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OK so I am 19 and my best friend's birthday is on sunday. we have been friends for like 11 years so we really dont get each other much anymore but kast year we had a fight and it was kinda my fault so i wanna get her something but i dont have a lot of money right now seeing as ima college student well one thing i know i wanna do for her is make her a CD of like best friend songs and like feel good movie songs.... you know like in movies when its a best friends scene and they play oike the perfect song... songs like that. all i can think of is girls just wanna have fun lol. any suggestions? i really need some help with this one.

La La Lie- Jack's Mannequin
Brat Pack- The Rocket Summer
Wannabe- Spice Girls (hahaha)

Movies:
The Breakfast Club- The part where they're all dancing to the music in the library.
Harold and Kumar Go To White Castle- When Harold and Kumar are running from the cops in the college.
The Blues Brothers- Really any scene would work.

You could also try putting pictures or videos of you two together in it. My friend made a video like this for my birthday and I loved it.

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I need advice on how I should do my hair and makeup for the school dance tonight. My hair looks exactly like this...
http://www1.istockphoto.com/file_thumbview_approve/892265/2/istockphoto_892265_girl_with_short_blonde_hair.jpg
But a little bit darker. I do not know why I can do with it! Also, I have a wide nose, so for the dance is there any way to make it look smaller?

Thanks.

For your hair try something new. Since it seems you generally angle your hair our, straighten it and angle it in. Also, add some fun clips to your bangs!

As for your nose, try contouring. Be warned- this is slightly hard, and could end up looking bad. If this happens just wash the make-up off and accept the nose God gave you.

Anyway, what you do is apply a shade of foundation slightly darker than your skin tone to the sides of your nose. This makes it appear smaller.

http://youtube.com/watch?v=5Scq9vRzGc8
This video gives you directions on how to contour.

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14/f
So i really like this kid and my friend does to. He is new to this school so there is a lot I dont know about him but from what i do know he is really funny and sweet. Not to be concieted, i am one of the more pretty popular girls in my school because im nice not because im intimidating or manipulative. So my friend is in lower math with him and I am in higher math and the way things work out is that she is in 2 other classes with him and without me to give him more attention than i could. No offense to her but she isnt one of the more attractive girls and i just really need a way to get him to notice me. BADLY i have been single for way to long because my recent crush isnt allowed to have a girlfriend because of his parents but he is bring a jerk lately.
Thanks!

Neither of you should go out with this boy. Honestly, it will destroy your friendship. You need to sit down with your friend and talk about this. You should really make an agreement that NEITHER of you can go out with him. Truthfully, neither of your relationships with this boy would really last long. Most don't at 14.

If your friend finds another boy she likes, then it would be ok to go for this one. If this happens try to eat lunch with him or strike up a conversation in the halls. However, until your friend is over him, he should be off limits to you.

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15/f

so right now. im dating this boy matt, and hes a football player and hes like a quarterback and hes really popular, and hot and what every girl wants.


however. i dont. i mean i like him, but i kinda got a crush on this emoish boy, name max. hes soo cute. and he seems so nice.

i guess im just sick of dating jocks, who just want to show me off in the halls like im some prize or something. like my boyfriend doesnt even like listen to what i say sometimes. its so annoying.

what should i do

We cannot tell you what to do. This is your decision.

However, I will say, if you're in a bad relationship, get out. There's no sense in being stuck with someone you're unhappy with.

If you like this boy Max better, then dump Matt and start talking to Max.

And don't worry- you don't have to follow the popular trend of dating a football player. A kid who is a bit different would be just as nice and maybe even nicer.

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What if somebody has herpes and goes down on you?
Gives you a blow job or...do you a favour...

Is it dangerous you can catch it in your genitals from his/her mouth?

It depends where the infected site is.

If it's in their mouth, then, yes, you can catch herpes.

If it's in their genitals then, no, oral won't give you herpes.

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ok so today me and my boyfriend had sex and we didnt have proctection but we cant get it because none of our friends know and we arent going to go and buy them ourselves so he just takes it out before he feels like he is going to finnish, well today he said he didnt feel it until 10 seconds before he finnished and he pulled out and about 8 second after he finnished. i freaked out of course but he said he could feel when he pre cums so i dont know if i should believe him or what. ALso, what are the first signs of being pregnant ?

Sorry I didn't answer this yesterday. I was quite busy with school!

http://www.babycenter.com/0_pregnancy-symptoms-top-ten-signs-you-might-be-pregnant_1146468.bc

This is a list of pregnancy symptoms. Read over them. There may be no symptoms of your pregnancy except for a missed period. So if you do miss a period, be sure to take a pregnancy test.

Moving on: guys cannot feel it when they precum. That means he most likely did precum in you. They may say they can feel it, but they really can't, at least not all the time. That's why condoms are so important.

I don't care if you're embarrassed to go buy one. I don't care if it feels better without one. YOU NEED A CONDOM EVERYTIME. If you can't get a condom, then you can't have sex. Simple as that. I can't stress to you enough the importance of a condom. You must have one. Next time, use one.

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is it posibly to like a guy but dont want to like him but cant get over him???

Yes, it is possible. It's happened to me before and many people I know. You will get over him eventually. You'll move on, it's probably just a simple crush.

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so my friend is really worried that shes fat and shes not. but she doesnt want to throw up everything she eats but she is trying to. but i know that if she knows what to do then she will not want to do it? how do you?

We cannot give advice on how to be bullemic because it is very harmful. Even if you just want to convince her not to do it. The user who did explain how it's done is risking a ban on their account. You should really delete this question.

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If someone fingers you are you still a virgin?

It really depends on who you ask. Some say yes, some say no.

Really, it's whatever you think. No one can define YOUR virginity for you. If you think yhou're still a virgin, then yes you are. If you think not, then no you are not.

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confidence but not cockyness, is a good way to get a guy to notice you, to do well in life and etc. am i right?

Yes, it is. If you believe in your self, others will too. People wil notice if you walk with your head held high, so do it! There's no down side to being confident.

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of one of my best friends is thinking about commiting suicide i love her so much as a sister and i never want her to do anything like that can you please give me advice on how to stop her i dont want to put her therough counseling it will only make it worse

Tell her parents. Right now. Yes, she's going to mad at you. But would you rather have her mad or dead?

Once a parents do know, there are some websites you can go to:
http://twloha.com/index.php
This is a suicide provention organization.

http://twloha.com/find_help.php
This contains links to websites on which she can find people who will help.

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Help im a loser! ok you see im a sophmore and i want to become popular, but im very shy so it makes it hard for me to make friends. last year we moved to this small town and during that summer i hung out with this popular chic, who i didnt know was popular at the time, but she had to get a surgery so she missed the first few weeks of skool. on the first day i was soooo nervous about who to sit with that i just sat down with the first person i reconized from church. her and her friends welcomed me with open arms, eventually they became my friends too but they were losers... and i mean the kind that even the regular losers pick on!when my popular friend from the summer came to skool and saw that i hung out with them she ditched me,later on in the year this girl alice started talkin to me adn we soon became friends she introduced me to her friends so i decided to desert my other friends to join alice's group of friends.they were all band nerds so it was a step up from the ppl i used to hang out with. i talked to alice and her friends at lunch, in class, after skool, and i had a blast. but i didnt know any one else besdes alice and her friends, i was spending every moment of my time with them and no one else.well i did talk to this one popular chic for a time cauze none of my other friends were in that class we became friends too but only in that class period cauze she said she wouldnt hang with me in public cauze i hung out with the band nerds. she was the one popular chic who hung out with me even when i was hangin with the band nerds. but this year she moved to another skool so now i have no popular friends what so ever, so im completly alone well except for alice and her frineds. i hardly know any one else in school well except for a couple of geeky guys i play cards with sometimes. it's only been the first week of skool so i still have time to get more friends before ne one remembers who i used to hang out with. is there ne way i can get noticed and befriended by the popular people and become popular my self?

Why do you need to be popular?

There are two types of popular people:
1) The kind who got to be popular by being nice to everyone.
20 The kind that no one really likes because they're bitches and popular by force.

To be quite honest, you sound like the second one. This kind no one really likes. Ditching your friends because they're not "popular" enough for you? That's not really something you want to do. People will most likely talk about you behind your back.

So keep your friends. Make new ones on top of those. Be nice to every you meet and friendly. That way you'll be popular in a good way. Ditching your friends is a good way to make many people not think highly of you, therefore, don't do it

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I'm really confused as to why all of these teenagers on here keep saying that they like this guy, but they want to get to know him. I don't understand how you can like a guy that you don't know. Maybe I'm just not shallow, but I'm 14 and that's the age that most people who post those questions are and I've never liked someone without knowing them first. I mean aren't you suppose to get to know someone and then decide you like them. Every hot guy that you see isn't someone you like, right? I mean I only like guys that I know and I like them based on their personality. Sure, I think guys are hot, but I don't like them. I don't even know them. lol I guess what I'm asking is if I'm weird or what?

No, you're not weird.

You just happen to possess something not many people on advicenators have: a brain.

You can't truly like someone before you know them. You can like someone and get to know them BETTER, but if you see a random hot guy walking down the street, that's really just lust.

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Can a virgin become pregnant? i am virgin ( still have the hymen intact) but have had done a bit of foreplay with my boyfriend which includes slight insertion ( placing "it" on the lips). My question is can i get pregnant even though i am still a virgin.

Yes. If the penis is anywhere near the vagina, theres a chance of being pregnant.

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i heard people say that you can't wear white after labor day or is it veterans day
-which holiday is it, labor day or veteran's day
-why can't you wear white after
-what happens if you wear white

It's Labor Day. Don't worry, you can still wear white! People say that because they feel white is more of a spring/summer color, and Labor Day is the unoffical end of summer.

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I was wondering what you could do or use to hide your tampons in school, like how to discreetly take them from class to class just in case. Because I live in fear of what will happen if I don't... :S

Any ideas?

Put them in your purse and take the purse to the bathroom with you.

A lot of guys think if a girl brings her purse to the bathroom, it automatically means she has her period. Therefore, you should start bringing your purse to the bathroom with you everytime so it seems like you're just re-applying make up.

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My cat does not like to go in his litter box... so he ends up going in the sinks. It is gross.

How can I train him?

Put the liter box in the sink.

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okay
so there's this guy and i don't know who he is or any thing
but everytime there's a program i see him
he's always looking at me and smilling and following me kinda
i know he's intrested but he won't come and talk...how can i get him to come over and talk with out me doing it first??
and if i have to do it first i don't wanna say anything like "i saw you noticing me"

Smile and make eye contact. Look friendly. This will show him you are easy to approach.

If he still doesn't approach you, you go and approach him. Start with a simple "hello" and ask him his name. Ask him open ended questions to get him talking. Be the one to end the conversation too. It'll keep him wanting more ;].

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ok so im new to the whole concert thing.
i have recently become obsessed with the jonas brothers and im going to their concert.

so i was wondering how do people get to like meet them and get autographs and things?

and how early should i get there?

thanks. =]

The Jonas Brothers are getting bigger and bigger. Which means they can't do many as many meet and greats.

At the concert I went to of there's there was no meet and great. They left immediately afterwards. And people chased the bus.

However, if you would still like to try, get there a couple of hours early. Two- four hours. And stay until you know for sure their tour bus has left.

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how would you know if a guy likes you??

1. Keep an eye on how many times you catch her/him staring at you.

2. Take notice of whether s/he smiles at you a lot.

3. Look for whether s/he focuses on you in a crowd.

4. Observe if s/he has suddenly taken more interest in your friends.

5. Pay attention to any significan't changes in her/his behavior toward you recently.

6. Start showing her/him a bit more interest and see how they respond.

7. Have a friend talk to her/him or one of her/his friends about you.

For more ways, including these, visit:
http://wiki.answers.com/Q/How_do_you_tell_if_a_guy_likes_you

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