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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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um hi I was reading advice you gave to someone...

why arent you supposed to exercise before bed?

When you exercise, you're putting your muscles to work. And in order to go to bed, your muscles should be relaxed. When you exercise, they're not relaxed, so it's best not to exercise before bed. You can do it before bed, but it'll be much more diffucult to fall asleep.

I know that u can only have sex once and get pregant. It was like 3 weeks ago me and my boyfriend had protected sex.I was in the computer looking at unexpected pregrancy and the sypotpoms and I have those. Do you like I might Be pregant??????

Well, since you had unprotected sex, yeah. There's a high chance you can be pregnant. I would take a pregnancy test to make sure.

If you are, tell your parents immeadiately. It might seem smart to wait until the right time, but there is no right time. The longer you wait to tell them, the madder they'll be. And don't expect your boyfriend to stick around if you are. Most teenage fathers bail.

ok me and my boyfriend are getting married when were 19 but were doing it secretly so my parents don't know. Is this a bad thing to do even if my parents do not accept him. I knooow you might say im too youn but weve been dateing for over 2 years and it's the only way i can be happy because at home with my parents im miserable but when im with him im happy i feel no weight on my shoulders. We've only been on 5 dates sice we have been going out and i only see him at school and thats it. myparents keep me isolated from him. Someone please help i don't know what to do. I love him and want to marry him but then again i feel like imm back stabbing my parents.

Is there a reason why your parents don't like him? There has to be some type of reason. They can't just not like him for nothing.

Anyways, I think it's a bad idea to get married at that age, AND to keep it from your parents. Your parents are a big part of your life [whether the impact they give is negative or positive], and they deserve to know most things about your life, or what's going on it. You're entitled to privacy, but don't you think your parents would be pretty damn pissed if you got married & they found out the hard way? Mine would. It's best you just tell them & get it over with.

Even if they highly dislike your boyfriend, they want you happy. Believe it or not. And you are backstabbing your parents. It might seem like the right thing to not tell them, but they're always gonna find out no matter what, and it'll just make things worse between you.

why can't you exercise before you go to bed? i never really understoof the reason why.

Because when you exercise you're making your muscles & whatever do work. Your muscles have to be relaxed for you to go to bed.

Ever since I got my first tattoo 3 years ago, I have bee dying to get another. I know basically what I want and where I want it at.. but I'm having problems coming up with a design for it?

Basically, I want it to be in pink and black. I want a pink heart, and either inside it, around it, or next to it I want the words 'Everything Happens For A Reason."

So my question is, does anyone know of any websites that have really good examples of pics of tattoos, or maybe a website that will help you design them? I'm really bad at drawing things up & I want this tattoo to look awesome.. since I'm obviously going to have it for the rest of my life.

Any help would be appreciated, thank you!

Google some Tattoo sites. I'm also really bad at drawing, and since my brother's good at it, he draws all of his tattoos, and he draws the sketches of the ones I'll be getting.

You could always take your idea to an artist & he can draw it up for you. And if you like it, then it'll go on from there.

how do people get the differentflashing pics.

Probably some sort of MySpace Tweak. Google it.

Or, they probably use lots of photoshop. Either way, I don't know how to do it.

I`m making my bff a cd for her birthday.
but she already has the songs i was gonna put.
these are her favorite songs.

with love-hilary duff
find a new way-young love
this is why im hot-MIMS
saturday-fall out boy

& she loves music that makes her dance but she doesnt want techno music without words.

help please?

You could always buy her a CD with dance music on it. Or, you could try & find some techno versions to her favorite songs. She'd love that.

I'd like to get to know this girl better. she sits a few seats behind me in one of my class's. It would seem awkward to just approach her. we chat occasionally but I would like to get to know her better. she has a great personallity, or so it seems. and she seems to be someone i could get to become close friends with. how do i initiate a conversation at least, and maybe ask her if she wanted to get otgether or somthing. just looking for a means to create a close friendship, possibly a close relationship later on. im older then her, but very unexperianced. i can be a bit eccentric and quirky at times, but i don't want to creep her out or anything. thanks in advance

Ask for her MySpace, and if she doesn't have one, ask for her screenname or her phone number. To initiate conversation, just say hi & ask her how her days been going. I'm pretty sure you won't freak her out since you guys have chatted before.

my pores are like huge and i have no clue how to make them any smaller! on my nose i have these little brownish spots which i guess are my pores.
how do i get rid of them without having to buy some expensive face stuff?! thanks!

The brown spots are the dirt in your pores, or they could be blackheads.

I use the navy blue bottle from Clean & Clear. It's made especially for blackheads, and it works really good. Not to mention it's fairly cheap. No more than $5.

ok well i have to questions how do i get my boyfriend to make-out with me under the stairs? and another thing whenever we make out he always slobbers on me a little bit and its like a wet kiss and its kinda gross .. what should i do?

Pull him under the stairs & makeout with him.

I've never really had my nails done. I'm wanting to get gel nails on my hands and just a regular pedicure.
Do most places require appointments?

Also, if anyone has had gel nails, please give me an opinion on them (are they durable, do they look good, etc.).

By gel, you mean acryllic nails? I've had them, and I love them. They're gorgeous, and they last a really long time if you take care of them.

No. Some places do, but most places take walk-ins too.

15/f. in may 2006, i started talking to this alot. we even started saying we loved each other, like REALLY, not just as friends. so now, we are going out and we still say we love each other, but it doesn't really seem like it means anything. he's not the mushy-gushy-lovey kind of person, so how can i let him know that i really DO love him?

Shout it at the top of your lungs in a grocery store.

Please someone help me.. I have been dating this girl for 9 months and 14 days today.. We have been doing really good lately.. But she is one of those girls who wants to talk to me CONSTANTLY and believe me i like it.. But sometimes it can be to much.. She gets mad at me when i want to go anywhere with my friends.. But the other day i told her she was to attached.. And i didnt mean it i was just mad because of how she kept getting mad.. But now i feel horrible because i have hurt her in the past.. And i love her more than anything in this world and i hate myself for hurting her.. Can someone please tell me how to appoligize to her and make it better. But dont say to tell her that i said it out of anger or to just appoligize because i have already tried it.. We used to fight alot because of how she would get mad.. But that is over with now.. And now she is scared to talk to me alot because she dont want to fight with me anymore.. And told her thats not the way to do it.. I know she loves me i can just tell she does. .But i dont know how to make things like they used to be.. Someone please help me..

Obviously there are problems. She gets mad when you wanna do things that don't involve her. Like hanging with the guys. That can be a control issue, or just jealousy. Either way, it needs to be worked out. Try & create a balance with friends/girlfriend. Because if you hang out with your girlfriend more than your friends, your friends will start to go away one by one. And if you hang out with your friends more, she'll complain you're not spending enough time with her.

Just try not to fight with her & talk things out calmly so it doesn't end up in conflict. And apologize as best you can. Just tell her you need time with your friends too. Your life doesn't revolve around her as much as she likes to think so. But don't tell her that or she'll really be pissed.

f/14/144lb/5'4

i need a way to get rid of upper leg fat???

and is there a way to make your tummy flat but keep your boobs the size they are??? cuz i want a flat sexy tummy but i don't want a flat chest with it. but if that impossible then I'll lose the boobs (laugh out loud) i just want a flat tummy if you have any way to do that plz tell:)

plz help me i don't want to look like a fatty over the summer=(

thanks a bunch in advance =D

First off, you're not big, so let's get that out of the way.

Second, start running. That's the only way to tone your legs. As for your stomach, do crunches. But, just know that you can't change just one thing about yourself without something else being affected.

Other tips:
- Don't exercise/eat before bed.
- Drink 8 glasses of water a day.
- And 4 glasses of milk a day.
- Exercise for 20 minutes everyday.
- Do not eat anything unhealthy.
- So that means no junk food, no sweets, & no sodas.

It might be hard, but in order to stay completely healthy, that's what you gotta do. And don't stop once you see results or else you'll just gain all your weight back. And don't be discouraged if you gain weight because muscle weighs more than fat.

i like this gilr that i liked 4 a long time i told her i love d her once but she had a boy frind im 13 and i dont know wut i shoud do now shes singel and i want to ask her out but i mite thank if i do and she ses no i thank she will not even want to be friends no more

Just take a chance and ask her out.

what kind of things can i do that makes a guy happy or think im sweet? im usually a person who laughs all the time, talks, and can be mean indirectly...(who isnt)haha. so i want him to see my sweet side.

i dont want it to be like bringing flowers just for him or anything cause thats way too obvious im in love with him.

i have class with him tomorroww.. i dont know.. like bringing candy maybe?
do guys like it when u just randomy touch him on shoulders or whatever?

No clue. Thank you!!

Well, you could always bring some sort of snack like chips & share it with him.

I'm 15 and i just recently got pregnant by my boyfriend and after i told him i was pregnant he started acting all weird and i'm trying everything to make this thing work what should i do

In most cases of teen pregnancy, don't expect the father to stick around. You might think "Oh, he got me pregnant, he'll stay & support me." Wrong. He won't. He's man enough to get you knocked up, but when it comes to supporting you, & a baby, it just won't happen. He'll walk away from it all & completely abandon you. Not all teenage fathers are like this, but the majority of them are. The ones who aren't will make you eat your words.

I would talk to your parents about it. Tell them what's going on, and what's already happened. They can help you make decisions on what to do with this. Your choices are vague: Have the kid, & keep it. Have the kid, and give it up for adoption, or have an abortion.

If you do decide to keep this baby, there are a lot of things at stake. Your social life will never be the same. Girls at your school will terrorize & piss you off. They'll talk shit, and you won't be able to do anything about it. You'll have to miss a lot of school for your doctors appointments, or just to have the baby in general. And even after you're doing having the baby, you'll still have to miss school so you can heal. And your future will be at stake too. All your dreams/goals can be taken away from you. With the expenses of the baby, it'll take away college & whatnot. But also, if you keep the baby, you'll be learning a valuable lesson not to have unprotected sex, BUT, you'll also learn love. No one will love you the way your baby will.

If you decide to have an abortion, there's gonna be controversy. People will try to talk you out of it, and you're gonna feel like shit after. And it's gonna sit on your conscience that you just killed a being that could've been amazing. Imagine, that baby could've been the next Einstein, or it could've found the cure for cancer. It could've done something amazing, and you killed it. But, it'd be good for you because you wouldn't have to throw anything away for the sake of your baby.

And if you decide to keep it, but give it up for adoption, you'll probably never see your baby again. Or you might decide at the end you wanted to keep the baby, even though you already signed it off to the other parents. No matter what you do, there's always a problem that's going to face you.

But I'm going to ask you a question or two: What made you think your relationship would work out after your boyfriend found out you were pregnant? What made you have unprotected sex in the first place? Did you even know the consequences? And what did you plan on doing?

You're only 15 years old, and you've practically ruined your life. But, whatever you decide to do, is totally your decision. Make sure that if you decide to have this baby & keep it, you do whatever it takes to support it. But let me tell you, not many places will hire a 15 year old.

And as for your boyfriend, punch him in the face for ruining your life. He deserves to get his ass kicked. And next time you have sex, use protection so things like this don't happen again. No teenager is fit to be a mother, no matter what they think.

No DUH Tina!

First of all, I wouldn't think anyone would deserve to get their face burnt off for trying something this stupid, that's just cruel.

Second of all, why would you think that I was referring to chemical relaxation or straightening??? Assuming that is the stupid part to begin with!!!!!

Because that was the subject...& you wanted to straighten your fuckin eyelashes because they were too curly?

Wow.

my best guy friend's girlfriend just broke up with him. i know he's devestated but i also know that we've both always had feelings for each other. him and his gf broke up on saturday, and we went to a party on monday. while at the party we ended up in my friend's bedroom cleaning up. suddenly he put his hands between my legs and started feeling around. then he started feeling me up and i went along with it and did the same because i really like him. we started to make out when i stopped him because i realized that he still isn't over his ex girlfriend. i know this situation will probably happen again. i wouldn't mind doing things with him because he's my best friend but i dont know if i should let these things happen because i know he still has strong feelings for this other girl. im friends with his ex girlfriend and she says that she doesn't have feelings for him anymore and there is no chance of them getting back together so what should i do?

Wait for him to get over her, and then try to form a relationship.

I'm a quadroplet (I have 3 other sisters that were born at the same time as me) The only difference between us is our eyes my sisters have grey, green, and hazel and I have light blue. I'm mixed with White, Puerto Rican, and Black. I'm about 5'4, carmel complection, wavy hair. So Most people would say that my life is wonderful. BUT I HATE IT! I feel like I don't even have my own identity. I guess it would be easier if I was a twin or triplet but I'm not. Everyday I wake up and I have to look at 3 other girls that have the same face as me! I feel like nobody sees WHO I AM INSIDE, all they care about are my looks and my sisters. I dont like to talk about it because it seems like nobody understand because I don't any other quadroplets. Please help me. I just want to know how I can feel better, etc. And I am very serious about my situation so If you just want to critisize me instead of helping me, please don't bother to answer.

This is gonna sound crazy to you, but I wish I had a twin. I've always wanted a sister, but the only sister I've got is one that I've known my whole life [we're not related].

Anyways, if you wanna put yourself out there & be your own person, then do things that set yourself apart from your sisters. Be a dancer, start writing, do some sports, act, cheerlead, sing. Do anything your sisters don't do. Fuck, skateboard or snowboard if you've got to. And if you live somewhere warm & by the beach, surf! Or, play music. Do anything your sisters don't. There are tons of things you can do to set you apart, but you've gotta be willing.

And try to explain to people that just because you like alike, it doesn't mean you're all the same.

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