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Ok, so heres the deal. I've been bestfriends with this girl since I was 11 now Im 18. At the age of 15 we stopped talking for a year because we went to different highschools. Well now, I can't stand to be around her because she lies a lot. And it will be about stupid things or even serious things that you wouldnt lie to your bestfriend about. For instance being a virgin or not, how many people you have had sex with, how much you drank...etc. to the stupidest stuff like how much you spend on a car, how many hours you work, how much your getting paid, hitting an animal in the road n making a story up about it. I tried to confront her 3-4 times before but she gets mad and makes a big deal about it and claims she will never lie to me and stuff. Now that I've had a boyfriend for about 7 months shes thinking I dont hang out with her anymore because of him when its not that at all. Granted I do hang out with him everyday but we will go to parties, watch movies, stuff like that. With her we would sit around or go for a drive n she would usually end up dropping me off at 11 cuz she didnt feel good, was tired, and stupid things like that. My curfew is 1. Everythign she says now I doubt and I'm starting to believe shes a pathological liar. What should I do because everytime I try to talk to her she just turns it all around on me. And when I dont wanna do something like go away with her because Im not allowed or go to the club she tries to guilt trip me sayin that shes second best to my boyfriend and that I never wanna do anything. I've talked to my other friends and they all agree with em n say that they dont liek her but use her for a ride. My betsfriend doesnt know that. What should I dooooo? Hope thats not too complicated for you to follow i kinda rambled on. Thank youuu
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well since you already tried talkin to her about it, give her a taste of her own medinice and when she says "why u always lie" b like "so now u get it" but even that is a little childish sometimes friends need to go there own ways but if you dont want to stop bein her friend then you have to keep tellin her how you feel even when she gets mad dont stop..
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Tell how you are sick of her lies exspeacially about stupid and the littlest things possible. Until she shapes up then i wouldnt tell her about the friends using her until she does shape up-trix
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its sounds to me that you 2 dont sound like very good freinds. just sit her down and talk to her about it. it seems that she wants the whole world to be focused on her. and if you cant stand her as much as you used to then try to find a new best freind. still hang on to your old freinds but also try to move on! lol! love, amanda
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i have a friend like that. i would sit down with them and explain to them that u like them for who they are and it doesnt matter how much they lie and everything. tell them exactly how u feel calmly and nicely, and that she can trust you. hopefully she will understand. she might just like the fact or lying or she feels better about herself when she does. this might be a habit that she has so bear with her and hopefully she can break it. good luck with this hope i helped
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Alright, this is complicated, first off:don't talk to your other friends about her, that will make things so much worse (not blaming you, everyone does it) Secondly: find a way to prove to her that she is lying. Like her car, find out how much it really costs on the internet and show her. Third and most difficult: Break the chain. Don't split up for good, that would not be kewl because you've known her your entire adolecent life. She may just need to find herself. During that year that you guys had apart was probably a really rough year for her, talk to her about it, find out what's really making her lie. And if she always wants to go home early, is there a reason? Just try to find these things out before you shove it all in her face. Sorry about that
Lizzy
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no its not complicated at all.. i'm sorry about your friend.. but i really don't think you should be friends with her! i'm sure you have PLENTY of other friends so just ignore her! if she tries to you, talk to her back, but otherwise i'd ignore her.. orrrr just give her some taste of her own medicine and give her the cold shoulder act like a bitch to her like shes been to you!
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i was in the EXACT same situation for 2 years. my then friend constantly lied about everything like your friend does. she even got me to lie to my mom once, which i never did before (or since) about something really dumb that i would have been able to do anyways. it all led up to her lying about me to some of my friends and my friends told me about it. i finally realized that she was not a friend to me because friends are honest. and by her pressuring you into hanging out with her instead of your boyfriend is kind of like she is ruling your life. trust me.. you dont need that crap.
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