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i cut myself..badly..the underside of my left arm is alomst completley scard and my left upper thigh is wicked bad..my mom knows i did* it but she thinks i stopped i promised my ex-best friend i would stop but shes dumb ne way..my boyfriend hates it but he said he cant stop me..ive already been to therapy..they THOUGHT it helped..yea rite..but i found a new friend..lets call her Babee C..well she cuts..worse then me..she carves like long poems into her..all my friends arent talking to me because of it besides her..and the truth is i miss them all..i used to be wicked happy untill my dad got lung cancer..i loved him..and i was his baby..i really want to stop but everytime i see blood ne where..it makes me want to..i think i should just keep my head up and rmember my dad how he was before..but its gonna be hard..if ne one has any ideas of what else i can do to stop please help me..i cant keep livin this way..thanx xX mandie Xx
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Hey there Mandie. I hate to say this, but you have an illness. Go to your family doctor, go back to therapy, and ask if they think that Anti - Depressants would help you. I know your going through a hard time right now, but no matter what happens to your dad, you'll always be his daughter. Also, stop hanging around with people who cut. It only encourages you. ithink you should talk to your friend too. Someone who carves long poems into them ... they sound like they need help too. Anyways, I hope I helped. ttyl.
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Im going to tell you stright out you have a illness my friend used to do the same thing...you need to stop hanging out with people who cut..they will make you want to do it more..then you need to go back to therapy as soon as possible and doing stop going until your completely better and maybe you should talk to a doctor about getting anti-depressents and see how it goes from there..but i hope you find a way that help and my best wishes~!
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No matter what happens to your dad, youll always be his baby. i dont se ewhy you do this to yourself. think about it, if oyur dad knows/finds out wouldnt that shatter his heart? to think that his baby girl is cutting herself. ii can tell you, it wont be easy, but you ave to do it, for your dad and everyone who cares about you. you need to fidn someoen your rele close to. talk to them when you feel liek cutting yourself.
Hope it helps
~TiNa~
p.s. im glad you finaly admited you have a promlem and want to fix it.
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Dear Mandie,
First off, congratulations, as that was the longest sentence known to man!
Wow, I had a girlfriend like this. She was crazy. For her birthday one year her friend gave her a wood carving kit to actually do this to herself. I kicked her friend's ass (it was a guy so I didn't feel bad). I broke the entire kit, took a leak on it, then flushed it. She wasn't very happy to say the least. That was the last time she did it that I know of (she probably started it up again when my sexy beast of an ass didn't want to be with her cheating, skanky ass anymore).
Having dealt with this before I know there is absolutely nothing you can do or say to get people to stop. I really don't understand why people start. It makes no sense to me at all. I know people say it's an 'adrenaline rush', um ok, so is stealing a car but that doesn't make it right. What I suggest to take out bottled up frustration is either working out or beating the living crap out of something (not someone). When I was having anger management problems I went out and bought a heavy-duty punching bag. Possibly the greatest investment ever. Whenever I would get mad, anxious, or depressed I would beat the living hell out of that sumbitch. It helped so much you wouldn't believe!
I think you need a hobby or something you are passionate about other than hurting yourself. You need something to do INSTEAD of this. What about reversing the process and doing something to help people that have the same problem? You would be surprised how much it could help yourself. Almost like fighting fire with fire. I'm sure you would be surprised with how good it would make you feel about yourself and how much it could change your thoughts on it. Also try to think, if your dad was here what would he think and say? I don't know if you believe in heaven and hell and all that jazz, but most people believe their loved ones can watch over them from heaven. I'm not going to preach about all that, but what if he could see you doing this. I know if I saw my kid doing something like that, I would be devastated. I would probably cry my butt off. Especially if I was unable to talk to them or help them. Try to think it from your family's point of view. How would you feel if this were your daughter? Kind of puts things into perspective.
I don't know if you would ever try to 'fatally hurt yourself', but that would hurt a lot more people than just you. Some people actually do 'fatally hurt themselves' to make others feel bad about something they did. People will get over it in a few months so it's not worth taking many years of your life away. Enough of that since it may not even apply to this situation.
I think you are making a mistake by not going to therapy or counseling for this. Wanting to do this to yourself is a disease and not normal. Don't feel bad about yourself though, you can't control it, just like people can't control high blood pressure, diabetes or depression. It's perfectly NORMAL to have these wild quirks, it's what makes us different.
If I helped at least a little bit then I'll take that. I figure most of the stuff people will tell you will go in one ear and out to other, which is nothing against you personally. Almost all people have to figure things out for themselves. Please let me know what happens with this situation. I would love to hear if things get better or if you just need someone to talk to about it I will try my best to help. I'm sure a lot of my readers will be keeping you in mind and pulling for you.
Hope everything works out soon! God bless.
SLeDGE
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i know you get this a lot so im not gonna sing you tha same song everyone probably does..but you have a lot to live for.. an i use to cut and i use to b like you., my best friend even did it too.. sometimes our friend. lets say his name is. Bobby would give us ravors and me and her would see who could cut deepest and the most. my boyfriend (at the time, were broken up now.) of 2½ years hated it but i would lock myself in the bathroom and he couldnt get in..so yeah..I dont know why i stopped, even todai i look back and want.. everytime im even in the shower and have to shaved my legs - i want to take the ravor and cut myself instead.. but ii guess i dont cause i lost a lot, like you, a lot of my friends gave up on me an all i had was.. no one.. an i didnt want to b like that any more i actualy wanted to.. i dont know.. b happy? God is bein happy even posible? i dont think so but its worth tryin for.. listen im sorrie about your dad, right now my dad is dyin slowly an so is my mom.. both from heart problems.. different types of corse but eventually before im even out of high schoo (im only a freshmen this year) i could lose both my parents and only have my 17 year old brother.. i know wut your goin through, in some ways or another but no one rly does.. cause yeah.. everyone takes things in differently..you cant get advice from people like me, even stories of how my other best friend almost killed her self and was in a mental hospital for a week 'nd knowin i couldnt help was the worst pain i had.. then for her to come back and cry to me every daii how much she wished killin herself worked.. listen you have to take a long rest. just look inside your self and convince your heart your strong enough.. we all go through these kind of things for a reason. some people more then others.. but believe it or not it happens for a reason. My AIM sn is KissMuhAss14 if you wanna talk more, or just rate me an leave me fed back.. sorrie if this was too boring ...
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I'm sorry to hear that about your dad. My boyfriends friends dad just died of lungcancer that spread into brain cancer. That's no fun:-( Anyways, on to your question...
Now why would you wanna scar your body like that? I'm sure your a beautiful girl, that doesn't need scars all over her left extremities. You should tell your mom that you started doing it again or that you have never stopped. Why do you want your boyfriend to hate some of your actions? You should go back to therapy, if you didnt like the last place you went for it you can always try a new place maybe with a therapist that specializes in it. Your friend *Babee C* should get help to. Don't compare your cutting to who is worse then who it is both bad and needs to be taking care of. You dont wanna lose your friends so you need to stop. Im sure that your dad wouldnt want to see you this way at all!!!! When you cut yourself your risking getting an infection.
I know you want to stop, ask your friends and your mom for help. And while you are trying to stop you should not hang around with Babee C because when you see her scars and her cuts your going to want to do it too.
Hope this helped
*Laci
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Well Mandie..one of my best friends cut..but she stopped..becuase she decided she didnt want to loose all her friends..and she didnt want to be know as a "freak"..for now on when u see blood..try to think of something happy..hope this helped..if you need anything im me arb279..
Good Luck
XoX <3
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dear almost all gone,
it is gonna be hard. i can't imagine what you are goin thro but my best friend cut until i sat down and talked to her about it. she said that she had a sucky life and she was goin to hell and stuff. well i can't stop you but remember your dad how he used to be. when you get sad pray(if you believe in god)or listen to music or whatever calms you down. just do something other that cutting. hope i helped
*~~~shana~~~*
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rember it is down the road not across the street cuting is so gay stop cuting u need to find soeone who loves u so u stop and build a love shakc
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mandie, i no how you feel i used to cut myself to on th underside of my arms and the tops. :/ its a very common thing to do and its hard to stop ilost friends n family overr it n i lost my grandma over it n then she got cancer n died . so she was my encouragement to stop i quit it all for her ! i no she is happy now and so am i it has been a year since i have cut myself and i feel fine i often have thoughts of cutting myself to relieve my pain but the thought of my granma always pops into my head. just think of your father and stop it for him . yet remember this is something you have to quit yourself because you want to not only because everyone else wants you to .
much love steffy
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I gotta friend that is basically in your situation..she has a dad that is dieing from lung cancer (from smoking) and she cuts herself alot..she promised me that she would quit and she did for awhile then started again..i understand that cutting yourself is a way to cope with your problems but i surally dont think that you loosing the people you care about most over it like your boyfriend and all of your friends..i say that this friend of yours that carves, cuts, and writes poams is not exactly your friend, even know that you can talk to her and all but there are people that are better than her, i think you guys should stop bein friends...you really should stop cutting yourself cuz it's no way to deal with n-e-thing..you dont want to end up bein a victim that kills herself on accident..i dont mean to scare you but if that is goin to get you to stop then someone has to do it..Good Luck wit everything. IM me if you ever want to talk: QTPNic
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look, i have had a lot of friends who cut themselves,n i never left them cuz their my friends n i no they needed help.so i went with them to a few classes n the classes helped them,n every time 1 of them wanted to do it again they always came to me n we went somewhere or did someting to get their mind off of it.so i think u should go back to therapy n find someone who isnt a cutter n tell them the truth about how u do it n how u wanna stop n that u need them to be there for u.i dunno if this will work 4 u but if u need n e more help u can im me @ sexysweetee99
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Omg girl....First off you have so many ppl that care about you. And your new friend cant be ur true friend if she doesnt stop you from doing it. She needs help too so she couldnt help you. Do you think that your dad would want you to do this. Your lying to your mom and you shouldnt do that. She loves you very much and it would kill her if you died from this. You ruining your body by doin this also. Get some more help PLEASE. If not for you or any of your friends for your dad. I was reading about this the other day on the internet. Go to this site [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
I thought it was pretty good. You have so much to live for you wouldnt want to die now. Remember you have so many ppl that love you. If you need me I will be here. You can email me or I have msn messenger you can talk to me there.
My email and my msn is lover_lovesu@hotmail.com
xoxo Megan xoxo
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ive seen where ppl instead of cutting themself they use rubberbandz on their rist n when ever they feeling like cutting they pull on the rubberbands. i think itz like suppose to be another way of reflecting pain its jus not as bad as cutting. wen u c blood u wunna cut... well instead just pull on the rubberband. i hope i helpd n i hope everything goes well for u. if u need any more help then u can email me just go to my advice column it has my email address there.
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Just think...if you lost ur daddy and u feel this bad think of how ur friends and mom will feel if they ever lost you...cuttin IS deadly and you can die from it..yea it is scary but true.You shouldn't keep living like this and no theres nothing ANYONE can do to stop you from doing this. Only you can stop you.So you need to buckle down and tell yourself that you NOT cutting anymore.And actually stick to it!I hope i helped...GOOD LUCK!
*much Love* *~tasha~*
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I was a cutter 2 and my mom found out i was in therapy for a while and i stoped your not trying to kill yourself or you would nhave cut right arm up and self mutalation is dumg your smarter than that theres other ways to get sadness or anger out IM me if you want wewonstate03 and stop cutting are having little cutts everywhere worth losing your b/f and best friends???????????
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