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My sisters girlfriend?
My sister is a lesbian, and I am good friends with her girlfriend. When I am introducing the two of them to other people I always find myself saying "this is my sister and her friend."
I know I should say girlfriend, but I never can get it out.
Is it alright if I just say friend to avoid akward moments and let coversations to contiune to flow, or do you think it is affending to my sister and her girlfriend?
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"partner" might help. at first it might be awkward, and people might judge you like your sister, but you are your own person. ♥ good luck!
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The best way to find out if you are offending your sister and her girlfriend, is simply to ask them. It's obvious that you are supportive of them and they probably already feel that support and love from you. So, if you honestly explain that you mean no disrespect in your introduction of them, but that you don't know how to comfortably announce them, you will probably find them to be very understanding and appreciative of your concern for their feelings. Best of luck to you.
Kind wishes,
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I think you should talk to your sister and her girlfriend and find out how they feel about the subject. Just ask them how they would like to be introduced. Maybe ya'll can come up with something that ya'll will all be comfortable with.
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In some situations, they may actually prefer that their sexual preference not be the first thing someone learns about them. Anyways, ask your sister and her girlfriend how they want to be introduced. I'm sure they'll understand that you're not ashamed of their relationship, but that you sometimes feel awkward.
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I'm a lesbian, and it deeply offends me when family members refer to my wife as a 'friend.'
You're in the closet as much as your sister is, and you'd be surprised how fresh the air is once you step out of it.
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If i were you I'd talk to your sister after this happens again. But I don't think she'll be offended b/c some ppl have like really strong opinions toward people who are lesbians, and ur sis probably knows that, so I don't think she'll be offended with u introducing her as ur sis's friend.
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I think that it's fine to call her "girlfriend" her friend. Because she is also her friend. She's not just her "girlfriend." And I don't think that it would offend your sis and her "girlfriend." Hope I helped you! -J. Fitz
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i think that would hurt your sister and her girlrfiend a lot if you keep saying "friend". maybe you could use another word like partner. there is nothing wrong with being a lesbian, and if you tell someone she has a girlfriend and they get all weirded out.. then screw them.. they are close-minded jerks. if you dont want to offend either of them, you should refer to them as girlfriends. i mean would you refer your mom to someone as " dad's friend"? i think not
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if she hasn't said anything about it then she probably doesn't mind
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I think its fine that you say that! I mean i know I probably would too! Maybe talk to them both and tell them why you do that. Hear their feelings on it and if they dont like it do what they would rather have happen.
-holly-
hope i helped
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well, the only way to find out if it's offending your sister, and her gf, would be to ask if it offends her
but i guess it all depends, is your sister ready for the world to know, like is she ready for people she doesn't know, to find out
the only way to be sure is to talk with your sister
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Well, honestly, I don't think it should be a problem saying "friend" instead of "girlfriend". You really should talk to your sister and girlfriend to see if that offends them though. I hope this helps.
Crystal
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This one is tough. I see where you're coming from. Most people aren't gay and it would create a lot of awkward moments. Ask your sister and her girlfriend if it bothers them that you do this. If it does,refer to the friend as girlfriend from now on. If it doesn't,then keep doing what you're doing.
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Ask them if it is offensive. I doubt it is, as it is still true whether or not it's the whole truth. If it is offensive, you should try to say girlfriend, and hopefully whoever you're talking to should be kind enough not to make a big deal about it.
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You should talk to your sister about it, let her know that it does in some way make you feel a little bit uncomfortable, not that she's a lesibian, just that you don't know how to introduce her and her girlfriend to other people, or how they would want to be introduced. If you feel uncomfortable I'm sure your sister can in some way understand.
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Ask your sister! tell her you feel a bit uncorfortable saying it. maybe you'll get it out later but your feelings are also important! anyways good luck~!
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of course its ok.. its watever makes u feel comfortable and im pretty sure both ur sister n her gf understand! gud luk xoxo angie
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i think u should ask your sister and her girlfriend if they want you to introduce them as friends or as girlfriends and if they are getting offended and they want you to say girlfriend then practice introducing them so when u really have to u can get it out.what u r doing is right and thinking about them.GOOD LUCK
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If you really need an answer to this question than you need to talk to your sister and see how she feels about it.
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i think u should ask your sister what she wants to say. any normal person wouldnt care. it doesnt matter anyways. if your suster doesnt care then say its ur sister and her g/f! it would be fine with me.
-mike-
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talk to your sister, if shes out of the closet, then she must be able to at least talk to you about it, explain how you dont want to ofend her but youd rather say her and her friend, some people accept things like that, others doont mind, but its still hard eithor way, i wouldnt blame you because its not my sister, but iwould feel just as weird if that ws my brother instead
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