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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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My bf of 5 months is kind of difficult to date. I'm not saying I dont have problems cause everyone does but heres the deal.. he's the eccentric type, 'punk style'. He cares about his appearance more than his relationship, and would rather play video games than cuddle with his gf. He tells me he's not into being romantic, though he does buy me flowers the odd time, holds my hand in public and kisses me on the neck when having sex. I find that I'm the one always making the plans to hang out, text first, take time off my schedule etc. I hate that I am the one to always initiate things because it makes me feel like he doesn't care... or try. And when I confront him about these things, he tells me everythings fine and that he doesn't want to end up breaking up with me. He tells me I should 'relax' I guess, but I feel like I cant cuz I feel like our relationship isn't stable anymore and he knows it. So I guess my questions are: how can I fix this 'distance' I feel between us, how can I get him to be more involved in us without making it sound like he isnt trying? And how do i know he isnt interested in someone else? A little background info: I'm 21, he's 24. He's been cheated on in the past. I know he tells his friends good and bad things about me. He has some adhd and a bit of attention deficit disorder (he told me). He's supposed to take meds but told me they make him 'have no feelings' so he doesn't. Hence his 'eccentric' personality. He works hard and has good intentions, but I just feel like he doesn't care about me as his 'gf' even though he says he loves me... help?
It sounds to me that he may just not be the ideal boyfriend for you. You may just be starting to realize that you two may not be compatible as partners.
A relationship is a 50/50 thing and unless you borh work at it, It isn't going to improve. Not all guys are the type to want to be intimate all the time and if that is what meets your needs then you may need to find someone eles.
On the other hand I may be wrong but I am getting the impression that he may be using you. The reason why I think this is because if he isn't showing that he cares and you are always initiating contact then why does he seem to come around during sex? Sounds a little off?
It's a complicated thing, I get it. I am just talking on an outsider's aspect. Communication is a must and if you don't have it, Forget it.
do girls have three holes?
No, We have 2
- A woman
I want sex
so sexline i rang
little guy
with a big wang
getting high
got the munchies
Eating out a bowl
kellogs and crunchies
smoking weed
also called pot
Left out cold
in a ditch to rot
i got a spliff
Roll it tight
get me of
lick you out i might
filthy fanny
dirty minge
so hairy
it makes me cringe
Spam...
Poorly written and makes no sense.
My big toe nail has white marks in the nail itself, (fungus?) Anyway...for the past week I have been soaking my feet in Apple Cider Vinegar. Now my big toe aches, not in the joint but if I push on the nail, it is so sore and aches at times. Thought I had an ingrown toenail, but checked that and nail is ok. Is it from soaking too much in ACV?? appreciate any thoughts on this.
I have never heard of soaking feet in Apple cider vinegar
Try epsom salt or even warm soapy water.
If your toe aches I would get it checked out as you could have a bacterial infection.
My female rabbit .coco keeps on sneezing what is this a sign. of ?
I am not sure for rabbits but for a cat it can be a sign of upper raspitory infection. Go to the vet
So everyone says that your birthday should be one of the happiest days of the year for you. But not for me ever year just gets sadder and sadder and so much harder to deal with. My party was usually just one or two close friends hanging out but this year I couldn't even bare to do that. I mean birthdays are really for celebrating that you have been on the earth for another year. Also it's a point when most people look back on there lives and then look to there future. But both of those parts of a birthday make me feel miserable. The celebrating makes me feel outcasted kind of funny really being the outcast at your own party. Then the looking over of your life makes me realize how horrible my life is and how miserable my future will be. I look back and realize that anyone that I have loved has either left me or has ended up hurting me. Birthdays are really awkward in my family. No one in my family ever celebrates birthdays. I've never had a Birthday where people show up to my house at 12am and me blowing candles or people singing happy birthday around me.Last time I had that birthday was when I was 10. I've had a bad childhood. When I see other people celebrating their bday I just want kill myself. My suicidal thoughts are highest on my bday.
Your not the only one, Birthdays are not fun for a lot of people.
I am in my late 20's and although I am relatively young, I don't always look forward to getting older but it happens and it's life.
Stop dwelling on how your birthday is awful as clearly you are suffering from depression and need to see a therapist. I put money down that you wouldn't be this miserable if you seek the proper help and get on some medication.
Like Rahzie said, Your birthday is the least of your problem.
If we r doing sex without condom bt he use to take out een he feel tht sprem is coiming out nd dont again let go his penis inside my vagina still thre is chance of prrgnancy or wat???
Yes there is always a chance and pull out method is one of the most failed methods out there. USE a condom
I am a guy. And want to have sex
This is not the place, This site is for ADVICE only.
Also please consider the dangers of sexual activity on the internet....
For the past few months my sister has been getting sick a lot. It seems like a normal cold/flu sometimes but other times shell just wake up puking and sleep all day claiming shes sick, and then is better the next day. I starting to think she's doing some kind of drugs because her boyfriend is a low life and influences bad things upon her. I know for a fact they smoke some kind of pills on foil. No specific facts about that though. The past few weeks she's allllways complaining shes really tired and she always has a headache or a migrane. A lot of times she blames it on stress, but that seems pretty far fetched to me. She gets probably 7 hours of sleep from what I can tell, which should be plenty (unless she's staying up all night and I'm not aware) she's also always broke. Idk where all her money goes either. Shes never been a very smart person with her money or doesn't make smart decisions so I'm starting to worry that her boyfriend is getting her into bad things that are causing these problems. We've lost closeness since he's been around so I can't ask her myself because I know I won't get a straight answer.
I'm 18, she's 24, her boyfriend's 27.
Sounds like she's pregnant
She needs rehab, Have your family sit her down and talk to her. She needs help
I'm a 20 year old girl. I broke up with my boyfriend 2 years ago. He cheated on me and tried to date my friend. But when i was in a relationship with him, i think i did love him, and expressed my emotions, cried aand poured my heart out. But he cheated on me, its been two years and at some point i remember him, and i think i miss him. And i knw its wrong, coz my bestfriend reminds me of what he did. And this thought of missing him hurts me, i get lost and at times need the feel of being isolated, and currently when ppl care, i just can't trust them. Its like i'm stuck in between. And i know for a fact that he's never returning back, its like i'm still waiting. I don't want to wait, i wish i can move on. Is there anything i can do?
You need to move on, Change your aspect of thinking and come to terms with the fact that he isn't right for you. Cheater don't deserve second chances in my opinion. Cheating is betrayal, Dishonest and wrong. Are you really missing him or dwelling on the fact you were cheated on? Either way, You need to move on.
You do not miss them, You miss the thought of having someone around. Therefore you should try to meet someone new and right for you. Do not repeat an old pattern by allowing an asshole back into your life. Be stronger then that! Focus on your life and go out meet new people and leave old drama behind.
My little 5th grade girl cousin is freaking in love with me and she won't leave me alone! I'm a freshman and she's always following me around, kissing me (uggh) and asking to sit in my lap and one time she crawled into bed with me. (Ya I know creepy) I have a girlfriend. I told her that and she says (even though she's never met my gf) that she's not good enough for me and that I should date her. WTF?! She annoys the craps out of me and she's really weird. I want to yell at her to go away and that I dont like her but she would cry and I would feel bad. I'm 14. I don't want a 10 year old girl in love with me. How do I get rid of her? Thanks for any advice
You need to tell an adult about her behavior.
It is possible that ahe may be hitting puberty early. At age 10, It is a bit odd that she is showing rebellious behavior in this way. It is also very wrong and creepy to be approaching a family member this way also.
What you do is you tell her mother about the way she has been acting around you or tell someone who is in charge of her. Letting her behavior go on like this could lead serious consequences for her later on in life.
My boyfriend told me he was 13, when infact he's 12. I know 13's a little young to date, but I'm quite mature...I'm just wondering if he is..He lied to me about his age. Also all my friends say it's embarrassing to date a younger boy..What's you're opinion? Thanks
It is not embarrassing to date someone younger, Not at all.
If he was 12 while you were 14,15 or older then I could understand as there would be a difference in maturity.
If he is a year younger, So what? Perhaps he lied becauae he didn't want to be turned down or judged. Also, You should never allow your friends to come between your relationship. It's about what makes YOU happy not them.
If you like him and he is nice too you then what's the problem? Who cares what your friends think, It's not their relationship!
I have a bff who is 2 years younger than me. I'm 13 and she's just turned 11. Recently she's been acting obsessed with me and always wants to get her way. I've noticed this, and as you can imagine, it's put me off hanging out with her so much. She's just so judgmental and boring. She'll never do anything fun and new, she just wants to shop and watch boring movies in which are too mature for her, this gives her the idea that she is older than she really is, though she can act like a right old brat at times. I started hanging out with my other friend, who's my age, a lot more, and i love it, it has made me notice how much i hate hanging out with my bff. I need some advise on how to slowly become less attached to the hip with her, in a wat which won't be too obvious to her. Also, what can i do to slyly show her i'm changing? so that she can see we're growing apart. thanks!!
Hello again sweetie
You see, An average friendship generally last between 5-7 years.
If you feel you both are growing apart and should move on then maybe try weaning off by talking to her less and less. Each time she approches you, Stick with small talk. (Hi hiw are you etc) Don't get personal with her anymore. Usually when someone tries to move on from someone they don't initiate the conversation.
Another option is to be honest with her. Although there is no nice way to tell someone you don't want to be friends, You could explain to her that you feel you two are growing apart. It could just be a matter of age and maturity. Perhaps you are mature and she is still yet to hit puberty.
My principal and assistant principal mistreat me and disrespect me. In fact, my mom is frustrated with them as well.
Here's why:
- A few months ago, they tried to get me stuck in a mental hospital, and they had no reason to do so.
- My parents, the psychiatrist, and therapist do not want me on medication. However, the principal has been trying to force me into taking it.
- I am also bisexual, and I feel that they mistreat me because of it.
- They accuse me of being a liar. For example, when I told the principal that I stopped cutting myself (and I was being honest!), she said, "Why should I believe you?" The nerve! And the assistant principal told me to not say things that aren't true and not lie -- even though all I've done is be honest about what I think.
- They act phony and insincere around me -- like they pretend to care but obviously don't. It's annoying.
I can't stand this anymore!
Your mother would need to report this to the School department of your local town. Every peraon has a boss and this issue needs ro be addressed as it is a form of harassment and bullying.
Another option is while your mother handles this issue, She could consider transferring you to another school. Either way, This behavior needs to be reported.
We've been talking for a while now, and he's probably the only person I've talked to for this long and haven't gotten bored. I mean, when we talk, there is always something new to talk about. And he can actually keep a conversation going. He's nice and he cares and he doesn't push me to, you know, show him anything. We're basically just friends right now, but I feel as if my feelings for him are growing stronger.
We met on Facebook, and he lives across the ocean, which kinda sucks because, you know, I'd actually like to talk to him face to face. I know you aren't supposed to talk to strangers over Facebook or anything, but right away, reading his profile, I knew he wasn't fake. I knew he was real. And all the pictures are of the same face, and he just doesn't seem fake at all.
We kik all the time, whenever both of us aren't busy. The time difference sucks, so its either me staying up late and him getting up really early, or the other way around. I can't help but feel like I'm falling in love with him because he creates all these emotions in me that no other guy has. It's all really confusing.
Basically, what I want to know, if if I should let myself love him. Or is this all a bad idea and I should stop myself now before I get hurt. But the thing is, I don't feel like he's going to end up hurting me in the end. But then again, I could just be a naive girl.
I'm 16, female :)
He is half way across the world, I would personally keep it strictly a friendship. I firmly believe we cannot love someone we never met. You do not know him, You know him off a computer that's it. There is a big difference between engaging in conversation online and in person.
Another issue here is that you are young. This guy seems ideally of someone that has common interests and personality traits that attract you. He is not your future husband.
Be friends, Keep it mutual. Better off meeting someone who is in person
I dated a guy a few months ago..we were not in an exclusive relationship, but really connected and jumped into things very quickly. We drifted, because he was overwhelmed at the time and I think someone else was in the picture. I am moving across the country in a month, so I contacted him earlier last month saying how I felt and that it would be good to see him again before I leave. He wrote back in a very mature and thoughtful way, and asked to see me. We did, it was friendly and we just caught up on each other's lives. When it was time to go, he said he was glad we met up, then we hugged and he kissed me on the cheek. He also said to call him if I want to hang out again. I turned right back around and kissed him on the cheek ad hugged him again. It seemed a bit too much, because the I had to exit the subway train and he then said "you have to go." So fast forward to today, two days later. I texted him saying it was so good seeing him and catching up, and hope he had a fun weekend. It all felt right but I feel like I should have waited... I mean, does this all sound needy? I did turn around and hug/kiss him again before leaving, and now I text only a couple days later. Any thoughts? I mean, this all should be platonic, but I think he knows my interest and that given our prior history, this might be a bit much for him.
You are moving and my honest opinion is it's completely pointless to light an old flame if it isnt going to work out in the first place. Kissing and hugging him is misleading, It doesn't matter what your history was. The fact that you are moving away, You shouldn't be sending him mixed signals and possibly get his hopes up if your not going to be sticking around.
i like this guy but i am in a relationship with a cute and sweet boy. what do i do????????????
What do you think you should do?
If your boyfriend is nice too you and you are happy in the relationship then you do nothing. Good relationships are hard to come across nowadays and once you are in one you shouldn't let it go.
This other crush, You are have no relationship with, No bond. He is just someone you find attractive and that's okay. But to act on it while your in a relationship with someone isn't right. How would you feel if your boyfriend was crushing on another girl? If you both are happy then why are you second guessing? Focus on what you have in life, Not what you don't.
15/f
i have mild acne
i weigh 169 and im 5'5.5 (yes i aware im over weight im taking care of it, with diet and mild exercise)
i have a normal to heavy flow :/ and THE WORST cramps.
i also was to have sex one day, not necessarily today or even this year but id like to be prepared.
so what id like to know is would i gain weight? will it help my face? and my time of the month... any advise for the ... "pap test" im really freaked out about that...
and anything else you can tell me that will help. thank you so very much for all your help
Having sexual intercourse has no affect on weight or acne.
If you want to help the weight avoid saturated fats, Added sugars and processed food. Focus more on fruits, veggies and protein.
As far as acne, Avoid greasy foods, Makeups. Make sure you try to wash your face with warm water everyday.
This should help.
For cramp pain try Midol, This can be found at Walmart.
Pap test really aren't much to worry about. I was scared too but it is no more then 5 minutes in and out and it is only slightly uncomfortable. No big deal at all
i have a bff who's 11, I'm 13. I've known her for ages, but recently I've noticed that she's become sort of obsessed with me. for example, my other friend introduced me to her new friends, so we became quite close, but my bff tried to brake our friendships by back-chatting and stuff. also, if a boy asks me out, and i tell her about it, she goes weirdly jealous and upset, as if she wants me to herself. loads of those kinds of things keep happening, which i hate. Also, she takes everything much too seriously. Like recently she asked if i could sleep over at her house, so i said maybe, but then i said i couldn't because i hate loads of homework, then for the rest of the day she was obsessing over whether i could go to her street party the next day. when i said i couldn't, she got really angry and tried to make me jealous by saying she was going to invite some other girl...I think I'm starting to not like her...What should i do?!! Thanks, and please don't say any negative things!!
Your friend is young, Likely she views you as an older sister or a role model.
Have you tried talking to her nicely and explaining to her that you need a little space? Maybe tell her you love spending time with her but you are falling behind in school and need to try to spend more time catching up? She may get offended yes, This is why it is important to explain it too her. Let her know as soon as you are ready you will catch up with her. Perhaps make plans to see her a few days. Example ( If it is a Monday, Make plans to hang out on a Thursday) This will allow you to take a little break. Sometimes when two people hang out a lot they get used to having one another around. You're friend just doesn't understand, Talk to her nicely.
i need advice! im currently 5 months pregnant and i havnt felt like myself since i got pregnant. im always moody always mad or sad. i take my anger out on my baby daddy i love him but he thinks i dont.. how do i get him to understand that its not really how i am? he feels like leaving me sometimes and i understand him but i dont want to lose him and i try really hard not to be so mean when im upset what can i do to change?? help please
You're pregnant
You need to realize while you are pregnant your hormones are going through the roof. There will be moments where you will feel on edge but while you are stressing, The babies father ia also going theough his own changes and adjustment . Relax! Take some time to yourself and if it helps get your feelings out then keep a journal. Write in this journal, vent, swear but this ia the healthy way. Also, I recommend trying meditation as it helps reduce stress, Decaf tea as well. The fact that you have asked for help tells me that you are aware. Now you need to try to be more aware of when you feel angry. Walk away, Write in a journal. Try to understand that this is a normal paet of pregnancy and try better communication skills with the father.