about

I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.


I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

advice

okay well tonight my boyfriend was at my house
and like the whole time he was there he had a boner.. sorry if this is really gross but im wondering if this is like normal or not.. but anyways we went and ate dinner.. and then after dinner i gave him a hj but he like couldnt orgasm.. this was my first time doing this.. he said i was doing it right but i know i wasnt going fast enough but thats because i was scared my parents were gonna walk in and he said he wasnt in a very comfortable position and that hes never jacked off in that position before. is this normal? like should i feel bad that i wasnt able to give him an orgasm.. especially since he told me that hes had little ones when we make out? and sometimes he gets wet just from me touching him outside his pants?

Aww, don't feel bad. It's your first time, and you're not gonna be good doing something the first time you do it, so don't be discouraged.

It's normal for guys to have boners around female company, especially if she's attractive or if they're dating. It's normal, so don't worry about it.

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Well, a lot of my friends in real life are the type of people that take a picture of everything and stick it on their MySpaces. So obviously they take a lot of their friends.

And in every pic I'm either smiling or poking my tongue out and that gets quite boring after a while. What are some cool/funny/entertaining camera poses I can do?

Do peace signs. It's not the most original thing in the world, but it's a pretty good pose. =)

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13,female,australian: At school i have a normal amount of friends and they are all good to me. I am making friends with some of the other kids in my grade and they are nice to me too. i usually sit with them because my other friends dont save me a seat, and i dont think they like me hanging out with the other kids. the other kids are natasha, talisha and a couple of boys (robert, jake and michael [i have a crush on michael]) during class everyone will be talking on my table and i will say something, but no one will hear me, so i say it again and no one answers. It really annoys me. Once i walked up to them and said hi but they didnt answer, so i said hi and they didnt answer again, so i said bye and walked away, i looked back and they didnt seem to notice me and they kept talking. I was pretty sad about that so i was acting sad all day (i didnt mean to) then natasha askted me what was wrong. I said nothing because i didnt want to tell her. she really confuses me, first she will act like i dont exist, next she will be talking and listening to me. I cant talk to anyone about this so i had to tell someone. please answer my question: what should i do to make them notice me more?

I don't think your friends are really your friends. If they were, they'd pay attention to you, say hi back to you & just notice you all around. Friends like this are usually tough to deal with, but I'd tell one of them how you feel. And if it doesn't change, then find someone else to hang out with because they're not really your friends.

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ok so theres this guy in my spanish class thats a year younger than me that i swear is perfect. hes taller than me hes cute hes smart hes funny hes athletic and hes so sweet. thursday after school i was walking in the hallway when he found me and asked me what i was doing over the weekend. i told him i was going to disney world because i was going there with choir and he was like oh yea thats right you told me that. and then we walked outside and both left. when i got home i realised he might have been trying to ask me out. but im not sure. hes really nice and he could have just been making conversation. he sits right infront of me and we talk alot everyday and he will just turn around and stare at me w/ a smirk on his face. i like him alot and i think he likes me too, but im not sure. im never sure! but anyways do yall think he was trying to ask me out and that he likes me? i dont know what to say to him to show him i like him without being just plain obvious. we would be soooo perfect together its crazy. thanks so much!

I think he likes you, and was trying to ask you out. He wouldn't ask you what you were doing this weekend for nothing. When you see him at school Monday, ask him if he wants to hang out over the weekend like at the mall or the movies. =) And if he says yes, see how the date goes. If it goes well, go further with the relationship. Good luck!

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13/female/australia
you probably read the subject and thought "she must be complaining because she is over weight" well i am not over weight i am under weight. I HATE IT! now ur probably thinking "what is so bad about being skinny?" well i am not skinny i am TOO skinnyi am as skinny as my 10 year old sister, and she is under weight for her age. The prboblems i face are: nothing fits me because all clothes are too big or made for boobs. I have NO boobs at all. people always ask me if i am annorexic. People call me "flat" and a "twig". ALSO i have a disease called Ceoliac disease, which means i cant eat gluten, and gluten is stuff like :wheat, flour, musly, oats, barly, malt, and MUCH more. that means i cant eat anything with bread on it (hot dogs, hamburgers, cakes) and all those things are fatty foods, so i cant get fat!!!! o cry nearly everyday because i know that guys arent attrated to my 'skinny-ness' and my 'flat-ness' i also hate being teased at school.
PLEASE HELP ME!!
what should i do to make my self fatter or happier or both?
sorry this is so long...

Aww, I definitely wish I was skinny like you. And as much as you think I'm crazy, I'm not. Haha.

Try eating chocolate. You can eat hot dogs, just don't eat them with bread. Can you eat cheesecake? Nothing about it is bready, & it's really good.

As for the kids teasing you, tell them to shut the hell up. Your disease is not your fault, and not something you asked for. If they don't know about it, explain it to them. Tell them you're not anorexic but that your disease doesn't allow you to eat certain foods so it's really hard for you to gain weight. I would try & see a nutrionist though so they can get you some foods to eat that'll help you gain some weight.

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hey well im a 13/f and i have a boyfriend and he's the most awsome guy ever he like always talks to me on the phone and tells me he loves me and hugs me. But there is this kid noah who really likes me and has liked me since 3rd grade and he keeps making me stuff and its really cute and he is really nice and i like him but i love my boyfriend. but my boyfriend dosen't treat me ,like noah does . noah is real sweet!! SO can you help i dont know who i should take or let go :( .. so can you HELP>>??>>??>>??

I would say to stick with your boyfriend since you're with him & he loves you. But, if Noah treats you better, then go with him.

Basically, take a sheet of paper, and write a line down the middle. Label one side BOYFRIEND and the other side, NOAH. List everything good about them, and everything bad.

Whoever has less bad, and more good than the other, go with them.

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ok this year im a freshmen in highschool.
my brother is 3 years older than me and is pretty popular. people know me as his little sister. and everyone is always like "your ______ little sister?!" and start to talk to me. so basically im known for my brother... how can i have my own identity? help is appreciated

Aww, haha. I know exactly how you feel. Me and my brother look really alike, and I'm known basically because of him. Whenever I talk to an upperclassmen, they're usually all "OH MY GOD, YOU'RE DAN'S LITTLE SISTER?" Haha. So don't worry, you're not the only one.

Basically, I made a name for myself by just doing things my brother never did. I was wild & crazy & my brother was more quiet & reserved. Join a sport or something, or maybe do a play.

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I love love love love this song.
"If you wanna dance"
By "never Heard of it" or "NHOI"
but i looked on limewire and cant find it.

someone PLEASE help.

Yahoo Launch might have it.

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do most girls shave them? when they are like 13,14,15?? do guys prefer it?? please leave me alot of answers

It honestly depends on the guy. Some guys like it, some guys don't. Most guys like it shaved. And yeah, most girls shave their hair. I do, and I think it looks better than having a freaking jungle on your vag. If you do, make sure you use warm water [unless cold water works for you], and use lots of cream & a new razor. Then go over it with lotion, and moisturizers.

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hello sorry this may be long...
so i'm 15/f i'm usually very happy, hyper, lound, random, funny, and just a crazy child espically arouhnd my good friends. but recently i'm finding that a lot of people find me annoying? i don't understand why. i mean i'm not a jerk or anything i'm myself 100% but i'm starting to think being myself 100% isn't doing me anygood. and i want to try and be more quite a more personal person. my my usual everyone knows i'm in the room have to tell everyone everything and how i feel all the time. does anyone have any suggestions on adivce on what i should do. should i contine to be 100% myself lound,crazy, random and kinda stupid, or only 70% me more laid back, quite personal person.

and i'm starting to think that being 100% is turning guys away cause i tend to say stupid things because i just say what i think and not think and i dk what to do.

any help would be greatt.

I was like you last year. I was the loud, crazy, hysterically funny girl. I was fun to be around, and I was always the center of attention, BUT I annoyed a ton of the people around me. There's a right place & right time for everything. And there's certain times you need to know when to be quiet, and serious. Just try not to be so loud & crazy. You can still be random & funny, but just tone it down a bit because it can scare people off. I had a guy who liked me but then stopped liking me because he said I was too loud. =/ So, just try & tone it down a little.

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So there's this guy that I happen to be really good friends with. Earlier this year he went out with my best friend, but broke up with her because he said he just didn't feel the same about her. a little while after they broke up, i started to like him...a lot! but just a few days ago, that same friend said that he told her that he liked her again, and now she likes him again. and just yesterday, she said he didnt like her anymore. confusing rite? well, i still really like him, and like i said, we're really good friends, but i want to be more than friends. a lot of people would just say, 'tell him how you feel, or get a friend to ask you' but does someone have any other creative ideas to find out if he likes me?

Don't listen to the girl below me, she obviously lives in a hole because her answer made no sense & she's got no idea what she's talking about.

With that said, just go for it. I know it's such a overrated answer, but it's the truth. Just go for it. The worst thing he can tell you is that he's gay, he doesn't like you, or he's got a girlfriend. And if he doesn't like you, then at least you found out & wouldn't have regretted it.

Just tell him or you'll regret it. Trust me.

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So there is this guy in my 4th Period class: lets call him 'Mark'. So Mark has the most amazing smile and breath taking eyes. I think I do like him, he seems different from all the other guys, more calm and layed back but heres the catch -we never talk. But I really wish we could. I'm not great at conversation starters or getting guys attention. What can I do to snag his attention then?
We always make eye contact and I think we always catch eachother staring at one-another. Its cute but I want to move on to something else. What can I say/do? I am really oldschool I think the guy should make the first move, but that hasn't worked for me. So obviously I won't be all "OMMMGGG *hugs*" or touchy-feely with him.


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Help.
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You already make eye contact, so just say hi & go from there. =) You don't have to have a huge conversation like immeadiately, but baby steps like asking him how his day is going is a start. =)

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ok so i like this boy a lot. about a week ago, i started talking to him online...and then he was all whats ur phone number?? we flirted a little and stuff...we talked on the phone for hours. he said we should meet at school (ive seen him around but we havent talked at school). he also said we should hang. yet he never talked to me about it or called me...

but anyways its been a week and he still hasn't TALKED TO ME. why is this??

He might be nervous about calling you. I realized he's talked to you before, but maybe he likes you & is really shy & can't think of anything to say. Give it another week and a half, and if he still doesn't talk to you, IM him or call him if you've got his number & see what's up.

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what day this year is the National Day of Silence (for gay pride)?

It's on April 18th.

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13/f..sorry if it's long..
Ok, I have this friend, let's name her sally. Well sally and i were BEST friends all last year, but we got in a huge fight over the summer and decided to not be such close friends. We couldn't completely stop being friend because we're kind of in the same circle. Well we obviously hadn't resolved our feelings because for the next few months (up until around november or december) we kept getting in huge fights. One of us would talk about the other behind her back, etc. Things finally settled down and we've become ok friends, like we talk and can be normal around each other. I even went over and hung out at her house once. Lately, especially within the last two or three weeks, we've been a really nice to each other. She recently broke up (then later got back together) with her boyfriend and i helped talk her through that and she thanked me for being there. Today, she and i were talking on aim and we started talking about her and her bf and then got on the subject of my love life, i let it slip the guy i like (who she knows) and we talked about him and then later i told her not to tell anyone and she was like of course not. shes a good person, but theres so much history between us, good and bad (and once last year she got mad at me and accidently told the guy i liked i liked him -it was really an accident, its a long story-she keep apologizing and i knew she felt bad), i dont know whether or not i can trust her. I'm afraid to accuse her of being untrustworthy because of course that would get anyone pissed off. Can i trust her?

No matter who fools you, or what anyone tells you, girls are evil kaniving backstabbing little whores. They'll do anything to get what they want, and if hurts others in the process, they really could care less.

Not all girls are like this, but most are. Every girl talks shit, every girl fights, and every girl PMS's & ruins someone's life.

If your friend has betrayed you once, the chances of her doing it again are high. The decision for you to trust her is your own. If you don't think she's trustworthy, you don't have to tell her. Just be careful what you say around her, & be careful of everything.

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i'm 14/f and i've NEVER been kisseed...i don't get it..lots of people say i'm pretty and find me attractive..but i've never ever been asked out...or had a boyfriend or been kissed....it's really embarrasing...there's this guy i like..and how can i make him find me attractive??...or how can i make myself be asked out??...

As horrible as it is, you can't make anyone like you, or think you're attractive. And you can't make anyone ask you out.

And first off hun, you're 14. It's normal to have not been kissed. Lots of people don't get their first kiss until much older, and that doesn't mean there's anything wrong with them. They were probably waiting for the right person. Remember, your first kiss is gonna be something you always remember, and it's supposed to be special. If you just kiss anyone, it's not gonna have meaning. Kiss someone because you like them, not because you're just dying for a kiss.

At this age though, boys are everything, and they're really not. They can do a lot of things to hurt you, but they can also be a really good thing. =) Just be patient, and don't come off as skanky or desperate, while that can turn a guy off, it'd also make them think you're easy. But just be patient, the right guy will come soon. =)

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how can i sharpen up my flirting skills??...how can i flirt more but not look desprete??..wat are some flirting tips??

Flirting isn't really a skill. It's just something you do. For me, I usually just laugh at them, or make fun of them in a playful way. They usually laugh with me. If they're not, you're probably hurting them, or they don't think you're funny. Just laugh at them, their jokes, & have a lot of eye contact. Oh, and smile!

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there's thig guy and i talk to him all the time in 5th period...and since we have D lunch i get there early and we talk...we talk about anything...and before i would tell him my story and he would look at his paper and do his work and i could'nt tell if he was paying attention..but now he looks at me when i talk and asks questions sometimes...i don't know if he likes me or not...i like him...sometimes i get my hopes to high and sometimes i get jealous when he says someinthing like ya i've dated her or i've made out with her...or if he talks to another girl alot....or if he does thee things he does to me to other girls....he said he liked someone but i'm not sure....i could'nt tell if he was serious or not...i hope he likes me...from this does it sound like he does??...wat other signs might there be if he likes me??

He might, but it doesn't really sound like it. When you guys first started talking, he didn't really look at you, and he just concentrated on his work. I think he did that because it was either really important, or he didn't really consider you his friend, so maybe he thought it was weird. He could've been listening, but usually there's eye contact involved.

Since he looks at you now, he might be paying attention more, but I'm not sure. He could like you since he said someone, but didn't tell you who. Usually guys do that when they like you. If they didn't, they'd tell you exactly who they liked. It's normal to get jealous, but you're not dating him, so that needs to calm down just a bit. He might think you're a little strange if you're all "OMFG DON'T TALK TO HER." since you're not his girlfriend.

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So i heard that using mascara can damage your eyelashes and make them fall out...

is this true????

Are there any (good) mascaras (that i can get frmo a drugstore) that really add a lot of volume to lashes?? preferably an undamaging one (conditioning??)

I use this really good mascara from Almay. It lengthens, curls & thickens. And it adds a ton of volume. It's my favorite mascara & I've had it almost a year. It works really well. =) I guess it's called "Triple Effect" or something like that. It's in a white bottle, and it's got silver on the top & the writing is in silver. It doesn't smudge at all either.

Also, whoever told you your eyelashes fall out when you use mascara is an idiot because they don't. I've used possibly 10 or more different mascaras until I found the one I've got now, and my eyelashes have never fallen out. The reason why I switched so much was because they didn't give me the volume I was looking for.

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How do you put a photo in your about me section on your myspace?

If it's on your computer, you won't be able to get the URL properties from it. So upload the picture to a site like Photobucket or PictureTrail. When you upload it there, right click it & go to down properties. Copy & paste the URL you see, and then put this code in:

< img src = " properties url for photo " >

Take the spaces out. The only space that should be kept in is the one between img & src. If that's too confusing, I'd be happy to do it for you.

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