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I'm Jessie. I've been on here on and off for about 7 years. I'm 22 :) I am currently in my final year of college studying English and new media
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I haven't had a boyfriend for 2 years since my last big break up. A few hook ups here and there, but nothing serious with anyone I really liked. Well, things are progressing with a crush I've had for years. We were cuddling on the couch last night, and my problem is that I haven't stopped thinking about him all day. I promised myself I wouldn't, but I texted him this afternoon and asked him to hang out again tonight. I don't want to rush things and ruin everything. How do I keep myself from overwhelming him too quickly?

hey there =]
im sure your not rushing things and he probably likes you loads too
the next time you see him maybe explain how you much you like him and sorry if your coming off a little too strong?
which I doubt you are judging by the sounds of you both cuddling on the couch =]
after the next time you hang out leave it to him to orginise the one after that,that way your not the one coming off as overly keen let him wait and do the asking.
and dont panic if he doesnt straight away guys are like that,he will probably be wondering why your not asking him!
then hel get the guts to do it himself.
you have nothing to worry about though your just excited About the idea of a new boyfriend and relationship,and im sure your not going to overwhelm or scare him off =]
good luck hope I helped in anyway

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When I was 16 i began dating my first boyfriend that i later lost my virginity to. Just before my 19th birthday we called it quits and i became very sexually active with different guys outside of our small town. Last year i met an amazing guy that i fell head over heels for. Wanting to be the polar opposite from our friends i deliberately gave the impression that i was a sweet innocent young lady who was very reserved. It's been over a year of dating this guy and I am now 22 years of age. I've been checked for STDS and VD and came out clean. My boyfriend and I are living together and deeply in love, but he still thinks I've only been with 5 guys including himself!!! When in reality my 'number' is around double that closer to 10 or 12!!! Yuck!! I know he doesn't care about my 'number' but i know he would care about my lie and revamping. He would never meet or run into any of the men I've been with, but I cant keep my secret anymore. Should i tell him the truth and how????

hey there,
okay firstly your defenitaly not the only girl to have done this nearly every girl does it,all girls half the number of guys theyve been with for fear of being made out to be a slut, where as guys double the number they have been with to be made out a legend.
In my mind 10 or 12 isnt the worst ive heard of girls being with alot more,the fact that you chose to settle down shows alot and you should be proud and not ashamed.
as far as im concerned its not that big of an issue if he doesnt care about the number why tell him? its irrelevant and its also something you might not want to share I know he is your boyfriend and you are supposed to share everything but there are some things like this a girl just feels the need to keep private.
but if its truely getting you down,tell him your sorry for lying but you felt ashamed and you were afraid of what he would think of you.
your deeply in love as you say so he honestly should not care he should respect you more for coming out and telling him.
this is entirely up to you but because its something as small and insignificant(in my mind) I wouldnt bring up anything because it wouldnt give me a big consience,because i would feel ive done nothing wrong its not like you cheated on him.
But if its something you feel like he needs to know and your feeling guilty about then tell him and he should nderstand =]
Hope I helped in any way and that it works out =]
good luck,

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So Jake and I went out last summer for about 4 months. I really liked him alot. I came really close to falling in love with him. The only thing wrong with him was that he could be really mean sometimes. He'd say things like "I didn't hang out with you because my best friend couldnt go, so its not worth it" and "amy stop being so loud and annoying". In spite of his attitude, i still had strong feelings for him.

Then he started getting distant from me. and later broke up with me for my best friend. I mean i was mad and didnt talk to either of them for about 3 months. but we were able to be friends again later..but Jake started flirting with me while him and Lauren were still going out.

They broke up and he came back to me. for like a week, but then told me that i was more like a sister to him. so we stopped seeing eachother, yet again.

Now i have tried to get over him ever since we broke up last year. I tried forcing myself to be mad at him, and not speak to him or about for months at a time. but i just cant do it. my fiends obviously dont approve of him, and tell me.."Amy, just get over him."..honestly i wish it were that easy.

Jake doesnt want a relationship, which is understandable considering we are still in highschool. So hes with more than one girl at a time. but all of these girls just want some hah.

i dont know. Jake is all i can ever thing about. and i get butterflies whenever i see him, or talk to him. and dipite everything hes done to me, i still have strong feelings for him...and i need to know what it means, and what i should do.

i know this was really long..but thanks for the advice! (:

hey there.
I understand totally how you feel trust me,
every girl has that one guy who can treat her like crap and act like a jerk to her but who she will still reallyyyy like trust me I have mine heh.
Its like when they are being nice and sweet to you,you forget about all the times they acted like jerks and treated you bad.
this feeling will eventually pass,its never easy and theres days when you feel like crap and you have an actual pain in your chest thinking about them(well for me)
but you need to get over him and you will,time is the trick there will come a day when you will look at him and just feel nothing i know its hard to believe now but trust me it will come.
what you need to do is everytime you think about him is to distract yourself,listen to music go out with your friends go shopping etc.
if he texts you(im not sure if he does but anyway) and you get that feeling where you really want to reply but at the same time you dont,Just dont let yourself give in think about all the times he was a jerk and play him at his own game,if you do text back be really short and end the convirsation after a while.
honestly the trick in all theese situations is time and distraction from the guy dont even allow him to get you down go out enjoy yourself and have fun and youl find someone 100times better who you deserve and will treat you better and jake will be just a distant memory
sorry I couldnt be of more help but this is what has worked for me!
hope it does for you too good luck =)

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I really want to have a special song with my boyfriend and he thinks it's a neat idea too. We both tried to think of neat songs to "have" together but we're not coming up with much, really.

We've thought about:

"The dance" by Garth Brooks
"You're still the one" by Shania Twain
"Remember when" by Alan Jackson
"Holding you holds me together" by Gretchen Wilson
"I'll Look After You" by The Fray
"Truly Madly Deeply" by Savage Garden
"Lovesong" by The Cure

...but nothing is really sticking as a great song to have together. :\

Does anyone have a good suggestion for our song together?

heya,
awh I think this is a lovely idea too =]
some songs I think are really cute to have together are
I dont wanna miss a thing-areosmith(very popular though!)
Fall for you-secondhand serenade(I love this song!)
I knew I loved you-savage garden
everything I do I do it for you-byran adams
I swear- All4 one
hero-enrique iglesias
Iris-Goo Goo dolls..
they are just some of my favourite love songs!
but you and your boyfriend might have one song together that you both love and reminds you about each other it doesnt nessecarly have to be a love song,anyway I hope I helped give you some ideas,and that you find a nice one =]

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15/f
my friend for the first time had to makeout with a guy because they were dared. anyway it looked really awkward, she was basically just sucking his lip. it was really really awkward.

what i wanted to know was(i havent kissed a guy yet) but how do you do it right! and not all slobbier.

hey okay, everybody has different ways of kissing and I cant tell you exactly how because it comes naturaly to everyone.
I can tell you what to be aware of though,keep it slow starting off and use little tounge try stay in the one place dont be moving all around the place and sucking his face(called the washing machine effect) off like your friend did thats never nice trust me.
remember to swallow once and a while too this helps prevent the build up of spit in your mouth which makes it sloppy!
also be careful of your teeth! ive kissed people who have basicly kissed me with their teeth as well as there tounge!
try keep a steady rythm with the guy too
like make sure your lips and tounge are moving in time.
none of this probably makes sense to you at the moment because you havnt kissed anyone yet but remember not everyone starts out a great kisser!
some may have it naturally others have to work at it with expierince.
once you have your first kiss you will understand more I guess what im talking about! and will be able to improove and perfect your method of kissing =]
hope I helped in anyway,

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How can you tell when you're full? I am not overweight, but I tend to over-eat often. I'm sure my body gives me signals when I am full that I am just overlooking. How can I know when to stop eating?

Im exactly the same sometimes.
Im not overweight at all in fact im quite slim but I never ever seem to feel full and I just keep eating?! I think it has something to do with metabilism,we have a fast one which burns off our food quickly thus making us feel hungry again soon after we have eaten.
thats what I have been told anyway,I guess its okay as long as your eating the right foods.
what I do sometimes to prevent myself is I think to myself okay am I REALLY hungry or am I just eating out of boredem or for the sake of it?
I think back to what Ive eaten during the day and I just tell myself okay no Ive had enough.
Sorry I cant be more help!
If this continues maybe you should go see your doctor if your worried =]

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This is going to sound a little stupid probably, but my boyfriend has lied to me about something small and now it's totally made me wonder if I can really trust him.

Basically, he told me that he couldn't really afford to go crazy and all-out on our one year anniversary day, which I was completely fine with, but then he kept going on about wanting to buy this Playstation 3 game that was something like $70. Anyway, I found out that he bought it a couple of days ago, but he told me it was only $10 because he had traded in some games at the same time; however, he accidentally left the receipt for it in the living room, which showed that this was not the actual case--that he had actually paid full price for the Playstation 3 game.

Now, before you think I'm crazy or something, my boyfriend and I have had problems in the past and have been working on getting our trust back for each other. (He had a wild night out with the boys once that totally crushed our relationship for awhile) It bothers me that he couldn't just be honest with me about this, I guess. I mean, it wouldn't have been a big deal at all...why lie?

Do you think I'm overreacting?

Hey,
Okay First off no I certainly dont think you are over reacting.
espicially since this happend before
what your boyfriend did in my opinion was selfish and unfair to you.
how does he ever expect to get the trust back if he isnt upfront about things like this?
its understandable to want to treat yourself to things now and a again and he probably feels like he wanted something for himself everyone gets this way in relationships and they make secret splurges that they hide from each other.
he went about it the complete wrong way though what he should have done was explained to you how he felt told you he wanted this game,and you both could have worked something out maybe agreed to buy it for him for his birthday or something.
tell him your anniversy meant alot to you and that you didnt mind if he couldnt go all out just the fact that he lied about it hurt you,tell him its making you question the trust again and that you really want it to work but if he keeps up this behaviour how is it going to?
explain exactly how you feel hopefully he will see sense and understand,and apologise for lying.
Hope it works out and that I helped! =]

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okay my crush danced with me at prom the other night, he was the one who approached me. I noticed that the whole night; him and his friends were staring at me. Even when i was dancing with other guys,i would look around to find him staring at me. While we were dancing; he took my hand and folded his into mine, he kept rubbing my back while slow dancing and rubbing my arms. I was getting the feeling that he liked me too since i was the only girl he danced with for the night. So it turns out that my friend spoke to him last night and he asked her if she did anything after prom then she said: No, i just went home and spoke to Tamara for a bit.(which is me) then he said: how did she say her night was? then she said: she had amaziiinggg night! i saw you guys dancing together, hot hot hot!! then he said: ahaha, i don't want to give the wrong intentions or anything, she's a cool person but yea...then later on in the convo he said that he just wanted to have fun. So i understand that he wanted to have fun...but i don't understand why he wanted to fold his hand into mine while dancing, rubbing my back, rubbing my arms and out of the whole room, he chose me to dance with...it's just weird...i mean we didn't just dance, it was more than that...i know that when i danced with the other guys, they weren't rubbing my back or folding their hand into mine. i don't know maybe i'm just naive.

Hey,okay I dont think your not naive at all
that was defenately done intentionally well In my opinion he wouldnt just do that like you said none of the others did.
guys are like that though they flirt with us then act disinterested or act as if they werent trust me ive a guy who does that to me 24/7 and il never understand it.
nearly the exact same thing happend with me too at a dance.
its possible hes afraid of commiting to something,he likes you but doesnt want to get involved in a relationship maybe.
Or else he is could be confused about his feelings.
guys are hard to read,and they constantly give us mixed signals probably without even realising!
theres no point in second guessing as to whether he likes you or not,
you should ask him or get someone to ask him if hes genuinely into you,if he says no say please stop sending me signals then maybe im reading them wrong but it sure did look like you were into me the other night at the dance..then youl give him the oppurtunity to tell you if he likes your or not,if he does and isnt a coward he will come out and say it.
Good luck =] hope I helped in anyway

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Ok, so I went you with this guy lets call him Steve. And before we started going out, we were best friends. So Steve and I went out for almost 3 months. Everything was great, until we broke up. But before we went out he decided he didn't want to be friends with me anymore because he liked me in the past, and I hurt him. Despite that we were happy together, until we broke up. It's been almost 7 months and we don't really talk anymore. He has a new girlfriend now, who doesn't like me at all. (She thinks I still like him.) I just want to be friends again, without his girlfriend thinking I'm still into him.

what you need to do is explain to steve that you dont have any feelings for him anymore and that all you would really love to be is friends again.
tell him how much you miss his company and how things used to be be clear and say you have no intentions of trying to get back and your not out to sabotage his relationship with his new girlfriend explain to her as well.
if he says no,well then hes not worth the time i dont see the harm in staying friends after a break up,espically if you were happy together during it and best friends before it.
he shouldnt want to forget a friendship like that and not speak to you and if he does well its truely his loss,hopefully he will feel the same and be missing you too.
im sure he will be =]
Hope I helped in anyway and things work out for you

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what does i mean when someone says oh i went to third base with them or oh i got to second base with them. like i know what all the way is but what do the rest of the bases stand for?

I think second base is regarded as french kissing,and third as making out and messing around
im not 100% sure though,google it =]
hope I helped.
Jess

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me and my boyfriend have been together for 1 and a half years. we are both 16. we broke up a few weeks ago and just got back together today. i was so happy to be back with him because things just didnt feel right wothout him. however, i also just found out he is moving to florida in a month. we currently live in washington. so i definately wont be able to visit because our parents wouldnt allow it. and i know we cant stay together because long distance definately is out of the picture. he says he knows that we are going to drift apart and lose contact but i dont want that. im in love with him and i want to be in a relationship with him but i know that he has no choice but to move with his family. my question is, should i break up with him now to save the pain in a month? or should we stay going out and fall more in love then feel even worse when he leaves? uggghhh im so happy with him that i cant even imagine breaking up with him. i dont know what to doooo

Awh im really very sorry to hear that its an extremely tough situation.
my advice would be to do your best to put it completely out of your mind for the next month and just enjoy the time you have with eacher to the fullest,it will be harder but it would be nice to spend time with him while he is still living near you,if you dont chances are when he leaves youl be thinking god why didnt i just make the most of it and you could regret it.

I know this is probably the LAST thing you want to hear right now and everyone hates hearing it when they are hung up on someone but when he leaves it may seem like there is absolutely NO ONE else who could possibly even come close or compare to how much you loved him but that feeling will pass with time and there will be other guys i promise you.

its not gonna be easy and your gonna feel like crap when he goes but the trick is to do your best to not let it get you too down.
have a good cry when he leaves,but then get it out of your system dont let it stop you from doing things you like to do or hanging out with your friends,dont stay cooped up in your room moping it only makes it 100 times worse.

when you think of him try to distract your self on to other things call a friend listen to music etc.
do plenty of girly things with your friends shopping and stuff.

The true trick is time though it will heal eventually trust me =]

trying to look on the bright side of things at least you will always have that one guy you can look back on and think awh wow i was lucky to have the time i did with him not many people have memories like that.

Good luck with everything,hope I helped in anyway

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How long does a Orgasm last. For Example, when my boyfriend eats me out, I get this exotic feeling, but only for about 10 seconds. Is that a orgasm ? Even after those 10 seconds , it feels good, but not AS good...

Thank you ! [:

Orgasms last different lengths for different people =] depends really on the person you can never really be 100% sure.
it more then likely is an orgasm just not as intense.
hope I helped clear it up for you!
=]
Jess

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I'm 13(m) and I might be going over to my crushes house this weekend and I want to find out if she likes me the way I like her. To do that without asking her anything, dont give me don't do it, it's wrong, I want to read her diary to see if she talks about me or not, but I need to know where some places are that she might keep her diary. What I'm trying to ask is, what are some places girls hide or put their diaries and if theres a key to it where are some places girls hide or put that key?

I totally agree with the previous answer,all the places are right too.

reaidng someone elses diary is a severely bad idea,diares are meant to be private for the persons feelings,if she likes you she will tell you when shes ready.

you could find out something you really dont want to know trust me i read my sisters once and found out a really big secret in a way i wouldnt have wanted to.

have some respect for her if you really like her.

if she caught you previous answer is right all chances are gone.and she would get extremely embarrased trust me.

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15/f
Alright, well i broke with my boyfriend of 3 months about a month ago because he was all drama and kept lieing to me. But i knew he really loved me because of the sweet things he did. Whenever we broke up, he was a totally different person. He started acting immature and acting like he didnt care about my feelings at all. I was really hurt, because i actually came to love this boy ya know? But he eventually told me thats because he fell to pieces. Ever since the day we broke up, he has been trying to get back together with me but the way he acted before makes me not want to. I still like him soo much and i get jealous everytime i hear that he hangs out with another girl. So, him and this other girl have gotten really close since we broke up. They are just friends but they call eachother a lot and supposedly its about me because he dosent know what to do and hes getting advice about me. But, they still hang out and have tons of pictures together on her facebook. So, i got really mad at the moment because i thought he liked her and went off on him. I apoligized later because i shouldnt have came to conclusions. He said he went over there because he was crying over me and needed someone to talk to. So then, he told the girl that was in the pictures with him that i got mad or whatever so she sends mea text yelling at me and cussing me out. I apoligized and said i was hurt by the pictures but i know i shouldnt have came to conclusions. So everything is okay. Then my ex sends me a message saying sorry, i didnt plan for her to yell at you. Blah Blah Blah. What do i do?

It seems to me that you both still really really like each other.
I mean hes been crying over your and getting advice and everything,and you seeing him getting close to other girls hurts you and makes you jealous.
In my opinion I think you should give this guy another chance I mean he seems to care explain to him how you dont like how he acted the last time and that if you were to give it another go that youd like that to change if it were to work.
Think how you would feel if he got closer and closer to this new girl and they fell for each other and went out?
im telling you it wouldnt be nice at all this is like the very same situation as my friend was in but she didnt get back with him he fell for the other girl and they have been going out about a year now and shes still not fully over him.
so I think you should give it another shot.
what have you got to loose?nothing.yet alot if you dont try. if it doesnt work out then it doesnt work out.
at least you know you gave it a shot and you wont be left wondering what might have happend..then you can move on and know its not meant to be
good luck! =)
I hope I helped in anyway.

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My parents got a divorce when I was 19. I thought it wouldn't be a big deal because I'm an adult, but it had a much bigger effect on my life than I could have imagined. It's been a little over 2 years now, and now they do not have any contact with each other what-so-ever. I have a good relationship with my mom, but not with my dad, although I try for his sake. My dilemma is that I don't know how to handle a lot of the situations I am going through without having a cohesive family. I got married without a wedding. I felt that I wouldn't be able to have one with how screwed up my family is. I have another milestone coming up: college graduation. I would like if some of my extended family could come, and my mom would probably like for me to have a family reception. This is another thing I feel like I can't have because I can't invite my dad's family, but at the same time it isn't right to exclude him or his family. I'm trying to get used to the idea that I'm going to have to sacrifice a lot of things that I used to think I would have. Does anyone have any advice for me?

hey there sorry to hear about that divorces are never easy =(
and its even more harder when the parents dont even speak.
however despite this you should not have to feel like you have to sacrifice alot of things thats not fair to you at all,it wasnt your fault your parents split up and you shouldnt have to make alterations in your life to acomidate them.
im sure neither of them would want that to have you unhappy like that.
they probably dont even realise what their putting you through,that way you need to talk to your mom tell her exactly how you feel and the stress thats being put on you to keep people happy.
tell her you dont want to exclude your dad or his family from your graduation as you feel they have a right to attend, tell her you wish they could all be civilised for you,I mean they are grown adults surely they can put asside their feelings for you.
Im sure she would understand.
my cousins parents split when she was 7 both were my godparents too and there was alot of bad feelings between the two for a couple of years but they put it behind them for my cousins sake (and for mine because they were both my godparents i was very close to both and i often had the problem of who not to invite to family events although i know its not the same) but they got over it and they are honestly great friends now.
I hope the same can happen for your parents give it time explain to them how much you would love for them to get along or even try! surely thats the least they can do is try.
I hope everything works out for you and that I helped in anyway,
good luck =)

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hey i just heard this song from velvet channel. it has lyrics like... dance dance.. the tune is somewhat like of partyin or somethin.. wutsoever. the song is soo cool! please help...

okay well this could be anything because its so brief but im gonna guess maybe it was fall out boys song dance dance?
did it go like dance dance were falling apart to half time..
it could have maybe been lady gagas just dance?
sorry i cant be of more help! hopefully youl hear it again and remember more of the lyrics =)

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Well i kinda got two situations here the first one is about my friend. You see she has this class with this boy that ive been liking for awhile and so do i we all are in the same classroom. But anyways latley they been kinda getting close you know and like i try not to get mad about it because she knows i like him and stuff and i kno she wouldnt do nothing to interferr with that. So about few weeks later she wa tellling stuff on what my crush been saying to her like asking her to the prom and stuff and i figure he was just playing because he just that kind of guy that plays like that. And then few weeks later after that he had ask her what would she do if he ask her out and she said no because she knew i like him and she told him that. But you see my point is this they be talking and flirting alot in class. And like at first i didnt really care but then it started to bother me. She saying she dont like him like that but if she dont then why she keeps doin the things she doing to him. I mean i dont care if they talk like friends or whatever but its like they getting closer by the min. And she does this right in fron of me both of them. And by the way the boy knows i like him and stuff. Whic leads to another situation. This boy that i like ive been liking him for awhile now and like he knows i like him and ever since he found out he be flirting with me and stuff. Which made me believe that he may like me to but then again i dont know cuz he likes this one girl or watever. ANd i was told that he dont like me. But if he dont why is he talking to me and flirting with me and stuff. Its just the things he does and say that make me believe he likes me. And whats going on between him and my friend am i over reacting or is somthing really going between them. And if he dont like me and knows i like him why does he send all the signals that make me believe he does. Im just confuse with it all.

hey there =]
okay in my opinion this boy is loving the attnetion he is getting,its what guys do they find out a girl likes them and they flirt away like crazy and might not even like you back.

I think your friend might secretly like him but doesnt want to hurt your feelings,but what shes doing in front of you isnt fair its hurting your feelings although she may not even realise shes doing it,it might not be intentional you should ask her straight out to just tell you the truth that way you can know for sure.

by the sounds of it I think your both better off without this guy like he flirts with your friend,knows you like him and flirts with you too it looks to me like hes only going to cause trouble between you.which would you rather loose a potential boyfriend for a few weeks months whatever,or a good friend?

if the two of them genuinely like each other and want to go out then you shouldnt stand in the way as hard as it would be to see that.I understand though trust me ive seen my friend and the guy i liked kiss infront of me(they didnt know i was there) anyway if this happens all you can do is just stand back and do your best to be happy for both,but ask them to respect your feelings while your around until you are over him and defenatley tell the guy thats its not appropriate to keep flirting with you like that.

good luck with this situation I know its a really tough one to be in and it sucks, i know everyonee hates hearing this but there is plenty more guys out there and youl realise that =]
I hope I helped in anyway!

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I get awful acne on my back chest and my arms and i don't know what to use to get rid of it. I get random breakouts on my face but its just a few zits so its not really a big deal. I'm ver self conscious about my acne and i've tried body washes but none of them seem to work. I hate having to hide because i have this problem. So what should i use or what should i do?

hey my sister used to have problems with acne too,the only thing you can really do is to consult a doctor and hopefully they can perscribe some cream or anitbiotic that can clear it up quickly,my sister went to a private specialist about hers and she had to go on this tablet called "roacitine" i think, it worked wonders though it was like she had got whole new skin completely clear.
it did have some side affects however,as do many tablets some steroid based ones can make you gain weight too.
my friend also got a bad break out on her back she went to the doctor he perscribed this cream and its almost gone now.
it depends on the person and your skin too your diet can also play a huge part in it make sure you drink plenty of water and eat fruit and veg it really does help with your skin.
other ways are beauty treatments like electrolisis etc,there are loads so if you wanted to go to a beauty thearpy clinic I worked in one part time for work expierence and ive seen first hand the results of them and some really do work =]
sorry I cant be of more help but your best bet is to go to your local Gp/beauty clinic or health shop for more natural remidies.
and remember acne does ease up with time it will go eventually as you get older so ive heard
good luck I hope it clears up for you and that I helped in anyway

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There's this boy at my high school that I really, really like. I've never felt this way about any guy, actually. And towards the beginning of this year, I could have sworn he liked me too. We were always together, and when we couldn't be he called me on the phone and we would talk until we ran the phone batteries down. But now, he started hanging out with another girl more than me, calls me less often, and doesn't spend any time with me at school. I don't understand. Please, help me.

Me: 16/F (17 in September)
Him: 15/M (Just turned 15 on April 13.)

hey there,
I can totally relate to this situation and I know exactly how it feels to go from the centre of one guys attention to being practicly ignored by him,it sucks.
you need to ask him straight out what the deal is ask him how come he hasnt been spending time with you tell him you miss hanging out,but do it in a way that you wont seem "obsessive" to him some guys can be like that.
he could take it the wrong way and think your trying to control him and who he hangs out with,so watch out for that.
also as a matter of interest how old is the girl he started hanging out with?,is she closer to his age then you?
if so then that could be his reason for not spending as much time with you anymore and if so its a ridiculous one.
I cant really tell you why hes acting this way guys are a mystery..and they give off mixed signals!
so my advice is to just ask him,if he isnt nice about then in my opinion its his loss and he isnt worth your time if hes going to go from being all about you and hanging out all the time to just not bothering at all you deserve better then that =]
good luck and I hope I helped even in the slightest

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what are some ways i can turn my boyfriend on? we havent done really anything yet. except kiss and stuff. and i really want to get further. and i know he does too. but we dont really talk about it. i want one of these days to hangout with him and turn him on. i want him to get hard cause i know itl help alot with the doing and talking about it. i know he likes his hair being pulled. but what are some other ways? thankyou so much

hey,okay well this depends on the person and what they get turned on by,it can be different for everyone,i sugest you two should talk about it,it would make it a whole lot easier and relaxing for you both you should feel comfortable enough to talk about things like that.
anyway well some ways could be like if you whispered stuff in his ear it can be a real turn on for some guys move your hands up and down his neck and into his hair and around his ears, then back down to his chest maybe and leave them there for a few seconds then move slowly towards his crotch and just move your hands around that area for while on the outside,also kiss his neck softly.
I hope I helped in anyway =]
thats all I can really sugest is just those general things because like I said I dont know your boyfriend and what turns him on the only way to find out exactly is to just ask =]
good luck

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