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how do u spark a guys interest
I just read an interesting quote that said, "The average man is more interested in a woman who is interested in him than he is in a woman with beautiful legs." I think that's probably pretty true. Girls who look pretty or dress nice or act a certain way might get noticed, but it takes more than looks to get a guy really interested in you. And the best way to spark someone's interest is to show an interest in them! People have a basic need to be admired and liked, and they respond positively to people who fill that need for them. So if there's a guy you have your eye on, don't be shy! Find some subtle ways to let him know how you feel!
OK, this is very weird & sorry, I had no idea what to put it under. Anyway, for some reason, when I eat a meal, I never ever eat the last bite. I mean I'm sure I could if I really tried, but, it usually just happens that there is that little last piece that I feel I can't eat! Everyones is like, "oh, you can't eat that last little bit?" But, I just don't do it. Any ideas on why this is so normal for me?
Well, I have no idea why you do that, but personally I think it's great! It's better than the problem I have... if there is food in front of me, I will keep eating it, even if I'm not hungry, until it's all gone! Then I'll feel stuffed and miserable (not to mention that it's not too good for my figure!). So don't let people pressure you into eating something if you don't want it. They may think it's a funny quirk and tease you about it, but so what? It's better than stuffing yourself for no reason!
my boyfriend gives me compliments all the time, and they're always sweet. i'm completely unused to getting compliments and i rarely ever give them, and i can't think of anything to say. any ideas of serious compliments that don't sound to corny or rehearsed. i just want to be able to say something. everytime i try it comes out sounding bad. plz help me with ideas.
Well, first of all, its important to know the difference between a compliment and flattery. A compliment is when you tell someone something that you really, truly admire about them. If you're saying something nice just to get brownie points or make them like you more, that's flattery. People can't always tell the difference, but sometimes they can, and they'll know you aren't really being sincere.
Knowing that... complimenting someone you actually admire is pretty easy. Just think of the things that you really like about them... and then tell them! If you're being honest, it shouldn't sound rehearsed or corny. But if you have trouble putting it into words, try starting with the following phrases:
"I love the way you..."
"I've always admired how you...."
"I think it's so awesome that you...."
"It makes me feel so good when you..."
"You're always so good at...."
Compliments are best when they come out of the blue, rather than right after someone has complimented you. And don't worry about not doing it enough... if you rarely give compliments, it will mean even more when you do give one!
seems to copy me alot but i dont know if she realizes shes doing it. I WOULD NEVER SAY ANYTHING TO HER shes my best freind. but i really hate it. what should i do?
Well, as you might already realize, she's copying you because she admires you and wants to be more like you. But no matter how she tries, she will never BE you. Even if she does every single thing you do, it won't make you any less special or unique. Everyone knows that YOU are the original, and that she's just trying to be like you. So try not to let it bother you too much. It may be annoying, but it's really not going to hurt you in any way. So I think it's best to just keep your feelings about this to yourself, and be flattered that your friend thinks so highly of you.
What do you guys think about parents reading personal things? I came back from being on AIM & left my convos up. I noticed that one of them was scrolled all the way up, which I did not do. My mom randomly sat down at the computer I'm guessing. I know what most of you might say. She is my mom & has a right to watch over her kids & I did leave the convo up, but shouldn't there be trust? I would trust her not to go through private conversations. It isn't the fact that I had something personal, but I was talking with one of my guy friends about his gf & I don't know, I think it's a bit rude & an invasion of privacy. I wouldn't go through her emails. If I talked to her about it, she would just say "what, what don't you want me to see." It isn't even that. It's a personal thing. I think everyone has their own right to privacy. Plus, im 17 years old. I'm not 13 & I can use the internet wisely. Any ideas? Thanks!
Well, it would be one thing if your mom had purposely gone to the computer, opened up your AIM, and started going through your messages. But since you left your convos open, in a way you can hardly blame her for being a little curious. If I found a family member's AIM convos up, or found a note or letter or diary laying open, it would be really hard to pass up the temptation of taking a quick peek! I'm not normally a nosey, snoopy person, but hey... if it's staring me in the face, I might be a little curious! So I don't think your mom was reading it because she doesn't trust you. It was just there.
But my advice is: if you don't want people reading your AIM convos, try not to leave them open. Of course, if you have other reasons to believe that your mom is spying on you or doesn't trust you, then you should probably sit down and talk to her about it. =]
14/f
ok so to make a long story short- my best friend was going out with a guy (we'll called him X) and he wrote a note to her saying something about her butt. (she didn't tell me the exact words) and her parents found out about it and so they made her never to see him again or talk to him.
well some kids from our school went on a road trip and me and X were in the same group. Since they had to break up, i kept in touch with X and texted him often. Since my friend was my best friend and i really cared about her, i tried to get them back together.
during the trip, me and X really got to know each other and he asked me out. I said yes and we were a happy couple. we held hands, he put his arm around me, said he loved him, hugged me, touched my butt...
well then during the ending of our trip i got a text from him saying he was confused when he first asked me out because he said i wasn't his type and that he still has feelings for my best friend.
this guy was my first boyfriend and i was heart broken so i cried. i was so mad at him. then when we came home my best friend said that she knew he would do something like this. she encouraged me to forget about him and still be friends with him.
*sigh* ok so now all 3 of us are friends and are planning to go to the movies together this week.
my question is.... was he using me on the trip??? or did he really love me?
THANKS SO MUCH! YOU'VE BEEN A BIG HELP AND I'M SORRY IF THIS WAS SO LONG
I don't think he was really "using" you, at least not on purpose. I think he was actually just confused, like he said. He'd just been forced to break up with his girlfriend, and he was probably sad and lonely. You were there, and available, and probably reminded him of your friend... so being with you seemed like a good idea and made him feel less lonely. He just confused the good feeling of "having a girlfriend" with the true feelings of really caring for someone. Obviously, he realized his mistake, and it was good of him to be honest with you. He obviously cares about you as a person, if not (right now) as a girlfriend. I know it was painful to have him break up with you, but I'm glad to hear you're still friends with him again. He sounds like a decent guy.
i cant take it at all anymore im dead serious. i cant go through with life. im going crazy over it. i hate it more than ever. ive always been depressed and suicidal but now before seems like nothing compared. it seems like i just hit rock bottom. now theres been more death and i think im next. i think ill die young. im always thinking death. my death and others' death. my life is music im always listening to it and it seems to always be about death. now its summer so im reading and the books seem to be about all death. i do take it as a sign. but AM i next. im usually doing something wrong and always in trouble for something usually how i dress and my friends and music and how im depressed. i always wear black and am about 85% of the time depressed. the other 15% is when im out of my house and with my friends. my parents always fight then they fight with me and they wont shut the fuck up long enough to let me talk. i totally lost my best friend now because of our love but now as usuall it turned to hate. deep dark hate. hes dead to me now. but i miss him as my best friend. at least a friend. my other friends have been through alot 2 of the 4 were abused 1 other is in a divorce other idk whats even wrong. but through all that they say im the worst. but i try to hide it around them. then at school i have 11 deep enemies. but thank god its summer in a way. but now im home and fighting even more. their against most, almost everything i say dress act or do. they dont understand me and have no idea what i go through. wherever i go im always in trouble or wrong or hated by someone. no one understands me, well my friends do kinda. no adults like me. i look normal but wear black wtf so what. no peircing hair dye or tattoos which i will get right away once i move out or die. i want to go to heaven but if i kill myself i wont. and everybody says im going straight down to hell. they say all that will happen to the devil. is it so bad i want to go to heaven just to be with my family friends and cousins everyone died who cared for me. now i wana go be with them. i wana live the life i never had. im always in trouble and in my room so i write peoms books a journal anything. i told my mom i wanted a job in photography she laughs at me. she thinks its so i could leave state...well that to. its my passion. and since im always wrong for the most retarded things the record in 24 hours is 34 sad...i no. when i realized that i lost it i was gona run away and die. i hate my life theirs nothing good in it. only hate yelling death and depression. how can i go to heaven to be with the ones i love? how do i get over this and what do i do now? i dont know i might be back for the answers but i might be above. i dono whats wrong with me. was i just a waste of space? will i ever end up with them in heaven? has anyone realized i was even here, will i be forgoten in a day, did u ever know i was here,...doubt it.what do i do. NO phsyciatrist or therepist whatever,NO.
I wish I could say something to help you. But I've never felt the way you have, so I'm not qualified to give you any advice. However, there are a lot of people out there who DO feel the way you do. And with all that you've been through, YOU would be very qualified to give THEM advice. If you can get through this, you could use the pain you've suffered for something good. One day, when you've gotten past this sad period of your life, you could be a real lifesaver to someone who's going through what you've been through and needs someone who actually understands. Maybe that's why all this is happening to you... because God has something like that in mind for you. In the meantime, I really hope you can find someone who's been through what you have and can help you get through this.
I'm kinda bored at my house.
I was wondering if you had any ideas of what I could do with my boyfriend. To distract ourselves from making out. :]
Things at house and things away from house. I'm going to dye his hair but not any time soon, so I'm not sure what to do.
We are up for anything really. To watching disney movies to taking pictures.. going to a park. I don't want to do the same things in case he gets bored.
Ideas?
Try to come up with a project you can both work on together throughout the summer. Maybe something to build, like a doghouse, birdhouse, bike ramp, lemonade stand, or a fort or treehouse. Or plan some ways to raise money for a charity you both care about.
There's also games... find a video game, card game or board game that you both enjoy and can look forward to playing together.
If you're both interested in keeping in shape, you could make a workout plan (running, lifting weights, swimming laps, biking, whatever) that you could do together.
Pack a lunch & blanket and have a romantic picnic somewhere (okay, you might end up making out, but at least it will be a change of scenery - haha!).
If you like movies, pick a theme and try to watch all the movies in that category. For example, watch all the Disney movies, from the oldest to the newest. Or all the movies that have won Oscars. Or pick certain days to watch certain types of movies (monday: scary movie; tuesday: comedy; wednesday: adventure).
13/f
i live with my dad and i dont shave yet. wat can i do or say to make him think i wanna start shaving my legs? plz dont tell me to go to the store and just put some in the basket, kuz that will no work...kuz i'm 13 and i still dont shave.
dont yall think thats crazy?!? just tell me wat i should say or do. please and thank you
p.s. i'm very shy even around my dad, so i'm not just gonna come out and say it.
p.p.s. i can't go to anyone else...
Try writing your dad a note. Say something like, "Dad, for some reason I'm a little embarrassed to talk to you about this, but I'd like to start shaving my legs. Next time we go to the store, do you think we could get me some razors and shaving cream?" Leave the note someplace where he can find it and read it when you're not around, so you won't be embarrassed.
Another idea: you could try dropping some hints and see what he says. You could say, "Some of my friends have started shaving their legs." Or you could say, "This hair on my legs is really bothering me." That might give him the hint that you want to start shaving.
I know you're real nervous about talking to him about these things, but it's really important that you do!! Your dad loves you, and he knows that these things are a normal part of a girls life. I'll bet he probably *wants* to talk to you about this stuff, but he may be just as nervous as you are to bring it up! Once you start talking, though, it will get easier! There will be other things besides shaving that you'll need to talk with him about. Shaving is probably one of the least embarrassing "girl things" to discuss... so if you start with this now, it will be easier to bring up other, more embarrassing topics, in the future.
if someone has a very personal message in their inbox on myspace and deletes it..it still shows up in the trash section. how long does it take for the message to be deleted from the trash section..does it stay there permenantly???
thanks for the helpp it means a lot !
you can delete it right now. just click on your trash section (the red x). then look again at that blue box on the left... the very bottom thing will now say "empty trash." click that, and everything in your trash can will be gone.
I'm a college guy, and I'm in a long distance relationship. I have to talk to my girlfriend on the phone, because she needs to hear my voice. I tend to always say stupid things and make her really upset. What are some things I can keep in mind to keep from hurting her feelings on the phone?
What kind of stupid things do you say? What is making her upset?
i want to get a photo on a computer but i don't have a scanner and i can't e-mail it becuz its on paper and its not on a digital camera
how do i get it on the computer
You'll need to find someone to scan it for you. Maybe you can use a friend's scanner. Then you can have them email it to you, or put it on a CD for you. If your friends don't have scanners, you can go to an office supply store (like Office Max) or a copy place (like Kinkos) and they will scan it for you there and put it on a CD for you.
is it bad or wrong that i still sleep with a stuffed animal? Its a white tiger named Snowball. even though i share a bed with my boyfriend, if i dont have snowball i have a hard time falling asleep. is there something wrong with me? btw im 19/f if that makes any difference
Well, I know someone who is married and has kids, and she still sleeps with the stuffed dog that she's had since she was 3! Her husband teased her about it at first, but she said, "it's either you or the dog!" and now he just thinks its cute. So, don't worry, there's nothing wrong with it!
So, i have a boyfriend sean, and he's a really amazing boy, but he's just not for me, and he always claims he's in love with me, but i actually want to break up with him, but i'm not sure how, because i feel HORRIBLE. On top of that, i've known this boy matt forever, and i've liked him for a loonnggg time, but his girlfriend and him have been going out for 7 months, and they aren't going to break up. Trust me. She treats him like SHIT, like seriously, she's horrible to him, and i'm always there for him, and i just don't know what to do..any ideas?
Well, this other guy you like is currently taken, so he's off limits for now. Try to put him out of your mind (or at least on a back shelf), and concentrate on your current situation. If you really don't have feelings for your boyfriend anymore, the only fair thing to do is break up with him. Breaking up is never easy, but it's much better for both of you to get it over with, rather than dragging it out. Just tell your boyfriend, "I've really had a great time going out with you, and I'll always cherish the time we've spent together, but I just don't feel the same way I did before and I think it's best that we break up." Your boyfriend may be hurt - and there's nothing you can do to make it easier - but the sooner you do it, the sooner he will get over it and you can both move on.
ok, im 14/m and theres this girl i like that says religion is really important to her. and i really am not religious so i would like to know that if i got more involed with religion if that may help me out because im afraid that if i ever go to her church with her i may end up messing something up there...also what happens at a luthern church on like a wednesday, because one time my dad had said that the guy in charge of the church(i dont know what hes called sorry) had said something and there was suppose to be a responce and nobody responded so if any one could tell me like the rundown of a day at church that would be really helpful, Thanx
Well, I'm betting that some people are gonna tell you, "You should be involved in religion because it's something you believe in, not just to get some girl!" And then others might say, "Well, if this girl is the only thing that can get you into a church, at least you're going, so that's good!" Ha ha! I guess these are both valid points! But anyway...
I'm not Luthern so I can't give you the details of a Luthern church service, but here's my advice:
Since her religion is so important to her, why not ask HER these questions? That will give you something to talk to her about, and she'll probably really enjoy discussing something that's such a big part of her life. Just let her know that you're interested in her church and want to learn more about it. Maybe she'll even invite you to church with her sometime! That would be much better than trying to "fake" religious involvement just to impress her (cuz if she thought that's what you were doing, she might get angry or offended).
Good luck!
ok, i really havent been into religion at all so i would like to know what being christian is. and whats the difference between different things like lutherns, prespiterians, etc. that kind of stuff because ive heard people saying theres a difference. all i know is that im christian. and if i wanted to get involved with religion where should i start? and going to church isnt one of the ways i want to do it at first cause i wanna get a backround about it first before i go. thanks in advance..
Basically, a Christian is anyone who believes in Jesus Christ; that he is the son of God, and that he died on the Cross and was resurrected so that our sins can be forgiven.
There are many different Christian churches. The Catholic church is the oldest and for about 1400 years was the only Christian church. During the middle ages, some people disagreed with some of the church's practices, so they broke away and started new Christian churches/religions. These "new" churches include Luthern, Presbyterian, Methodist, Baptist, etc., and are known as Protestant churches [root word: protest, as in they protested against the Catholic church]. So, any Christian church that is not Catholic is known as Protestant.
All Christian churches share many of the same basic beliefs. However, they also have slight differences in the way they practice these beliefs. Take Baptism, for example. In some churches, people are baptised by being fully immersed under the water; in other churches, baptisms are performed by sprinkling water over the person. To some people, these differences are not a big deal. But some people feel very strongly that things should be done one way or another.
It would be very difficult to explain the differences between all the Christian religions right here! But there are many, many books that are just about comparing different churches. I would suggest going to a good book store and take a look at the Religion section. Some of the books are extremely thick and detailed, but there are others that sum it up briefly and give you a basic comparison. The store clerk should be able to help you find the kind you're looking for.
You said you didn't want to jump right in and start going to church, but it might be really helpful to visit a few while you're making your decision. Ask some friends to take you to their churches and check out as many as you can! That will give you the best idea of what each church is like, and will help you decide which one you feel most comfortable with.
Good Luck! :]
Why is everything so complicated when you are 14 I mean there's really nothing that makes sense anymore!
When you were younger, your parents or other adults were always by your side, guiding you and helping you make the "right" decisions. And the choices you had to make were rather simple: Should I wear a coat when it's cold out, or not? Should I punch my friend when she takes my toy, or not? As you get older, you (and your friends) have more independence and make more choices on your own. And the choices you have to make are more complicated: Should I be continue to be friends with this girl who's mean to me? Should I take my boyfriend back after he cheated on me? It's more difficult to know the right answer. And sometimes, after you've made a choice, you realize that maybe it wasn't the right one. This is true of your friends as well; and the choices they make - right or wrong - will sometimes effect you, and force you to make yet another decision yourself! So yes, it DOES get complicated!
But the good news is: with each situation you encounter, and each choice you make, you're gaining experience. And the next time a similar situation arises, you'll be better prepared to handle it.
Life won't ever get less complicated... no matter how old you get, there will always be some new situation that will confuse the heck out of you! But the things that seemed so complicated before will look crystal clear when you've looked back at them through experience. So just keep in mind that this is all part of life, and don't let it get you down. It's not always easy... but I guess that's part of what makes life interesting!
i need alot of songs about moving on and losing loved ones,etc.cuz im making a cd for everyone in my graduatiing class and we are all devestated to leave.the other night was our grad dance and we cried a ton,anyway they played songs like goo goo dolls "ill stay with u" and "she will be loved" by maroon 5.any songs like that is amazing.thanks
Graduation - Vitamin C
Photograph - Nickleback
These are Days [You'll Remember] - 10,000 Maniacs
Good Riddance - Green Day
I Will Remember You - Sarah McLachlan
We Go Together - from the movie Grease
ok so my mom still isnt letting me have a myspace, and im 14 but the only way she will is to get another perspective. well my friend [l] doesnt want my mom to know that she has a myspace for somereason, i dont know why but it doesnt matter, [l]s mom knows about her myspace and is fine, but my mom is going to call ls mom to get her view on it. if l doesnt want my mom to know about her myspace, and my mom will call her mom. something wrong will happen. so what should i tell my mom to make her change her mind about calling ls mom but still let me have a myspace without making it sound suspicious?
Well, your friend probably knows that your mom doesn't approve of myspace, so maybe she's afraid that your mom will think badly of her for having one. It might help to tell your mom that. Tell your mom, "For some reason [I] doesnt want you to know she has a myspace. Her mom knows about it and is fine with it, but I think [I] is afraid you'll think badly of her for having one, since she knows you don't like myspace. I'd really like you to talk to [I]'s mom about myspace, but if you do, could you please not let on that you know [I] has one? Instead, when you call [I]'s mom, maybe you could just ask her 'Does [I] have a myspace, and what do you think about it?'".
Which one of these two dresses should I wear to my grade 8 grad? (Yes poka dots are popular in my class)
http://i143.photobucket.com/albums/r155/wind_miko/dress.jpg
But..those are giant poka dotted so i don't know if it'll seem weird..it may be good with my classmates but thousands of relatives of my classmates are going to be there so even though they might critisize me inisde their minds, I'll still feel bad.
The one on the right did not show up well. It's white with little black and blue dots everywhere.
It's cute and I was goign to wear this oen but it makes me look old. Not mature old but old as in the bad kind.
Everyone says the red and white one makes me look younger but I don't know what people might think of me..I'm very sesitive.
Yes..my aunt bought these..I would have bought dresses different but I was too skinney and short so the dresses looked big on me.
i wanted dresses that went to my knees but since I was short dresses went almsot to my feet so these were the only ones I could get.
please help
Well, from the pictures, I think the one on the right looks better on you. And it's a little more dressy and elegant, so it seems like a good choice for a graduation. The one with the red dots it really cute, too, though! But it seems more like something you would wear to a party. Hey, maybe you can wear the black & white one to the graduation, and then change into the other one if you have a party afterwards! Celebreties do that all the time! Ha ha!