|
Ok this topic is strange
Maybe i should not be going to you but this is big and i just have to ask. I chose sex as my topic because they did not have teen pregnancy. I am 15 and obviously a girl and i had sex with a 15 year old and then IT broke and so now i am about 2 months in. I do not want an abortion so any advice on becoming a parent.... By the way... my boyfriend left me and my mom knows
Signed,
Gonna be in pain
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Sexual Health and Reproduction category?
Maybe give some free advice about: General Sex Questions?
It will be a mistake if going for abortion but having a child so early will not allow you to grow up and gain life experience to be a good parent later on. You can't afford it either. A kid will cost lots of money.
Second option, You can have your child adopted and 18 years later you can have it back. This way, your child is cared probably and you have time to grow up too. You may try this resource: www.goodparentclub.com
Best wishes,
Skywalker.
]
It looks like you're in a very, very tough situation.
You have two options:
1] Raise the baby on your own
2] Adoption
I highly suggest doing an open adoption, so you can still be in your baby's life, but he/she will be living with another family. You're only 15, you have your entire life ahead of you. Did you really picture having a baby in it? I'm actually quite surprised that you weren't taking birth control.. since you're sexually active.. but that's a different story.
I'm not going to give you a sugarcoated answer, since this is going to be the real deal. You need to realize that not only are you pregnant, but so is your mom, your dad, and the rest of your relatives. Meaning that they will probably pitch in with helping you take care of the baby. I'm sure that your parents did not intend on raising a child, and I'm sure that they had their own pulling-their-hair-out moments when they were raising you.
If you decide to keep the baby, it is also likely that you will have to drop out of school. Didn't see that coming? Well, that's what comes out of not practicing abstinence. No, I'm not going to preach about how you should have been safer [although it's true], but did you really not think that there would be strings attached? Just because you've heard that statistic of condoms being 98% effective, it doesn't mean that the other 2% disappeared.
As for advice on becoming a parent, call your local YMCA and ask if they have any Parenting classes available for you to enroll in.
Best of luck.. really.
]
i agree. definitely get a job and start saving some moneyy. thats if you want to keep it. also, have you talked to your ex about helping out? is your family going to help you bring the baby up?
also, definitely stay in school and continue to do all of your work. in the end, it will just be that much harder if you dont go to school.
hope i helped & good luckk !
]
Start saving your money. Get a job if you need too. Remember, you can always put the baby up for adoption if you want. OR you could have it for another family, like in the movie Juno :] Also, I'd suggest taking a parenting class. Goodluck!
]
More Questions: |