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living alone
I'm 20 years old,quite old enough for living alone,but i've got a big problem.My parents and especially my dad doesn't allow me to move to and began my new independent life.I feel like i'm in prison here.could anyone advise me what to do?
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Your over 18, they cant make you stay there...it's illegal. If you want to move out, then do it. It's great that your realizing its time to live on your own. This is the only way to learn how the real world is...good luck with everything!
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If you belong to a community that frowns upon females of any age living alone, then you may have a few problems. However, if I assume right, you are not of an ethnic background and do not have the moral constraints that they do. You are a young adult who appears to be quite capable of living her own life. He cannot stop you from leaving home so do some research into how you can leave home successfully. For instance, finding somewhere to live and knowing you can afford the rent. Let your parents know that you are just not merely walking out into the unknown, have somewhere to go to and a job with which you can support yourself. They may be fearful of the big, wide world out there and what it can do to you. Don't leave under a dark cloud and make sure you keep in touch with them. It can be just as frightening for them as it is for you. Ask for and listen to their advice but make it clear that you are going, with or without their blessing. I hope that it all goes well with you and I wish you lots of luck for the future.
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you are twenty, they have no say what you do in your life anymore... if you have a job, and you can afford an appartment.... then go apply for appartments.... and if you get one, just move out, they can't say anything to you b/c you are twenty.... they can't call the cops and say "runnaway" and unless you take a car that is titled in their name... they can't report theft..... good luck, and i hope you can get onto your own life soon
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If you're financially able to move out, then for God's sake MOVE! Go get an apartment, order a bed to sleep on, and be an adult!
If you're a college student and still living with your parents then that's another story, you're just going to have to deal with the prison for another few years. It'll motivate you to save up money and be ready when the time comes though. Spend extra time at the library studying so you can get an even better job and move out that much faster.
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Hun, you're over the age of 18. Right now you can do pretty much whatever the hell you want to do. As of now in your life, your parents have absolutely no say in what you do unless you let them have a say. Do what cha want. It's your life now
-BlackBatman-
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your 20 years old! if moving out and on with your life, then do it! youve parents only have control of you until your 18 rite? i think that your def. old enough to make your own decisions. you know how parents are, always attached to their kids. tell your parents you will still see them and talk to them alot, reasure them that you will be fine but its time you move on. wether they like it or not, its your decision. hope i helped much luck =)
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How exactly is he stopping you?
I think you maybe don't want to stir up trouble because he doesn't want you to move out on your own.
Parents will worry but it is something you need to do. You need your own life separate from them.
The longer you wait to make the move, the harder it is going to be for you and your father.
Find a place and go for it. Do it soon, if you can afford to do so. It will take some time to get used to being on your own but in the end you are going to love it.
Dad to will get used to it in time. He may give you a hard time about it at first, but he'll adjust eventually too.
Get movin' and good luck on your new adventure. :)
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just leave, your over the age of 18 you can do as you please.
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You're 20 years old, how can they not "allow" you? You don't need their permission in any way, shape, or form. Go apply for an apartment, move your stuff into it.....
I don't really know what kind of advice to give you, you don't need anyone's permission at your age to do anything. You just have to go against their wishes, it's true. It isn't unreasonable in the least to live on your own at 20.
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