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Feel like giving up
Sometimes i feel like giving up when something goes wrong. I am so depressed i don't have any close friends my boyfriend just broke up with me i don't know what to do???? HELP!!!!
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God is eager to help you (Romans 5:6-11). He loves you so much and doesn’t want you to go through this trial alone.
All you need to do is believe. Pray a simple, sincere prayer: “Heavenly Father, I believe Your Son Jesus Christ died on the cross for my sin and was raised from the dead. I confess and ask forgiveness for my sins. Thank You for forgiving me and loving me. Help me to live a new life that pleases You, as a new creation in Christ Jesus. Sustain me through this circumstance. It is bigger than me and I can’t do it without You. In Jesus’ name, amen.”
He will never leave you. Hebrews 13:5: “For God has said, ‘I will never fail you. I will never forsake you.’”
As a way to grow closer to Him, the Bible tells us to follow up on our commitment.
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Okay, you got mere advice. How about advice from previous experience?
For years, I was clinically depressed. I would overreact on every little thing, cry about it, or get upset about it -- whatever. Things just kept going wrong for me.. for years things kept going wrong. I attempted suicide multiple times and once I ended up in the hospital. I was put on meds, and had to seek therapy.
And, things got worse. My ex-boyfriend and I of 2 years broke up. I was hurt, I felt abandoned, used, everything you can think of. I was down and out, and didn't know how to get back up and get my positive attitude yet.
So many times I would lay there in bed, thinking of what people would do or say if I died, what would happen, would anyone miss me. So many times I often wondered why I am even here in the first place if all I ever endure is betrayal, shame, and hurt.
I had support of friends and family to keep me going. It was very tough, but they helped me get back up and start over. That is life.. you will fail, fail, fail, fail, and you'll keep failing until you get it. But the more you learn from your failures, the easier things will be. I learned that there are good guys and bad guys. I just chose a bad one. I need to look for a good one. Just like you! You need faith and support, and that is what family is for.
Just please don't give up. For not just me but for the whole advicenators community. I went through years of physical and emotional torture, and I am still going strong. You already seem strong, so keep that strength and keep going on with life. Don't end it over a temporary problem.
I wasn't doing well in school, I was an outcast, my depression hit its peak in high school. Times were tough.. and times will be tough sometimes. You just need to find good reasons to live! Be grateful you have a family, that you're better than the jerk you dated, and that you're strong.
If I can do it, you can do it. This will end sooner than you know. You will find friends, get an awesome man, and you'll be staying positive when you make a mistake. Live, Laugh, and learn.
Well, now things are doing wonderfully for me. Getting good grades in college, I got a nice guy, I have good friends. But it all took patience, positivity, strength, and determination. It's hard obtaining those characteristics when you're down, but think about what you learned, and develop from that. If you touched your hand on a hot stove, you know better not to do it again, right? Same principle. Just different circumstances.
Keep your head up, and if that guy comes back, say, "sorry, I don't date jerks." Let him go on with his life, if he left you chances are he isn't the one.
And I know it's frustrating when people tell you to stay positive, when it's hard right now. Yeah, it is. But like I said, it's always worth it in the end to keep your head up. When things tumble down, you'll still be at higher ground.
I hope I helped you. I will pray for you.
Take care, ok?
Leah
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Who cares about your ex boyfriend? He's probably a jerk anyway!
Close friends are sometimes over-rated. I mean, sure, they are nice, but they can get into your business and it can get annoying.
Anyway, like Laura said, focus on the positive. Think about your family. They love you. As much as it may seem like they don't, I'm sure they do.
I suggest you get a pet. My pets are my best friends, honestly, because you can talk to them and they just listen and don't judge you. I suggest a cat, because they know when you're sad and they can comfort you.
--Jack
(17/m)
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First of all- don't give up. Everybody goes through hard times, bad things happen to everybody, and everything happens for a reason. What you need to do now is focus on going up, and making things better.
Stop focusing on the negative, and focus on the positive. Think about all the good you have left in your life (if you have to, just be thankful for the fact that you woke up this morning. Some people didn't.)
Then, do things that make you happy. Clean your room, dance crazy to loud music, paint a picture, go for a run, do something, anything that makes you happy. Try a new hobby! Learn to sew or play piano or something, and find something that truly brings you joy. Make new friends, or spend time alone. Honestly? Sometimes, it's nice to just sit around by yourself for a little while. I've learned this first hand lately, and it's almost refreshing to spend time by yourself away from everybody and everything that causes you stress.
And finally- SMILE! Smiling makes a world of difference, trust me. Smile at people you don't know, smile when you see something nice (a puppy, the sun, whatever makes you WANT to smile!) I know it sounds cheesy and stupid, but smiling really does help to make people feel better.
Remember: tough times don't last; tough people do. Think of all the great things in life, and think forward to the future. Focus on being happy, because life is way too short to spend sad or upset :)
If you need any more help, or even just somebody to talk to, my inbox is always open!
-Laura (17-f)
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okay I might answer this question a bit differently than anyone else on here. But here is what I think works:
First, you feel like giving up. So do it! Just stop with everything, and take time to shut down and recharge. Often times when we feel like giving up its because we don't have any more energy. And I don't mean physically, I mean mental energy. We just get exhausted from the day to day problems we have and feel like everything is hopeless. But if you take however long time to yourself in your room just sleeping or doing the things you like by yourself (you know even crying sometimes helps), you will wake up one day and realize that while you were giving up, the world kept going. And it keeps going, no matter what we do. And you will feel so refreshed and have a newly found energy that you will want to go out and do something...you'll want to go out and live!
See with depression (unless its severe where you are diagnosed) you sometimes have to just let it run its course. You wanting to give up means that your mind is saying "ENOUGH! I cant take it anymore, this is too much!" You need to take care of yourself both physically and mentally before you can worry about making friends or having a boyfriend, or even living. So trust me when I say you need a break.
As for the fact that you don't have any close friends or a boyfriend...you will have to realize that you have something more important you need to focus on before you can start making friends. And that is yourself. Now look, friends come and go, boyfriends come and go, but YOU...you're stuck with yourself forever. And you need to accept that. People are social creatures...we seek comfort in others so that we don't feel so alone. BUT what many people don't realize is that we are all alone in the end. Even the most popular and loved person in the world still goes home and is alone. Nobody can share our mind with us...we are alone in our own thoughts and we control our actions. You have to be okay with that. You have to love yourself and not need the company of anyone, and only then are you free and happy to have friends and a good relationship. Think about it this way, you wouldn't want to be friends with someone that was always unhappy and needed you and constantly brought you down. We all want happy fun friends that can make us enjoy life. And that starts by learning to love yourself. Making yourself the best you can be. Being okay with being alone. There's nothing wrong with being alone...
Now once you realize that, you can get out of bed and say "Hey, this is me, and I am happy that way, and I am ready to live my life the way I want to." And so you can reconnect then with some people that you think may have the potential to be close friends...Just hang out with them, have fun, let your best qualities shine, and trust me people will want to get close to you. As for love, it too will come when you are ready. And you'll see that life can be amazing. As long as you feel that way! Trust me, it works. Hope everything works out and in the meantime you should also remember that you still have people that love you unconditionally like your family. Be happy and you'll see that life will become happy for you! It always does...
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dont say you feel like giving up at hard points in life. a great thing will come soon enough, life changes. you wont stay constantly sad, you'll be happy again trust me. and as far as the friend thing, just start talking to more people be a little more open and a little more joyful and you're sure to make new friends and meet new people. always smile because it'll make you seem more aproachable. and you're boyfriend, don't worry about it there are plenty of guys out there and i mean that, i just went through a break up, a pretty bad one too and everything in my life is perfectly fine. trust me when i say all you need to do is look to the bright side of everything and stay positive.
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