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Just friends....or does he think something more?
Alrite I need some help. Basically here's how it goes. My bestguy friend and me are very very close. We hang out like everyday cause we are practically neighbors. And I've known him 4ever. Alrite so lately I notice that he has been like touching me & my bestfriend alot. Not really sexually just putting his hands on us(if you know what i mean)He has touched me before though on my leg and touched my boob on 'accident'. So whenever he goes to touch me, even if its somethin small I tell him not to put a finger on me. He will always go why, why, how come other guys can touch you? So I just needa know if the problem is like me getting older and beingm more 'touchy' about this kinda thing, him going threw puberty, or he might kinna like me! pLeAsE hElp if yOo caN! thanks ;)
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Absence of a girlfriend makes a boy a pig, basically. No offence to you, but I don't think he likes you in a serious relationship way. It may be because you have grown in certain ways, and he's noticed that, and he's become interested. And when I say interested, I don't mean dating wise. Maybe the reason that he's touching you is because he may want to get with you. Blame hormones.
But, if you're uncomfortable about him touching you, then you have to tell him. And if he asks you why other guys can touch you, all you have to tell him is "Well, yeah, that's cause I LET them touch me." If he's a true friend, then he'll respect you and stop. Because the last thing any girl needs is a guy pretending to be their friend just so they can touch them.
But yeah, it's probably just hormones. Maybe you should find him a girlfriend, so he can touch her instead of you and not get slapped in the face.
<3
~A.Good.Lie~
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First of all,NO ONE has a right to touch you when you don't want to be touched!!If he continues to try and be all touchy-feely,and can't respect the fact that you don't want him touching you,then he's just not worth worrying about.But before you jump to any conclusions that you have to stop being friends,sit down with him and have a talk.Let him know that what he's doing is making you very uncomfrotable,and that you love and care for him as a friend and you would never do anything to him that he didn't like or felt uncomfrotable about.Your best friend should do the same(talk to him I mean).If he just blows you off or says you're over-reacting,it's time to tell him get goin!!You don't deserve to be treated badly,and to be touched inappropriately!!!He may like you and think that that's the way to go about letting you know,but it's not at all!!Or he may just be a jerk!!Haha!That's why it's all the more important to talk to him!!!Let me know what happens!!!
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I had that same problem. I think its some of both because when this guy kept touchin me and my friend he asked me out too. I think maybe he might think you and your friend are good looking or something ;)..But if you don't want him to touch you then don't let him.
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well my answer 2 that would b if u don't want him 2 touch u stand ur ground!! if u feel uncomfortable then u should let him kno "Listen i'm not really comfortable with this!" if he doesn't understand jus tell him ur not in 2 touchin or wuteva ur reason maybe!! maybe he is givin u signals that he likes u, u can confront him about this situation!! write me bak with the outcome!!
xoxo,
.*.BeSs.*.
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I have a best friend that's a guy and he does it too. I don't think that it's bad. just like laugh with him and you can be like stop but do it in like a flirty way. he might like you. but me and my best friend touch each other and flirt and we don't like each other like that.
if you have anymore questions just drop on in my inbox.
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Okay well for 1 no means no and if u tell him not to touch u anymore. He better stop. Hmm.. this is a lil tricky though. See its kinda the same with me... I have this friend at church and he is like my best friend too. We went to Kings Island together and on the way home i fell asleep leaning on him. but when i woke up he had he arm around my waist and was putting his other hand up my shirt... so it was a lil more extreme than u but i understand wut ur going through. Guys just are that way. Your a girl so they wanna touch u and as u get older it gets more extreme. *Jennifer*
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haha it may b any of those choices .. he might like u tho. idk if thats a good thing or a bad thing but even if its a bad thing.. like u dont like him like that ta go out with him, its always fun ta have a best friend whos a guy that u can kinda just like fool around with but never have nething serious with if u no wut i mean? cus if u dont reeeele like him u dont wanna screw up ur friendship by going out with him but its always kewl ta have a friend like that. if it reele gets anoying and he keeps doing it tho, and ur not feeling it lol, then just b like listen .. i dont want u touching me like that and if u dont stop, im not even gonna come near u. haha nd if u like him, u can always get someone to ask if he likes u -_' well i hope i helped.. <3
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There may be a chance he does like you. But, it could also be because he's going through puberty like you said. Guys get likes that, they go through a phase at one point or another. If its really bothering you, you should sit him or down or something and just be like "I dont know if you like me or not or if I'm just going through a phase or something or if you are going through a phase, but I'm really touchy when people touch me, I can't really stand it sometimes." Just say something like that and how you feel about him touching you. Hope this helps and good luck, just post another message if you still need help!
xoxo Kourtney
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