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Hes leaving me :(
me and my boyfriend have been together for 1 and a half years. we are both 16. we broke up a few weeks ago and just got back together today. i was so happy to be back with him because things just didnt feel right wothout him. however, i also just found out he is moving to florida in a month. we currently live in washington. so i definately wont be able to visit because our parents wouldnt allow it. and i know we cant stay together because long distance definately is out of the picture. he says he knows that we are going to drift apart and lose contact but i dont want that. im in love with him and i want to be in a relationship with him but i know that he has no choice but to move with his family. my question is, should i break up with him now to save the pain in a month? or should we stay going out and fall more in love then feel even worse when he leaves? uggghhh im so happy with him that i cant even imagine breaking up with him. i dont know what to doooo
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Awh im really very sorry to hear that its an extremely tough situation.
my advice would be to do your best to put it completely out of your mind for the next month and just enjoy the time you have with eacher to the fullest,it will be harder but it would be nice to spend time with him while he is still living near you,if you dont chances are when he leaves youl be thinking god why didnt i just make the most of it and you could regret it.
I know this is probably the LAST thing you want to hear right now and everyone hates hearing it when they are hung up on someone but when he leaves it may seem like there is absolutely NO ONE else who could possibly even come close or compare to how much you loved him but that feeling will pass with time and there will be other guys i promise you.
its not gonna be easy and your gonna feel like crap when he goes but the trick is to do your best to not let it get you too down.
have a good cry when he leaves,but then get it out of your system dont let it stop you from doing things you like to do or hanging out with your friends,dont stay cooped up in your room moping it only makes it 100 times worse.
when you think of him try to distract your self on to other things call a friend listen to music etc.
do plenty of girly things with your friends shopping and stuff.
The true trick is time though it will heal eventually trust me =]
trying to look on the bright side of things at least you will always have that one guy you can look back on and think awh wow i was lucky to have the time i did with him not many people have memories like that.
Good luck with everything,hope I helped in anyway
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Jess
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Hmmmm, Sorry to hear about that. I've been there and I know it is a tough decision. If you guys love each other than you will make it work. I met my wife 2 weeks before I left for the military. After we had been together for about a year we got married. In the first year that I knew her, we spent maybe 25 days together. And we have been together for 7 years now. It will be hard, and there will most likely be jealousy, and arguments, but it can be done. If you both love each other and want to be together, than don't break up with him. That's just giving up. By you doing that you are telling him that you don't want to put in the work and effort to have a relationship. You might end up getting hurt in the end, but at least you will not have any regrets. It will set the tone for your future, with or without him. You will be making the statement that you will fight for what you want. And you won't give up at the first obstacle in the road. Hope that helps. Good luck
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