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How do I talk to my girlfriend on the phone?
I'm a college guy, and I'm in a long distance relationship. I have to talk to my girlfriend on the phone, because she needs to hear my voice. I tend to always say stupid things and make her really upset. What are some things I can keep in mind to keep from hurting her feelings on the phone?
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Well, it's probably not just stupid things you say. She misses you. When she hears your voice, she probably realizes just how much.
Since you're trying not to say anything to hurt her, you're kind of watching yourself at what you say, and girls can sense that kind of thing. And sensing that, she can sense that the relationship is changing.
When someone moves away that you're close to, it's kind of like you lost them, even if you know they're there. And it's easier to get upset or angry than to have to deal with the fact that they're gone.
So, to ease her fears about your relationship changing, you need to talk to her like you would if you were talking on the phone to her at home. I know you're making new friends and have more experiences now, and it's okay to tell her about them, but you have to make sure that you're still keeping her a part of your life.
Like, if you're telling her a story about something funny that happened, tell her that you wish she was there to share the laugh. Or if you were worrying about something, tell her that you wished she was there because she always makes you feel better.
Basically, you just have to make sure that she knows you're in for the long haul, because that's pretty much what she's worrying about. She probably thinks that she isn't such a large part of your life anymore because it's long distance and you don't see each other nearly as much.
Hope this helps.
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just always be nice :]
ask how her day was
and how she's doing.
tell her you miss her.
just think before you say things.
it'll work out :]
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Maybe she's just really sensitive. Just don't say things that you know made her upset in the past.
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You don't say things to intentionally hurt her, do you? Cause if you don't, then she may just be over reacting.. If she's one of those girls that gets mad at everything you say.. then there's really no way to avoid it. But try asking her questions about how things are going where she's at.. Ask her how she's feeling.. tell her that you miss her.. idk, be cute. Let her know that you don't say things intentionally to get her angry, too.. maybe then she'll understand and not get mad at you all the time.
I hope this helped.. :]
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What kind of stupid things do you say? What is making her upset?
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