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i am being ignored
13,female,australian: At school i have a normal amount of friends and they are all good to me. I am making friends with some of the other kids in my grade and they are nice to me too. i usually sit with them because my other friends dont save me a seat, and i dont think they like me hanging out with the other kids. the other kids are natasha, talisha and a couple of boys (robert, jake and michael [i have a crush on michael]) during class everyone will be talking on my table and i will say something, but no one will hear me, so i say it again and no one answers. It really annoys me. Once i walked up to them and said hi but they didnt answer, so i said hi and they didnt answer again, so i said bye and walked away, i looked back and they didnt seem to notice me and they kept talking. I was pretty sad about that so i was acting sad all day (i didnt mean to) then natasha askted me what was wrong. I said nothing because i didnt want to tell her. she really confuses me, first she will act like i dont exist, next she will be talking and listening to me. I cant talk to anyone about this so i had to tell someone. please answer my question: what should i do to make them notice me more?
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Get tough.Get some backbone and ask your friends why are they ignoring you.But if you think they're just lying to you...forget them and get on with your life.Dont let them hold you back.Take up some actvities with your other mates and go out with them and have a great time.But your friends are probs upset because your spending time with other people which is ok.Your other mates dont like them.And that is their problem.But i guarentee at the end of the day...once you've talked to them and go on with what your doing, you'll be the noticed,comfortable happy one with your mates like rob,jake,mich.And if you'd really like to take your minds off things confinde in someone like micheal, so you can become closer and be happier because your with someone you like.
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I don't think your friends are really your friends. If they were, they'd pay attention to you, say hi back to you & just notice you all around. Friends like this are usually tough to deal with, but I'd tell one of them how you feel. And if it doesn't change, then find someone else to hang out with because they're not really your friends.
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Okay here is two suggestions:
One: Maybe you aren't being noticable enough? My friend always complains about how her group of friends 'ignore' her when she is quiet the whole time and doesn't speak up. By reading this your case is different to hers but maybe it has a few similiar points. Here's what to do:
If they are talking, join the group quietly and wait until they've finished or join the conversation. Be a bit more forceful than just saying "hi"
But if that fails here's suggestion two
Two: This is harsh, and will seem hard and stuff but walk away, and make new friends. If they are ignoring you they are seriously not worth your time.
Hope I helped :-)
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