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My boyfriend smokes ... and I don't like it... what do I do?
My boyfriend has been smoking pot for a few years now.. and we just hooked up a lil over a month ago. I have already talked to him about it.. and he lied to me and said he quit. Then one night I was with him and he was hittin pot again.
Is there any way I can talk to him or convince him to quit or even lay off of it a lil bit without him getting mad at me?
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you cant change someone, if u knew he was doin pot before you two even hooked up, you cant just expect him to stop because now hes wit you..people like that need to slowly stop anyways. if he just stops one day he will get sick all the time an shacky from not bein able to have it.... you cant rly tell him wut to do though but if he loves you then he will stop.
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You knew what he did before you were with him, which means you knew what you were getting yourself into, you should just accept him for his ways.
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You can always just tell him straight up that you dont want him doing pot. There is always a chance that he will get mad but if he really cares about you he will stop for you! Just talk to him about it first though! Tell me what happens!
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I was in the same situation! But, he told me that you can't make someone who has been smoking for along time just stop, its hard for them and it just fustrates them when you tell them to stop. And I'm sure your boyfriend is addicted to it, and its kind of hard to just get unaddicted to it. Its like pringles, once you pop, you just can't stop! haha. No, if you really like your boyfriend, then talk to him about it. And just be there for him and stuff. Just be like "I know I can't make you stop, no one can, only you can, and I don't want you to get mad at me everytime I tell you you need to stop, its just I don't want anything bad to happen to you, and I don't want you to lie to me about it saying you quit when really you haven't, that really hurts that you lie to me, just tell me the truth, but I just want you to *TRY* and stop, I know you can't just stop, but it will take time, and I'll help you through it" Just say something like that and just tell him how you feel about it and just help him through it. It will take time for him to stop, if he DOES decide to try and stop. Hope this helps, if you need anymore help just leave a message in my inbox! Good luck hun!
xoxo Kourtney
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No,your boyfriend is going to keep smoking until he decides to stop. I'm sorry,but there's really nothing you can do. You can try and convince him that weed is a gateway drug(leads to use of other drugs)but he isn't gunna stop until he feels like it. If you talk to him about this,you're a nagging and controling bitch. If you don't, you're uncaring. I see where you're coming from,but break up with him if he likes his weed.
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First of all, it is -extremely- hard to quit something when you're addicted and you've done it for years. Both of my parents have smoked for half their lives and it is EXCEPTIONALLY difficult to stop.
You need to talk to him, yes. Make sure you tell him that you only want him to quit because you care about him and you don't want to see him get into trouble or get sick because of his addiction. Addictions to things like pot, cigarettes, and alcohol are life-threatening. No matter how often he uses it.
Tell him that you're there for him. Do a bit of research on the dangers of using the drug that he's using. Find a support group near you and give him the information on that. Find someone around his age that quit smoking pot after a few years of being addicted. I find that the best advice given to me is given by those who were once under similar circumstances.
Here's a sit on the dangers of smoking marijuana.
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If you need more help, go to Google.com and search 'Dangers of Smoking Pot'.
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wen i first met ma bf he did tat.. n i hate it! i told him tat it was either me or the smoking.. n hes lyk alrite ill quit.. after tat he did it lyk 3 more times after we broke up but we got bak together n ive been wit him 4 2 yrs.. n he hasnt done it for almost 2 yrs now.. i guess it just takes a lil time.. but if he respects u n luvs u he'll stop.. if not then ull noe he doesnt care! gud luk.. xoxo angie
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No. There is no problem with him smoking pot. Just because you don't understand it doesn't mean you can tell him to stop. If he's been smokeing for a few years, and you only just started going out with him, why would he quit just for you?
Try to understand something more before telling him to quit it.
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if he is really addicted he might get mad if u talk to him about it.. i had a friend who smoked all the time b/c he was unhappy but i talked to him about it and i told him how much i cared about him and that if he keeps smoking he has higher chances of dying young.. and he quit. tell your boyfriend ur worried about him and that u dont want anything happeneing to him since u care about him. good luck!!
xOx * kandiie
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i think your boyfriend might have some sort of reason hes doin this. like his parents or something. maybe if you tell him how much u care about him and u dont want him to hurt himself. Or u can threaten to break up with him!
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ive been with a pot head before, sorry to say lol, if hes really hooked, theres a great possiblity that if you tryed to talk to him he might get pissed. is there any reason why he might do it? i mean some ppl do it cuz they need to and others because there unhappy ya know. if your willing to risk a fight with him, talk to him about it and just ask why he cant maybe just lay off around you at least, if not im afraid you might have to live with it, like i did
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