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Big problems with losing friends.
I've been going thru a rough time with losing almost all of my best friends to drugs, sex, and alcohol these past few weeks. Losing them has been so terrible, we've just found the end to our 5 year friendship between the six of us.
I've developed several large cold sores with horrible swelling above my lip. I'm also getting a sty under my eye, and my eye twitches alot too. Big headaches and stomach aches are also becoming a problem. My doctor confirmed these are just stress problems with losing my friends, but what should I do? I honestly cannot name two friends I have right now, nor am I ready to start school again alone.
What should I do? Not having friends has also resulted in loss of appetite, me and these girls were just so tight, and now, we've changed so much, it hurts so bad to lose them.
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wow you have to ToTaLlY quit drugs,sex,and alcohol.there are places you can go to that can help you do that.you need to call your freinds and tell them that your different now and that youve quit taking this shit.drugs is gonna ruin your life in every way....one its gonna make you feel happy at the moment but your gonna be addicted to it like crazy and never be able to stop it and in the end your gonna end up DEAD.two its gonna make you lose all the people you love not just your freinds.sex is gonna come one day you dont have to rush it trust me...when your a lil older and you have STDs and wondering why all the guys you will marry dont wanna have sex with you youll know that they do NOT want the disease spread off to them.Alcohol.....what the hell its POiSoNoUs!!!itll kill you and ALSO get you brain damage...why are you doing all of this shit to yourself when youve got freinds that care about you like HELL???your killing yourself in EvErY wAy!!!!start off with one thing at a time first off you have to stop the drugd you dont NEED it.talk to an adult about this and let them take you to a drug control place where you can stop it doesnt matter what others think if they think your a freak for going there your health is more important..tell your freinds that youve stopped and that your quitting it all for your health and for them and that your not gonna lose them to some whak you take.its gonna take a while to stop all this stuff but if you dont start now you never will...your gonna find yourself all alone,with STDs,pregnant,with brain damage and addicted to drugs at the same time...DAMN!!!!so whats it gonna be your freinds,life,family,health,future and success or are you just gonna sit there waiting for the angel of death to come down and take your soul away.....cuz trust me you can be next on his list.
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hey,
I totally understand what your going through, because i have been in exactly the same problem, and i used to waste my time doing lots of wrong stuff( but i can't mention now), and that resulted of me losing my bestest of friends whom i had for six whole years, we were also so close and always there with each other. But then when i started to back out because i was too occupied with other stuff, thats when they started fighting with me, and yet in the same time, they supported me, and told me that what i was doing is wrong and that i should listen to them and they would advise me, and more and more,only because they were really loyal friends.
So don't think that your a bad friend, don't ever think so, because i did too in that situation, and i ended up losing hope in myself and in my life and it had bad consequences. And dont hate your friends for not sticking around so long, because you did and either you listened to them advising you before or not,that doesn't make you anything of a bad friend.
Every person in this life was meant to do mistakes and go through tough and hard experiences, or else, how would we know that its right or wrong? how would we know that choosing some drugs and alcohol and sex over my friends was wrong, except if i was put in the situation itself to lose them, and be totally all alone?
First of all, you have to deal with this drug/sex/alcohol problem because Number 1,it doesn't help in anything and its no use to you in life,number 2, i think your best friends are so much important than wasting your time doing these stuff all alone, and number 3, why don't you take a second of your time, and look how these stuff have totally ruined your life and broke up a 5 year old amazing friendship between most probably, the greatest and most specail people to you and the closest to your life. And for answering this question, it doesn't need advice, it just needs a loyal friend and a good,caring and loving person, which is exactly you from deep deep inside you, thats who you really are , and thats the person who spent five years with her friend,but its most definitely not the one who chose some drugs or sex of her friends.So answer that question, and look deep deep inside, and i'm that you'll be throwing all this shit back from where it came from , and you'll be picking up the phone and apologizing to your friends, and they will accept your apology after begging them, and telling them that you were wrong ,and you should have been there with them instead of doing these stuff, and not only that, but they will support you and help you with the pain, and they will be really sweet about it. Because the most important thing in life, that can make things better, is for a person to feel quilty and sorry for what he did, and know that he was wrong and apologize to the others,and thats what your gonna do.
Because if you weren't a good person,or loyal to your friends, then you wouldn't have come her and posted that question and asked for advice.
and let me tell you something else, there comes a time when every person changes and usually this change ruins everything instead of fixing it, but as i told you,we were meant to mix mistakes and changes in our life just to learn from them.
So as i told you, try quitting these stuff, and another one or two of the questions i asked, and you''ll know what to do,and sit quietly with yourself an figure things out. But you know what will help more, to call your friends, and tell them how you are quitting all that sit because you were wrong, and tell them how your doing it all from them , and because you want them back,and now you need there help to help you quit these stuff, and believe it or not, they will accept your apology and will help you.
Finally, you are a good and loyal person, and you have really sweet and amazing friends, so don't lose that, or waste it one shit, because you happen to have something that millions of people in this world wish every day to have it.
Oh! and about these headaches and stomaches an stuff, try to consult your doctor again, an mabye he could prescribe a medicine or something that could help or ease the pain.
So take care, and if you need any further
questions or if you have any worries or concerns, please be free to contact me anytime.
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I know how you feel i went tho the same thing when I stated jr. high I had no friends! but i did meet someone knew in my 1st hour and now it is 3 yrs later and we are still good friends! I know it hurts but you will make new friends. So kept ur head high. hoped i help
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Well it sounds like you got it pretty ruff girlie. I had the same problem you know until I got in the most amazing relationship ever! It was like everyone around me was changing like doing very negative things and I felt I was the only one doing positive things like not going to parties drinking, not having sex because my morals are TOO high and, not doing drugs because I know the effects they have on ppls body! Best thing you can do is be strong. I know it hurts but like believe me school is going to be ok. You will meet very outstanding welcoming people and everything will be fine. And then yall can relate your problems to one another. Believe me girl it will get better xoxo!!
-StephAnie-
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