That's completely normal- every girl is like that. It's just how the nipples function. Everyone is different; just like different parts of the body, nipples can be different colors and sizes. The pigment depends on your skin tone (vary from light to dark, according to your skin color). As for the shape, that varies according to the person and the size of your breasts. The same thing goes for the size. OH, and when you're cold or even when you're turned on, your nipples get hard. That's just how things are..

That isn't shallow at all. It's perfectly fine for you to want to get a part-time job just to pay for your trip- I'd do the same thing. In fact, many young people do that; how else are you going to pay for the expenses? Many young people who work part-time do so temporarily in order to pay off different expenses (school, vacation, bills, etc.). I think it's actually a good idea for you to work several months to pay off the expenses.

For the boy, I would suggest:

Spanish names: Chico, Gaucho, Guido, Maestro, Angel
Tough names: Rocky, Rexy, Boxer

..and for the girl:

Spanish: Lucia, Bella, Chiquita, Estela...
Pretty: Isabella, Sweety, Sunny, Gabby, Annie..

-just some suggestions off the top of my head..
Hope they help! Oh, you can also look up some cute dog names online.. or look up spanish names

I know how you feel, but you have got to tell someone about this. There really is no other option. Anorexia is a mental disorder, with both mental and physical manifestations- this is apparent not only in your friend's weight loss and weakness, but in her depression and sadness as well. If she was satisfied with herself, she would not be doing this. As a friend, you need to inform someone about this.. it's for her own good. She may resent you at first, but if there's some body there to intervene, she'll end up thanking you a million times in the long run. But that's besides the point: she needs help NOW.
I know this must be so hard on you, but you need to tell some adults about this. Inform your mother, and she can also give you other suggestions. Tell a school nurse, a teacher, councelor..anyone who can help. Trust me. One of my friends has had to do the same thing several years ago, when she told a teacher that her friends were annorexic. That may have literally saved them. Do your friend a favor and do the same for her.

I have the same issue. I generally wax my upper lip, or use a depilatory cream designed for facial hair. But since you're interested in lightening up the hair on your upperlip, I would recommend using cream bleach. You can get it at the drugstore--it's called Jolene Creme Bleach (in hair removal aisle, generally). It's really effective. The package contains on jar of cream, plus a jar of powder which I think accelorates the bleaching proccess. Following the directions, you mix a certain amount of cream with powder (comes with an applicator and a little plastic thing to mix on)... this lightens the hair after around 10 minutes. Another option is to use hydrogen peroxide to lighten the hair, although I don't really know what the guidelines are for that. I assume that the cream bleach is more gentle though. It's widely available and works very well, so you should give it a try.

The same thing happens to me when I shave. This could due to the appearence of hair follicles (usually amplified by shaving your underarms); it could also be tiny ingrown hairs. I recommend waxing your underarms. It is pretty painful, but it's quick and completely worth it. After waxing, your underarms will be smooth and even-toned. I try waxing as often as I can, and there's a big difference- it looks so much better.

Hey,
Since you've had sex a few times in a row, it's normal to feel sore (especially since you just started.. How bad is the pain? If it really bothers you, you could talk to a nurse about it, or get checked out at the gyno or clinic. Let me know if you have any other questions

This could have been a seizure- maybe a different kind/intensity than you're used to. I used to also have seizures, but they were developmental, so I evetually grew out of them ( I was on medication [Tegretol] for a few years before). My seizures usually felt like I was extremely dizzy, and occasionally I blanked out.. I'd feel ill and weak afterwards and would have to sleep. But in your case, the fact that you were unable to move could mean that you had a seizure. Then again, without seeing your condition, it's hard for me to tell what happened. You could have also been hyperventilating (characterized by heavy breathing, dizziness, headache), due to the stress of the situation.
The best thing to do is see a neurologist (you probably already have one). Let them know exactly what happened, and they can talk to you about it..based on your previous history with seizures, they'll be able to tell whether or not you just had one.

It sucks getting your period when you aren't expecting it, or aren't prepared. But anyway, I wouldn't recommend swimming the first day of your period, mainly because you might feel bloated enough as it is. If you want though, you can try taking Midol next time (it also reduces bloating and water retention). But anyway.... itt's not a big deal, but use a tampon next time, of course. You can still take part in different activities, but using a tampon greatly reduces discomfort. As for the stain, you can pre-treat it in the sink..be sure to use hot water, and some soap or detergent (woolite is great). Afterward, put it in the washing machine with all your other clothes- and that should take care of it. And don't worry about telling your mom..I'm sure she'll understand what you're going through.

Cheating or being cheated on, can mean different things for different people. It's hard to say whether or not this classifies as cheating. One thing though, is that something did happen, so whatever it is, it's not something your boyfriend would appreciate.
It does sound like you regret what happened, so you need to be upfront with your ex, and let him know you're now in a relationship, and that you don't want to take things further. As for your current boyfriend, you can be honest with him and let him know..it's only fair (but don't take my word for it, you should think of what's best). And you need to be honest with yourself as well: how do you feel about your boyfriend? Are your feelings for your ex getting in the way of that?, etc.. All in all, I think you should be honest; you didn't get back together with your ex, but something did happen..

I don't think that you can (or should) stop the urge to have sex. It's completely normal and natural. You are single now though, so jumping to any conclusions just to have sex isn't going to be good for you in the long run. There are other things you can do- as the previous columnist said, you can try masturbating- to help you ease the tension. Also try focusing on some other things to take your mind off it. But don't curb a perfectly normal urge. Sometimes you just feel horny, and that's fine. You might want to talk to a friend about it; often times just talking to someone helps a lot.

You should check out this website:
http://www.womenshealthcaretopics.com/preg_food_cravings.htm

I would think that the main reason that pregnant women crave different types of foods, is that they have a new person to nourish and provide for-their body simply needs more food and calories to provide for the baby. I'd like to think of it as someone who's really hungry, who can't stop thinking about different foods as a result.
I actually read on the above website, that women tend to crave different types of food, depending on nutritional deficiencies. So for example, a pregnant women who lacks a protein-rich diet, might suddenly crave red meat. It's almost like the body's way of signaling to get more of the nutrients that it, and the new baby, need to have.

The best thing is to go to the doctor, who may give you a chest X-ray and check-up. You should explain all of your symptoms. I don't know the severity of your pain, but this could be symptoms of bronchitis, which sometimes follows a cold. Sometimes excessive stress from working out can cause this.
Have you coughed a lot recently? The stress from coughing could also affect chest pains. In any case, there's no way for me, or anyone else on this website, to diagnose you. This is probably a minor problem, but nonetheless one that only a doctor can diagnose and help out with.

I know how you feel, but try to understand where this girl is coming from. She can't help her feelings for you. But you have a choice as to how to react. Although it may be difficult, the best thing for you to do is be honest about how you feel. As the others have said, make it clear to her that you're straight, but that you're flattered- she'll get the message. From now on, though, try not to be put off by her. Be yourself and treat her like all the others. You might feel akward, but you should still see her for who she is, rather than what she is. She happens to be Bi.. but she's still a person worthy of respect. You don't need to change yourself for anyone, let alone her..just be yourself, and she'll get the message.

You can try going to www.craigslist.org, where you can find ads for just about anything, including job postings. On the right, click your state and city.. you can search through tons of job postings, and do a keyword search if you'd like. Depending on where you live, there are tons of job posts. OH, and you can also put up an ad if you're searching for work- there are always people looking for babysitters or tutors, both under-the-table jobs.
Another thing you can try doing is posting up an ad at your school. You can probably find a tutoring or babysitting job that way as well. The schedule is flexible, and the pay's not bad either, depending on age and experience. I'd say that whatever way you choose to find a job, the hourly pay for tutoring should be around $15, and babysitting...I'm not so sure, but I'd guess around $10/hour.

I completely agree with the previous collumnist: the fact that he says he only goes for blonde girls tells you something about his personality--seems shallow to me. That said, you could do better anyway. But I do I know you're in a difficult position right now; they don't call it a 'crush' for nothing. It's nerve-wrecking and embarrasing when your crush happens to find out, and especially from other people. Of course there's no way for me to know how he found out.. it could be that he had the feeling himself. But that's not the main issue..
Although I'm now 22, I completely understand how the High School (I'm guessing you're in HS?) environment is. You see the same people all the time, and people make too big a deal about your business. I know what it's like.
But you do have a choice here. Your mom is completely right. You should act yourself, even if it's difficult and awkward. Try ignoring him, being yourself, and above all- try not to bring up the issue, as it can make the situation even more awkward for you. Going about your life and not paying too much attention to these annoyances, can actually be the best advice.

I currently study in San Francisco- it's such a beautiful city. Really, just like the movie shows. Of course not all the city has such beautiful views- it all depends on what area you're in. San Francisco is such a diverse city; both architecturally and culturally. I'd say that most of the city is really beautiful, as the old "victorian" style arquitecture is preserved.
But about the weather-- many people assume that since SF is in California, it is warm and sunny throughout the year. This is not true. Most of the time the weather is quite cloudy and foggy. Actually, we get late summers, so it is very nice in October. There are sunny days occasionally, but it's not something that the movies show (how it's always sunny). It is a really beautiful city, but the weather is generally not so great. Well, compared to the east coast, the weather is fine.

This pretty much sums it up: those who love you, will never leave you. People tend to hurt those they love, simply because they know they'll always be there. For instance, if we hurt our parents (or vice-versa), we still know that they're going to be there for us no matter what. Family should be there for you through thick and thin. But when you don't know someone well enough,or don't really care deeply about them, you can hurt them once, and they're out the door. Why? The relationship simply doesn't mean enough for them to stick around.
I think it's most important to really love and respect those who mean the most to you. But sometimes we unintentionally hurt the ones we love the most- and they still stick around. Simply knowing that someone will be there for you no matter what, is sort of like a safety net.
Another reason that people tend to hurt the ones they love, is that there is no barrier. With people you don't really love deeply, there's a certain way you're supposed to act; an imaginary "code of conduct." But with those you love, you're always comfortable and tend to let your guard down: sometimes that results in hurting someone.

For eyes, I recommend using a simple mascara (not volumizing or anything like that), like L'Oreal "Featherlash", or Maybelline "Full 'n Soft." Avoid using too many coats, as that can make your lashes look cakey. I find Featherlash to be great-- no matter how many coats you put on, your lashes will not clump. And avoid using eyeliner-- a couple coats of mascara should do. You don't really need to use eyeshadow, but if you want to, go for a sheer, natural tone-- brown, etc.. go for earth tones.

As for your face, you can use a light bronzer, as long as you don't put too much on. Lightly brush it onto your t-zone and cheeks (where sun naturally hits). It'll give you the "sun kissed" look, which is always natural. But remember not to put too much on, and only to lightly brush it on, as it can make it look like a bad tan.

And lips-- you can use lip balm or lip gloss. Or if you prefer, you can apply a very light (nude) shade of lipstick. I prefer using lip balm or gloss, which goes with everything and can be worn on any occasion.

I know that eating lots of junk food seems like the easiest thing to do, but try to avoid it as much as you can, as it's bad for your health. Instead, try eating bigger portions than you may be used to. Of course, don't force yourself to eat too much, but try having snacks in between meals, or having more protein and carbs. I have the same issue as you do, but I think that it's better in the long run. But I can gain a few pounds myself. Try not to eat too much junk food, and focus instead on some of the above pointers. Oh, one of the previous collumnists mentioned that you can also try having protein shakes or something like that. .. I don't really know much about it. You can also try talking to a nurse or doctor about it...they can also advise you and let you know what normal weight would be for you.

I am here to give honest advice, when I feel I have something to contribute. I try to be as empathetic and understanding as I can, as I know that the way something is said is as important as the message itself.

I usually advise on love/relationships, friendship and family issues, nutrition, and health (mental and physical). If I feel I can help out, there's not a whole lot I am unwilling to answer. Ask away!

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