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unpolular!
Help im a loser! ok you see im a sophmore and i want to become popular, but im very shy so it makes it hard for me to make friends. last year we moved to this small town and during that summer i hung out with this popular chic, who i didnt know was popular at the time, but she had to get a surgery so she missed the first few weeks of skool. on the first day i was soooo nervous about who to sit with that i just sat down with the first person i reconized from church. her and her friends welcomed me with open arms, eventually they became my friends too but they were losers... and i mean the kind that even the regular losers pick on!when my popular friend from the summer came to skool and saw that i hung out with them she ditched me,later on in the year this girl alice started talkin to me adn we soon became friends she introduced me to her friends so i decided to desert my other friends to join alice's group of friends.they were all band nerds so it was a step up from the ppl i used to hang out with. i talked to alice and her friends at lunch, in class, after skool, and i had a blast. but i didnt know any one else besdes alice and her friends, i was spending every moment of my time with them and no one else.well i did talk to this one popular chic for a time cauze none of my other friends were in that class we became friends too but only in that class period cauze she said she wouldnt hang with me in public cauze i hung out with the band nerds. she was the one popular chic who hung out with me even when i was hangin with the band nerds. but this year she moved to another skool so now i have no popular friends what so ever, so im completly alone well except for alice and her frineds. i hardly know any one else in school well except for a couple of geeky guys i play cards with sometimes. it's only been the first week of skool so i still have time to get more friends before ne one remembers who i used to hang out with. is there ne way i can get noticed and befriended by the popular people and become popular my self?
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Why do you need to be popular?
There are two types of popular people:
1) The kind who got to be popular by being nice to everyone.
20 The kind that no one really likes because they're bitches and popular by force.
To be quite honest, you sound like the second one. This kind no one really likes. Ditching your friends because they're not "popular" enough for you? That's not really something you want to do. People will most likely talk about you behind your back.
So keep your friends. Make new ones on top of those. Be nice to every you meet and friendly. That way you'll be popular in a good way. Ditching your friends is a good way to make many people not think highly of you, therefore, don't do it
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The popular kids are usually byatches so, don't try to hard to be friends with them..
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Do you have any idea whatsoever how ridiculous and immature you sound right now?
You should not want to make friends for the sake of being considered "popular." It sounds to me like you want to be part of the so-called "in" crowd just so people will think you're cool. I guarantee you right now that the friends in that "popular" crowd of which you speak will be nothing but back-stabbing and mean. Look at how that first girl you met ditched you for such a stupid reason? What about the girl that refuses to hang out with you because you were seen with band nerds? You think THEY are good friends?
Right about now, it sounds to me like you would fit in perfectly with that crowd seeing as you ditched perfectly nice people who accepted you into their group because you were alone and did not know anyone. Who do you think you are? You might think someone is a nerd because they are in band, but at least they are doing something better with their time than judging people they don't even know. You have no right to call someone a geek ESPECIALLY after they were so nice to you.
You need friends that are going to be there for you, give you good advice, and share laughs with you. Those are the qualities you should be looking for when you are trying to meet new people.
Grow up.
In the real world, no one gives a crap if you are "popular." It's time to be mature and accept people for who they are and not what "crowd" they are in.
If you are kind to everyone, smile at people, and stop making judgments, you will make a TON of great friends that will last you all through high school. That should be what matters. If you don't, everyone will end up hating you in the end.
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im not trying to be mean but, are you "not popular"? cause if thats the case, then your better off with your friends right now..
matter of fact, its not really nice how you're ditching your friends. you should love them no matter what. and just because someone "better" comes along doesn't mean you should leave the old friends.
and to answer your question,
if you wanna become "popular" be super outgoing, be pretty, be funny, meet a LOT of people, and follow the trend and copy everyone else :DD
just kidding about the last part ;]
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CONFIDENCE IS KEY!! You have to be who you are first and formost. Although popular in that way may seem glamourous, its not all its cracked up to be, trust me ive been the popular snob. You spend most of you days putting people down which may make your status go up but people depise you for it and the individuals in that group will surely spread rumors behind your back, they are not friends, merely fake. I gave that up and became the popular person by just being friendly and being who i am. To become more noticed what i did was join certain groups of interests, crack a joke every now and then to the person sitting next to me. Trust me its so much better than being a popular snob anyday, start a new trend, befriend people of different groups, break cliques and create lasting friendships. ALL BY BEING WHO YOU ARE, honestly if you believe you can do it you truley can.
GOOD LUCK
STAY POSITIVE
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i know this is not what you want to hear. but i used to be popular and then me and my old group of friends had a falling out. now were like fake friends kind of if that makes sence. and now i made friends with just a group that is just like a few really nice people, not nerdy not popular and its so much better! and i know its pressured to be popular but really, i always thought that and now im SO much happier with real people as friends, not the ones who will ditch ou if you wear the wrong jeans one day, they arent worth it. so maybe try to get out of the band geek circle and find someone in the middle, if that makes sence.
-mari :D
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