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NO CONFIDENCE....
OK. this is more of a problem for my friend. She used to be the happiest person and always nice and friendly. But i slowly watched her change. now she is constantly unhappy and she is always being mean. i really miss the old her. i asked her why she is like this. she said its because she has no self confidence. how can she get her confidence back so that shes the girl i used to know?!
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Okay, if she has no self confidence, then find out what she doesn't have self confidence about, weight, looks, ect. and then once you find out, work with her on it.. if its weight why don't you both join a fitness club together and you guys can just buddy up and workout together. If she doesn't want to go out in public, try a workout tape. Now if its looks.. just make her feel good about herself, theres no such thing as an ugly girl... so compliment her, but mean it when you do.
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Okai well everyones like that as they grow up so its not like a huge deal just try to help her out so she feels better about herself and if she looks good or if she does somthing good tell her you know but you cant change her midn onli she can but doing this well probably help a bit.
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Tell her how wonderful she is. alot of people need reasurring like all my friends think their to short or to fat or whatever. spend time with her doing thing she loves. when she says somethign negative about her tell her how its not true and give examples why.
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Sometimes telling someone that you missed the way they used to be, can make it worse for them. She already knows she's not like that now, especially if she wants to be. Being someone true friend is not always trying to fix their problems, but being there for them when they are ready to fix their own problems. Try just getting her to go and have a "girl's day", and go get your nails done, or go to a salon for a new style, ya know, that kind of stuff. It will help re establish some self confidence, and then let her come to you about her real problems in time.
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Sit her down and talk to her. This coming from someone who also has no self-confidence, there's usually a reason behind someone's lack thereof.
Tell her -exactly- what you've just said. Let her know that you miss the way she was before and that it upsets you to see her unhappy. It could be family-related issues that are dragging her down and, chances are, she just needs someone to talk to. Let her know that you're there for her and that you're always there for her to talk to. But if she feels uncomfortable talking, don't force her.
Self-confidence is a touchy issue and it's not always easy to deal with. Treat her to a day at a spa or give her a make-over. Compliment her clothes or her hair. Just try to do and say things you think would make her feel confident.
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You need to show her that ur there for her and people care about her. do the things that made her happy or the things you to did together when she was happy and that should help her out! hope i helped u
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