My boyfriend has been smoking pot for a few years now.. and we just hooked up a lil over a month ago. I have already talked to him about it.. and he lied to me and said he quit. Then one night I was with him and he was hittin pot again.
Is there any way I can talk to him or convince him to quit or even lay off of it a lil bit without him getting mad at me?
you cant change someone, if u knew he was doin pot before you two even hooked up, you cant just expect him to stop because now hes wit you..people like that need to slowly stop anyways. if he just stops one day he will get sick all the time an shacky from not bein able to have it.... you cant rly tell him wut to do though but if he loves you then he will stop.
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no no no.. im sorry its just i wanted to know. i dont think ur bad at all at giving advice, and i just wanted to know -- amanda
ohhh okay okay. .thank you.
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i no this isnt rly a big thing compared 2 wut u deal with but i dont no how 2 like deal with this muh self...so...my BEST friend in the entire world has a problem with keeping secrets n i dont no what 2 do?¿? i cant get mad at her even if i tried and ive tried talking 2 her about how i dont ever want ne one 2 no about these things but she seems not 2 understand. like this one time i did sumthing with this guy n i told her not 2 say NE THING but she goes rite up 2 the guy n talks 2 him about and when i asked her y she told...she was all like 'well he doesnt care if i no' i was like omfg! 'ya well i do and u didnt no that he wouldnt care so u talked 2 him about it ne way and didnt even no what he would think!' i jus dont understand....i love her and i never want 2 lose her but bestfriends r suppose 2 be able 2 keep secrects, rite?¿?
yeah all best friends should but maybe you should do the same thing to her an when she asks why u did it say "well now u know were i am coming from" then again that could b consider as rly childish.. but dont tell a secert thats big.. just something small, ya know? an never give up on tellin her though, how u feel about it, cause best friend dont give up on each otha..ya know? I know what ur goin through cause i have a best friend like that an she is always there for me i just dont tell her much, but i have more then one best friends.. i just dont count on her for that.. i guess thats why your allowed to have more then one best friend.
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hi, ive been going out with this guy for almost two years (in sept.) and sometimes i would just rather be with him than my friends.. cuz i am with my friends a lot sometimes, but i dont want to be mean and say today i want to hang out with him.. instead of them. because i love them a lot, but its just.. does that break the rule of friends first?
okay heres the thing.. girls.. hate when there friends rather hang out wit there man ova them.. so if anything i wouldnt tell them cause then they will bring up the whole "chicks before dicks" deal. But to b "in love" is different then "loving someone" he as ur whole heart but your friends do too just not in the same way.. But its rly up to you.. if you hang out wit your man too much then you wil start to get sick of him.. but bein together for 2 years.. is something not a lot of people have, so try to never lose that...sorrie if i didnt help
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why do u talk so much about urself.. cuz ive read everyone and some were jus about wut u went through? does that really help.. to tell people wut u went through.. im not that best at giving advice so thats why i want to kno -- amanda
at first i thought u were tryin to b a bitch by sayin i talk about myself too much wit answers.. actually from wut i've realized that related to peopel when they have problems makes them feel less alone.. listenin helps too but on a site like this its kind of hard just listen to there problems an actually help, ya know? It makes people think. like if its about cuttin its like "wow i dont want that to happen" an then maybe they wont.. cause they have read what i went through wit that but i dunno.. i can try to make shit less about me when i answere my questions.. is it a problem that i do that? Oh well if im bad with advice then i gues people should stop readin them or askin an answering back...
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i cut myself..badly..the underside of my left arm is alomst completley scard and my left upper thigh is wicked bad..my mom knows i did* it but she thinks i stopped i promised my ex-best friend i would stop but shes dumb ne way..my boyfriend hates it but he said he cant stop me..ive already been to therapy..they THOUGHT it helped..yea rite..but i found a new friend..lets call her Babee C..well she cuts..worse then me..she carves like long poems into her..all my friends arent talking to me because of it besides her..and the truth is i miss them all..i used to be wicked happy untill my dad got lung cancer..i loved him..and i was his baby..i really want to stop but everytime i see blood ne where..it makes me want to..i think i should just keep my head up and rmember my dad how he was before..but its gonna be hard..if ne one has any ideas of what else i can do to stop please help me..i cant keep livin this way..thanx xX mandie Xx
i know you get this a lot so im not gonna sing you tha same song everyone probably does..but you have a lot to live for.. an i use to cut and i use to b like you., my best friend even did it too.. sometimes our friend. lets say his name is. Bobby would give us ravors and me and her would see who could cut deepest and the most. my boyfriend (at the time, were broken up now.) of 2½ years hated it but i would lock myself in the bathroom and he couldnt get in..so yeah..I dont know why i stopped, even todai i look back and want.. everytime im even in the shower and have to shaved my legs - i want to take the ravor and cut myself instead.. but ii guess i dont cause i lost a lot, like you, a lot of my friends gave up on me an all i had was.. no one.. an i didnt want to b like that any more i actualy wanted to.. i dont know.. b happy? God is bein happy even posible? i dont think so but its worth tryin for.. listen im sorrie about your dad, right now my dad is dyin slowly an so is my mom.. both from heart problems.. different types of corse but eventually before im even out of high schoo (im only a freshmen this year) i could lose both my parents and only have my 17 year old brother.. i know wut your goin through, in some ways or another but no one rly does.. cause yeah.. everyone takes things in differently..you cant get advice from people like me, even stories of how my other best friend almost killed her self and was in a mental hospital for a week 'nd knowin i couldnt help was the worst pain i had.. then for her to come back and cry to me every daii how much she wished killin herself worked.. listen you have to take a long rest. just look inside your self and convince your heart your strong enough.. we all go through these kind of things for a reason. some people more then others.. but believe it or not it happens for a reason. My AIM sn is KissMuhAss14 if you wanna talk more, or just rate me an leave me fed back.. sorrie if this was too boring ...
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Ok, so heres the deal. I've been bestfriends with this girl since I was 11 now Im 18. At the age of 15 we stopped talking for a year because we went to different highschools. Well now, I can't stand to be around her because she lies a lot. And it will be about stupid things or even serious things that you wouldnt lie to your bestfriend about. For instance being a virgin or not, how many people you have had sex with, how much you drank...etc. to the stupidest stuff like how much you spend on a car, how many hours you work, how much your getting paid, hitting an animal in the road n making a story up about it. I tried to confront her 3-4 times before but she gets mad and makes a big deal about it and claims she will never lie to me and stuff. Now that I've had a boyfriend for about 7 months shes thinking I dont hang out with her anymore because of him when its not that at all. Granted I do hang out with him everyday but we will go to parties, watch movies, stuff like that. With her we would sit around or go for a drive n she would usually end up dropping me off at 11 cuz she didnt feel good, was tired, and stupid things like that. My curfew is 1. Everythign she says now I doubt and I'm starting to believe shes a pathological liar. What should I do because everytime I try to talk to her she just turns it all around on me. And when I dont wanna do something like go away with her because Im not allowed or go to the club she tries to guilt trip me sayin that shes second best to my boyfriend and that I never wanna do anything. I've talked to my other friends and they all agree with em n say that they dont liek her but use her for a ride. My betsfriend doesnt know that. What should I dooooo? Hope thats not too complicated for you to follow i kinda rambled on. Thank youuu
well since you already tried talkin to her about it, give her a taste of her own medinice and when she says "why u always lie" b like "so now u get it" but even that is a little childish sometimes friends need to go there own ways but if you dont want to stop bein her friend then you have to keep tellin her how you feel even when she gets mad dont stop..
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My best friend never approves of my "sexual activities" with my boyfriend! Lately, I just wont tell her because I hate how she overreacts but shes my best friend and I cant keep secrets from her!! I feel terrible! Now that I've had sex, I want to tell her but definitly dont know how. She'll get so mad at me.. Should I tell her? What should I say?
say it how you just did..tell you actually wait and need her fed back (sounds like you do - thats how i am wit my best friend!) an like i said say it how u just did, tell you cant keep anything from her, cause u can. and u need to tell.best friends always understands.. i had to when my best friend started havin sex at a 11..dont worry.. those who are true wont have a problem wit what you do..
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