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Question Posted Saturday February 24 2007, 7:26 pm

why do you think people can be cruel to those they love the most?

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happybabe2 answered Wednesday March 28 2007, 9:45 pm:
they are probably cruel to those they love the most because the people who love you will usually never give up on you. No matter how mean they are, they know that if they ever need help that you will be there to save them. If someone who you loves you is mean to you it says that they must know that you love them alot or else they wouldnt be willing to risk you getting like mad at them for real...well i know thats confusing but i hope i helped!

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ciao77 answered Sunday March 4 2007, 12:53 am:
This pretty much sums it up: those who love you, will never leave you. People tend to hurt those they love, simply because they know they'll always be there. For instance, if we hurt our parents (or vice-versa), we still know that they're going to be there for us no matter what. Family should be there for you through thick and thin. But when you don't know someone well enough,or don't really care deeply about them, you can hurt them once, and they're out the door. Why? The relationship simply doesn't mean enough for them to stick around.
I think it's most important to really love and respect those who mean the most to you. But sometimes we unintentionally hurt the ones we love the most- and they still stick around. Simply knowing that someone will be there for you no matter what, is sort of like a safety net.
Another reason that people tend to hurt the ones they love, is that there is no barrier. With people you don't really love deeply, there's a certain way you're supposed to act; an imaginary "code of conduct." But with those you love, you're always comfortable and tend to let your guard down: sometimes that results in hurting someone.

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kristymarie782 answered Sunday February 25 2007, 1:56 am:
Sometimes they do it just because they love you too much and think that they will never leave you. It pretty much happens to everyone.

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SWEETXLOVE answered Saturday February 24 2007, 11:56 pm:
ohh i think i can answer this one very well =)
this guy liked me and we were friends but i wasnt really sure if i liked him more than a friend and one day he got so mad at me for no reason and told me he never wanted to talk to me again and how he never liked me and all this mean stuff that really hurt but then i find out that he was so mad because he really really liked me, but couldnt have me and i felt soo bad! but they are so cruel because they care about you, they're scared to lose you and they are also mean because they cant get what they want. but if you talk to them you can definately make things better. today i was talking on the phone to him and asked him why he was so mad at me and hated me so much and we worked things out. they just care about you, they dont want to get hurt or they dont want to see YOU get hurt and they dont know any other way to show their feelings! ♥

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angie91 answered Saturday February 24 2007, 10:00 pm:
I think its because they are hurt. Once people get to a realization that they arent going to get what they want the most they realize that its not right for this person to get al of the power, so they begin to act on revenge. It's not right, because they think that they are moving on when actually they arent so its kind of hurting them more. But some people dont realize that and all they want to do is hurt the one who hurt them.
Or they have a perfect image of the one they love, and the person isnt meeting those standards so they feel that they have to punish that person.
There are lots of reasons people can hurt the people they love, sometimes you just have to talk with them and ask them, but sometimes its almost chronic. It depends ont he situation and the people involved. Hope I answered your question, love ya,

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Daimeera answered Saturday February 24 2007, 9:42 pm:

They're scared of being loved, or of being hurt, or of losing someone. That's the number one factor, in my experience.

Ignorance is another--if you don't realise how cruel you're being, it's easier to hurt someone.

I really don't know of any other reasons.

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