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ok i have a serious problem.I think im starting to like mah best guy friend like as more than a friend!I just dunno what to do cuz i dont wanna get hurt for the second time but then i'll prolly just get hurt by keeping it inside.So i dunno wat to do, plz help! *I RATE GOOD*
*Nani*

You should tell him! Don't keep your feelings inside. You can write a note, tell him face-to-face, call him up, on the Internet. And just tell him how you feel just tell him what you told us. Just be like "I know you're my best guy friend and I wouldn't change that for the world, but I didn't want to keep this is inside because I didn't want to get hurt or anything, but I'm starting to like you, and I just want to know how you feel about me." Just say something like that. Hope this helps and good luck!! If you need anymore help, just post a message in my inbox!

xoxo Kourtney

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Hey i have really really dark brown hair and i want to bleach it blonde but im scared it won't look good cuz of my hair color now i wanted to change it before high school any advice i rate super good!

Hey! You have the same color as my sisters hair, lol she has brown hair I have blonde lol weird. But what she did was she put some blonde highlights in it. It looks really pretty! But don't do chunky highlights, do the thin kind! Hope that helps!

xoxo Kourtney

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where could i put my hands when im makeingout?
i really want 2 know please help?

You can put it on his cheek, holding hands, around his neck, etc. Those kind of places.

xoxo Kourtney

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okay ...i'm goin 2 my friend "Brad's" house and well i have a huge crush on him!! and love him with all my heart!! if anyone has any ideas of what i should do 2 make him know i'm interested lemme kno!!




xoxo,
.*.BeSs.*.

ALWAYS be yourself! Thats the number 1 rule. Not saying you wont be, but just saying lol! Just laugh and flirt with him a lot and just give him that flirty look (you know what I mean) and see what he does. He might get the hint. But now-a-days you have to tell the boy you like them, they're so stubborn lol. So, if he doesn't get the hint then just be like "I've tried hinting to you that I like you, but you didn't seem to notice, but I do like you and I want to know how you feel about me." Say something like that if the whole flirting and smiling and laughing doesn't work! Hope this helps and good luck hun!!

xoxo Kourtney

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ok well im a guy that no girls like cuz i am ugly. all the girls around where i live r shallow. none of them like boys that have freckles, redhair, and very very lite skin. what should i think of myself? as an ugly person or a cute person juss ppl cant see that?

You're not ugly! Don't be hard on yourself. And you even said it yourself, those girls are shallow! Why would you want to go out with a girl that is shallow and only cares what you look like. Wait for that girl who isn't shallow and likes you for you! That's the kind of girl you rather go out with anyway.

xoxo Kourtney

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my mind is always racing so fast . im so stressed i fall asleep at like 2:00 in the morning . is this normal

2 AM is kind of late. What are you stressing over? Maybe I can help you out. Try not thinking of all the stress you are under. Try listening to music softly while trying to go to sleep or watching TV. Sometimes I don't get to sleep til later at night because I sit in my bed thinking of things lol. So yea, its normal!

xoxo Kourtney

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i have gotten really close to my guy friend mike and we talk all the time. i have strong feelings for him and i DID tell him that i do like him. i think i put him in an akward position. did i do the right thing by telling him how i feel?

Yea you did the right thing, you shouldn't hold in your feelings about someone because you never know they may feel the same about you. You can try talking to him again and just being like "I know we've gotten pretty close, and I started liking you a lot, and I told you that, I didn't mean to put you in a weird position or anything, if I did I'm sorry." Just say something like that. Hope that helps! Good luck!

xoxo Kourtney

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hi my name is jessica and my friend thinks i called her jerk when i didnt now she started a big fight i said sry but i think shes still mad at mewhat should i do!!! PLZ HELP

Hey Jessica! Try sitting your friend down and just telling her the truth.. look her in the eyes and just be like "You're my friend, I wouldn't call you a jerk, Please just believe me, why would I call you one to begin with? I don't want a dumb rumor to start a big fight with us" Just say something like that and just make sure she knows that you didn't call her a jerk. Hope this helps and good luck! If you still need help, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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Alrite I need some help. Basically here's how it goes. My bestguy friend and me are very very close. We hang out like everyday cause we are practically neighbors. And I've known him 4ever. Alrite so lately I notice that he has been like touching me & my bestfriend alot. Not really sexually just putting his hands on us(if you know what i mean)He has touched me before though on my leg and touched my boob on 'accident'. So whenever he goes to touch me, even if its somethin small I tell him not to put a finger on me. He will always go why, why, how come other guys can touch you? So I just needa know if the problem is like me getting older and beingm more 'touchy' about this kinda thing, him going threw puberty, or he might kinna like me! pLeAsE hElp if yOo caN! thanks ;)

There may be a chance he does like you. But, it could also be because he's going through puberty like you said. Guys get likes that, they go through a phase at one point or another. If its really bothering you, you should sit him or down or something and just be like "I dont know if you like me or not or if I'm just going through a phase or something or if you are going through a phase, but I'm really touchy when people touch me, I can't really stand it sometimes." Just say something like that and how you feel about him touching you. Hope this helps and good luck, just post another message if you still need help!

xoxo Kourtney

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Ok..my friend always talks about her ex BF. Ive heard about him soo much and im tired of it. i mean shes not dating him nemore! I try to laugh it off and say..oh no ur talking about justin again but it doesnt she just keeps talking about him!..what should i do?

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Just sit her down and be like "I'm not trying to be mean or anything, but you and Justin aren't going out anymore, and you talk about him ALL the time, its getting kind of annoying. Do you still like him or something?" Just say something like that and be nice about it. And be serious when you talk to her, look her in the eyes and stuff. Hope this helps and Good luck!!!

xoxo Kourtney

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umm a year ago when i ment my g/f we were in love she lived in ny but then she had to go back to mississippi and we turned into a long didtis realation ship we were together for a year and almost a full mounth we broke up on sunday cuase she couldent wait two years for me so we were forced to break up cuase she was alwas busy and her father wouldent really let us talk on the phone so we were forced and i wont get to be with her untill i turn 18 so i can go over there. shes my heart and i wont get it back untill two years from now i still and forever love her. i dont really know what to do im so heart broken...

Aww... well I know its hard and that your heart is broken, but you two are in love and your heart will return to her's when you turn 18. And for now, you two should just date other people and have fun until you two can have a relationship again. Does she have a computer? Maybe you two can talk through that. Or do you know her address? Write letters to her and keep in touch. And be best friends til you two can be together again. It will take time for you to not be so heart broken, but its the best thing for you to do and I'm sure your girlfriend would want you to be happy, just like you want her to be. So until your hearts join again, try to live your life to the fullest. Hope this helps, I'm here for you if you need to talk about it.

xoxo Kourtney

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Okay im 17 i will be 18 n feb n there is this boy that i talk to on the net n like i met him a couple times n talked to him n he is 15 wont be 16 intill march n like i can tell him anything n i think im sorta getting feelings for him but i dont know if i should date him since he is 15 n younger them me .. n my friends what will they think>

Age is just a number. I mean you know he's not some old man, because you said you've met him a couple of times. You can't control your heart, meaning you can't control who you like. If you like him, then tell him just be like "I know I'm 18 and your 16, but I have feelings for you and I want to know how you feel about me" And for your friends, you shouldn't worry about what other people think, if you like him then you like him. Don't worry about what other people think of you and him, you're the one dating him, not them. Hope this helps!

xoxo Kourtney

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- - ok, me and my best guy friend Mike keep getting in fights over shtuff. Like EVERY SINGLE time i talk to him, he has to bring up his girlfriend, who is like one of my friends and he KNOWS I HAVE THIS MAJOR CRUSH ON HIM!! and we always get in a fight over it, cuz how would you feel if you asked your best guy friend out *not the brightest thing to do i guess* and he said no he isn't "ReadY" and then went and asked out your friend..? My god!! and now i dunno what to do, cuz i'm sick of fighting with him......

what do i do?
Signed..
- Stupid Best girl friend

When you two are talking just be like "You're my best friend and you're going out with one of my best friends and you knew I liked you and you said you weren't 'ready' and then you went out with a girl, what is up with that?" And then say "And I'm so sick of fighting with you over a girl, I mean you know I like you more than a friend, and I dont like it when you mention your girlfriend..." Just say something like that and how you feel. It won't be stupid either! Just be positive!! He should understand, he is your best friend. Just tell him how you feel and stuff. Hope this helps and good luck!! If you still need help, just leave a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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omfg...im such a dumbass...i acidentily deleted all the names on my buddy list...is there any way i can get them back cuz i had like 200 and can only remember like 5...!!!!please say yes!!!!!!

If you had a buddyprofile or something, go to your views and look there, or see if you saved your buddylist, or you wait til people IM you, or have one of you friends who have like the same people on there buddylist as you did have them send them to you. Hope this helps! Good luck!

xoxo Kourtney

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what is bronzer used 4?? i got spray bronzer and the cream an the powder???i rate*

A bronzer makes you look tanner and sometimes it makes your face stand out more. But, some of the bronzer makes your face look orange. You can try using like Wet N Wild or whatever, its like 5 bucks, and you just put it on your cheeks. If you really want to know what will work best, try asking the person that works there. They'll help you out!

xoxo Kourtney

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ok well what would you do if your boyfriend told you that they though someone who is 4 years older then them(hes 15, shes 19) is "bangin"? with me it kinda hurts...but i dont know what to do about it. do i just ignore it or what? please help. it would be nice to have someone to talk to about it...thanks

Its really no big deal, but I do understand where you would get mad, because I'm sure I would too!! I mean he is with you and not with her, he's yours!! lol. But, try talking to him and just being like "I know you think she's "bangin" but, don't tell me who you think is, because that hurts me when you do." Just say something like that. Hope that helps, good luck! If you still need help, just leave a message in my inbox!

xoxo Kourtney

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hey im 16 and im a male, girls.....this one is for you, is a guy being to nice to you a good thing or a bad thing, nice to a point where hes a real gentleman, opening doors for you, wlaking you to the door step, paying for your ticket and maybe sometimes dinner, depends on the occasion, is that a turn on or turn off about a guy, i thought it was a turn on???

Hey! My sisters boyfriend does that stuff for her, I think its really cute!! It just all depends on the type of girl you are with though, some girls don't like it when you open doors for them or pay for them, or anything. But, on the first date, open the door and if she doesn't like it, then don't do it again. It just really depends on the type of girl. But, I think its sweet.

xoxo Kourtney

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My boyfriend has been smoking pot for a few years now.. and we just hooked up a lil over a month ago. I have already talked to him about it.. and he lied to me and said he quit. Then one night I was with him and he was hittin pot again.

Is there any way I can talk to him or convince him to quit or even lay off of it a lil bit without him getting mad at me?

I was in the same situation! But, he told me that you can't make someone who has been smoking for along time just stop, its hard for them and it just fustrates them when you tell them to stop. And I'm sure your boyfriend is addicted to it, and its kind of hard to just get unaddicted to it. Its like pringles, once you pop, you just can't stop! haha. No, if you really like your boyfriend, then talk to him about it. And just be there for him and stuff. Just be like "I know I can't make you stop, no one can, only you can, and I don't want you to get mad at me everytime I tell you you need to stop, its just I don't want anything bad to happen to you, and I don't want you to lie to me about it saying you quit when really you haven't, that really hurts that you lie to me, just tell me the truth, but I just want you to *TRY* and stop, I know you can't just stop, but it will take time, and I'll help you through it" Just say something like that and just tell him how you feel about it and just help him through it. It will take time for him to stop, if he DOES decide to try and stop. Hope this helps, if you need anymore help just leave a message in my inbox! Good luck hun!

xoxo Kourtney

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Can anyone give me the lyrics of the song "Superstar" by Jamelia??

http://www.songlyrics.com/song-lyrics/Jamelia/Miscellaneous/superstar/242695.html

If you ever need anymore lyrics you just go to www.songlyrics.com and type in the name of the singer and the name of the song and then you got your lyrics! Hope that helped!! =D

xoxo Kourtney

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I am 13 years old. I just recently broke up with my girl friend. It sucks, but i'll live. the problem is I had sex with that girl, and everyone knows. I now for a fact that a girl i've had a crush on since 4th grade likes me, do u think the fact that I had sex will push her away from wanting to date me

I don't think it will bother her. She might think all you want is sex OR you will push her into having sex and tell her that, make sure she knows you won't make her have sex with her or something. Because she might be scared about that. But, she shouldn't worry about if you've had sex or not before. Just talk to her and let her know you won't push her! Good luck!

xoxo Kourtney

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