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This guy's a real "GEM"
I am sick to my stomach right now:
Guy that I'm dating who's told me I'm his "dream girl" just LOST IT ON ME for posting on FB that him and I are together because he doesn't want his "EX GF" to find out cuz he "feels bad for her" (they broke up a while back), and DOES NOT WANT ANYONE KNOWING because of his ex gf who is still on his friends list and still has pictures if them together. What do you think of that?
Yet, when they were dating, he had it posted!
We had a huge fight about this before because in my opinion, he shouldn't be concerned what his "EX GF" feels when she finds out he's moved on. He tells me he feels for her. But what about <Y FEELINGS??? His CURRENT GF!!! I think something's totally wrong for him caring so much for "hurting his ex gf's feelings" from her knowing about us!
And keep in mind, he's a dirty sex nut (I love sex too) but he has these pics of hot girls on his FB, not to mention pics of hima dn his "EX WIFE AND HIM" whom he hates and still has pics of this ex gf of his. he also has a lot of hot young girls on his friends list aaaand, besides this fight we're having about him getting so pissed off at me for posting our relationship on FB, I saw a post on his wall about sex nicknames and the girl who posted it on his wall says "I thought of you when I saw this" and I commented, "Funny, those are my nicknames he calls me!" She replies, "He calls me those too!" So I lost it on him and he has the nerve to call me a WACK JOB and that I need to see a shrink!
Tells me I need to chill and collect myself. Told me that I've betrayed him for trying to post that him and I are dating again, because he doesn't want his "EX" to find out. Now, you guys please tell me, am I wrong for being very upset with him? Or am I crazy? I have my 8 year old son to think about, and my sanity. My gut tells me I shouldn't be dating him. And him and I are going on 40! To me, this guy is like an immature highschool JERK!
17 of my guy friends (most are mine and my bf's mutual school mates but I didn't tell them who it is when asked for their opinions). And ALL OF THEM SAID that he's a jerk, a dick, a loser, he's hiding things from me, that he's probably talking up other girls on his FB so he doesn't want our relationship posted and that he should be concerned about MY FEELINGS rather than his poor little ex.
Soooo, I need more opinions. I honestly think the same as my guy friends. My bf's playing immature boy games.
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I said your boyfriend was wrong.
I said you were not wrong.
I also said you are both nuts. Nothing about your feedback to me suggests I was wrong. You have totally lost it. Dump him, since he is clearly not making you less nuts, and fin some peace.
This isn't 'immature boy games' - women are just as guilty if not more so of these sorts of things - it's just immature.
You are wrong that he shouldn't care what his ex thinks - She's a human being after all - would you want him to at least consider your feelings if he was your ex? It's okay for him to not want to cause her pain, or to invite her drama.
But he was wrong that those impulses (not wanting to hurt an ex, or have them cause drama) should stop you from posting about your relationship. It doesn't mean you did anything wrong. It's just something he (and his ex) need to suck up and deal with. You two are dating. That's just the truth and it's going to be out there.
But in the end, I agree with you:
You are both nuts. This question is nuts. These fights are nuts. This is a bunch of highschool drama and it's stupid that at 40 you two are having these sorts of fights.
So dump him and try to be better with someone else.
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You aren't crazy, you are right that he shouldn't be doing this though.
His past should stay in the past. He shouldn't have pictures of him and his ex and he shouldn't be so concerned of who sees he's in a relationship.
It does sound like he's lying about more and you're old enough to be done with high school games. He's stuck in the past and you need to move on because you don't need unnecessary drama.
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Leave him and cut contact
This man is more focused on drama then having a real meaningful relationship with someone. Any man that wabts to get serious isn't going to be playing a ballgame with his exes as cheerleaders. He is a waste of time and sadly a grown man who is more immature then my 13 year old nephew. So you handle it by blocking him.
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