about

My name is Laura and I'm 28 years old. I live in Illinois and work as a licensed veterinary technician. I am a runner, bookworm and obviously, an animal lover.


I've been on this site since '05. I take hiatuses, but I'm never gone for good. I enjoy giving advice and I've made such lovely friends on this site that I couldn't imagine giving it up!

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ps. here's my bestestestest friend.
I love him. You will too :)

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Sometimes i feel like giving up when something goes wrong. I am so depressed i don't have any close friends my boyfriend just broke up with me i don't know what to do???? HELP!!!!

First of all- don't give up. Everybody goes through hard times, bad things happen to everybody, and everything happens for a reason. What you need to do now is focus on going up, and making things better.


Stop focusing on the negative, and focus on the positive. Think about all the good you have left in your life (if you have to, just be thankful for the fact that you woke up this morning. Some people didn't.)


Then, do things that make you happy. Clean your room, dance crazy to loud music, paint a picture, go for a run, do something, anything that makes you happy. Try a new hobby! Learn to sew or play piano or something, and find something that truly brings you joy. Make new friends, or spend time alone. Honestly? Sometimes, it's nice to just sit around by yourself for a little while. I've learned this first hand lately, and it's almost refreshing to spend time by yourself away from everybody and everything that causes you stress.


And finally- SMILE! Smiling makes a world of difference, trust me. Smile at people you don't know, smile when you see something nice (a puppy, the sun, whatever makes you WANT to smile!) I know it sounds cheesy and stupid, but smiling really does help to make people feel better.


Remember: tough times don't last; tough people do. Think of all the great things in life, and think forward to the future. Focus on being happy, because life is way too short to spend sad or upset :)


If you need any more help, or even just somebody to talk to, my inbox is always open!


-Laura (17-f)

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I'm a female, and 15 years old. should I forgive my boyfriend, if he thinks he got another girl pregnant? because this only happened one time, and he says he loves me, and it wasn't he's fault that this happened, because the girl forced him to do it with her.

Forgive him? Heck no you should not forgive him!


Like Jack said, there's no way she "forced" him to have sex with her, he chose to and now she's having his baby. Why would you stay with a scumbag like that?


You're still young and have PLENTY of time left to find a guy worth your time. Forget about this one and find a good guy.


-Laura (17-f)

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What can i do to make my breast bigger naturally?

You wait and give your body time to grow.


-Laura (17-f)

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So there is this guy right and well we have been go out for 7 months now and well I fell in love with him and I don't know if he loves me back...and I like him and all I just don't know if I want to love him because I really don't want to get hurt...so what do I do?

I don't think you're in love. When you're really in love, you have no say in it. You fall in love, and that's it. Sorry if I sound rude, but you're not in love with him if you think you can chose to be.


-Laura (17-f)

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14/f

hey i am going into high school in september and i am kinda scared. everyone says it is awesome but others say theirs drugs (especially at our school) and that since i am new to the school they dont really care about you. i also dont wanna take the bus to school. And i am kinda scared of the gr. 11 and 12's. any tips or guidance would be GREATLY appreciated thnxs!!

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=544383


As for the bus, don't be afraid. It will be scary at first, for a while, but you'll get used to it. And yeah, people do drugs but you don't have to be one of them. There are WAY better things to do than drugs. Just find the right people and make smart choices; you'll be fine :)


-Laura (17-f)

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What's the best brand of peanut butter?

Forget plain peanut butter- Goober's is the way to go. I live on that stuff!


-Laura (17-f)

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Does french kiss cause pregnancy?(tounge kiss)

...not unless you take your clothes off while doing it.


-Laura (17-f)

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I've moved into my first apartment with a friend of mine. She was more financially prepared to move than I was. She ended up paying the rent and security deposit and agreed that it was alright that I paid her back when I get the money. I owe her $512. I get paid once per month, roughly $1200 after I pay rent, my cell phone bill and my car payment I'm left with $545 or so. I was going to pay her back in payments of $170 for the next three months. Then I got to thinking, that leaves me with $375 to last the whole month. I still have groceries to buy and utilities to pay. I want to drop my payments to her down to $100, keeping that extra $71 in my pocket, granted it will take me a bit longer to pay her back, but its not like she isn't getting her money. I just don't know how to approach her about it. I don't want things to become uncomfortable, I just don't think she realizes that only getting paid monthly is really hard.

I feel stuck.

Just be honest with her. Sit down with her and tell her that you'd like to talk to her about the way that you plan on paying her back for everything she's done for you. Make sure to thank her for everything she's done, too, because that's awesome of her to do!


Tell her you're not comfortable having that small of an amount of money each month, and that you'd like to keep some extra just in case.


Sure, like you said, it will take a bit longer to pay her back, but you WILL pay her back and she WILL get her money, so she'll probably be fine with it :)


-Laura (17-f)

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okay so my periods usually last from 3-5 days and have done for a good 2-3 years now. i got put on the pill and on my first day which was the monday the 6th july i started taking the pill. i have taken it everyday until the 16th of july because i am still on my period it is now the 17th of july and i am still on my period. surely i shouldn't be on for nearly 2 weeks? anybody got any clue what it is.i stopped taking the pill now because i just want to come off my period!

I've read that when you start on the pill, you get your period twice in the first month. It's not an "actual" period, but your body adjusting or something like that?


But if you're really worried about it, ask your doctor. I'm sure you're fine, but it's always better to be safe :)


-Laura (17-f)

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i feel like a lump

what do you guys *really* do each day? (not counting eating, showering, sleeping of course)

i hate when people ask me what i am up to because really, i don't do anything except like watch tv. and being at home during the summer while in college sucks bc no one else is around and its hard to get a job nowadays

You're young and it's summer, you're not supposed to be out saving Darfur or anything.


I sleep, text, read, clean, run, watch movies, and go to work.


Enjoy this time you have where you CAN sit around and do nothing; it won't last forever =/


-Laura (17-f)

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A month or so ago my best friend started hanging out with this girl, and they became really good friends. welll, ever since then they hang out all the time, and do almost everything together. I havent really hung out with my bff for a long time. and i miss her, i really do. i feel like i should tell her that i feel left out. i mean i dont care that she hangs out with the girl, i just wish she would include me in their plans sometimes..help! :(

16/f

Talk to her.


I've been in this situation, and it sucks. Keeping quiet won't make it any better though (I found that out first hand). And eventually, it will be too late and you'll hold it all in for a long time and then it will all just come out (Again, I found that out first hand...)


So, like I said, talk to your friend about it. Maybe plan something for all three of you? Like a movie day or manicures or something? Just let them know that you want to be included. But don't be pushy with it, let them have their time, and then have your time with your friend, and also have time where all three of you are together, know what I mean?


Good luck :)


-Laura (17-f)

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16/f

I apologize in advance if I sound really naïve for asking this

Have any of you ever just made out with a friend but then simply continued your friendship afterwards? Can you explain to me how such a thing could happen? Like, I can kind of get how it would start if the mood and setting were right, but then what about after you were done? Wouldn't there be a sense of awkwardness between you two, or an unanswered question of a possible relationship? It just seems like it would be really awkward after that.

You see, the whole idea of just making out with a friend and then going on with the friendship completely baffles me. I've always thought that making out was something special that should only happen between people in a relationship...I mean, I understand the idea of a hookup, but isn't that usually not between people who are considerably good friends?

The reason that I ask is that there is one particular guy friend that I have in mind that I know made out with one of my friends a month or two ago and they didn't even know each other that well [not as close as me and him]. That's what kind of got me thinking. We might be hanging out soon and I don't actually like him like a crush but there's some interest and I could do with a nice snog because I kind of miss it. I just don't want it to be weird between us afterwards because he's a really fun guy and I don't want us to not be friends after it because I feel weird. It's not that I'm uncomfortable with the idea of making out with him, I'm just uncomfortable with what might happen later. Any advice?

P.S. Sorry for the length

Honestly? I don't know how anybody could do make out with their best friend and somebody who is JUST a friend, and go on completely normally with the friendship.


If I made out with my best friend, I imagine that EVERYTHING would be different. I think it would change our relationship completely.


Kissing is such an intimate thing to me, and I (maybe I'm just a freak here) reserve it for only people that I have completely legit and strong feelings for. I think that if I made out with my best friend (who I obviously don't have romantic feelings for) I just don't think I could go on normally with him.


My advice to you? Don't do it. I think it will just complicate your relationship unless you BOTH are COMPLETELY clear that this is just a one time, no strings attached thing. I really don't think you should do it, though. Speaking from my personal experience, once you kiss somebody, you just get 10 times more attached to that person.


-Laura (17-f)

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I need advice quick I am not to skinny but then I'm not fat either I just wanna get tonned up so what are exercises I can do to lose the little extra I have in my thighs and buns I want them to be tight and really firm?

Obviously, squats are a great start. You can also do wall sits. They kills, but they will give you results.


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Also, try Seventeen magazines website. They had a section this month about toning your butt, and I think they have a ton of work outs on their site. :)


-Laura (17-f)

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Me and my gurlfriend had unprotected sex on friday, well durin 2 times durin intercourse i felt like somethin came out, as if i had came but i wasn't even ready to. Well yesterday my gurlfriend took th home pregnancy test and she turned out negative. Is the test effective since it was done 5 days after intercourse? Do u think that somethin really came out or was it just a feelin and if so can my gurlfriend get pregnant from it?

Any time you have sex there is a chance of pregnancy. ANY TIME. It doesn't matter if it only "felt" like something came out.


Wait a while and let her take another test. And next time, be smart and safe.


-Laura (17-f)

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So my boyfriend is moving.we've ben together for 9 months so this is tough. so me and him had some beer rite and it was only because i was really upset. and my clothes ended up coming off.
and i got caught by the cops and my parents find out. i told them i was sorry and i never wanted to do it again but they just won't give me the chance to prove it to them.
How do I make this better?

You have to give them time. I'm sure they're really upset, and there's nothing you can do or say to make it better.


Obviously, be on your best behavior for a while. Stay out of trouble, come home when they tell you to, check in when they want you to, etc.


Then, after a few weeks or so, tell them that you want to talk to them. Sit down with them and tell them that you KNOW there is nothing you can say or do to make them trust you, and you KNOW that you can't take it back, but you're young and bound to make mistakes. Everybody makes mistakes, and it sounds like you really did learn from yours. Let your parents know this. Tell them you learned from it, and you won't be making the same mistake again.


That's really all you can personally do. Over time, things will get better. Time really does heal things.


If you need more help, send me an inbox and I'll be more than glad to help you out some more :)


-Laura (17-f)

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That 70s show
season 6
episode: sparks

Jackie wears a gorgeous dress. It has a black top, then is vertically striped in different colors. I LOVE IT SO MUCH. It is pretty long, past her knees. It is casual. Does anyone have any ideas where i could find it or a dress similar to it?

I cant find a picture, sorry!

It sounds like a dress my friend got at Forever 21. Check out their website; I'm sure you can find something similar :)


-Laura (17-f)

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these girls say they are going to come kick my ass both of them dont know how to fight im not really worried about it but do you have any tips on fighting?

DON'T DO IT.


You'll only end up in one of two situations:
1. Getting in a huge amount of trouble (likely)
2. Regretting it AND getting in trouble (highly likely!)


Just stay away from them and tell an adult if you really donlt feel safe because trust me, it's not worth it to fight them.


-Laura (17-f)

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okay...umm... im not sure if i even started it but when i used the bathroom my under wear had brown on it this is the second day this happened is it normal?

It's totally normal!


-Laura (17-f)

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I want to learn how to play the guitar but my sister wont let me. She thinks its her thing and nobody else can do it but her. I really want to start to learn and since drum sets are expensive this is an alternative that i still would have done if i were playing the drums. I only have 1 guitar in my house and its my sisters so i cant really do anything. Help please

If you want to learn to play, then learn to play. As long as you're not copying everything your sister does (because trust me, it's the most IRRITATING thing ever to be constantly copied) then forget about what she thinks.


Learning to play an instrument is an awesome thing; your sister shouldn't take that away from you.


-Laura (17-f)

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where can my bff and i, and our bfs go for a double date other than our houses or movies or mall?? and where would be a sweet place for just me and my bf of almost a year to go?

Mini Golf.
Laser Tag.
Go Karting.
Out for ice cream.
Take a walk in the park.
Lay out at night and look at the stars.
Go to the beach.
Explore down town.


Have fun :)


-Laura (17-f)

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