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What we do is determined by what we are. What we are is determined by what we think. What we think is determined by what we experience. What we experience is determined by what we are exposed to and what we do with that exposure.
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Life is like a book with many different chapters. Some tell of tragedy, others of triumph. Some chapters are dull and ordinary, others intense and exciting. The key to being a success in life is to never stop on a difficult page, to never quit on a tough chapter. Champions have the courage to keep turning the pages because they know a better chapter lies ahead.
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Because you're able to do it and because you have the right to do it, doesn't mean it's right to do it.
(Dr.LAURA SCHLESSINGER)
We are born with our eyes closed and our mouths open, and we spend our whole lives trying to reverse that mistake of nature.
(DALE E.TURNER)
You can have anything you want if you want it desperately enough. You must want it with an inner exuberance that erupts through the skin and joins the energy that created the world.
(SHEILAH GRAHAM)
We all have the ability. The difference is how we use it.
(STEVIE WONDER)
Everything is a once-in-a-lifetime experience.
Every great mistake has a halfway moment, a split second when it can be recalled and perhaps remedied.
One person can make a difference and every person should try.
The one thing worse than being alone is not being alone and wishing you were.
Real difficulties can be overcome, it is only the imaginary ones that are unconquerable.
(THEODORE N.VAIL)
The goal in marriage is not to think alike, but to think together.
(ROBERT C. DODDS)
Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not, but remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.
(EPICURUS)
When you look in the mirror, you are looking at the problem, but remember, you are also looking at the solution.
Live your life, so you don't have to hide your diary.
Dream what you dare to dream. Go where you want to go. Be what you want to be.
(CALVIN COOLIDGE)
The first thing of importance is to have confidence in yourself, in your abilities.
(KATHARINE GIBBS)
Become a 'possibilitarian'. No matter how dark things seem to be or actually are, raise your sights and see the possibilities-always see them, for they are always there.
(NORMAN VINCENT PEALE)
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'The easiest thing in the world is to come up with an excuse not to do something. I found that the most important thing in life is to stop saying,'I wish,' and to start saying,'I will.'
'Before there can be wonders, there must be wonder.'
'Whenever I pursued my dreams, I discovered something astonishing-I discovered myself. My secret has been to consider nothing impossible. Then to treat possibilities as probabilities.'
'Passion is everything.'
'I learned that there were two ways I could live my life: following my dreams or doing something else. Dreams aren't a matter of chance, but a matter of choice. When I dream, I believe I am rehearsing my future.'
Miracles do not happen in contradiction to nature, but only in contradiction to that which is known to us of nature.
(SAINT AUGUSTINE)
The world is composed of givers and takers... the takers may eat better, but the givers sleep better.
Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired.
(ROBERT FROST)
Love is a fruit in season at all times and within reach of every hand.
(MOTHER TERESA)
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ok my friend and her boyfriend have on & off for about a year, and they both lost ther verginity to each other. But after they started having sex he only talk to her when he wants to have sex. And when she tells him that she loves him he never say it back. Hdoesn't even call her his girlfriend and everytime she brings up love or anything like that he gets pissed at her. the only time he is not mad at her is when she is not around or when there having sex. I don't have the heart to tell her this but I think he might be useing ehr for sex. What do you think, any help i would really love!
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hey,
thats really a tough situation, and i feel really bad for your friend, and this guy is most definitely using her,because he found out that she agreed to do it with him the first couple of times,so he started using her to do it more often.
And although i am sure that if you make any attempt of pointing that out to your friend, she will say that your jealous and she'll get mad and pissed off, and then she'll find out that herself later on, and she'll come and apologize to you. End of chapter. End of story. that is exactly what will happen, and that is exactly what i want you to do, is to ask your friend to sit alone and think about everything thats happening and how he is using her, and he never said i love you or i miss you ,and he doesn't talk except if he wants to do it with her.
So tell her all that, and also tell her that you understand that she loves him, but unfortunately he treats her really bad and is using her,and the fact that he doesn't even call her his girlfriend. Besides, your her best friend, and you should be there for her in such a situation.
so goodluck, and if you need any further help, please be free to contact me.
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Okay so my boyfriend and I had this big thing well I may of over-reacted but I feel as if I was in the place to just because of the situation.
So my boyfriend and I have been dating nearly 10monthes. When we first met he did all that chewing tobacco also know as *dip*, well I told him I didnt like it an stuff an he quit it. Thing is before like his friends would do it around him an he never let it bug him he would just go get some sunflower seeds or ya know so he wouldnt have to think about wanting to dip.
Well seems like I was at a ball game with him an his sister was like *how do you feel about travis dipping* i was like umm last I checked he didnt do that he quit when we met. And by the way his sister is like 35, so like his sister was like well i dont know I seen it in his pocket today an askd him what it was an told him that its not good for him. And I was like i dont know ill have to talk to him then. SO yeah we were in his truck after the game and I was kinda silent so he knew something was wrong! And he asked me an I told him what I heard from his sister an he was like * you dont understands its a bad habit to break blah blah* so like idk why its such a BAD habit to break if he hadnt did it in all the monthes we have been together? Like what makes him change his mind now? And like i dont know I got real upset and was crying because he lied like we made a promise NOT to do that, an he always avoided dipping when his frineds had it or offered it. But am I in the wrong? Like i dont know I was so upset and crying because I feel as if he lied to me and broke some trust!? So am I in the wrong and would you in my position feel the same way as I did?
Thanks for the advice! (link)
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Hey,
I've read your problem and i totally understand how you feel, and if i was in the same position as yours i would have felt really terrible too and would have kept crying.
But first of all, there is a point that i need to clarify to you, umm... some people take up a certain habit and they keep on doing it for a long while, and then later on when you tell them to quit it, they can't and its really tough for them because its something that they have been doing for long now and they got used to it.
Second of all, your boyfriend really does love you to the extint that when you asked him to quit this shit, he did it immediately and he listened to you, although it was really hard for him. And then when you found out , then he was doing it again, any other boyfriend could have just broke up with you and told you to bug off and not tell him what to do. On the other hand, your boyfriend called you and said that he loved you which is something very loving and caring for him to do.
Third of all, you are most definitely not wrong in anything you have done,because i respect the fact that you are a respectable person and you do not want your boyfriend to be doing such an action.
So your not wrong, and i don't mean anything, but he's not wrong too, because he started something and he tried hard to quit for you and he stayed for several months without doing this shit,but then he couldn't take it no longer and he couldn't resist the temptation when his friends just kept doing it infront of him.
Therefore, i suggest that you try and calm down a little and consider what i said and what i advised you with, and then call him or meet up with him or anything you want, and talk about this together, because your not wrong in this, no your not, and he's not wrong too. This is just a big old habit that he can't get over and he tried too,which was very nice of him, but he failed. So now you should talk to him , and offer to help him quit this thing only if he promises to try and quit it too.
So goodluck, and if you have any further troubles,concerns or worries. please be free to contact me.
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15/Female
Are there guys, around the age of 15 or 16, who just want a relationship of holding hands, kissing and making out (but not sex) anymore? I don't think I even know any guys who want relationships like that. Do I just know the wrong guys or is the majority wanting more?
Thanks! :) (link)
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Hey,
i read your problem , and i totally agree about the fact that most of the boys now in that age are all obssessed about sex,smoking and drugs. They just like to hit on girls and date the slutty ones.
One the other hand, there are respectable boys who like respectable girls, but i guess that they are rare these days.lol.
But don't worry, you are not knowing the wrong guys, and its not something that your doing wrong,but if you try and look for other guys, you'll have to find some who don't care about his shit.
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my period is really heavy like the first 3 days! well i dont care during the day because i wear tampons but at night i wear pads. i usually have to wear like 4 seriously big pads because its so heavy at night and sometimes that even leaks through! i heard that wearing a tampon for a long time like overnight is bad for you and you are at higher risk for that TSS or whatever! soo is it? or what should i do? im even on birth control lol and im 16/f. and thats why i went on birth control because i thought it would help my heavy flow but it doesnt seem to work. (link)
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Hey,
i've read your problem , and i think it is so natual to have a heavy flow. There are alot of people i know that complain of having a heavy flow, and especially when they wake up in the morning and find their underwear and pants and sometimes the sheets and blankets soaked,but there is nothing to be done about it, its not abnormal, so its fine, and all you have to do is to try and wear as much pads as you can, but don't wear tampons because yes they aren't that good for you. so goodluck , i guess,and if you need any other help please be free to contact me.
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My dad pasted away from leukemia 4 months and 10 days ago (March 1st). Well right now, we're (my mom, brother, and I) in Ireland visiting family. We've been here for about 3 weeks. Well for then past 2 weeks my mom has been acting very different and forgetful. When she goes to do the dishes or something, when she's done, she'll come and sit down then get up and say that she needs to do the dishes. When she gets into the kitchen and sees that there are no dishes (because she already did them) she'll ask "Who did the dishes? I was about to do them!" It's so weird. She'll also repeats herself all the time and never wants to go out or do anything.
We're all so worried about her but we don't know what to do. My family members want us to get her to see a specialist here in Ireland but my brother and I want to cut our trip short and deal with it once we get back to the states. We don't know which is better.
At first we thought she's like this because of the loss of my dad but she's gone over 4 months without anything weird like this so why now? Any help?
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Hey,
First of all, i am so sorry about what happened to your dad, and i hope your fine and feeling better.
Second of all, there is a point i need to clarify to you. When a person dies,(for example a brother), so his sister cries for a day or two because of his loss,and then she shows that everything is okay and that she's over it. Then later on, in a months or two,mabye three or four, she starts acting really weird,an it seems like she doesn't care about anything anymore,and that everything is the same to her, and she's just acting really strange, and seeming to be inconsiderate and forgetful. But the question is, why is she acting weird although its been 4 months now since her brother's death,and everything had seemed to be okay at first? or should i say, why is she acting weird although its been 4 months now since your fathers death, and everythign had seemed to be okay at first?
Allow me to anwer that question for you.
During that 4 months, she could have seemed fine to you, but deep inside her, her husband was so so special to her and she loved him dearly, that when she lost him, she started feeling useless and helpless without him, and everything she did with him when he was alive, now has no meaning for her when she does it alone. She has no one to talk to as much as she had talked to your father, and she has no one to go out with as much as she did with your father. you see what i am trying to say? Losing a person is the hardest and toughest experience that any person could go through, because when he loses someone very close to his heart, he turns into a depressed, miserable, melancholic, and desperate person who has no hope in life anymore . And unfortunately , that is how your mother feels.And what she really needs is most definitely not a specialist, because if you do let her go to one, then its just as if your assuming that she's crazy or something,but she's not ,she's just depressed and hopeless,and what she really needs is to feel that someone shares this depression and miserable feeling as she does, and that there is another person whose really upset about what happened to your father.
There fore what i am trying to say is, that i need you and your brother to try and take your mother out of the house for some fresh air, which make her feel better, and then if you can cut your trip and get back to the states, then that would be better, and sit with her and talk to her, and tell her that you know exactly how you feel and that you are so upset for what happened to your father, and that she's not the only person who was put in that situation or has gone throught that experience ,but that you and your brother are there for her,and if the three of you stay together than you can help each other to overcome what happened, and tell her that she shouldn't lose hope or be that depressed, and that she has to try hard to move on and try to cheer up a little, because that is probably what her husband would have wanted her to do. And listen to her, and listen to what she has to say, and if she wants to cry, and so be it, because the first step of making someone feel better, is to listen to this person and let him say everything he wants to say. So good luck, and take care, and if you need any other advice or if you have any further troubles, problems or worries and concerns, please be free to contact me.
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Hi,
My best friends moved away last year and when they came to visit for the first time ever I kinda cried whenever they had to leave! I miss them so much! What should I do to get them to come over more and to stop missing them so much?? Thanks! (link)
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hey,
i know how you feel , when a really close person to your heart moves away, and your just stuck here alone, feeling rather miserable and lonely without that person. But its okay,we all love our friends and care fo them and always want to be with them. But sometimes, it happens that a friend has to move away, but so what? i mean.. i understand how special she was and that you totally miss her, and thats why you should try hard not to think of it,and occupy your time with different activities to do, and work on your hobbies,and you could even make some other friends and get close to them and hang out with them.
And at the same time,you could still email your best friend, call her (if you can) once and a while,and chat with her and you could even use webcam. to see her, and you can simply look forward for her visits. i know that there are times when you will cry and feel lonely and really miss your friend and want her to be here with you, but there are also times when you'll be having fun and laughing and joking with other people and hanging out with really nice friends. Mabye you won't find them as special as she was to you , but they could be fine enough.
And you can do that, because she's out their in her new home and new school and she's making friends and having fun and hanging out and doing this and that, and there are also times when she sits and thinks of you. So go on, and do what you always used to do, and then come at the end of the day, and send her a message or email or chat, so you could keep her updated and i am sure she'll do the same. But don't worry, not just because she moved out,it doesn't mean that your going to lose her.
So take care and try to consider what i said, and please be free to contact me if you need any other help.
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15/Female
I guess I am really lonely/bored. I am "popular" and friends with a lot of different people but they always seem to be busy, working or on vacation.
I know I'm feeling desperate but I have been invited to some big parties but haven't gone since I don't feel like lying to my parents (even if I didn't drink or blaze I can't go home smelling like that). I'm afraid that I will get bored enough of sitting at home doing nothing that I will go to the party and get myself into a lot of trouble.
I guess I'm asking what I can do to meet new people if I can't sign up for camp halfway through summer, no sports teams are running, I can't get a ride anywhere to volunteer, I'm home alone all day so I basically can't get a ride anywhere and my parents don't want me to work yet.
I really just don't want to waste the summer being alone.. I spend enough time doing that (I'm an only child). What can I possibly do? I know every person in my grade in my highschool it seems hopeless.
Thanks. (link)
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Hey,
I read your problem and it seems to me really tough and lonely, thats why i am going to make some suggestions to help you.
First of all, there is no way that you are the only person in the whole entire school whose lonely ,bored and can't find someone to go out with. I mean... your popular and you know alot of people,so why don't you try and call anyone, and i am sure that there will be someone who will agree to go out with you. Besides, its also impossible that you friends are busy all day long and during all the days of the week, they have to have a holiday to go out and get some fresh air, so try calling them and asking about them and suggesting that you guys can all go out together on a weekend or something.
More and more, you can try and get and online volunteer job, like for example this website, there ar alot of people who come here and register to be counsellers just to kill time and help others, and there is alot more to do on the internet. Moreover, you could try to see what you like to do or what your hobbies are and try to work on them more often.
If you have good neighbours and you know them well, and if they have anyone your age, you could be friends and hang out.
Last but not least, i am sure that your parents had refused for you to go to the party and to get a part time job,but i am also sure that they most probably have sometime for you when they come home from work, so talk to them and tell them how lonely you are, and how you stay alone in the house and you have no one to talk to or hang out with, and suggest mabye that you and your family could on vacation together, and they'll understand and mabye even conside it.
So goodluck, and if you need anything else, please contact me.
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Hi am thirteen and Im a female I Wanted to know if you can get a job at my age to work at a animal shelter and volunteer. can you tell me or help me thank you. (link)
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Hey,
First of all, its really nice of you to be volunteering in such jobs and stuff. i'm sure you like animals.
Second of all, there are millions of people who volunteer to work at such places when they are 13 years old. But there are only certain animal shelters that can accept you to work there.
And its really nice of you, because alot of people usually ask for volunteers because they need help and their are lots of work to be done.
So it would be better if you had some connections, or you if there was someone you knew there. But its okay, and yes there is not a problem if you get a job at your age to work in this place.
Lola
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how do you download movies to your computer? (link)
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Hey,
There alot of ways to download movies your computer. First of all, you could simply use www.yahoo.com, and in the search engine, type down "free download of movies" and then you can click on any link, its simple and i do it practically twice a week.
Other than that, there are certain programmes that can be used for dowloading movies on your computer, such as one called Azureus. you can search for it or get it from anywhere. But i guess the yahoo one was easier. So goodluck and if you need any other help , then please contact me.
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my boyfriend is about to leave for basic and i want to get him something he can use daily or see or whatever to remind him of me...any ideas? (link)
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hey,
I have a suggestion about something boys usually like, so i guess he would to, and in the same time, it could be something to remember you with. you can get him a silver chain( necklace ) you know one of these which boys usually wear, its cute and he can wear it all the time to remember you.
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I've been going thru a rough time with losing almost all of my best friends to drugs, sex, and alcohol these past few weeks. Losing them has been so terrible, we've just found the end to our 5 year friendship between the six of us.
I've developed several large cold sores with horrible swelling above my lip. I'm also getting a sty under my eye, and my eye twitches alot too. Big headaches and stomach aches are also becoming a problem. My doctor confirmed these are just stress problems with losing my friends, but what should I do? I honestly cannot name two friends I have right now, nor am I ready to start school again alone.
What should I do? Not having friends has also resulted in loss of appetite, me and these girls were just so tight, and now, we've changed so much, it hurts so bad to lose them. (link)
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hey,
I totally understand what your going through, because i have been in exactly the same problem, and i used to waste my time doing lots of wrong stuff( but i can't mention now), and that resulted of me losing my bestest of friends whom i had for six whole years, we were also so close and always there with each other. But then when i started to back out because i was too occupied with other stuff, thats when they started fighting with me, and yet in the same time, they supported me, and told me that what i was doing is wrong and that i should listen to them and they would advise me, and more and more,only because they were really loyal friends.
So don't think that your a bad friend, don't ever think so, because i did too in that situation, and i ended up losing hope in myself and in my life and it had bad consequences. And dont hate your friends for not sticking around so long, because you did and either you listened to them advising you before or not,that doesn't make you anything of a bad friend.
Every person in this life was meant to do mistakes and go through tough and hard experiences, or else, how would we know that its right or wrong? how would we know that choosing some drugs and alcohol and sex over my friends was wrong, except if i was put in the situation itself to lose them, and be totally all alone?
First of all, you have to deal with this drug/sex/alcohol problem because Number 1,it doesn't help in anything and its no use to you in life,number 2, i think your best friends are so much important than wasting your time doing these stuff all alone, and number 3, why don't you take a second of your time, and look how these stuff have totally ruined your life and broke up a 5 year old amazing friendship between most probably, the greatest and most specail people to you and the closest to your life. And for answering this question, it doesn't need advice, it just needs a loyal friend and a good,caring and loving person, which is exactly you from deep deep inside you, thats who you really are , and thats the person who spent five years with her friend,but its most definitely not the one who chose some drugs or sex of her friends.So answer that question, and look deep deep inside, and i'm that you'll be throwing all this shit back from where it came from , and you'll be picking up the phone and apologizing to your friends, and they will accept your apology after begging them, and telling them that you were wrong ,and you should have been there with them instead of doing these stuff, and not only that, but they will support you and help you with the pain, and they will be really sweet about it. Because the most important thing in life, that can make things better, is for a person to feel quilty and sorry for what he did, and know that he was wrong and apologize to the others,and thats what your gonna do.
Because if you weren't a good person,or loyal to your friends, then you wouldn't have come her and posted that question and asked for advice.
and let me tell you something else, there comes a time when every person changes and usually this change ruins everything instead of fixing it, but as i told you,we were meant to mix mistakes and changes in our life just to learn from them.
So as i told you, try quitting these stuff, and another one or two of the questions i asked, and you''ll know what to do,and sit quietly with yourself an figure things out. But you know what will help more, to call your friends, and tell them how you are quitting all that sit because you were wrong, and tell them how your doing it all from them , and because you want them back,and now you need there help to help you quit these stuff, and believe it or not, they will accept your apology and will help you.
Finally, you are a good and loyal person, and you have really sweet and amazing friends, so don't lose that, or waste it one shit, because you happen to have something that millions of people in this world wish every day to have it.
Oh! and about these headaches and stomaches an stuff, try to consult your doctor again, an mabye he could prescribe a medicine or something that could help or ease the pain.
So take care, and if you need any further
questions or if you have any worries or concerns, please be free to contact me anytime.
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HELP!!!I luv my brother so much well hes cute major but hes a spoiled brat and everyones likes him and I guess thats why hes spoiled.I cant controll myself and yes hes 4 years old.
I dont know if I should keep hugin him or ignore him 4 being spoild.
HELP!!! (link)
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Hey,
I know how it is to love this cute little boys and stuff, but in my opinion, I think that you should neither keep on huggin him day and night and neither should you ignore him 4 being spoilt,because it wasn't his fault that he was a spoilt brat, to begin with, but the people who raised him, loved him , cared about him,and gave him everything he wanted and pleased, they are the ones who got him to be in the postition of a spoilt kid.So, as a result, it would be very unfair if you let go and ingnore him, and i mean.. he's 4 years old, meaning that he most probably hasn't even developed a personality and he's still a kid and doesn't know anything.
So yes you can kiss him all you want, hug him all you want, play with him all you want and you can also think that he's the cutest baby you've seen on earth, but don't take a step back and ignore him, because then it would be very unfair to him. But if you stay and go on, then he'd grow up and remember you as his favorite sister, and you could always be there together and spend time together and love each other so much.
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ok...here is how it is...i used to be a happygolucky child then my cousin changed and i acted cool like her but i was so young people thought it was cute...but now i am wearing pink clothes...listening to green day....and hard rock!!!!!! what is wrong with me? and sometimes i want to dye my hair black somtimes i come to my sences and say ..no i would look bad with it...then i turn goth and get moody...then another i am happy sweet loving child..which should i choose..and why am i going through this because i need to make a decision because i am getting new clothes and it would be stupid to be totally opposite..my friends think i am weird because i always have opposite feelings one day and another..goth..prep..punk...prep..punk..goth...it changes...for me i prefer to wear goth clothes but be quiet...but cheeerful i want to have different attitudes ..but then all this mixture is to much...plz..for the sake of pete help me! (link)
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Hey,
i know what your going through, and i understand all those changes that are happening to you.
Every person likes to change his lifestyle and the way he acts and be a different person every now and then, and sometimes he actually impresses other people with this change, but somepeople cross the line, and its like they wake up every day as totally new people,thats why others start to back away, and they just think" what a weird person" , and no offense but i think your just in the same situation, and if you keep on changing like that, people would not want to be your friend, and they wouldn't want to be anywhere around you and they'd think your weird. But you are a really nice and sweet person, so why don't you take advantage of that and show that side of yours.
If you treat people nice, and help them and be friendly and make friends with everyone and just be really sweet and stuff, than all people would really like you and want to be friends with you.
On the other hand, wearing pink clothes and listening to green day, is not really nice and neither is it cool nor punk nor goth nor could it make you feel better than anyone or popular or anything. So without asking for advice, which would you choose to be?
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This guy liked me for several years. He told me and asked me out several times. I started to like him too. We decided to try it out, and for several months we were blissfully happy. And then it all went wrong. I got mad about something I heard about him cheating on me, he got mad I didn't trust him and dumped me on the spot. First issue in our relationship and we're over. He then expected me to be friends with him but I said screw you and blocked him.
My mom reckons he was just using me. I just can't understand why he would, but then why would he give up on me so easily? I know he had liked me a long time yet one bad thing happens and it's over. Just like that. No attempt to work things out.
I tried to make a complete break of him and get him out of my life and for a few weeks I didn't hear from him. Then he messaged me out of the blue and we started talking. And we discussed where it all went wrong, and he said he had been planning to do it for a while but he was going to do in person. Then he said "let's meet and work it all out, perhaps get back together, at least let's be friends" and agreed and went up to him the next day, and he made me feel like a fool by saying there was nothing else to work out. He said he only wanted to be friends again. So I yelled at him that night and said I no longer wanted to try and be friends and he said I was a bitch because we had been friends for so long and I was throwing it all away. I told him it was no longer my concern and if he wanted to work things out, he had to come up to me and do it in person and he was the one who gave up on us so easily. Haven't heard from him since. The truth is, I didn't wanna be friends because I couldn't get over him that way.
We work together so I see him all the time. And I can't get over him even though he's such an asshole and he's probably over me. What should I do? Am I a bitch for not being friends with him? And why would he give up on us so easily if he had liked me so long? That makes me so mad.. I wanted to work things out and he didn't.. I can't figure it out.
thanks. (link)
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Hey,
i read your problem and i totally understand what your going through, and i am sure it all hurts. But first of all, you are most definitely not a bitch for not being friends with him. Because, number 1, the guy practically cheated at you, number 2, he is a big fat liar to say that he didn't and make up a huge fight with about not trusting him, number 3, if there is anyone considered as a bitch in this situation, than thats most definitely him.
second of all, i am sure that you were good friends ,but good friends only, this whole relationship thing between you and him didn't work out, and it was too obvious, he was mean to you and cheated on and betrayed you, and since he did that , then it probably means that he doesn't like you anymore, and a couple of days later and he'll be walking hand in hand with another girl, and you'll see that yourself.
I know it hurts and i know that your mad, and that you wanted to work things out, but don't you think that its really stupid and naive that he asks you to meet up with him to work things out and then the next day he makes a fool out of you and says that there is nothing to be worked out anymore, he's just try to humiliate you and show as if your running after him, but you weren't and you won't anymore. Because that guy is so mean to you and he's treating you in such an unfair way, he loves you for a second and cheats on you the next second. So if you really want advice, then trust me when i tell you to take a step back, and get over him, because he isn't good enough to be your boyfriend, and neither is he good enough to be your friend,so don't give yourself up to someone like him and don't waste your time running after him. Because you are much better and wiser than that. And i may not know you, but i do know that it was really sweet and caring of you to still go and talk to him and think of working things out with him.So just simply get over him ,and move on, and mabye you could know another person and he'd be really nice to you, and someone who'd really deserves such an amazing person like you.
Finally, if you need any other help , please be free to contact me.
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lately ive been so self concious about my nose.i think its really big and is the only thing that stands out on my face. everytime i talk to someone i think they are staring at my nose. im not gonna go and get plastic surgery or anything but is there anyway to boost my self confidence?! im 15/f and not to sound like conceited or anything but alot of people say im so gorgeous and i just dont see it! ive never had a boyfriend and i WAS crushin on this really cute kid but now he has a really really pretty girlfriend. im jealous. for some reason im jealous of so many girls! i know people have said just say your beautiful or name off your good traits but thats not gonna help ME and i know it. ahh any other suggestions? thanks. (link)
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Hey,
I've read your problem and i understand what your going through and how that upsets you alot. Thats why i am gonna tell you somethings that could make you feel much better about yourself.
First of all, there are ways to try and show that you do not really have a big nose ,for example, there are certain makeup shadows that could be applied to show that the nose is not that big, or you if you were glasses, then there is a certain frame of glasses that could hide most of your nose, so it wouldn't show how big it is.
Second of all,if this makes you feel better, but some people in different countries consider big noses as a sign of generousity.
Third of all, and most important, why be jealous of other girls, and why do you think that your nose is big and other people's nose is tiny and cute? Why don't you give your self a second, and think that you have a big nose, and that there are other people who have a much bigger nose than yours. And don't think that its impossible, because it is. Some people don't worry about there nose whether its big or small, they worry about much important stuff. Some people are handicapped and on wheelchairs and have heart attacks, and have horrible bruised and burnt faces with scars on them. Always think of the bright side, and that your much better than other people and thank god about that, instead of feeling depressed because of a nose. And believe me, its not the nose which will make you have a boyfriend, or have friends, or win your crush, and its not definitely anything about your appearance that makes you popular or loved, but its simply your character and personality and the way you treat people. And as long as you are a good person, then who cares about appearances. And let me tell you something else, there could be another girl, one of those who you envy, and she could have a tiny cute nose, and yet she's mean and picks on people. Then you answer that question" how did the nose help her in that situation? or how did help her win friends, or date?"
You...are a magnificient sweet person, and although i don't know you...you deserve all the best, so don't let your self down and lose hope because of something like a big nose. And i 'll tell you something else, you are a beautiful person from inside, so screw the nose and screw anything else.
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God, I have a real problem. When I first came to Jr. High last year I was myself 100%. I didn't give a care what people thought about me, or who my friends were. Then in the middle I started changing my looks and the way I talked, and I found myself ditching my old friends (who were kind of geeky) to be friends with newer and more popular ones. And it worked! Some of the popular people hang out with me now. But I feel really bad now. Now that im friends w/ the popular kids, I feel like I dont even need my old friends. I even LIKE my new friends more than my old ones. So tell me... am I a total selfesh jerk for ditching my friends? And am I weird for changing myself? (link)
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Hey,
I read your problem and i understand what your going through and what your trying to say, so first of all, i am goint to start off by answering these questions for you.
YOu are most definitely not wrong, in changing yourself, because we all come to a certain stage in our lives, when we feel that we need to change,be different, meet new people, make new friends and change a bit of our life style,because a change is always what helps us go on with our lives without misery or depression.So i agree with you on that one.
On the other hand, i won't tell you that you are a total selfish jerk for ditching your friends, but i am simply can tell you that you were wrong in doing that action, because i have answered alot of questions about people moving on with their lives and making new friends and ditching their old ones, but i have never agreed with them. Because its actually kind of mean, that when you come to a whole new school where you don't know anyone, and then these old friends are sweet enough to be your friends and hang out with you and do more of that, so you could just ditch them later on and call them geeky friends. And don't get me wrong, i am not trying to say that you are a jerk or selfish or anything, but i am just trying to make you consider how they feel when they see you standing with the popular people when you should be with them, and they are not stupid, they know that these popular kids are much better than them and that anyone would want to be with them, but they probably feel really hurt and that since your popular now, you treat them as if you were better than them.
Look, i know that its such a great feeling to be there standing with populat kids, having fun, fooling around and all these really cool stuff, and you can do that, its great and i am happy for you. In the sametime, i am not telling you to stick with your old friends and be really best friends with them and stuff, but just don't put it like that" i am ditching them", no why would you? is it because you don't have time to hang out with them anymore. That still doesn't mean that you can call them and ask about them and mabye stand with them once a while, it wouldn't hurt anyone and if you do this, don't worry, your new friends won't make fun of me.So live your life, and have fun and make millions of friends,so what? its no one's right to stop you from making new friends, but just try to equalize the time you spend with everyone, and just because you make new friends, that doesn't mean you have to completely ditch everyone, just be reasonable and fair. You are a good person and you deserve to be having lots of friends and enjoying your time.so goodluck and try to consider what i said and if there are any further questions, please be free to contact me.
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I think I finally found the guy I'd stick with till I die even though Im 13. Hehe. But, he doesn't love me back! OMG I'm so upset and depressed and hurt and discouraged. And the only person that can ever help me with this is HIM! But noooooooo, he isn't here anymore! What do I do b4 I kill myself? Suicide is the only option so far...........
~Kayla~
Thanx in advance. (link)
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Hey,
I've read your problem, and i am really interested in helping you. so , the first thing i'd like to start with, is to tell you that suicide is never considered an option to any problem. There comes time,when every person has to fall in love with another, and sometimes that opposite person reacts ,and they even date and go out and stuff. But sometimes, that opposite person doesn't react, and as a matter of fact, he ignores us completely, and we get heart broken, miserable and depressed. Moreover, we fall on our knees and keep crying badly, and we think to ourselves" oh my god! he doesn't like me! i'm gonna commit suicide" thats exactly what we think, but no! that is completely wrong, when you a line should be drawn to the end of your life,than that would only be when you really die and get buried in your coffin, but not because you love someone and that person doesn't like you, so you committed suicide.It never works this way kayla, you are a magnificient person, and i am sure that you have a great personality and people who love you and care about you, and you have things in your life that you like to do, and if you commit suicide, why don't you think about the people you will hurt when you do this, such as your family or friends or the closest people to your heart. There are millions of people out there who really do love you want you to be a part of there lives, but it was simply not meant to be that certain boy you like,but on the other hand, don't worry, because every person was meant to love and be loved, but yet it is not your time now, so that doesn't mean for you to keep waiting.Instead, move on with your life,and be a good person, and live you life and enjoy your time and act natural.And then after sometime, you will find someone who likes you and wants and will come himself to ask you out.
In conclusion, if there are any further worries or concerns, please be free to contact me.
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Okay, i dont usually do this, but i cant trust my friends with this one. I have a boyfriend who ive been dating for 13 months. in the last four months, ive started to fall for a guy i work with and have been working with for two years, we are jokingly refered to as the work couple. lately my boyfriend and i have been fighting a lot, and i spend more time at work (im working full time this summer) i dont think that i will be truly happy with either relationship, but the situation im in right now isnt appealing either. i feel like im losing interest in my boyfriend, yet i love him just as much.
what do i do? (link)
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Hey,
i know how it feels to be feeling for two guys, and your just stuck in the middle and you don't know who to choose or what to do.
First of all, when i read your problem and i read how you've been with your boyfriend for 13 months now, i thought to myself" wow, its a miracle how relationships can go on for so long"and i also thought" then they are probably crazy about each other, and thats why they've been dating for all the time".
you know, its a real shame, to back out of a 13 years relationship, and i am telling you that now before you do back out and then you'd regret it and keep crying about it day and night for the next 13 months and post a question on the site and say " i miss him".
i've learnt in this life, that when a person has something that he really loves and cherishes and is so crazy about it, then take advantage of the fact that you have it and own it, and grasp it really tight and don't let it go, because i don't want you to get hurt when you do such an action like breaking up with your boyfriend.
Now, you feel like your losing interest in your boyfriend, but you only think you are because you are too distracted with that guy with you in work.And since you work full time this summer, than he's probably the only one you see alot, and even much more than you see your own boyfriend. So my opinion is that you go and try to fix things with your boyfriend, because i would never choose that guy who works with me on my own boyfriend, whom i really love so much, and i know you wouldn't either and you won't. Because if you did break up, and went and dated the guy who works with you,then you'd be practically betraying your ex boyfriend.
And don't think that you won't be truly happy with either relationships,because you can be happy with your boyfriend, if you try and sit together and work things out together, and mabye you could go out and have some fun, and forget all the troubles between you. because for 13 months, he cared about you and loved you and was there for you. And although i am also sure that the guy works with you was also nice and that you had some fun moments and memories with him ,but you ask your self that question, " was that guy with me at work much better than my boyfriend who i spent with 13 months, and who i'm ready to waste our relationship with because a couple of silly fights?" you ask yourself that question and you answer it yourself,and i don't think you need advice on that one.
So, be reasonable and open minded,and don't lose something so precious you have now and could be so happy with,and then you'd cry for losing it in the future.
finally, if you need any other help or advice, please be free to contact me.
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im 13/f and im gonna be going into 8th grade.
with not ever having a boyfriend, no first kiss no nothing!
and it sucks.
my love life better get better before i get to highschool
any ways i could maybe get a boyfriend or have boys get to like me more?!
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Hey,
I understand that your older now, and moving to a new stage and stuff, but that still doesn't mean that you have to have a boyfriend, you know why? because that won't make you any better or more popular.And if you go to highschool and sit on a chair and try to attract boys and wait to have a boyfriend, then you will never get one.
So, i have a suggestion or a way on how you may get one, i am advising you to go into that school and act completely natural, with your great personality and the sweet and friendly way you treat people with , and then a coupl days later, you will find a boy and mabye two coming up to you and asking you out. And i am suggesting this way, because boys don't like fake girls( and don't get me wrong or anything, i don't mean that you are one)but i am just trying to tell you not to go up to a guy and act super hot and sweet to make him your boyfriend, but just act natural and be yourself and act honest in everything you do. And i promise that you will get a boyfriend ,because you deserve to have one.Goodluck, and try to consider what i said, and if you need anything else, please be free to contact me.
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there is this boy that sumtimes stare at me i want to know if he likes me (link)
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Hey,
well... there are a million of reasons that this boy could be looking at you. But ya i guess, most of the time , when boys stare at girls, then you'd know that they probably like this girl.So i have a suggestion, why don't you go up to this boy and make a freindly conversation, and from the way he's going to react, mabye you'd know for yourself if he likes you or not.
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