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I have gone from younggrandma to just yg. Now,
I am using my real name.
I don't think anyone who knows me will have trouble figuring out who that is!


I have been gone a while dealing with things in my own life. I am back now to help once again. Do not expect answers from me that just tell you what you want to hear. Life is to short for nonsense. :)
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im getting my navel pierced over the summer and i dont know what to expect. i want 2 know will there be alot of pain. im also thinking about my nose as well (link)
I don't know for sure how bad it will hurt. The belly button will take longer to heal so it could get a bit sore. Needles creep me out big time so...eek! But, here is a wbsite that is good. Explains what to expect before and after.

http://www.ehow.com/how_17695_belly-button-piercing.html

My daughter got her nose done and said it wasn't to bad.

Here is a site for the nose piercings

http://www.ehow.com/how_17142_nose-pierce.html


well usually i get my period for about 4-5 day. and last month i only got it for 2 days and this month i also got it for only 2 days. is that bad? i mean i dont mind cause i hate getting my period but im just a little worried! and i never had sex in my life before so it has nothing to do with a thing like that! but what is it?? do i have to worrie? thx
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No need to worry. It balances out. Some time you may have it for 6-7 days too. Though 4-5 days is average it does fluctuate from time to time. :)


what is the meaning of STRAIGHT EDGE?

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Looks like a group of girls who abstain from having sex, drinking etc. Go here for a good definition...:)

http://www.x-grrrls.com/index.php?entryPage=/articles/index.php?cat=1



i am 20 years old an di have been with my boyfriend for a year and six months. we were together for only three months when he proposed to me and i accepted. i love him a lot but theres soomething in my mind thats saying hes not the one for me. i have no friends because he says their no good for me. i called my ex-boyfriend in november because i had no one to talk to because my fiance was on vacation. i slit my wrists and everything. now i can't even go to work because he accuses me of cheating on him. please give me advice on what i should do? (link)
You get out.

Just because you said you would marry him doesn't mean you have to. He has all the signs of someone who is abusive, not obsessive.

One of the first things they do is alienate you from friends and family. I'm serious, don't wait around for him to take a swing at you. :)


Hello. I need some advice and knowledge here. I am worried and scared at the same time. I am 22 years old if this makes a difference. On the 11th of last month, I had intercourse for the first time. (long story about the condom) The following week I got my period. But it wasn't the full 7 days as I normally have. Anyway, all this week and all last week I have been sick. I have been nauseated, vomit every other day, tender breast, feeling lousy and tired all the time. Thirsty more than ever! I have been constipated, have ran a low grade fever for the last three nights. These last few days I have had light cramps like I am going to start my period but nothing ever comes. Today I noticed a vaginal discharge but it had a little blood in it. Not a whole lot. My Parents think that I may be pregnant. I don't feel pregnant. I was wondering if it was even possible to be pregnant if it has been a little over a month ago since I have had intercourse. I have taken a test, results were negative. I am supposed to start my period tomorrow. I don't know if I could be pregnant. It just don't seem to add up. Maybe it could be stress? My boyfriend and I broke up three weeks ago. Could it be an illness that I should be concerned about? I am worried and scared at the same time. Please don't say that my body is tricking me into thinking I am pregnant. I deny that I am, and I keep my mind off it, until my parents say something about it. I didn't even think of the possibility until my Mom pointed it out to me mid last week. I have already been having the symptoms of it before she pointed it out. Any advice or knowledge appreciated. Anything will help. Thanks in advance! (link)
I want to say you aren't since you have had a period since then. A negative test as well. The duration of your period doesn't really matter so long as you had it.

But, something isn't right. If your symptoms continue see a doctor and see whats going on. :)


i have a 8-9 inch mohawk and i really want to fan it and am willing to do almost anything other than put apoxy in my hair i still want to keep it and not cut it like how should i use, what? anything would be great (link)
OK, This sites name just drew me to it! It looks
like it has everything you need to know about the care and feeding of your Mohawk! :)

http://www.gothpunk.com/howtos/care-feeding-mohawks.html


ok so in music today my teacher, ms. meyer was like "i dont want anyone writing on music stands its vandalism its against the law.." and blah blah blah she gave us a whole lecture. and it seemed so like important. and then i thought of how during plays backstage or during play practices, kids write all over the wall with permanent marker and everything, i mean ALL OVER. i dont know why but i reaaaally felt i needed to tell the teacher, im usually not a "tattle tale". so she's like ok i'll find out who the people who did it are and approach them. then, heres the worst part. before lunch my friend looked like she was about to cry and im like whats wrong kate? and she's like "ms. meyer is going to kill me! she just found out about how people sign on the wall and she's going to yell at me when she finds out i was one of the people who did it and give me detention!" what should i do?? help!!! (link)
You let your friend take her punishment. She shouldn't have vandalized school property.

I don't think your teacher will tell anyone how she got the information so just offer your friend sympathy and tell her not to do that again. :)


There are these kids on my bus and they talk about things that are just egregious like “hanging all of the n****r*”, “shooting all of the f*g*”, and lighting living animals on fire and watching them suffer. How can I let them know that this behavior/ talk is unacceptable? I don’t care where you come from, this behavior is insane. It makes me feel uncomfortable and upset. There is an African-American boy on my bus and it is just so terrible to watch all of this happen in front of him. These kids are about 12 to 14. I didn’t know that people could be so wicked at all, let alone so young. How can I handle this situation??

Thank you
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If the bus driver isn't taking care of the situation, go to your school principle.

I don't feel comfortable having you confront kids who talk that way. Possibly they are just being smart asses but why chance it. :)


Where can i get a clarinet?

I'll rate high):

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Any good music store. The names of those vary from state to state so I'm unable to give you a particular store name. :)



On my son's 1995 Lincoln Mark VIII, the heater blower won't turn on. Probably as a result of this (and this is a guess here), neither the A/C nor the heater will work. My husband looked at the fuses, which all appeared to be ok.
Any ideas what might be wrong?
Thanks,
LuAnn (link)
More than likely the heater motor itself is shot.
That would cause both the heater and AC not to work. :)


It is a competition car. We use 20L fuel cell, in line Bosch fuel pump and Sard fuel pressure regulator. Starting the car in cold and warm is fine. Idle is stable but when accelarating the fuel pressure flactuates downwards causing the engine going lean. I changed the pump, the fuel pressure regulator, the pump relay, the fuel filter, I checked for voltage drop, i checked for fuel tank saction, i checked the injectors, I checked for pump overheating. All these are ok but the problem still exists. Any ideas? (link)
First...Is the fuel cell vented properly?

Second...Do the fuel tank outlets that feed the fuel pump point to the rear?

Under acceleration fuel goes to the back of the tank and if the outlet is on the front of the tank it will become uncovered and not feed the pump.

Also if your fuel lines are to small for the engines capacity it will go lean.

Is your fuel pump a high enough capacity for a high performance motor? Modified engines require much more fuel (volume not pressure).

Hope that gives you some ideas to check out. If this just makes more questions for you or you need more help feel free to ask for more info.
Will also be curious to find what the problem was. :)


how can you avoid razor burn when shaving pubic hair? i use shaving cream and new razors but i still get it..
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OK this article is courtesy of the World nudist nudist. It has a nude gallery on it and I don't think parents would approve of it. SO, hopefully I won't get in trouble copy and pasting it here...it was truly the best info I came across.

a little pubic shaving...
If you decide you want to do a little pubic shaving, whether you're a male or female, grab a fresh razor and pay close attention to the following steps to avoid in-grown hairs and infections, which can appear as itchy or painful bumps.

Trim It.
To make this process easier, trim the genital area before applying the razor! You'll save blades this way. Electric razors, clippers (with safety guards) or scissors work well. To get a closer cut and avoid unwanted nicks, pull the hair up then trim away. If the art of pubic shaving is new, you may want to let the hair short for a couple of days. This allows the genitals to become comfortable the transition you are about to make.

Soak it.
Soak the pubic area in warm to hot water, or lay a warm cloth over the area for about 10 minutes. This softens coarse pubic hair and makes it easier to shave and style.

Lather it.
Never dry shave your pubes! If you do pain and irritation will most likely follow. Use shaving cream or gel to lather the pubic area. A thin layer of petroleum jelly will foster a closer shave. Soap doesn't make the best lather for pubic shaving. Note that some people may have allergic reactions to certain lathering products.

Shave it.
Now your pubic area is ready to meet the razor. There are many different ways to style your pubes. Think about it before you start and be as creative as you desire. It is recommended to shave the same way the hair grows. However to get a closer shave you may want to also shave in the opposite direction. Some state this causes red bumps and ingrown hairs, but everyone is different. If you feel comfortable, try it. In addition, don't constantly stroke the same area during the shave, this may irritate the skin. Two to three short strokes are ideal. Lastly, stretch the skin to reach the difficult hairy spots.

First-Timers: The pubic area is sensitive and may take time to adjust to the razor. Four to six is common. In addition, slowly acquaint the genitals with shaving. Once a week is plenty for your first month. Don't worry about a smooth shave the first month.

Exfoliate (remove dead skin)
One thing that people forget that is very important is to clean your skin after shaving. The best way is with a "loofa sponge" and your normal body soap. Due to sensitivity of this area, rub lightly with the sponge to prevent skin irritation. This will help remove anything that might clog the pores.

Moisturize it.
After the shave is completed rinse, dry and moisturize the freshly shaven pubic area. Baby oil and aloe Vera are two suggestions. It's best to avoid moisturizers that contain fragrances and colors, since this may cause irritation. In addition, you may want to powder the area afterwards for comfort. Don't use products that include talcum, it causes irritation.

Upkeep It.
Wash shaven genitals on a daily basis. This helps remove unwanted oils and sweat. In addition, you may wish to moisturize and powder the area daily to avoid irritation. If you keep the hair short, you'll avoid stubbles, which causes itching. Try to wear cotton underwear and to stay away from tight fitting cloths pants. The lack of air circulation and friction of tight cloths may lead to in-grown hairs.

Downsides of removing the pubic hair

For some people, pubic hair is always easy and fun. However, for many other people it presents problems. When the genital hair begins to grow back, itching often occurs. Red bumps and ingrown hair may appear. To relieve the irritation, you can apply cortisone cream. If these symptoms cause you stress or don't go away, see a doctor.

Some people have allergic reactions to certain shaving products, soaps, moisturizers and powders. As a solution, try hypoallergenic creams, moisturizers, or soaps. If this fails, don't shave or trim your hair.

Some women have noted genital sensitivity during menstruation. If shaving becomes uncomfortable for women during their periods, they should time pubic shaving around their menstruation cycle.

And if one type of hair removal gives you trouble, you might consider trying a different type or hair removal. For instance, shaving might irritate your skin, but waxing might not cause as much irritation or in-grown hairs.

Keep in mind that your pubic area is not the only body part than can experience red bumps, ingrown hairs, allergic reactions to products and razor burn when shaved. In other words, be aware of the warnings but don't let them scare you off.

If you want to trim or remove your hair and feel comfortable with the idea, try it!


I'm not sure if this is suppose to be in here, but anyways how do you do an ollie on a skateboard? I got a k mart brand skateboard which i'm getting a pro skateboard soon.. and i got skateboard shoes if that helps any.. Oh yeah, what are some easy tricks to do on flat land after you figure out how to do an ollie..please help.. and thanks in advance (link)
Here is a how to site for you. Sure hope it helps! :)

http://www.ehow.com/how_4809_ollie-skateboard.html


i am always feeling a different mood.. sometimes im feeling sad, mad, happy and all sorts of things . that leads me wanting to be skater, prep, tomboy, goth, punk, then just back to myself.. i really dont know whut i should do when im feeling this way? i rate 5s (link)
It is perfectly natural to have all those moods!
There is no reason why you can't be a little bit of everything. How boring it would be if we all were all just one thing.

So, whatever you feel like doing today...just do it. :)


I'm 20 years old,quite old enough for living alone,but i've got a big problem.My parents and especially my dad doesn't allow me to move to and began my new independent life.I feel like i'm in prison here.could anyone advise me what to do? (link)
How exactly is he stopping you?

I think you maybe don't want to stir up trouble because he doesn't want you to move out on your own.

Parents will worry but it is something you need to do. You need your own life separate from them.
The longer you wait to make the move, the harder it is going to be for you and your father.

Find a place and go for it. Do it soon, if you can afford to do so. It will take some time to get used to being on your own but in the end you are going to love it.

Dad to will get used to it in time. He may give you a hard time about it at first, but he'll adjust eventually too.

Get movin' and good luck on your new adventure. :)


At the moment i just dont get on withh my parents at all, my mum in particuallar.
I used to think i didnt care, if we had an argument i would either lock myself in my room and play loud music or ignore them and not talk, as a sort of revenge type thing.
I thought i just wanted to get away from them. But now ive realised that i dont, that i want to be close to them, i want it to be like it used to be, when we got on well and had fun.
I cry sometimes because of this and its really getting me down.
Im 13/f.
How can i be closer to my parents and have a better relationship with them? (link)
Here is a website I hope will help you out.
It lists a lot of things to do to make your relationship better with your parents.

Good luck! :)

http://teenadvice.about.com/cs/parentstalkto/ht/parentrelateht.htm


ok. im 13/f. ppl SAY im skinny(a good kind)but when i look in the mirror al i can think about is"im too fat" im anorexic and now ive become bulemic. i dont like acceptin ghelp i didnt ask for and i dont want adults 2 know. i was 93lbs. but withiin 1 day i dropped to 89. ik this isnt healthy. suggestions anyone? (link)
Since you are only 13 you need to get an adult in your life involved in helping you get over this.

Sometimes you have to ask for and accept help dealing with life's problems. There is nothing at all wrong with that. Eating disorders are just to hard to handle on your own. If you have been anorexic long, even starting to eat again might possibly need to be handled under a doctors supervision.

Please say something to your mom and get some help for your problem. :)


There's this guy at work that likes me. He's liked me for a while now... however I do not like him.. and his way of approaching me. His flirtatious words and all that I did not really feel comfortable with that. But otherwise if he's serious and we talk about useful stuffs such as computers and stuffs It's alrite. He helped me fix my computer last time and said he'd come over again today to help me come over however... he never showed up. This is because of our convo yesterday:

He: If there's anything else you'd like me to DL just give me a list.
Me: Nah it's ok. I dun wanna wast your time.
He: Time used on you is never a waste.
Me: But there's no way of me repaying you.
He: Do I really not have a chance at all?
Me: As friends very likely, but no more or less.

He goes on talkin about how we should give it a try and how you'll never know until you try things out since love is unpredictable.. I told him no.. I do not want a bf rite now nor do I wanna get involved in a relationship. He goes on and says well you're my type of girl but i guess Im just not ur type. and then he says well hope happiness and love will be your guidance angels forever and hope you'll find your true love soon. then i said thx.. and that was the last convo we've had... I dun get it how come we can't b fwnds? How come he has to act like he doesn't know me?? I'm glad I changed my shift to Fridays instead of Sat. otherwise it'd be even more awkward hafing to face each other. But.. I don't know I feel bad.. there's this thingy that's been eating at me for a while.. I just don't like it when I lose a friend... but is this a real friend? I mean when someone likes you that's why they wanna get close to you... but then it's not like they are nice to you because they wanna be fwnds... it's coz they are interested in you and wish to go out with you... Should I just ignore him too? Should I forget about it?? But wat if we haf this gathering at work... and I hafta see him?? what do I do?? ignore him? Get ignored? Man... I wish not everybody at work knew about him liking me... most people did tho.. even the boss.. (link)
If he really has feelings for you, it may be hard for him to see you if you're not interested.
Being JUST friends isn't what he wants so being around you is difficult for him at the moment.

That doesn't mean it will always be awkward. After some time has passed and he maybe gets interested in someone else, you may be able to be friends then.

Rejection is hard for anyone to swallow. He may also be a little embarrassed about it. More so since everyone knew he liked you.

Give it some time. You may be friends one of these days. Until then be polite when you see him or have to talk to him, he will probably do the same. He probably just won't go out of his way to have contact with you. :)


I'm hoping that I could get a guys perspective on this (girls can answer too).
Well if a guy that you've been close friends with for several years says to you that he hopes you won't get involved romantically with anyone from the city you live in (and he lives out of town); does that mean anything?
If he just thought of you as a friend why would he say he hopes you won't date anyone from your town? Unless he's thinking that he wants to be with you?
Does anyone have any insight into what he was hinting at?
ps- before I forget he also keeps asking me if I want children; and he's never had any. (link)
Sounds like hes interested, doesn't it? Wonder why he doesn't just come out and say so. He must be unsure you feel the same.

Next time he says something like that, ask him why hes saying it. Just in a teasing way...something like "what makes you say that? You interested?" Do the same when he asks about children.

Hes definitely hinting around about it. You just need to give him the green light and let him know you don't object to that line of thinking...if that's true.

Good luck. :)


how long after sex can you tell if you're pregnant and what are some of the sypmtoms? (link)
This site lists all the symptoms. It also has a ton of helpful information. Take a look. :)

http://www.coolnurse.com/pregnancy.htm




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