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was he using me??
14/f
ok so to make a long story short- my best friend was going out with a guy (we'll called him X) and he wrote a note to her saying something about her butt. (she didn't tell me the exact words) and her parents found out about it and so they made her never to see him again or talk to him.
well some kids from our school went on a road trip and me and X were in the same group. Since they had to break up, i kept in touch with X and texted him often. Since my friend was my best friend and i really cared about her, i tried to get them back together.
during the trip, me and X really got to know each other and he asked me out. I said yes and we were a happy couple. we held hands, he put his arm around me, said he loved him, hugged me, touched my butt...
well then during the ending of our trip i got a text from him saying he was confused when he first asked me out because he said i wasn't his type and that he still has feelings for my best friend.
this guy was my first boyfriend and i was heart broken so i cried. i was so mad at him. then when we came home my best friend said that she knew he would do something like this. she encouraged me to forget about him and still be friends with him.
*sigh* ok so now all 3 of us are friends and are planning to go to the movies together this week.
my question is.... was he using me on the trip??? or did he really love me?
THANKS SO MUCH! YOU'VE BEEN A BIG HELP AND I'M SORRY IF THIS WAS SO LONG
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I don't think he was really "using" you, at least not on purpose. I think he was actually just confused, like he said. He'd just been forced to break up with his girlfriend, and he was probably sad and lonely. You were there, and available, and probably reminded him of your friend... so being with you seemed like a good idea and made him feel less lonely. He just confused the good feeling of "having a girlfriend" with the true feelings of really caring for someone. Obviously, he realized his mistake, and it was good of him to be honest with you. He obviously cares about you as a person, if not (right now) as a girlfriend. I know it was painful to have him break up with you, but I'm glad to hear you're still friends with him again. He sounds like a decent guy.
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He was using you. You were the rebound girl. He was upset by what your friend did, and used you to get the affection he wasn't getting from her anymore.
This boy doesn't know what love is. He wouldn't know love if it came up & slapped him in the face. Honestly, don't worry about this boy. He's an asshole, and you don't need to be friends with him. He's not a good friend, nor is he a good boyfriend. He never loved you, he was just using you.
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I'd hate to say it but it seems all he was doing was using you. It could have been for two different reasons though. Either just for someone to 'have' on the trip with him or as a rebound from your friend (even though they wern't officially going out were they?). Either way, I'd say he was just using you (you don't fall in love with someone just like that - it just seemed like he was saying what you wanted to hear and not what he actually felt) so best thing you can do is just forget about him. If you still want to keep him as a friend then by all means do so but be aware for next time he tries something like that with you. It seems your friend had also known he would do this exact thing too which goes to show he may not exactly be as lovely as he seems. I don't even know him (nor would I want to) but I say you can do better than this guy any day. I know it was a bad first experience for you and you got your heart broken as well for which I'm sorry but don't let one jerk mess it up for you. Not all guys out there are like that (most but not all). :]
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