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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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ok for starters f/13
i have a gross kind disorder thing
i have had it all my life but it is suposed to be the worse when you are a teenager
there is no cure for it and it doesnt hurt and its not contagiouse
its like only on my arms
basicly its just really red, bumpy,and unatractive
i wear a jacket everyday to cover it up but its getting to be summer and its getting really hot and i cant wear a jacket anymore

it isnt that bad or red when im relaxed or if i dont worry about it but when im at school i feel like i HAVE to cover it up or ppl with make fun of me (they have before)

what do i do?

If people make fun of you for something you can't help, then they're idiots, and you shouldn't worry about what they think. Tell them that you have a disorder & you can't help it that your arms look that way.

And if they still make fun of you, punch them in the face. But do what makes you comfortable, and don't let people bother you. If you worry over them, then you're giving your disorder a reason to bother you.

There's this girl that I have known since I was in third grade, Brittany. well, I THOUGHT i knew her. She has invited people over right in front of me and one of my best friend's faces without inviting us. She talks about every single one of the people who she calls her friend and even people she doesn't know. The other night, she called and by the time I had found my phone, she hung up. Not even a minute later, another girl who was at her house, Sarah, called me and I answered. After getting off the phone with me, Brittany told Sarah and all the other girls there that I was a bitch, I was obsessed with Sarah, and a lot of other things. Apparently, she calls me and everyone else who she calls her "best friend" a bitch to anyone to will listen. But when she said it in front of my friends, they stood up for me, and then she got mad at them. Today I was talking to all of my best friends, who are Brittany's too, and they said that she is always talking about me, amanda, nicole, and a lot of other people. Basically, we're all sick of it. I just learned this today, but she DRINKS! The night that they spent the night at her house, she tried to pressure them into drinking vodka, but they said no finally. She never says sorry for anything and always turns it around and blames you, always leaves people out, always talks about people behind their backs, always makes fun of people in front of their face, always pressures people into doing things, always lies, and she NEVER can talk to you about something...she always gets this girl, Amanda who has no idea how much she talks about her, to yell at the person for her and turn everyone against them. We don't know what to do right now because we don't want everyone turning against us, but we don't really want to be friends with her anymore. What should we do?

Stop hanging out with her. Just tell her that her behavior is frustrating, and annoying & you can't cater to who she's gonna be friends with each week. And you're not gonna be around somebody who's constantly negative. Let her get mad at you. It just gives you all the more reason to ditch her.

Well, i have this friend, and well everytime i am myself she gets mad at me for acting the way i do, im not mean im just crazy (thats my personality) and so i feel like i have to be somone else when im around her in order to be her friend. Now she is mad at me again, is it worth trying to work things out AGAIN or should i just noot be her friend anymore, because i have a bunch of other friends that like me for me.

If you have to change yourself for somebody because they can't accept the real you, then no, you shouldn't be friends w. them. If somebody cannot accept you for who you are, then they aren't good enough to be in your life.

Cut your friend short & hang out with the people that like you for the RIGHT reasons.

I'm a girl and I have been masterbating since I was about 4 years old and always with a blanket. I am now 18 and recently lost my virginity to a guy I liked. Our relationship didnt last too long after, mainly because I liked masterbating instead of sex. Is this unusual to like masterbating instead of sex and do I need to maybe get some sex therapy or something because wont this maybe mess up my love life later on?
Thanks.

Masturbation is only wrong if it interferes with daily life [showering, going to work/school, sleeping, eating]. If you prefer masturbation over those things, then it's unhealthy.

And no, sometimes girls prefer masturbation over sex if the guy can't hit her spot, or he's taking too long to get her off. But if you prefer masturbation over sex everytime, it can get a little annoying & may resort in no one EVER sleeping w. you.

You don't need sex therapy; you just need to occupy some of your time with something else.

Ok I just want to know some stuff about drinking:
how do people pass out from it?
Drinking how much is ok?
why do people pee in their pants when they're drunk?
and what does a hang over feel like and how do you know that it's a hangover?

When you binge drink [drink too much], you can pass out. If your blood-alcohol level is above a certain point, you're pretty much fucked.

For each state, there's a certain amount of alcohol that's legal. For New York, it's like .2 or something like that. Anything above that is deadly.

When you're drunk, you don't really know what's going on, or what you're doing, so you sometimes lose control of bodily functions. Some people purge, and some people pee themselves.

Hangovers suck. You have a constant headache, you're dizzy, and you feel really sick. Not to mention the fact that all you wanna do is throw up. And you know you have a hangover when that's how you feel the morning after drinking.

Err, when you're giving someone a handjob,
how do you know when to stop?
Do you just go until they cum,
and what if that takes awhile?

Usually you'd go until they orgasm or cum, but you could always keep going after that unless they tell you otherwise. Ask the guy when he wants you to stop. I'm pretty sure he'll have no problem letting you know.

Ok. so i get like a lot of discharge.. to the point where i feel like i have to where a tampon almost everyday to make sure it doesnt like "overflow" and this week i tried using pantiliners and they didnt work to well... what's wrong with me.. what do i do???

First off, discharge is normal. Some girls get a lot, and some get hardly any. But every girl gets it; so there's NOTHING wrong with you. Pantiliners work wonders, and even though they didn't work for you, don't be discouraged. You shouldn't really wear a tampon when you don't have your period because of TSS. Anyways, try some thicker pantiliners because thin ones might not work too well for you. But don't get the super uncomfortable thick ones. Get the ones you can't feel.

I was molested by a family member of mine when I was little. I don't remember what happened at all and I've questioned my sexuality since I was 11 or 12 years old.

I've been afraid of penis' since I started fooling around with guys at 13.

I don't know what it is but unless I'm "under the influence" I can't muster up the guts to go down on my most current boyfriend.

Now, I've done it before but every time there's a new guy involved, I freak out.

I really feel like I'm being selfish to my boyfriend. I've also talked to my sister and him about it, but it just seems like there's nothing anyone can say to make me feel better about the whole thing.

What in the world should I do?

I think you should get counseling. Though you don't remember what happened, you need someone to talk to because you're always gonna be traumatized.

And explain it to your boyfriend. Make sure you let him know it's got nothing to do with him, because he's gonna think you don't like him or whatever.

i was just wondering, does everyone e? and is it bad for you? is it bad for you during your period? thanks for answering.

Would you like to explain what you mean by "e"?

Because without explaining that, no one is gonna be able to answer your question.

You know how people say if you have a positive attitude, good things will come your way or whatever? Well yeah it seems like whenever I'm in a good mood and I'm confident, I'm really happy and good things happen to me. But half the time, I'm in a really bad mood and bad things seem to happen to me. It's so annoying. I wish I could be in a good mood all the time instead being in a bad mood half the time. The littlest things put me in a bad mood, too. Like if I get a lot of homework in English class I'm pissed off for the whole day. Argggg. Is there anything I could do to, like, help me get out of a bad mood when I'm in one? I also get really mad at everyone when I'm in a bad mood too lol. Help?

Well, look at it this way. If you don't get any homework, it'd be good. But then you'd end up being bored because you'd have nothing to do.

And it's a better way to improve your grade. If your grade is low or drops, it'll put you in a bad mood, so just stay positive. Don't let little things bother you, because it's gonna stress you out. Just try to relax & do some of it in class if you can, or in a study hall. That way you won't have so much to do at home.

does anyone know of a quick way i can get my hair to grow back its so shortt i hate it some one please help!

Put it up a lot. When you put it up, it's getting tugged by the hair tie, & your roots, so it'll cause it to grow. And just keep it healthy. Trim it about once a month, maybe every two.

Ok. So my boyfriend is one of them guys who will kick anyones ass and win. He likes to flaunt it to...and i know he can ive seen it. But the other day ago this one dude was pushing me around like i was a guy. And he pushed me in the wall (in front of my boyfriend) and my boyfriend didnt do shit. But its like if my boyfriend sees someone else in the hall way getting pushed around like that by a dude it seems like he'd say something. I was really pissed at him about it so you think i had a reason or i was just over reacting? Because being he's been my boyfriend for 6 months id expect him to stick up for me.

Ask him why he didn't stick up for you, and see what he has to say. But ask him calmly, if you get all upset, it's a sure thing that you're gonna be fighting.

I didn't see my best friend for like two years when she left to Canada, but she recently visited for two weeks and it was great and everything, but I'm wondering if anyone has any good ideas of something I could make for her or give her to take with her as a memory? I took tons of pictures, and we even have songs now, but I don't know if I should just make her a box with a letter, a CD, and maybe a few gifts in it and some pictures? Does anyone have any ideas or has done anything like this before?

I'm sixteen/f, btw.

I think your idea is really cute. Throw some pictures in there, and get some cute frames from Wal*Mart like the "BEST FRIENDS FOREVER" ones, and put those in the box. And make her a cd of all your songs together. And it seems a little corny, but make friendship bracelets or necklaces. My best friend & me did that. =] We wear them constantly, haha. And buy a few extra gives she might like. =] Sorry that your friend is going back to Canada. I don't know what I'd do if my friend did that. We're like sisters!

I am going to Alton Towers with my friends on the weekend but my parents wont let me go up in the car so i have said that i am going up on the train, but they want to see the train tickets and even take me to the train station but ive said that i am sleeping up my friends house and then we going to the train station together but really im going up in the car, what can i do to get around this i need help!!!

Convince your friends to take the train, OR tell your parents the truth.

You're gonna get caught eventually [they could catch you in the lie], so you might as well just come clean.

And if you don't, just convince your friends to take the train; so that you don't get in trouble. Besides, they might go for it because they might still wanna be able to hang out with you. [Your parents could not want you hanging around w. them anymore.]

13/f

a few months ago i lost my viginity to this guy who i met from a friends friends' brother. A lot of things happened and we all just stopped talking to eachother but i'm still not over them. yea i was kinda passed around but i still have feelongs for them and the other day i saw them again and i couldn't take it so i looked away but it killed me inside that we didn't say one word to eachother.

i know i still care for them and i know i need to get over them but i don't know how. i mean i don't under stand it. they hurt me so much, they lied, cheated and just let me fall to save them selves, but they have some kind of hold on me and i don't know what to do i mean what can i do.

after me and him were over i was asked out a lot but i couldn't say yes to any of them because they got in the way and made me rethink you know?

what do i do and how?

thanks a million!!

When someone else asks you out, just go out with them. But don't do it just to be nice, do it because you like them.

Don't make some other group of people change your mind about your decisions. Make them on your own. If it's a mistake, you'll learn from it.

And try to occupy your time w. new friends, and new people. That way when they come around; they won't seem so important. Because they're not.

this is probably the stupidest question ever. lol but if your on birth control would it be ok for the guy to cum inside of you? and have sex without a condom?

It would because birth control protects against pregnancy, but you should always wear a condom no matter what. Some girls forget to take their pill that day, or something like that, and then the guy cums & they're pregnant.

Even if condoms "take away the feeling" or you just don't like them, use them anyways because I have a feeling that a baby could ruin your life.

My feelings are usually right, btw.

13/f gothic. my bff is a guy. i love my bff he loves me parents found out now we cant do anything together. he always used to come over but now he cant and i cant go over his or anywhere else. i hate my life im so confused and depressed. im in the gothic group and hes a preppy nerd he hangs out with us my friends hate him but i got them to get over the whole school knows were bffs and that we like eachother. so the only time im with him is at school. if we would date i wouldnt want to loose my bff. hes been gettin mad alot and just desturbed i guess and he wore all black and just smiled at me then he had to leave so then it was the week end then i asked him over the phone he was just like sad and just different i wana know what he ment wearin black and just smileing then leaving i asked him and it was just different.i dont wana just ask himm again so how else could i or what do u think he ment hes been cryin and getting detentions and F's whats wrong im just confused and it has to do with me so last time i asked him what was wrong he was quiet so what should i say to him or do.i dont wana hurt him again. just between me and him nobody else can get in this. i realy need help soon so plz help ~randomgrl777~

I think he's depressed. When your parents don't allow you to see your friends/someone you like for good, it kinda depresses you. I mean, you'll see them at school, but that's it. And you're in the part of life where your friends mean more to you than anyone else, even your parents/siblings & family. Talk to him & let him know you're there for him, and also..talk to your parents. They're the only ones who can fix this because they're the ones who did it.

Also, when he gets quiet when you ask him what's wrong, tell him you're sorry, things will get better, you love him, & you'll always be there for him. And that you'll try to make things work w. your parents.

I hate parents sometimes. They think they know what's best, and sometimes they do, but when it comes to who you love, they don't.

If a guy finger bangs a girl or puts the tip of his penis in her can her hymin break?

Well if he fingers her, yeah. But if he puts the tip of his penis in, and her hymen breaks..He must have a realllyyyyy big penis. Hahaha.

But it can be broken from a lot of other things too like sports, tampons, masturbation...Anything, really.

Im in love with my sisters kindof boyfriend. Theyve been on and off for two years now and weve all been friends since we were born. She keeps dating other people even though hes in love with her and she cheated on him like 80 times when they were going out. He still likes her.
Me and my sister are so alike. We look the same and have the same style and dress and talk the same and have the same things we like and stuff not even on purpose. All my friends say theyre surprised to see her walk into a room while shes talking cuz they think its me.
I am in love with this guy. Ive loved him for a year. He is the nicest guy ever and my sister is in aniother stage where she doesnt want to have anything to do with him and hurts him all the time bcuz she is destructive. I could make him so happy. He would love me if he realized that im exactly like her except younger and nice. How do i get him to like me?
14/F Shes three years older than me and so is he.

Sit him down and talk to him about it. If that's how you really feel, and you feel that you could be a better girlfriend, then tell him that. If you don't, you're gonna regret it.

Also, maybe he hasn't done anything with you because your his girlfriend's baby sister, and maybe he thinks the age gap is kinda big, even though it's only three years.

f/15
okay so last week my boyfriend and I were fooling around and we actually had sexual contact.he didn't go inside, he was like at my opening. he says that he didn't ejacualate inside, but i want to know if there was any possible chance I COULD be pregnant.
thanks

There's a chance, but since he didn't go inside, I doubt it.

But then again, he was at your opening, and there is always precum. =]

If you miss your period, get checked out.

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