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I wanna kill my sister
hi, i want this to be answered by you coz I know you can help me through. Im 16 and my eldest sis is 24. im the 3rd one. We used to fight alot everyday like every single moment. One time when I was 15, she was pregnant to her 1st child, she visited home and she ruled the house over my parents. She insult me and beat me up and my younger siblings too. At that day I couldnt took it anymore so I smashed her with a big toy on her back coz she dragged me holding my hair because I yelled at her for being rude to my crush. So she cried at that time and couldnt get up. My dad saw us and he ruthlessly beat me up at the point that my ear bled and the belt reflected all over my body and he hit my legs with an arnis. That was my very horrible moment with them. But my mom just said that i shouldnt did it coz she was preggo but she was wrong! And now, im going 17 and she is pregnant to her 3nd child and she ruled the house again. She beats me up always. She always start a fight. She threw a laddle and hit me on my forehead bcause I didnt do what she've instructed. She hides my things whenever we hava an argument. And my mom is so damn insane and crazy. I told my mom to do sth about her she just said that i must consider bcoz she is preggo. My parents are really great but this hell girl screwd our relationship. And she will be staying with us for another 1 week and then she'll go back to korea. I'm asian. And asian parents usually beat or spank for disciplining and i damn hate it. Last weeks I moved out to my 2nd dad's empty house for 3weeks but i returned bcoz my mom wants me and then my hell life with Sis started again. I want to kill her. Stab her or do anything to kill. I'm smart but sorry i cant take it any longer. My dad always verbally abuse me bcoz of her. Pls pls whhat should i do. Pls pls. I want to kill her. Pls im so lost. Pls thnk you. This is long.
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It is never okay for any person to lay a hand on another person, no matter if family or friend or stranger, that is called assault,
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An assault can also be verbal or just a fist raised at you.
And since you receive bruises, bleed, your body is harmed in some way , that counts as being battered, hit, with hands or objects. That makes what has been happening to you 'assault and battery' and that is a misdemeanor crime in the U.S. I am sure it is elsewhere too.
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You grew up in a dysfunctional family like this and don't know anything different, to you, other than the sister, the parents may seem like normal enough. Trust me, this is not so. Your 24 yr old sister did not accidently become that violent on her own, unless she was born with some kind of mental illness. If dad beats you too, it's unlikely that both parents and a sister all have mental illness that had gone untreated. More likely her violence is due to how she was treated growing up, abusive parents can create abusive children. The children get to a point where they have so much anger and hate inside that they mentally snap. You already fear being capable of the same yourself, feeling like you want to kill the sister. Any siblings under legal adult age, (if you live in U.S. which would be 18) need protection too.
The best way to handle this is to have a talk with Mom and Dad and tell them that the next time anyone in the family raises a fist at you or even throws something at you that misses you, that is considered assault, and you will call the police. If they do the same to any of your siblings, tell them you'll call the police. If they actually strike you or siblings with an object or their fists, you will call the police. But you must go through with your threat to call the police. This is the only way it is going to come to the attention of the authorities that they all need help. They may try to block you from using the phone to call for help. Swallow your pride, go to a neighbors house and ask to use the phone. Let them know its an emergency and you need to call the police.
Your family will be counting on the fact that you would never do such a thing to family...like calling the police on them. Well, Beating on family members is one of those things we should never do to another. They started it all and they also need counseling. This should not under any circumstances be allowed to continue or you and your siblings may end up being exactly the same and that anger could cause one of you to kill someone and end up in jail.
You could also report this to your school counselors and ask them for help. If calling the police doesn't stop the behavior, Child Protective Agency should be called in. Or if not in the US, whatever agency looks after the welfare of children where you are, to protect child under legal adult age. If your sister can do this to you, I worry what she will do to all those kids of hers. They will end up like her some day of your sister doesnt get professional help. Telling her to get help wont work. Most people with mental health issues, anger problem, etc. don't think there is any thing wrong with themselves or just deny it and are forced to face the facts when legal authorities are brought in, the police and CPS.
The stress of living in an abusive situation will have an ability to affect your concentration, so it is not that you feel uneducated but you can not concentrate of what you do know due to the high amount of stress...I know...I used to live in an abusive environment from Husband. At 16, it may seem like a big responsibility to lay on your shoulders to have to do something like call the authorities to protect yourself and younger sister, but no one else is going to do it unless they are aware of it and call CPS. You are responsible for taking the steps to ensure this treatment of you and other young siblings doesnt continue since there is no adult in the family capable of doing so. I would never let the husband touch my kids. As mom, I protected them. too He knew the day he touched them, I'd call the police so he also just stuck with mostly verbal abuse and assault but very few cases of battery towards me, all in the form of pushing and shoving to make me fall. When he progressed to the pushing part, I divorced him. No one has to endure that kind of treatment. It is now legal that we cannot treat animals like that in the US, or it is a punishable crime. If animals dont have to endure that kind of treatment, neither should humans. Good luck. Anytime you need to talk to someone, write me.
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