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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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I need to know how to loose weight fast because I am obese and I need to loose weight before anything serious with my heart or diabetes happens
Loosing weight to fast can end up with disappointing results as it will be easier to gain it back.
What is important in all weight loss is watching what you eat and exercise. Stock up on high protein foods chicken, beans, fish, edamame, tofu etc. Eat fruits, veggies.
Stay away from added sugars, saturated fats, fried and greasy foods. No soda, juice etc.
Go for baked chicken, Crystal light, Sugar free Popsicles. Most importantly make sure you get at least some sort of exercise in daily.
-Lost 129 lbs
We've been together for 9 years now, and I still get so frustrated with him. We have 3 children together, I do everything, house cleaning, work, take care of the kids, I keep up with the routines with the kids.
He watches television all day, does not help with the house, tells us what to do all the time, what to eat, drink, tells us to go towards health, that's fine for me but he does not do it himself, he drinks a lot, wants to start smoking pot again, sits on the couch all day.
I'm so tired of him telling us what to do, how to do it, what and how to say things to other people.
He tries to get angry when I try talk to him that bothers me about him. I feel his always against me in everything, he asked me questions about myself and my answers are never right for him.
He thinks he has me figured out but he has me all wrong, but he won't get that because I'm wrong.
He gets angry at the kids when they make mess and I don't like that because why should he have the right to be angry with the kids making mess when he won't take the effort to clean up.
He goods in many ways too, he provides to the family very well but it's changing too in that area, he's trying to be a stay at home dad while I attend college, which I think is making him want to be at home than working, I told its more benefit for the house if I'm at home, since I would keep up with the house work, and he says you'll have something to do after work.
I have no one to talk to, and I don't want to send bad vibes about him, just want someone to understand and what ways can change so that he will make changes for the better for himself and the family.
I've tried to talk to him about these stuff but it doesn't get anywhere, he won't accept it and not take responsibility. He can't even apologize.
I keep hoping for a great outcomes but it seems so far away.
I am sorry but I think you should consider marriage counseling. This is generally the last straw before filing for divorce.
It takes two, To make it work not one. If he isn't willing to listen and respect you and help out then your marriage is going to continue to sit on the rocks.
All my friends have had sex but me. Probably because they have girlfriends but still. What must I do to get a girl to have sex with me?
You cannot make anyone have sex with you.
Let me ask you something, What does sex mean to you?...
Who the fuck cares if your friends are having sex. Doing things to "fit in and be cool" is called peer pressure. This is not going to make a girl want to be in a relationship with you. Woman like to be respected, valued and cared for. NOT taken advantage of! You got the wrong idea when it comes to sex kid.
I need some help. I am a single mom with two kids. We have been dating about 7 months. He initially didnt make any effort to see my kids. He only wanted to see me at his house. I broke up with him because I felt he didnt want to be with me for the right reasons. He stopped taking me out and was just lame. We worked it out. He was spending time with me and the kids once a week and would see alone twice a week. More and more are alone time is just sex. He came to pick me up last night and because I wasnt able to go to his place for sex, because I couldnt get a sitter he said we should make it another night and left. I offered for him to come in and talk, Id make food or we could watch a movie. He just said we will make it another night. Am I right to be pissed? I only him see him two to 3 times a week.
He isn't looking to have a serious relationship, He is looking to have a sexual relationship. This may explain why he didn't meet your children, He clearly didn't want to get involved.
If you read what you wrote, It sounds as if he doesn't want your company. Mind as well say.... he is using you.
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So i am 16 and moved to this state 3 years ago and one of my guy friends has had a crush on me ever since i moved here. I dated him once and it only lasted 3 months. I only see him as a friend and nothing more but he just cant accept that. I have had a few boyfriends since i last dated him and i am currently in a happy relationship with another guy. My problem is, my friend is ALWAYS telling me how much he likes me and how he cant get over me and stuff like that. He says that over texts although when we talk in person he just acts like a normal friend. I have told him a million times I ONLY LIKE HIM AS A FRIEND AND I HAVE A BOYFRIEND. he just doesnt get it -_-. Its been going on for 3 years and i want to keep him as my friend cuz he is fun to hang out with and nice but what do i do??
He has become obsessive and compulsive, He is using his feelings to bully you.
It may be time to cut the friendship, It is never okay to disrespect someone never mind harrass them over a period of 3 years. Time to let the fish go
Why do guys always try to pull my pants/shorts down? Like no kidding this is the fourth guy now to try and do it. Like i will be at his house and then we go upstairs and he will just quickly reach out and try ro yank them down but i dont let it happen
Yep I agree with Solid!
This is where I would slap the fool in the face for sexual harassment.
In the meantime you wear a belt. Dump the guy and find someone who respects you!
I'm an 18 year old male, and I could never even think about young girls sexually. But the other day at work, a girl came in with her parents and was clearly(by looking at her face and size) about 13 years old. However, she was very developed in every other way, quite well endowed, in good shape, in dressed in an outfit that complimented her features VERY well, and I couldn't help but be attracted to her. I would never try anything, because I know that it would be horribly wrong. But does the fact that I couldn't get her out of my head make me a monster? Or is it normal to feel that way under those circumstances?
EDIT: I judged what you have written, I wrote what I thought. I am sorry you are not man enough to handle that.
An 18 year old man should not be looking at a 13 year old child. I do not care how developed a child appears to be, She us a minor and you are an adult.
I know you said you would never try anything which would ve a very smart move. I would highly recommend you keep reminding yourself tgat these are KIDS. Go for older woman 18-21
Well I met this guy 2 years ago, and if I knew anything about it I would say it was love at first sight, which would probably explain why I still think about him all the time, and I've had a boyfriend and been married since then. well this guy and I have had our ins and outs, he has a girlfriend that doesn't want him talking to me or something so he doesn't, but I'm one of those people if you really want something then don't give up, so I would text him. and he'd either text back or not. I've been through a lot emotionally with this guy. we hung out one time when we first met and we kissed but that's about it. we talked all the time but decided we both didn't want a long distance relationship cause I lived 4 hours away, I was only visiting family when I met him. well he got a girlfriend so we quit talking so much, and on and off we went. well the last time I texted him like a month ago I was kind of a bitch cause I was pissed off and he told me I should just move on, well I thought I did, and then I was driving home from work the other day and he popped into my head out of no where, well my mum says he's my "Noah" (the notebook) whether I like it or not, he's always going to be in my heart. and so I texted him and he actually replied he was being a little short so I cut the conversation short, well the next day I sent him a picture of me, to see If it was even him texting me, and he never replied so I texted him yesterday and asked if he got my picture he said no, so he had me send it to his email, then he sent me a couple pictures of him. I asked if he could call me cause I was smoking a cigarette and I don't like smoking alone outside and night, and he called me, we were on the phone for almost a hour, and he was nagging me about how I'm old enough its about time I fly the coop, and go live life. that I should go to LA (which is were he is) then he started asking me what I want from him, cause I'm so consistent, he tried to help me break it down so I can figure out why I just cant shake him cause any other guy I can. well I told him cause I think I still have feelings for him and I'm just trying to find out, and he said I fucked a lot of stuff up for him with past relationships I've caused them fights and stuff cause I texted him, and I don't understand how that's my fault cause all id say is hi, unless he told them about me or they were super insecure I don't know why someone would get so upset from a hello. well anyways towards the end of the conversation he was saying that he needed to think about things, he's glad we had this talk but he needed to get off the phone and just text me, cause I was driving him crazy. he said he thinks rationally and I was making him think crazy shit, he doesn't understand, but it wasn't bad. so I shouldn't worry I just needed to let him think so we got off the phone and he texted me and said he just didn't want to get all emotional and stuff on a phone call and he was still attracted to me, but well figure it out. I don't know what to do. my mom and grandma say that maybe I never left his mind either and that's why its driving him crazy cause I'm stuck in his mind, but my dad said to leave him alone, cause it doesn't sound like its going to go well or something, that I shouldn't try and persue a relationship with him.
I'm so confused, and I'm so sorry this is so long.
I am sorry if this sounds rude, but you need to back off.
This guy told you that you need to move on, He is in a relationship with someone. It is a nice thought to not give up on things but it is a whole different ball game to try and sabotage someone's relationship. Your persistence isn't paying off, It is annoying him.
Sometimes we need to except we can't always have things in life. This guy moved on and you need to except and respect that. Coming between his relationship is going to cause him to resent you. He is TAKEN, Sorry for the caps but you should ve getting a hint...
Hi , Im 13 years old and I just started smoking marijuana this year . My friends don't know about it , nobody does . I went to school high one time and everyone thought I was just tired and left me alone . I don't know if I should tell people my secret or not . Im scared it will spill out to my parents or something .
You should be a bit paranoid
Marijuana is illegal, It is not something we just do because in the law approvals. Also, You are a minor to top it off.
What exactly is your reasoning to do drugs anyway? You are 13!! Wake up....
Hey ok so i know this probably sounds lame but if you could take the time to help me out i would REALLY appreciate it!(:
Well im going through a tricky time right now. I have a boyfrind he is 17 and im 16 and we have been dating for almost a year. We text alot but mostly at night when we are not so busy. He stays up really late like me, but anyways sometimes we will be texting and then out of nowhere he just stops for like 20 minutes or more and i always ask, what are you doing? And he says "not much". Its so frusterating and i have talked with him about it many timea and told him how i feel. He always apologizes but he still does it. Like right now for example we were textng and he hasnt responded to me in 2 hours! What should i do about this? And also can anyobe please explain to me why boys do this? Thanks!
Not all guys like texting all the time. As far as I am aware most guys would rather have a face to face conversation. I would stop being so paranoid about it, Asking him what he is doing because he is not replying back in 2 seconds is annoying after awhile. Wait until he text you, See if he does.
Try talking on the phone instead of texting him. How often do you both spend time together? Perhaps he doesn't have much to talk about. Let him come to you instead of always initiating the conversation.
I got my report card today, I got 1 F, 2 As, And 2 Bs. My mom is freaking out on me, and I've never gotten a bad grade before, I'm an A-B student. But Algebra 2 made no sense to me. I struggled with it and my mom is talking about grounding me the whole summer and all this stuff. I don't know what to do I feel like I've failed at life and that I'm such a moron.
No no no, You are not a moron.
We all are not perfect. When I was in high school I had my good and bad subjects. Dont be hard on yourself
Getting A and B grades is better then I ever did. One F is okay. Be happy and just remember to study a little harder nect time but don't beat yourself up.
I am sick to my stomach right now:
Guy that I'm dating who's told me I'm his "dream girl" just LOST IT ON ME for posting on FB that him and I are together because he doesn't want his "EX GF" to find out cuz he "feels bad for her" (they broke up a while back), and DOES NOT WANT ANYONE KNOWING because of his ex gf who is still on his friends list and still has pictures if them together. What do you think of that?
Yet, when they were dating, he had it posted!
We had a huge fight about this before because in my opinion, he shouldn't be concerned what his "EX GF" feels when she finds out he's moved on. He tells me he feels for her. But what about
Leave him and cut contact
This man is more focused on drama then having a real meaningful relationship with someone. Any man that wabts to get serious isn't going to be playing a ballgame with his exes as cheerleaders. He is a waste of time and sadly a grown man who is more immature then my 13 year old nephew. So you handle it by blocking him.
My friend had a huge fight yesterday.
And he told me, today he's been coughing up blood. Not like when you slit, then it's a bit red, really he coughs the blood up. Should I be worried? :s
I told him to see a doctor but he refused.
Does the fight cause this?
He needs to see a doctor as a sign of coughing up blood can be caused from internal bleeding.
Am I weird? All the people at my school and most my friends say that I'm mental and should be put into a mental facility. They all think that I'm weird and odd because I don't act like everyone else. I'm confused. I'm a free-spirit but I don't know what is wrong. Please help...thank you!
There is nothing wrong with you, You are your own person.
Why do we all have to be the same? I am certainly not like most people either.
I am an introvert, Socializing almost seems like a burden. I would much rather be alone then go out with friends.
I am also very talkative with people who I am close with. People tend to think I am odd too.
I think it is awesome when someone can be themselves rather then trying to be someone they are not. You are unique and there is nothing wrong with it. Be proud to be who you are.
After having sex an usual thing happened my husband after ejaculation a few moments later pees inside of me could this help to in pregnant me or wash his semen out we want to get pregnant HELP!!
No it won't help you become pregnant but it could certainly cause a massive infection..
I just got a retainer today after a year and a half of braces. my retainer is the see through one without any metal. I have just spent a week after they took my braces off without anything on my teeth, no brace, no retainer (it took them a week to make the retainer). and when i put the retainer on it didnt really hurt. it felt a bit uncomfortable but only for the first 2 hours or so. so doesnt this mean that my teeth dont move as mush as other people's, because after having a week to move out of place, they remained pretty neat. if this is so, does it mean i can go easy on the 24/7 six month rule of wearing my retainer? if my teeth dont move that much, can i wear them only at night? taking them off and washing them every time i eat will be a huge pain, and ive learnt that my orthodontists exaggerate a little - i didnt listen to many of their rules on braces.
I had a retainer years ago, I wore it during the day and let it soak over night in proxide.
its been far too long since me and my ex broke up, a year.. and i still haven't moved on, i don't understand why? i obviously can't forget him, and i know he probably doesn't even care anymore.
That feeling is still there.. theres moments i just think of him constantly, I don't know if its the memories that im in love with stil or? , I miss the old him but i know you can never go back and fix something that is broken now.
A few weeks ago everything was going good, our conversations were really good like the old times as friends, and now he ignores me or he replies cold.. I think hes found someone or likes someone?
I go out, ive met other people but i still can't move on and i really wanttt to :/
The reason you can't move on is because you are still in contact with him. You are allowing yourself misery and are preventing yourself from moving forward.
Him acting cold towards you, Obviously he has no desire to really have any sort of relationship with you. It is unfortunate that he can't be upfront about it, but you should ve getting the bigger picture.
Forget him, He is the past. Stop contacting him and move on with your life. Start over
Never allow a man to give you the power to crawl back, Women shall have more backbone then that
can you get pregeant from having humping your pillow
No
I'm 17 year old male. and I wanna get it on with a female independent escort girl. Is there anyone that you know of or any where you can suggest me on finding one that will at least consider it? I don't want anything like find a nice girl and date them or anything like that. I want an older lady that will pleasure me!?! For a decent price of course! Please help me!! (Not worried about race or size. Just no STD's.)
Do you know the chances are of contracting STDs from escorts are ridiculously high? This is also not only an extremely dangerous thing to get yourself into but folks have been robbed and even murdered this way?
Fact is, You are a minor. Not many people are going to risk it like Solid said below. This is a bit of a desperate attemp kid, Masturbation is a healthier and much safer way of handling things.
Trust me...You don't want to go down that road