill ever move on this there something wrong with me

okay well you are doing things ALL WRONG. Seriously, after you break up with someone you cant just jump to the next guy. thats not good. makes you look really bad. you need to give yourself sometime for yourself b4 you get with someone else. sounds like you dont take relationships too seriously if you just have one boy friend after the other. to me it just seems like you dont like NOT having a bf. ima let you know now you dont need a man to be happy. i think you need to let your ex go and leave this other guy alone. and concentrate on yourself for a while. get your mind right b4 you have another bf.

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ive noticed that alotta people have questions on people they believe they are in love with and so on but sum of the people are realli young and i dont think that they notice that being in love and loving sum1 are 2 totally different things....well thats what i think i was just wonderin other opions on bein in love and just lovin sum1

yeah you're right. most of these young kids believe they are in love when really they have no idea that they will probbaly fall in love a thousands times b4 they really find the right one. love is more than just a feeling, its something you do. its hard to explain. but these young people have no idea how serious love is.

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omg ok this may be confusing..please just try to follow..im 15..my b/f is 16..he's really experienced..unlike me the farthest i go is like touchy feely/kissing..we absolutely love each other and it's obvious we WILL be 2gether for a LONG time..but anyways..he;s extremely touchy feely & like he wants to make - out constantely & i mean i love it, but at the same time im scared, i could SO easily so myself doing things with him that i'd regret..like i love him and all, but i was brought up to respect myself & save myself til i'm a lot older, if not married..and like i want to do things with him, but at the same time, i feel kinda guilty..like iduno i guess i'm a moma's girl ..& everytime he touches me or sumin go a lil but farther..[like yeah ya'll know how i mean], i hear my mother's voice, and i want to but iduno..i'm just confused and scared..what would ya'll do?..don't tell me to only do something if i'm ready and feel comfortable, because i do and i am!..but at the same time i think i should respect myself and my mother and listen to what i've been brought up to do..ya'll know what i mean..hmm ..please help me out here..
xOx ..thanx

well there is nothing wrong with being scared. you are still young. and it is good that you have respect for yourself. atleast you are not out being a little hoe like most gilrs your age. i see it this way, if you have any little doubt, then wait. wait until you have no doubts. thats when you will know you are ready. and im sure if your bf loves you he will wait til you are completely sure.

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wat types of things that guys do are concidered cute or sweet by girls?

give compliments, soemtimes gifts are nice, hold doors lol... just basically being respectful and treating her like a lady

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My ex-girlfriend and i broke up a while ago. I didn't want to break up, but we did. I thought i would be ok with it after a while, but i'm not. Every time i see her i wish we were still together. It's hard for me to hang around her or even think about her as just a friend. How can i get over her and just be her friend?

breaking up is a process. everything in life is a process. your heart will heal in time. in the mean time maybe you shouldnt be around her alot if it really hurts that bad.

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Theres this guy ive been talking to he used to date my friend, i really like him alot but thing is he is sorta with his baby's mother only because of the child i dont know if i should be with him or not i love him to death and i know he feels the same about me what should i do?

if i were i would leave him alone. put your feelings aside. trust me baby mama drama is no joke. its fuckin hell. dont put yourself through it.

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im 13 next week, and i thought that to be a great musician and get a contract you had to be at least like 16; but then i saw this thing about how JoJo and britney spears (JoJo now, britney spears like 6 years ago) both were 13 when they made their first music video...
i'm really into rock, and i'm trying

go for it... floow your dream! music is the shit.

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I am the tallest girl(13) in our grade... and i feel like no guys wanna go out with me because im taller then them i dunno what to do i am afraid to ask guys out because of rejection and i sometimes feel akward in school what should i do?

ask out guys who are older then you. im sure they are taller. but it really shouldnt matter how tall you are for a person to like you. they should like you for your personality not your height.

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my friend's parents dont think that teens know what love is so shes getting as many people as she can to tell her what they think about love and stuff like that. but she doesnt have that many people. if some of you could please help and tell what you think about love then please do. thanks.

love is really an unexplainable feeling. its actually more than just a feeling. its something you do. you can express your love for soemone in so many ways (not just sex if thats what you're thinking). its kinda like when you know you will do anything and everything you can to make a person happy, and even when the person pisses you off, you just know you have to forgive them because you know you would be freakin lost with out them. theres so much more to it like commitment, and honesty and all that. its just so hard to explain.

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ok i met this guy online and said i was 15..that was 2 yrs ago and now im "17" im really only 14 goin on 15!!! well this guy is really amazing hes sent me pix of him n salutes saying he real....we talk on the fone and everything...i told him a diff name...diff age...and sent him fake pix...he thinks its me..and hes coming out to where i live in 2 yrs for his senior trip...he sed hes told him mom about me and wants to bring me back where he lives!! i wish i was erally who i said i was bc i want him!! he even told me he loves me and thers no other gur like me!! hes totally in love with me and wev been talkin for 2 yrs now!!!!!!!! WAT DO I DO?? do i jst delete my fake screen name and everything...i cant tell him!! he mite call me and that wuld freak me out bc hed b really angry...he picked to come out to see me for his senior tip in stead of goin to the bahamas and im not even real!!!! WAT DO I DO?? =\

well his senior trip isnt for 2 yrs you said. so he has time to change his mind. you really have yourself in a jam though. i hoped you learned something from all this. you're gonna ahve to tell him that those pics are not really you and that you're not really 17. maybe he will forgive you and still like you for you, since your relationship was only on the net anyway, which means he does like you for your personality, he just thinks you look a different way. but if he does get nagry, you cant blame him. you basically played with his head. good luck with this one girl.

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(I'm a girl and I'm 15!) Alright...I usually don't ask for advice but I really need some right now! I started talking to this guy and at the begining it was great. We were friends first and did everything together with the rest of our friends then we started talking and we hung out every single night and all the stuff! It was so great. I loved every second of it but then its been a month or so and now I'm lucky if I see him once a week! I never talk to him he doesnt call and When i call him hes not home or something! I hate it! Its pretty sad when his best friend calls me more than he does and I'm with him more than he is! All his friends point it out to him too! Finally the other night i got fed up with it! I called him and we got into a fight cuz i told him i never get to see him and its gets old n i dont think he wants to be with me and he said i was just being a drama queen. so then i went drove over to his house and there was like 7 of us over there and he didnt say a word to me! so we all went out to the car to leave again and one of my girlfriends called him over the car and told him that me and him should talk! he wouldnt talk to me and he doenst think hes doing anything wrong and says im just making a big deal outta nothing! Maybe I am maybe im not but i need to know what someone else thinks! So basically what im asking is what (in your opinion) i should do! and if u personally think im making a big deal outta it! tnkx

well look, if you feel neglected and he doesnt understand that, then maybe you dont need to be together. you need to be with soemone who will understand you and meet your needs. but it was probably a bad idea to go over there with so many people when you knew you were mad at him and had the intentions of talking to him. just explain to him that you miss him and need him around a little more.

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yea umm im 14 and a girl
Ok this is gonna be long. I went out with this kid joe for like 4 months. the whole time we were going out this girl Amy was always flirting with him even around me. I would tell her to stop but she never listened and always denied liking him. Well when me and joe broke up I asked him if he liked Amy cuz it kinda seemed like he did but he said she would be the last person he would ever go out with. So then like two weeks later he goes out with amy. I was over him completely but it still made me mad that he had lied to me. They'e been going out for like 4 months now and theyve gone all the way. Two months ago my best friend andrew asked me out. I'm sooo in love with him but guess what's happening. Amy likes him even though shes going out with joe. She always tells me online how andrew always flirts with other girls when im not around. when i ask my friend nichole whos around him a lot she says thats not true.I know andrew would never hurt me or like anyone else. Hes liked me more than anyone else from the moment he met me. One time andrew had to sleep over amys house because her mom is friends with his mom and he couldnt get a ride back home.
Amy: Did andrew tell you what he did on sunday?
Me: No. Why?
Amy: Oh he wouldn't have.
Me: What did he do?
Amy: He slept over my house.
Me: ((theres nothing i could do about it anyway)) thats cool
Amy: OMG!!! Why dont you ever care what he does!! He flirts with like everyone and you dont even care!!
Me: I do care but i trust him so i dont worry too much.
Amy: w/e
I know she is lying but idk what to do. Please help me out. I hate her and i dont know how to handle it without like telling her i hate her cuz she kinda thinks we're friends. I cant be mean to people and i really dont wanna lose my boyfriend cuz i love him more than anything. Please help me!!!!! ((sorry this is so long))

okay well dont worry about this gilr. if you know thsi guy is good and shes nothing but a lying whore then you have nothing to worry about. i dont know why she is after evry guy you like, maybe she is jealus of you or soemthing. but dont pay her too much mind, but like her only like it when they can piss someone off, dont give her the satifaction.

P.S. if you want you can give me her sn and i'll tell her off for you... if you havent seen my coulmn i am always in a telling off mood. :)

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i had/have a sister.. she is either 3 or about 15... if you havent guessed.she died.. and now almost everytime i hear tha name Abby, or "aww my precious baby girl" or "Ali you're so lucky" i get all upset how can i overcome this?

-Ali

i know it can be hard losing a loved one. but you have to be positive. she is in a better place now.

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Ok, I'm 13 and I have just a lil bit of acne but I just want it to go away. Does anyone have suggestions? I don't want to buy stuff I just need some help and encouragement!

wash your face. try putting oatmeal or egg whites on your face, like a mask. and let it dry the acne out. dont put alcohol on it and dont pop none of it either. just wash your face.

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Ok im a cheer leader im 14 and our uniforms are like really ugly and supposadly we cant get new 1's but we can get stuff like matchin shoes, socks, and jackets but we cant get new uniforms so we needa raise money to get these thigns and maybe convince them to let use get new uniforms so wat are some good fun raising ideas?????


~Cheer grl~

try a car wash or bake sale, you could also gather up a bunch of shit that people dont want and have like a garage sale or something. good luck!

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i just found out that one of my best friends has been telling people that i was pregnant and had a miscarriage before, it really hurt when i found out, especially when i found out that this was why my boyfriend broke up with me, i want to tell her how i feel but i have no clue what to say, any ides on what i should do?

okay heres whatyou say.... YOU STUPID FUCKIN BITCH. I THOUGHT I COULD TRUST YOU AND YOU GO AROUND TELLING PEOPLE MY FUCKIN BUSINESS. YOU AINT NOTHING BUT A PIECE OF DOG SHIT. AND YOUR BIG ASS MOUTH MADE ME LOSE MY MAN. WHAT ARE YOU TRYNA RUIN MY LIFE, CUZ YOURS FUCKIN SUCKS DICK. I SHOULD FUCK YOU UP... and then you punch that little bitch in the fuckin lip for being a back stabbing whore. :)

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I have an oppsetion i have to mow the lawn everyday my parents are really worryed about my problem what should i do?????

why do they care? thier grass is freshly cut all the time. but hwy do you keep cutting the grass? are you bored or something. find a new obsession.

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what is a boner?

when a guy has an erection; a hard penis

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