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dont have feelings for him but he doesnt accept it
Hey guys
So i am 16 and moved to this state 3 years ago and one of my guy friends has had a crush on me ever since i moved here. I dated him once and it only lasted 3 months. I only see him as a friend and nothing more but he just cant accept that. I have had a few boyfriends since i last dated him and i am currently in a happy relationship with another guy. My problem is, my friend is ALWAYS telling me how much he likes me and how he cant get over me and stuff like that. He says that over texts although when we talk in person he just acts like a normal friend. I have told him a million times I ONLY LIKE HIM AS A FRIEND AND I HAVE A BOYFRIEND. he just doesnt get it -_-. Its been going on for 3 years and i want to keep him as my friend cuz he is fun to hang out with and nice but what do i do??
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Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
Do you use him? Do you get attention from him when you are down? Talk about your feelings and romantic problems with him? Ask him to do little jobs for you - dive you places, buy you stuff? Is he your plan B when your b/f is to busy to take you out?
If so: knock it off.
And tell him to get onto advicenators and PM MrWombat.
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He has become obsessive and compulsive, He is using his feelings to bully you.
It may be time to cut the friendship, It is never okay to disrespect someone never mind harrass them over a period of 3 years. Time to let the fish go
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He's not acting like a friend when he does things like this. It's unfair to you and it can get really annoying.
I'm sure he can be a great friend when he's not obsessing over you but if he can't accept that he's only ever going to be just a friend, he can't be your friend. He can't just beg you all the time or try to manipulate you or try to make you feel sorry for him because that's what he's trying to do.
He really does have to give it up.
Since you've already told him that you don't like him like that and you only see him as a friend, you're going to have to stop talking to him. Maybe then he'll get the hint. Then he'll wonder why you're not talking to him and you'll tell him that you only like him as a friend and he's not getting that.
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He's not your friend. He's a bully.
He's taken his crush on you and is trying to use it as a weapon to beat you down until you say yes.
It's not just unfriendly, it's rude and its cruel.
You tell him as much. Tell him he is being cruel and a bully and it needs to stop. Stop letting him disrespect and bully you because you are afraid to hurt his feelings.
If he can't stop - stop being his friend.
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The best way to turn off a guy who won't take no for an answer is not to tell him you see him only as a friend. Tell him, "I like you like I would like a brother."
You say or text that line just as I typed it to any guy and you will shoot him down faster than any missile would shoot down a fighter jet. The last thing any guy wants to hear is he is seen as some girls brother.
What you are saying to him in not so many words is: I see you as a member of my family. You will always be someone I love and trust as a family member, a confidant. What he also hears is that he will never ever have a chance at love or sex with you which at his age is what he is looking for.
I can't be certain that he does not truly have feelings for you. I am certain that his feelings are more lustful than actual love. For guys his age still think more with the head in their pants then the one between their shoulders.
My advice is to tell him you think of him as a brother. If you do this it is my belief that the problems you write about will disappear almost overnight.
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