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Does he like me, or does he not?
There's this boy at my high school that I really, really like. I've never felt this way about any guy, actually. And towards the beginning of this year, I could have sworn he liked me too. We were always together, and when we couldn't be he called me on the phone and we would talk until we ran the phone batteries down. But now, he started hanging out with another girl more than me, calls me less often, and doesn't spend any time with me at school. I don't understand. Please, help me.
Me: 16/F (17 in September)
Him: 15/M (Just turned 15 on April 13.)
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I'm going to give you a list of what guys tend to do when they like girls:
1. They don't call you "sexy". They call you "beautiful", "gorgeous", "amazing", etc.
2. They make an effort to hug you. They might high-5 instead, but it really depends on the guy in question.
3. They DO find any reason to touch you in some way. Mostly it ISN'T in a sexual way. It's more of just an excuse to remember what you feel like, I guess. It's hard to explain...
4. He is always smiling around you. If you're feeling bad and he's around- he'll be smiling because he knows that he's there to help you- and that's like brownie points for a guy if they can help a girl out. That, like the above, is hard to explain.
5. He'll tell you things about himself that he normally wouldn't tell everyone. He opens up to you. Guys don't get a chance to do that when pressured to "be manly".
6. If you have a feeling that a guy likes you- you're probably right. Guys aren't the best at hiding it- and girls are even better at figuring these type of things out.
So- if he does one, some, any, or all of those things, he probably likes you. Guys fall for girls pretty easily.
--Jack
(17/m)
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It sounds like he likes you a lot. But guys dont want to seem like they like you too much. If they dont know if your interested they will give up. Or maybe he just doesnt want to seem too obvious about liking you. Maybe you should talk to him and ask him how he feels and tell him how you feel so he knows and hopefullly things will change.
Hope i helped =]
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Im a guy so trust me. We dont spend that much time talking "just to be friends". He likes you. You should try talking to him and tell him how you feel. if he hasnt moved on to this girl to much his old feeling wi resurge and you will be a happy couple. Thats how i see this solution.
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You need to find out where you stand by talking to him openly and honestly. It's the only way. Nobody said it would be easy but if you want to know the truth you have to go directly to him.
I doubt he's purposely ignoring you. He may have just moved on to this girl because he was hoping all the calls and time spent with you would get you to initiate a relationship. Guys simply don't spend that much time or any on the phone with a girl they aren't interested in.
Ask him about her and about yourself and see what he has to say. You may walk out with a relationship or an even closer friendship. Regardless he'll respect you for talking to him.
I would let him know you're getting mixed signals and want to be clear on whether to pursue a friendship, relationship or nothing else. It's obvious he likes you but maybe not in the way you hope.
Tell him you miss hanging out and talking on the phone. His relationship or friendship with her is new so that's likely why you and other friends aren't focused on as much. I doubt it's personal or a sign he dislikes you.
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hey there,
I can totally relate to this situation and I know exactly how it feels to go from the centre of one guys attention to being practicly ignored by him,it sucks.
you need to ask him straight out what the deal is ask him how come he hasnt been spending time with you tell him you miss hanging out,but do it in a way that you wont seem "obsessive" to him some guys can be like that.
he could take it the wrong way and think your trying to control him and who he hangs out with,so watch out for that.
also as a matter of interest how old is the girl he started hanging out with?,is she closer to his age then you?
if so then that could be his reason for not spending as much time with you anymore and if so its a ridiculous one.
I cant really tell you why hes acting this way guys are a mystery..and they give off mixed signals!
so my advice is to just ask him,if he isnt nice about then in my opinion its his loss and he isnt worth your time if hes going to go from being all about you and hanging out all the time to just not bothering at all you deserve better then that =]
good luck and I hope I helped even in the slightest
<3
Jess
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