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I'm a 13 year old girl and I just moved from Pennsylvania to New Jersey. I had to switch schools obviously big I hate my new school. I don't fit in, I have no friends because no one wants to talk to the weird new girl, and it's just not my home. I've gone here for a few days and everyday after school I do my homework, eat dinner, and cry myself to sleep. It's an endless cycle. I'm really depressed and I just can't do it anymore. To top it all off, my family moves every two years usually so it's not really worth making friends, but I want to go back to Pennsylvania because we ended up staying there for 4 yrs and I made some amazing friends. We can't go back because the reason we came up here is my dad's job. What do I do????? I'm so depressed!!!!
Do either of your parents know how you feel? How hard it is to make friends within two yrs only to lose them again. They need to know how this is affecting you emotionally. It is important especially in ones teen years to have some continuity with building friendships and venturing slowly out into the adult world.
It sounds like your Dad has had trouble finding good stable work. Its odd that on the average it seems to happen about every 2 years. Perhaps if they know how badly it was affecting you, then Dad would try harder to find other work to remain in one area. If he did that and it still didn\'t work out, and moving for work is the only solution, then there\'s nothing that can be done to change your situation if you live with your parents. All I can think of is if the parents and relatives were willing, is to have you go live with an aunt or uncle or grandparent who is stable as far as living area and they dont move around and dad sends them money to go towards your care so you can remain in one school for middle or high school. Moving too often can be disruptive to learning in school for you. Have a talk with them. Let them know you are depressed not just sad and missing friends. Doing a move and losing friends once as a child is hard enough, but repeatedly is more than any kid can take. They really should know how severely it is affecting you because some kids who are depressed may attempt to end their life. If there is even the slightest likelihood that come become an issue, or failing to pass a grade in school or some such serious issue, they\'d want to know, whether they feel they can do something to fix the situation or not. Hope it all works out.
I'm 23 years old and since I got my period in 6th grade it has always been regularly really irregular. Very rarely was I a 28 day cycle girl, mine would range from 31, 32, 35 back in HS. In college my first 3.5 years I went on BC and that was the only time I had a predictable period.
I went off the second semester of my last year of college because the hormones were just getting to me. I had been on 3 types of BC. For the first year and a half I was on ortho cyclen and that worked well until it was making me really short tempered and extremely depressed, switched off to Yaz and it made me gain some extra weight & changed my personality. I went onto using the generic of Yaz and the pharmacy kept changing the generic brands and my body was super sensitive to the change, I would get headaches from one of the generics and severe anxiety for the other. So basically each month, my body after adjusting to one generic version of pills would have to readjust to another because the pharmacy could not gauruntee me the same generic.
My body had finally just had enough stress and so had I. I hated adjusting to BC pills because it made me feel like I was slowly becoming someone else everytime I took it. I took bc mainly for birth control and for a predictable period. My choices going off were for the benefit of my body being hormone free and helping me feel more clear, more "me".
I knew going off my body would have to adjust to a normal cycle and I anticipated missing periods or even being more irregular than I had been off of BC in the first place. It's been over a year and a half now since I've been off the pill and it has not regulated itself.
Ive talked to my gyno and she pushes BC soley because she doesnt want me to get pregnant. I'm an adult, I'm engaged and in a serious relationship.
So basically my period today is at 39 days since my last period. I took a test and it was negative. I've felt like I was going to get my period like a week and a half ago. I always get pms symptoms 1-2 weeks early and my periods have been ranging from 29-36 days. The longest it's ever been between periods is 56 days. It's just really frustrating and I'm wondering why sometimes it's so outrageously late! I did have a really bad case of the flu the last week of march? Which happened a few weeks after my last period.
I'm just wondering if anyone else's takes a natural approach to their life and also has gone off the BC train for health reasons?
What they do about irregular periods/cycles?
Wow, thats highly unusual to still have irregular periods at your age.
Its very common for teens. It can take several years after puberty for the body to know what to do with the hormones now coursing through the body and to become regular.Usually though, at the latest, by 17, 18 a female will be normal. After that, its time to be tested by a doctor. Not all doctors are perfect and can make mistakes.Your Dr tried the most common solution known in the medical community and may not have been trained how to research what is actually causing your fluctuations, but did the common band-aid solution. Since it isn\'t working for you, you may need to see another Dr. who isn\'t going to push BC at you again but actually run some tests to find out what is wrong. Has anyone ever checked your hormone levels? If they were too low or too high and that is the problem, then there must be something else they can give you to regulate them, other than birth control. If you want to know what things that are natural you can take to become regular, you I have no ins. or job currently. glion cyst from what I could tell on line and from a friend whose had it before. If I have to, g to experience draining a cyst with a needle. Most like might just want to go see a Naturopath. They have all the same training as regular MD\'s plus more studying Natural health science as well. If anyone could steer you the right way a Naturopath could.
Now if you don\'t want to get pregnant for a while and wish to be on some birth control, there is one that is not hormone based, it is the copper IUD. called Paragard. You can read up about it on line and decide if thats something you want for birth control. It won\'t however regulate your period cycle. So you\'d still need to have someone do some more research and deeper testing to see if there is another medical issue that is causing this. Good luck dear.
Im a 15 year old girl. I've noticed that I have this hard slightly darker than my skin lump under my skin in my inner upper thigh area. It doesn't really hurt unless I squeeze it. Whitish pus and fluid tend to come out when I do. I want to tell my parents but idk how to. It's embarrassing and I'm nervous about telling them I don't know how they'll react. I did my own research and yes I know the dangers of self diagnosis. Webmd says its a cysts. I know I should go to a doctor about this issue but I still haven't gotten around to telling my parents. How do I tell them? What do I do?
You might be correct but it is always best to get a professional to look at it if the parents have insurance or at least a job where they can pay for a visit to a walk in clinic. If they can\'t afford it, they still would want to know so they can look for alternative sources to help deal with it. There should be a free clinic available for those without ins. or low income.
You did say upper inner thigh which I translate as being the leg. There is nothing to be embarrassed about having one on your leg. This is the same part of body exposed for all to see when wearing a swimsuit. So the only other thought that occurred to me is that you meant another area but were too embarrassed to even type it for us. If your cyst-like thing is in the area that is covered by your panties, then I can see why you are embarrassed. If this is correct, theres nothing you could have done to cause it, not even if you had sex. Sex doesnt cause a cyst. But theres alway a slight chance it could be something else that might be a bit more serious.So you have no reason to be nervous about telling mom. Let her know so she can get a professional to look at it. It can be embarrassing to have a Dr see you private area or near it but you can insist on having a female Dr. Mom doesnt have to be in the exam room and you have a right. Good luck dear.
Where can I find maternity clothing that doesn't cost a fortune? Has anyone else noticed that the same shirt plus just a touch of extra fabric is about double the price when you are pregnant?
My husband says we should just body paint my pregnant belly when I get big enough. ;)
When I was pregnant, I noticed a few women who wore regular tops or sweater and dresses in larger sizes to fit the belly so I did the same. I bought a pretty festive sweater to wear for Christmas events at the time I was 7 mos. The only thing I had to still wear that was strictly maternity was the pants. You might be able to get away with sweat pants. Mainly, I perused the 2nd hand stores and tried things on to see how they fit, even if they\'d only work for 2 months before I needed something larger. A big problem is getting bored with your small maternity wardrobe and feeling like you\'re going crazy having to wear one top half the days of the month.
You can also try asking for donations of maternity clothes. there will always be a female who is done having children and happy to give th clothes away. If you\'re working still, ask around at work or put a notice on the company bulletin board. Or if involved in church, ask around church. Check on line if there is an online venue in your area called \"Free cycle\" where instead of donating to 2nd hand stores, people will post what they are looking for or what they are offering...all for free, its not a charge site. Hope this helps.
If the husband or a sister is artistic, you might just do a paint the belly thing for the fun of it for photos to look back at and get a laugh. My favorite is moms who had the belly painted to look like a jack o lantern and told the kid when they were older that that was their very first Halloween costume. Haha.
This summer my ex came around to help with hay bailing and we started this no strings attached. And I honestly thought that was what he wanted. Then for Fourth of July I had plans to meet another guy there but my parents invited my ex along and he knew I was suppose to go with the other guy. Well I blew the other guy off for him and told him I had to go see my friend Brooke who had probs with her mom. Which she did and my ex drove me there then everything was fine and then we left to go home and that's when I knew something was wrong with him. Then he finally stopped the car and told me finally that he didnt want to see with me with another guy tht he didn't want to lose me to him even though I was just using him. I was in complete shock I had no idea he felt that that way and most of all that he would admit to any of that. When we got back we talked all night and he ended up staying. Then the next day he said he was going to ask my dad if he could ask me out. Well he did and I told the other guy about it so we didnt have any probs. then I ask him when he is going to ask me out and then he said not til after the fair that way if he hooked up with another girl it wouldn't be cheating. Well that pissed me off well fair came and he was looking for me and I tried to find him but it wasn't til late and a friend of mine told him I was hanging with another guy but I wasn't so after we finally find each other and we hang out for a while we go to talk to this group of people he goes off with one guy and two other girls and I'm just standing there. Then a guy ik comes up and we start talking then ex sees me and comes over and puts his arm around me.
After the fair he ignores me won't even reply. Then I move on my birthday comes up 2 months later and I get asked out and the same friend that told him that I was hanging with another guy invites him and pts on this whole thing to make him stay and I didn't even want to be near him. Finally he leaves after my friends get me away from him and I brake down he sees me upset and leaves. The look on his face and the way is arm just dropped told me it hurt him more than it hurt me. A week later after constantly fighting about the whole thing. He calls me and I can hear him holding back but he tells me he was sorry about everything and then tells me all the ways he messed up and finally says stay with the other guy.
I broke up with the other guy and I went to a party where I danced with another guy a lot and hanged out with him cause my friend was off doing something else. He showed up and saw me with him and I noticed him drink more and more as he looked each time. Then a week later I went to a barnwarming with a friend of mine and again he was there didn't expect him to talk to me and I went to try find her back and he grabs me and pulls me into dance. Two weeks later he calls and ask to meet me at the barn on my farm. Where we talk and kissed. The next night he calls and ask me to come hang with his friends. I land in the ditch trying to find the place he drives me home and he couldn't have been more protective that night. His friends joked about how worried he got when I called him and he asked if I was okay more then I could remember and stayed with me cause I had hit my head pretty hard. Then we talked and hanged out for another week til he broke it off again.
I always blamed him for the way things ended up but I don't know if it where my fault or if I should have done something different.
Doesn\'t sound to me like you\'re doing anything wrong. He is giving mixed signals, like He\'s happy just being friends but when he sees another guy near you or even hears theres a guy who might be interested in you, he all of a sudden acts as if you and he are in a committed relationship and he\'s afraid of losing you. This could go three ways, a fear of losing a girl whether to someone else or accident of whatever...could mean that the person is in love with that girl.
Fear of losing you, could be because of lack of self confidence in being able to find someone else himself.
He could be trying to keep a hold on you and keep you from getting attached to another guy and therefore available for him. This would be to give himself time to get over a fear of commitment. Once, he\'s no longer afraid, if he gets to that point, then he won\'t have to start hunting for a girl cus he\'s made sure to keep you hanging on the side lines.
It could mean he doesn\'t feel strength of
character in himself and he leans on you for his emotional support, generally a needy person who may realise you are not what he likes in a girlfriend and so keeps breaking it off again and again but due to him lacking inner strength, he ends up coming back to you.
Fear of losing you may not be a fear but a controlling, manipulating tactic, just because.
Its up to you whether you keep giving him chances to come back or whether you are determined to leave him in your past and move on. If so, You\'ll have to be strong to not fall for his sad puppy dog eyes and move on to find someone better. Don\'t let feelings of guilt for him keep you stuck on a merry go round with him that is not so merry.
My dog is reactive towards people running. Today I took my dog out to use the bathroom and I saw a kid running down the sidewalks. When my dog saw him she barked and lunged at him and he turned around and barked right back at her. Before he crossed her path I told him to slow down because I know she is reactive towards running and he slowed down but still kept going. Then he turned around and taunted her and he came closer to her. I've had her since she was 10 months and haven't had a bite incident, but if he taunts her again I don't know what will happen. I've taken her to a professional reactive dog class, and there were no results. (I live in an apartment complex)
Yes, you better darn well have your dog on a leash and find a way to control him because its not the children that are the issue, its your dog. How can I say such a cruel thing? You posted the following day \"My Dog snapped its teeth together\" and what you said there was \"Today I was taking my dog out for a walk and this other dog came out of no where from behind us. My dog turned around and lunged at her and did this teeth snapping thing twice.
You have a dog that perceives not just children as threats but other dogs too. what will it be next, adults, or chasing cars cus the car is a threat? A good natured dog will not lung at or be disturbed by anything that approaches it in its world. I have seen stories of dogs with problems like yours does. The class you took may have had some helpful advice that works on most dogs, but what works on one may not work on another, same as teaching styles for kids, one method does not fit all. Don\'t give up. If I were you, I\'d find a way to write in to the Dog Whisperer, Cesar Millan and ask for advice from him.
Signs that my boyfriend wants my best friend
Is your bestfriend a female or a male? Cus that will change my answer accordingly. Many girls write in whose best friend is a male so I cannot just assume you meant female.
You did not fill out your age or whether you are a male or female. You could be the male having a male boyfriend interested in your male best friend. Please clarify.
Could you also clarify if you want a listing of signs to be on the look out for that may suggest a guy is interested in someone else, or if a girl, signs that a girl may be interested in someone else. I can do internet searches for those situations but I don\'t know what your situation is to be able to send the right advice. Thanks
My father is interested in gardening and he wants to make a garden in our home. My mom is not agreeing with him and she never gave him permit ions to grow any plan at home. So I am confused and need some ideas. Who can I manage this situation.
I have no idea what you meant in the very first sentence.
I can take it to mean several things:
Literally that he wanted to plant an entire flower or vegetable garden indoor indoors, finding some way to set up planting beds, lighting system and a watering system. That is rather invasive for a home
You could be talking about him wanting to buy some houseplants, but having houseplants is not considered gardening, in this case it is more the asthetics, more as part of decor or mood setting and houseplants do not cause allergic reactions like hayfever so really, your mom should have no objection to it unless you have pets and the plant in question is dangerous or toxic to pets.
I could think that you meant to say he wants to plant an outdoor veggie or flower garden and mom doesnt like the idea.
You state \"our\" home as if it is your home too and the parents live with you and your daughter, and any possible siblings or a husband.
Or perhaps you meant that this is a house owned by you, not the parents, they just happen to be living with you.
In which case, if it were Your house because you own it and pay the mortgage, then it isn\'t your mothers business to lay down the rules about what happens on your property. She has no right to give her permission to grow or not grow plants if she doesn\'t own the place with him.
Giving permission, what is she, the head of the house? Is he the hen pecked husband? Does she run and regulate his entire life? Did he give control of his own life and decision making away to her? Haven\'t they heard of something called \'compromise\'?
If the place is owned by them and they are married, its half his, half hers. Its only fair that she gets one yard to do what she wants with like just a lawn and no plants and he gets the other one to do as he wishes with. Let her pick first, front yard or backyard. I\'ll bet she\'d take front yard cus she\'ll want it to look the same as it is now for the neighbors sake.
I don\'t see how this is any of your business anyways if you are not the home owner. When living under the parents roof in their home, no matter if you are an adult, their wishes and their rules go and you must abide by them, being their child. Its different for a married couple, they should be making decisions together and compromising if need be. If your Dad had written in and asked for advice and explained more details of what exactly he was wanting that she is refusing, I might have ideas to share..but sorry...theres not enough details and this is confusing to understand.
The only thing I can think of to answer \"how can I manage this situation\", is that if you don\'t like whats going on, go find someone else to live with if you can\'t afford your own place. If thats not possible, sorry but you\'re stuck having to put up with their bickering and fighting over the subject.
Which thing is best as a birthday gift for my daughter (5 years old)?
I see you posted two questions today. The other issue about Dad likeing gardening, mom wont let him. You don\'t say if you are male or female or your age. Your first question needing advice on what to get your five year old daughter floored me.
How did you cope for years 1 through 4? Did you ask for advice then too? If you are truly the mother and this is your child, how it is that you have no clue what your child likes?
I know what my children like. Any observant parent will be able to figure that out. But then perhaps you are a young teen parent living at home with your parents and you don\'t have much parenting skills yet. In this case, your parents should have a better clue what you should get your daughter. Your daughter is a stranger to me, I know nothing about her. Don\'t know if she is drawn more to art than to building things, if she has a favorite color, nothing. I know nothing. So how can you expect me to know what she will appreciate most? You did not ask for ideas on age appropriate gifts for a 5 yr old girl...now that makes sense and then you choose out of those suggestions something you know she would love. Your next question didn\'t make much sense. I will answer that next.
Female
Here is the scoop i have a puppy who is 5 months old
me and my bf live together.
When he was 3months he tried to chew my shoes but i spanked his booty and he hasnt done it since
The thing is Everytime me and my bf go out and we come back there is something chewed up that belongs to my bf but never anything belonging to me
For example
Just last week me and my bf went for a run and we left our shoes lying in the living room night time fell and we awoke to the sound of him biting something and with a doubt it was my bf's sneakers he was chewing on
We had our chargers plugged up to the wall and he chews my bf's charger and yes he knows what sides we sleep on (he always sleeps with me) my question is could a dog have preference ? Or does he feel im more of a master? Or why doesnt he chew on anything that is mine.
Things that might help
The dog is 90% of the time with me because my bf works 12hr shifts
He gets along with my bf fine (except when he destroys his stuff)
He does have chew toys and dog bones and denta stix
If me and my bf both get up at the same time he will choose to follow me instead
Any ideas or thoughts why he does this? Because my bf is starting to hate him :/
Hello there, just today (the 22nd) I answered a post you made dated the 21st, about worry of 5 month old puppy humping. Then I saw the one dated today now about 5 mo. old puppy chewing only the boyfriends stuff. the humping is a more trivial issues while chewing up things if more serious. If so serious I wondered why you didn\'t mention it in the same or a 2nd post of the same day. That got me to feeling curious.
So I am not going to answer your question until you can give me some truthful answers as to what is going on. After you read what i have to say, you may not want an answer to \"Does a dog have a preferance.\"
I did a check on your past history of posting questions, the system will show only so many postings, the most recent ones, not the entire history.
It shows you listed as Female age 20. The oldest post showing was 1 month ago March 20. As I read from that date til todays, I came across some discrepancies. So now I will ask my questions of you.
March 20th post: You state your marital status as Married and the problem being you have a crush on husbands friend.
Five days later on your post of March 25th, you mention you have a boyfriend, so that means you are not married. (First discrepancy)And the issue is boyfriends sister hates you and tries to come between you two.
The very next day March 26th, You say you are 18, 2 years younger than what shows in user profile. If ON the date when you signed up to become a user of Advicenators you were 20, and lets say the system doesnt change your age as the years go by, then in your posts, the age you state you are would be older than 20, not younger than 20. (Second discrepancy) This was a posting about stains on underwear, no mention about relationship, boyfriend or husband.
On April 1st, just 5 days later, you have gone from the age of 18 as seen in post of March 26th, to stating you are 24 yrs old, ageing 7 years in just 6 days. (Third discrepancy) If you continue to age at this rate, in just 6 more weeks, you\'ll be 42 instead of 24. Your issue here, was about you and husband having problem conceiving.
Next post listed was on April 21st, almost 3 weeks later. What happened? No issues came up in those 3 weeks?, or perhaps you forgot to pay the internet bill? I just answered this post today the 22nd. This post was concerns about the 5 mo old puppy humping and you mentioned a boyfriend again. But yet on Apr 1st you were married and trying to conceive with hubby. (Fourth discrepancy) Did the problems conceiving cause you to divorce your husband so that only 20 days later you were single again and had a boyfriend already? Gee you sure move fast! And since you couldn\'t have children, you adopted a dog!
The next post came through April 22nd. Since I had just answered something similar about a 5 month old puppy, it prompted me to research your last few postings.
Wow, I am impressed. What a storyteller you are. Now your issue is the same puppy chewing all of boyfriends stuff, at least the boyfriend didn\'t turn into a husband overnight.
What it looks like to me is that you are using Advicenators for entertainment purposes, trying to come up with realistic sounding situations in which you ask for advice and you have given ratings and made comments, rating differently on what was your favorite answer.
Yes, I can see how it would be fun to make up a crisis and then ask for help to see how others would answer and give advice. And I also owe you a \'thank-you\' for helping me to keep my mind sharp. I realise that thet internet is nothing more than a theatre of illusion. It is too easy for someone lets say on a dating site to pretend to be someone they are not. For all I know, you may not be a female at all but an old retired man bored out of his skull and finding that this not only amuses you but relieves the boredom. Or you could be a shut in too for whom this is their only connection to the world, besides TV. But with TV, you wouldn\'t get to use your mind as you would on here, would you?
Of course, there is no way I can stop you from writing in fake advice postings so you will continue to do so....oh but what a waste of talent, for I can think of a place online, much better suited to stimulate your creativity, requires ability to create story line, create as many characters as you wish, and interact with others you meet in this venue in a way as to draw them in to the illusion you wish to portray.
The venue I am speaking of is called Second Life.
The best way to introduce you to it is posting a link to an advertising video for it.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z3gHCupXSMs
Keep in mind, this is your second world, one of illusion. You could in real life be straight and female, playing and experiencing what its like to be a bi-sexual man, or an animal, robot, a fairy or vampire. the list goes on and on. You get to experience many things in SL that no human can experience in real life. The whole thing is illusion BUT the feelings and emotions are real, thats what makes it so great. I do hope you check it out. I know you could get so much more satisfaction out of it, I have several friends who play it, but do not play myself. I don\'t have that amount of time to put into it.
If you check it out, let me know how you like it.
Im 16. My boyfriend is 17. We've been together on and off for a year and 2 months. His ex girlfriend asked him to prom because shes a senior and needs a date. They dated abt 2 or 3 years ago and he claims they want to be on a friend level. Im not sure how to take them going to prom together. I wanted to be his only prom date. He understands where im coming from but he said hes thinking about going. I don't feel comfortable with it. What should I do??
Since you\'re one year difference in age, I am wondering if at 16, it means you are a junior and not allowed to go to prom? Is that the issue?
As far as I know, if a senior is going to prom, the date they ask can be of any age and not have to attend the same school. Perhaps this school has different rules if you are not allowed to attend.
This would mean he stays home and plans to not attend because you can\'t or goes but doesn\'t take a date. Either way should be fine. If he\'s asked to dance while attending alone, proper etiquette at any age is that if someone asks you to dance, no matter if its a guy asking a girl or girl asking a guy, it is rude to refuse. One should accept and dance just the one dance and then it is okay to refuse any more. I didn\'t know about this rule until I took a class for west coast swing dance at the rec center. The teacher told us about this.
Now its an entirely different story if the school will allow you to attend prom if he asks you, but he hasn\'t asked you. If he is choosing to take an old girlfriend out simply for the reason that she doesnt have a date, that is the stupidest things I\'ve ever heard. From statistics, the majority of girls going to their prom, do not have a male date these days. In fact all 3 daughters had no male date but attended with a group of their girlfriends. The group was 5 or 6 girls, all seniors with no date.
So the Ex girlfriend can do the same, attend without him. She is very inconsiderate of you his current girlfriend, to ask him to take her to prom just because she doesnt have a date. If she didn\'t know he was dating, thats one thing, the ball was in his court then to tell her that he\'s not available to take her because he is dating someone. If she knew about you, then she\'s one of those females who don\'t give a crap about the other girl. Such a person thinks only of their needs and wants first. A need is something like insulin for a diabetic, a want is just a desire, but the person won\'t die if they don\'t get their way.
You need to have a good heart to heart talk with the boyfriend. Let him know you don\'t feel like he\'s treating you as a girlfriend that he is committed to when he\'s considering possibly going to prom with her instead. Tell him that the way you see it, plenty of people go to prom without a date. It is not a need to have a date. A need is insulin for a diabetic, a date for prom is not a need, it is a desire. If she doesn;t get her desire, she won\'t die from it. If he was not dating anyone right now, then of course he\'s a free guy to take her, or is the problem that in his mind he has not made a commitment to you after 14 months?
The problem may lie in the fact you say the two of you are on and off again dating. So the 14 months then doesn\'t count if you keep parting ways for one reason or another and getting back together. One of you may not feel quite the same about the other, feeling the other is not quite the perfect dating partner. If so, whoever has issues with the other, needs to get a commitment to actively work things out if its something that can be changed. If its not something that can be changed, then perhaps the best thing is to part ways for good this time, especially is he doesnt have deep enough feelings for you. If he can easily consider taking the ex to prom, If it were me, I\'d have my doubts that I was important to him at all. He might like me which is fine for a friend, but not love me which is needed for a dating couple who are committed to each other.
So have the talk, give him a chance to explain his feelings. Be prepared in case he isn\'t sure how deeply he feels about you. Dating is for determining if there is interest beyond basic attraction, discovering more about the other to determine if you like and can handle their personality traits, if there\'s enough in common, or evidence of destructive habits or tendencies in one or both people that would harm the partner emotionally or physically and kill the relationship. Depending on what you discover, you either continue dating the person and take it to the committed couple level or you break up and look for the next dating partner, always trying to find someone a step better than the last based in the things you discovered you and take it to the committed couple level or you didn\'t like or were destructive behavior.
What is it and how do you keep from getting it? Is there a cure?
Depending on how severe a case is, if you did get pink eye, sometimes it needs to be treated by a doctor. There is an ointment that they will prescribe, where a dab of it is placed at the inner corner of the eye where it melts and distributes all over your eye and under the lids.
Mom's with little kids will be very familiar with pink eye. I had 3 kids. I watched them closely if they got runny noses or stuffy noses or sneezed in allergic reactions because the natural tendency for infants and toddlers is to take the fist and rub their nose because it bothered them and also rub their eye, distributing discharge from the nose to their eyes. They could look fine when they went to bed and wake up in the morning with conjunctivitus, they eyelashes stuck by lots of crud, eyes being weepy and the lids on the inside red instead of normal pink and even the whites of eyes could appear slightly pink if the infection was severe enough.
Other than that common way kids get it, older people can get it from not having clean hands when they rub their eyes. Or people who wear contacts and don't clean them properly can get a case of it. I remember during my learning process of how to properly care for contacts, I got the most severe case I ever had. I ignored the irritated feeling for 2 days thinking it was allergies. When I woke the 3rd day, it hurt to open my eyes indoors, and being out in natural light or sunlight was excruciating. I went to a Dr. to got medicine. Girls who share makeup with each other can pass the germs in use of same eyeliner pencil, mascara or even the same applicator of powdered eye shadow. Also even if not shared, I've heard that if your own mascara gets too old, it could be harboring germs just from yourself that grow and multiply in the container which are applied every time you use your mascara. I think it the liquid makeup that is the problem, an environment hospitable enough for some kinds of germs to grow. I suppose allergies like hayfever can lead to a case if you are rubbing your eyes because they are itchy or it was an extremely high pollen count day so your eye ball now suffers from multitudes of fine scratches that you cant see with the naked eye, but those scratches can irritate enough to bring on a case of pink eye. If you keep your hands clean anytime before they get near your eyes, theres little likelihood of you experiencing it. I've only had one bad case and two light cases in my entire life and one I am sure was caused by dirty unclean contacts. It is rare in my opinion to get this kind of eye infection.
I'm 23 he's 22.
We've been dating for a little over a year but we've been friends for 8 years.
Lately, we have just been fighting incessantly. We can't even be on the phone for 10 minutes without wanting to kill each other. He swears he's not seeing anyone but the way he's acting makes me think otherwise. We usually fight but not to this extent. Usually when we fight he'll call back and apologize and be sweet and we'll get over it. But lately he seems like he's just saying and doing anything to hurt me and then goes to bed without any regard to my feelings. I'm not usually a person who cries in front of him but that's the only way I can get him to stop being mean to me. He will continuously poke at me to get a response, at the beginning of our relationship we agreed to not cuss at each other because it's disrespectful but now he's doing it nonstop and calling me a b****. I can't talk to him about our problems without him just giving me responses like "ok, whatever, and you're not?, and you don't?" I just wanna yell at him and be like give me some emotion!!! but it's no use. I didn't get into nursing school and all he had to say was "that's not the only one in america...." :/ is it time to end things and move on? What can I do?
The most rewarding and healthiest relationship you could ever find yourself in would one be in which the guy and you are best friends and have many things in common, including how you express your emotions, or at least if different, it doesnt bother you. The other important thing is the love life, being sexually compatible. You dont want to be with someone who has fetishes he wants you to take part in that you're turned off by, and you both have differing libidos.
One happy with twice a month and the other wants every day.
You may have been friends for 8 years buts a not the closest of friends. There was always a difference between my very best close friend and other friends. The best friend would want to hang with me whether I was in a good mood or bad, whether I was healthy or sick and still loved me...unconditionally. We never misunderstood each other and never teased or picked on or fought. Instead we supported each other and encouraged each other, we didn't have to be doing anything special to enjoy each others company. We had a great trust in each other and could share our deepest thoughts and feelings and know that the integrity behind whatever promise we made never had to be questioned.
My best friend now is my husband. He is all that I describe a best friend to be and more. He encourages me to pursue my dreams and talents, he gives comfort when I am upset, even if theres no words that can be said. just a warm hug and being held tight while I cry. He's always looking for something special he can do for me without my having to ask, anticipating my needs. And on the love side of things, we both like the same things, have the same high libido, and his goal is to put my needs first, make sure I am satisfied before he dreams of getting his needs taken care of.
Anything less than a 'best friend' in a partner is only going to being dissatisfying or worse.
So you tell me, do you think you are really dating a man who is your very closest friend? If not, there is no reason to stay with him because he is not the right one. Personally from what you shared, he doesnt sound like the right one for you.
Female/24
So i have a puppy of 5months he is a miniature poodle mixed with cocker spaniel and he has never done the dirty with another dog but he humps the bed he sleeps on and we let him because if not he will try and hump me and my boyfriends leg my issue is that when im laying down he will get on the bed and back his but on to my face and try to hump my face (i know it might look funny when you imagine it) but i cant get him to stop and i worry one day i might wake up to him putting his nasty wee wee on my face and hump me!
How can i get him to stop??
When Razhie mentioned offering a toy to distract the dog, it reminded me of our little poodle we lost 2 years ago. She adopted one of the daughters old stuffed toys as her hump toy. She never liked regular dog toys. This was an old stuffed Barney the dinosaur. The dog was old, female and fixed. She humped Barney when she was bored, but curiously enough, every time she caught us making love, she's run and fetch Barney, drag him into the bedroom and start humping. When we finished, she stopped. Why I am sharing is that perhaps dogs can comprehend when one particular object is the only thing to be used for humping but she trained herself. Perhaps every time you see him humping, if you provided him with a stuffed toy just big enough for him to drape his body around and have the front part to drape his legs around it. Its worth a try anyways.
Hey everybody, so I'm a girl (obviously) and I'm having a problem with three guys at my school. The problem is, they all like me. The names I'm going to give are Daniel, Matt, and Adam. So, I met Daniel on a school trip. I started to like him.... And he admitted afterwards that he likes me a lot too. So I told him how I felt as well, and now we're really close. I can't date until I'm 16, so we aren't dating, but we're just really close friends. Daniel has a friend, Matt. This guy, the first week I moved into my school, texted me and we started to talk. We never talked in real life or anything... but we texted a lot. Then, I told Daniel this, to see if he knew anything about it, and Daniel was like "yeah i did know, i wanted to see if you would tell me". So Matt is really cute too. If i didn't like Daniel a lot, I probably would like Matt. Daniel admitted to me that he's a little jealous of the competition and is worried I will stop liking him and turn to Matt instead. I know that won't happen. Anyways, I heard from my best friend in her Spanish class from Adam that Matt has been telling people that I don't like Daniel. Of course, I asked Daniel if he heard anything about it, and he said no. I clarified to him that it's not true. Basically, Matt has been telling people this because he likes me as well apparently. Daniel even asked him if he liked me, and Matt admitted that he used to when I first moved here, but he doesn't as much anymore, but he still does. So Matt and Daniel are best friends and they both have a crush on me. Which causes a lot of problems of course. Back to Adam. I met Adam on that same school trip I met Daniel on. Adam is super funny, and he admitted to liking me on that trip as well, but to my friend instead of me. Of course, my friend told me, and me and Adam still talk kinda. My best friend told me that in her Spanish class, Adam had asked her if it was true that i didn't like Daniel and she told him the truth of course, but he still doubts it because Matt told him something else. Anyways, that same class, Adam asked my friend what I thought of him. Another class, my friend overheard Adam and his friends talking about how he is jealous of Daniel for me liking him on that trip.
Basically, I'm asking these questions for this situation:
1) What should I do about Matt and Adam? I like them (not like that), but I just want to be friends.
2) Should I become better friends with Matt and his friends, that way it won't be awkward when I'm around them?
3) I kinda like the attention... so even if I dont get a decent answer, I wouldn't mind just leaving it. What do you think?
Thanks for everything guys. I'd really appreciate an answer, and thanks for reading through this long thing haha :)
Are all of these guys aware that you can not date until you are 16, parents rules. As far as you know, there is no limit on how many friends a person can have whether the opposite sex or the same sex, so right now, there is no competition, because you can have more than one friend.
I wouldn't say anything yet about not feeling anything other than friendship towards Matt and Adam because you dont know for sure what will happen between now and the time you can start dating. You may find during this friendship time that although you are attracted visually to Daniel, some characteristics of his come up and you don't like some of the ways he thinks is normal to treat you and he wont stop if asked...this happens in dating in the beginning when teens dont know much yet about what they want and how to be a good dating partner. Maybe he is really great and you'll be telling Matt and Adam that after all this time, no spark or romantic chemistry has come up on your side so you won't be considering either of them as a dating partner. Or you may develop a slow interest romantically in one of them as you lose interest in Daniel.
What to look for right now in the friendship stage, who treats you the most as a very close friend, their caring is unconditional, always there for you, great at cheering you up when sad, conversation is easy and just flows, you're more relaxed and able to be yourself with the person, they encourage you to follow your talents, hobbies, hopes and dreams. They help build up your belief in yourself, etc...
You may enjoy hanging out with all 3, and getting all that attention is fun, I've had it before too. But when things get tough, who is there comforting you or believing in who. Who is secure enough in himself that he doesn't have to play down or point out faults in the others. This is a very important stage to get right and you have many years yet to perfect finding the best male friend ever cus in a marriage, thats one of the important bases to a healthy relationship, and the other is having romance, attraction that spark or chemistry with them. For some its felt instant in the beginning and for others it develops slowly over time. So if your best male friend and that one you are visually attracted to arent one and the same, perhaps neither is right for you. Or the best friend may have the potential yet to become your sweetheart. Be careful not to friend zone only somone who may be the better choice at a future date.
Just from what you say others have said they observed Matt saying/ doing, there may be a need to watch Matt a bit more closely. What they said, may be interpreted wrong or recommunicated wrong, but if you can catch him at it, then you have proof of him trying to make Daniel look bad or that you don't like him. I don't see what he hopes to get out of saying something to others for whom it isn't their business who you should be interested in or not or who to date someday.
If theres any truth to it, then here's a little lesson in how to pick up some subtle things about a persons character flaws, that may be a good reason to avoid dating him or even associating with him as a friend. If true, behavior like this could point to him being a sore loser, someone who must win at everything or become upset and angry, very competitive, or may simply point out he isn't comfortable with himself, a low self image, unable to be happy for his friend Daniel, trying to mess things up in Daniels love life just so you become single and available again. Such a person could stoop very low, saying lies that Daniel is seeing other girls on the side etc... All these are guesses...no truth in them but just potential things that may come up and for you to be on the alert looking for a repeating pattern of any of it...solid proof, not hear say from others.
I kinda like how this Daniel knew that you and Matt texted but he waited patiently to see if you would share that information rather than try to drag it out of you. Looks like he tends to give a person a chance to prove themself, is patient, understanding, and so far doesnt seem to feel his masculinity rattled so badly over possible competition, and so he has no need to prove himself. He trusts you enough to share how he is feeling, a little jealous and worried. Its not easy for guys to do that, usually more concerned about coming across as tough and strong and sharing such stuff would be considered by the macho guys as weak. Keep up the good communication with Daniel on everything that comes your way. Once you do start dating, Daniel sounds like a great choice. Don't be surprised if that act may bring up obvious bad behavior from Matt. I don't think Adam is a threat, but will back down gracefully. You will be fine, this is a good learning experience for sure. good luck
I really, really like this guy named David. I've had a crush on him for a couple weeks and I think he's the greatest guy I've liked in a long time. Maybe the greatest I've EVER liked. He's cute, sweet, smart, and funny. He is a Christian like me and I really respect him a lot.
The thing is that people keep talking down about him. Like tonight, someone was talking about how nice, down to earth, and easy to talk to he was, then someone else accused him of being behind it. Like those were actually HIS words.
I wish people wouldn't talk bad about him. Should I believe anything they say? Or should I still like him? I don't want to just forget about him. What should I say if I ever need to stand up for him? WDYT?
Consider the source of the accusations, we're talking teens here, whose brains isn't fully done maturing yet. That doesnt happen until our mid 20s or so.
The prefrontal cortex, is a section of the brain that weighs outcomes, forms judgments and controls impulses and emotions. This section of the brain also helps people understand one another. The prefrontal cortex section of the brain in teens is still a little immature as compared to adults; and that is why teens tend to follow the crowd, make snap judgements, not think ahead to possible consequences of their actions, not research to discover what is really true or not, etc...
Never let some one elses opinion or ideas control the choices you make in life. Your life is yours to live, not for others to live through you or even attempt to influence.
I am kinda surprised that you ask if you should still like him? Just because you find a mouse in a cookie jar, that does not make him a cookie, just because someone makes a statement or judgement about someone else, that does not mean its true. If all your friends were to say that they hate your parents and think they are very mean and abusive and you should run away from home, would you do it just because thats what 'they' think, regardless of whether its true or not? I don't think so. It shouldn't apply to any area of life. In 4th grade when I switched schools, all the girls approached me the first day to tell me to not be friends with Twila because she is a loser and dumb and boring, etc... This Twila lived next door to the house we'd just moved into. Did I believe them? No. I got curious though. Kept alert and investigated on my own. I found there to be nothing wrong with the gal. But I didnt became close friends either. We just didn't have much in common. But I found no reason to shun her or treat her mean as the others did. In times like this, it is important to draw upon your inner strength for you may come under attack for associating with someone who doesnt have the stamp of approval from other teens.
Listen to your inner voice and listen to God, you'll know the right thing to do. Dating, if it comes to that with David is for getting practice at becoming good at spotting what character traits you like and don't like in a relationship. If there are too many dislikes or the feelings for each other fade, its time to move on and strive to go for a step better each time. You will learn things you need to learn to make a good dating partner your self. These kinds of decisions in life like who you date, what you wear, what college you go to, what profession you choose, etc...are all your choice to make, and is based on your own personal preferances which wont be the same as anyone else. Never give control of your individual choices and preferances away to someone or several someones else to make for you.
I really wanna runaway, I'm not abused or anything, but I don't really get out much, and I wanna have an adventure. I read into it and learned that if I'm caught I could get a police record or have to see a psychologist. I have family members who are cops, and live in New York, so can someone tell me what I need to do? BTW, I'm 10.
If you need times to get out and do special things just for you to experience, a perfect solution would be to join big brothers /big sisters and get matched up to someone older than you, maybe college age who would take you out and do special events, like going to a ball game, going bowling, putt putt golf, day at the beach, etc... The adventures are still close to home, you're in the protective company of an adult, but someone young enough to be fun and adventurous. The streets are no place for a 10 year old to be unaccompanied. those who take advantage of and prey on children are really good at spotting kids who are on their own, having run away for whatever reason and once they capture you, it is hard to get away, you have a horrible adventure and no more freedom...just ask the cop relatives, they could share horror stories with you of young children forced to do sex acts and other terrible situations.
Heres a link to the organization:
http://www.bbbs.org/site/c.9iILI3NGKhK6F/b.5962335/k.BE16/Home.htm
Theres an enroll child button so looks like you'll need the parents approval for this. I would seriously consider this. If they are not too keen on signing you up, that may be the time to share with them how you've been feeling and that this would be a safer way for you get out and experience some adventures. Good luck
19 / f
So me and my bf are wanting to have sex. We've tried plenty of times using a condom but failed-both of us struggle to put it on.
So I suggested instead of using a condom to use other methods of birth control such as pills.
I live in the UK, and I wanted to know what options are available for me and how can I access pills? Or is the onky solution to visit a doctor?
I researched on line for the equivalent to our Planned Parenthood in the U.S. Looks like the UK has BPAS British Pregnancy Advisory Service.
By the name alone, it sounds like something that caters to pregnant women only, but in a wiki link even vasectomys for men are mentioned.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/BPAS
If I were you, I'd call the nearest location to you and ask if they provide lost cost or free birth control, and if not, find out from them who does.
I know the PP here in U.S. have classes to teach how to put on a condom, perhaps they have that too, cus its good for protection against STD's Sexual diseases, even if not used for birth control.
So I had wavy hair 4 years ago my hair is not as wavy as it is now, I forgot what kind of bangs I got that time but it looked fine but now I'm scared that my front bangs might be shorter than it might be. Okay, I'll explain. Since my hair is wavier than it used to be, when my hair stylist pulls my hair to make a cut to the length I want my bangs to be maybe it will 'curl' back up then makes it seem that I have short bangs. I really don't know how to explain but anyways, should i just cut it myself or go to a hair stylist. Most of them don't really get what I am telling them..
Yeah, I know what you're talking about. I got tired of stylists going 'snip happy' and cutting away more than I wanted each time I went so I resorted to cutting my own bangs, letting hair grow out and just trimming the tips. Some cut hair while it is wet and also pull it. Wet seems to relax the wave or curl and then springs back later to be shorter. I suppose you can always call a salon and speak to someone of your concern and ask if anyone there would be willing to do their best to cut your bangs while the hair is dry without stretching out the curl because you dont want really short bangs after your hair bounces back to its normal wave and curl. If they promise this and mess up still, I'd ask for my money back.
If you don't want to take the chance, then either a friend or family member who has cut the familys hair really well and successfully for years might be someone to ask for help or do it yourself. Hair is hard to cut in a straight even line so even if someone can cut paper or cloth well, they may not be able to handle hair.
As a general rule, moms who have no professional hair cutting training, like myself, will tend to be conservative in cutting hair taking only short snips at the time knowing they don't have the training, so if something ends up not totally straight, we don't have to take off much more to correct it. My grown adult daughters still come to me for their haircuts to save a buck and because they know I'll do it the way they want it.
Hope it works out for you. If you ever find a professional who does it exactly as you like, book future appointments only with her. I did find someone like that but the husband said we couldn't afford the cost of haircuts anymore and I had to go back to doing my own.
Good luck.
hi, i want this to be answered by you coz I know you can help me through. Im 16 and my eldest sis is 24. im the 3rd one. We used to fight alot everyday like every single moment. One time when I was 15, she was pregnant to her 1st child, she visited home and she ruled the house over my parents. She insult me and beat me up and my younger siblings too. At that day I couldnt took it anymore so I smashed her with a big toy on her back coz she dragged me holding my hair because I yelled at her for being rude to my crush. So she cried at that time and couldnt get up. My dad saw us and he ruthlessly beat me up at the point that my ear bled and the belt reflected all over my body and he hit my legs with an arnis. That was my very horrible moment with them. But my mom just said that i shouldnt did it coz she was preggo but she was wrong! And now, im going 17 and she is pregnant to her 3nd child and she ruled the house again. She beats me up always. She always start a fight. She threw a laddle and hit me on my forehead bcause I didnt do what she've instructed. She hides my things whenever we hava an argument. And my mom is so damn insane and crazy. I told my mom to do sth about her she just said that i must consider bcoz she is preggo. My parents are really great but this hell girl screwd our relationship. And she will be staying with us for another 1 week and then she'll go back to korea. I'm asian. And asian parents usually beat or spank for disciplining and i damn hate it. Last weeks I moved out to my 2nd dad's empty house for 3weeks but i returned bcoz my mom wants me and then my hell life with Sis started again. I want to kill her. Stab her or do anything to kill. I'm smart but sorry i cant take it any longer. My dad always verbally abuse me bcoz of her. Pls pls whhat should i do. Pls pls. I want to kill her. Pls im so lost. Pls thnk you. This is long.
It is never okay for any person to lay a hand on another person, no matter if family or friend or stranger, that is called assault,
http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/assault
An assault can also be verbal or just a fist raised at you.
And since you receive bruises, bleed, your body is harmed in some way , that counts as being battered, hit, with hands or objects. That makes what has been happening to you 'assault and battery' and that is a misdemeanor crime in the U.S. I am sure it is elsewhere too.
A California lawyer explains battery and differance from assault in this short video clip
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4gDR1qyjAIk
You grew up in a dysfunctional family like this and don't know anything different, to you, other than the sister, the parents may seem like normal enough. Trust me, this is not so. Your 24 yr old sister did not accidently become that violent on her own, unless she was born with some kind of mental illness. If dad beats you too, it's unlikely that both parents and a sister all have mental illness that had gone untreated. More likely her violence is due to how she was treated growing up, abusive parents can create abusive children. The children get to a point where they have so much anger and hate inside that they mentally snap. You already fear being capable of the same yourself, feeling like you want to kill the sister. Any siblings under legal adult age, (if you live in U.S. which would be 18) need protection too.
The best way to handle this is to have a talk with Mom and Dad and tell them that the next time anyone in the family raises a fist at you or even throws something at you that misses you, that is considered assault, and you will call the police. If they do the same to any of your siblings, tell them you'll call the police. If they actually strike you or siblings with an object or their fists, you will call the police. But you must go through with your threat to call the police. This is the only way it is going to come to the attention of the authorities that they all need help. They may try to block you from using the phone to call for help. Swallow your pride, go to a neighbors house and ask to use the phone. Let them know its an emergency and you need to call the police.
Your family will be counting on the fact that you would never do such a thing to family...like calling the police on them. Well, Beating on family members is one of those things we should never do to another. They started it all and they also need counseling. This should not under any circumstances be allowed to continue or you and your siblings may end up being exactly the same and that anger could cause one of you to kill someone and end up in jail.
You could also report this to your school counselors and ask them for help. If calling the police doesn't stop the behavior, Child Protective Agency should be called in. Or if not in the US, whatever agency looks after the welfare of children where you are, to protect child under legal adult age. If your sister can do this to you, I worry what she will do to all those kids of hers. They will end up like her some day of your sister doesnt get professional help. Telling her to get help wont work. Most people with mental health issues, anger problem, etc. don't think there is any thing wrong with themselves or just deny it and are forced to face the facts when legal authorities are brought in, the police and CPS.
The stress of living in an abusive situation will have an ability to affect your concentration, so it is not that you feel uneducated but you can not concentrate of what you do know due to the high amount of stress...I know...I used to live in an abusive environment from Husband. At 16, it may seem like a big responsibility to lay on your shoulders to have to do something like call the authorities to protect yourself and younger sister, but no one else is going to do it unless they are aware of it and call CPS. You are responsible for taking the steps to ensure this treatment of you and other young siblings doesnt continue since there is no adult in the family capable of doing so. I would never let the husband touch my kids. As mom, I protected them. too He knew the day he touched them, I'd call the police so he also just stuck with mostly verbal abuse and assault but very few cases of battery towards me, all in the form of pushing and shoving to make me fall. When he progressed to the pushing part, I divorced him. No one has to endure that kind of treatment. It is now legal that we cannot treat animals like that in the US, or it is a punishable crime. If animals dont have to endure that kind of treatment, neither should humans. Good luck. Anytime you need to talk to someone, write me.