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Like, but not know?
I'm really confused as to why all of these teenagers on here keep saying that they like this guy, but they want to get to know him. I don't understand how you can like a guy that you don't know. Maybe I'm just not shallow, but I'm 14 and that's the age that most people who post those questions are and I've never liked someone without knowing them first. I mean aren't you suppose to get to know someone and then decide you like them. Every hot guy that you see isn't someone you like, right? I mean I only like guys that I know and I like them based on their personality. Sure, I think guys are hot, but I don't like them. I don't even know them. lol I guess what I'm asking is if I'm weird or what?
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Finally, someone with a brain.
It's not wierd at all. I respect that.
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Yeah, you are weird. But in a good way. :)
Weird, basically means different. Sadly, it's pretty normal for teens to believe that they like people without even knowing them. Most teenagers don't have fully developed minds yet. You're a little ahead of the pack in that department. Teenagers tend to live in a type of fantasy world where they are the center of it and lust and love are the same thing. Things like love or liking people are very complex. Most teens don't have the mental capacity yet to understand their feelings and make the right choices in accordance to those feelings, but they, of course, think they do, more than anybody else and that their feelings are completely new and unique to them, when everybody's felt the exact same thing sometime before. You, on the other hand, are a little more mentally mature than your peers. This is a great thing, but could cause a few problems for you. These problems revolving around the fact that you are severely more mature than any guy that you might decide to date. Guys are less mature as it is, then add the fact that you're extra mature, and it might be kind of difficult. It might not be a problem, but keep all this in mind when you do enter into a relationship. You may have to cut your significant other some slack for just not being as smart as you about feelings and relationships (for lack of a better way to put it). Whatever you do, don't date guys that are way older than you to try to balance it out. It's better to be mentally superior than physically and socially inferior if you catch my drift. Anyway, try not to worry about other people. There will always be stupid people out there. Don't judge yourself by their actions and keep doing what you're doing. You're right! :)
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..NOO I AGREE!!!!...im exctly the same all my freinds cum up2 n r lyk i like diz boy..n im like do you even know dem..n dere no..how can you?..i mean you mite fink a guy is buff...but his personailty mite b wack!..u gotta ave an even scale of da two...n i gotta sey your the first 14 yyear old..who feels diz way...btw id like to know if i helped or even if i didnt...thanks xx
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I understand what you're saying. I think that like in settings outside of school where people meet a lot of random people, or just see a lot of random people, people would be attracted, not necessarily "like", a good-looking person at first. I mean, with strangers, you see the person first and if you like what you see, you would probably want to get to know them better. I'm not quite sure how to put it. Then they want to see what their personality is like. Yeah, people are sort of shallow like that. In school there's actually room to get to make friends with all sorts of people, be they good-looking or not, but like in public areas where you don't really know anyone, you might want to talk to that hottie by the door or whatever.
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no i COMPLETELY agree. theres tons of girls on here that are like i like this guy but he doesnt even know i exist.. that doesnt make any sense to me. how can you like someone without knowing their personality and how they act towards you? i like guys that like flirt w/ me and have cute personalities and stuff. i mean they have to be like somewhat hot but like if they have NO PERSONALITY WHATSOEVER then theres no way i can like them. sure, i think some guys ive never met are really hot.. but i dont like them like that. that just doesnt make any sense to me.
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okay no your not weird. hahah but like i always thought the same thing as you like when ppl say i like him but i dont no him. like ive liked guys but i havent really talked to them that much but like i no there personalitys bc ive been around them, or have friends that are friends with them and just stuff like that..
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well your not weird cause your right, i mean girls on here who right that is just idont know really you kind of have to know the guy first before liking them in any way. it doesn't always depends on "looks" or maybe it does but sometimes it doesn't. mostly it depends on personalty as you says.
so i say your not weird you would have to know a guy first and hangout with him for a while
but if your a shy kind and want to get notice try not to be shy anymore and go up to that person and hangout with him and than like see how it goes it's not all because oh my god he's so hott i like him i want to get him to notice me how? well it doesn't nesecerly go like that it only goes like that if your desperate enough. if you see a hott guy and you like him all of the sudden and you dont know him i say that you just go up to him and talk to him and get to know him before you like him. because sometimes when guys are hott they could be assholes and you might not like them anymore and you wasited your time on them just because there hott.
so what im saying is your not weird because you are absultly right i say that you just go meet a guy hangout talk get to know as long as you know him not just because of his hottness maybe his cuteness LoL you get me
sorry for the long writing
hope i helped <3
it would be so nice to know what you thijnk
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aw :)
yeah, no.
you're deffinetly not weird.
i think that all these girls asking these questions just care about looks.
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No, you're not weird.
You just happen to possess something not many people on advicenators have: a brain.
You can't truly like someone before you know them. You can like someone and get to know them BETTER, but if you see a random hot guy walking down the street, that's really just lust.
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your not wierd, your just mature. you can tell the difference between a physical attraction and a mental one. its a good thing!
-mari :D
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