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i know he's not over her
my best guy friend's girlfriend just broke up with him. i know he's devestated but i also know that we've both always had feelings for each other. him and his gf broke up on saturday, and we went to a party on monday. while at the party we ended up in my friend's bedroom cleaning up. suddenly he put his hands between my legs and started feeling around. then he started feeling me up and i went along with it and did the same because i really like him. we started to make out when i stopped him because i realized that he still isn't over his ex girlfriend. i know this situation will probably happen again. i wouldn't mind doing things with him because he's my best friend but i dont know if i should let these things happen because i know he still has strong feelings for this other girl. im friends with his ex girlfriend and she says that she doesn't have feelings for him anymore and there is no chance of them getting back together so what should i do?
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Well stopping him in the middle of the act can leave a bad taste in his mouth about approaching you sexually again, for fear of a second denial.
However, it is very common to seek physical companionship after a breakup, especially if it came as a shock to one of the partners.
i agree with a previous answer, given time, you may be able to pursue a relationship.
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I think a good idea might be to ease back on anything happening for now. You may end up being nothing but a rebound and his actions a result of that. He may actually like you but if he is devestated about what happen with his ex he will not be thinking right (would him putting his hands between your legs without warning be normal behavour for him?).
I think the best course of action may be to tell him you do like him but that you also want to give him time to recover and get over his ex and what has happen with her. It's a little hard to explain but rest assured I have been through the exact same thing before (where I was the guy who is your friend in your question) and the girl (you) was one of my really good friends.
If you both really have feelings for each other and like each other then waiting will make no difference at all other than clear the air out of his past relationship since him having strong feelings for this other girl (as well as jumping into something so soon after a breakup) may have some bad repercussions.
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Wait for him to get over her, and then try to form a relationship.
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