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i have this bump type thing on my lip and its really embarrassing if i show it. how do i get rid of it (link)
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This sounds like a Cyst. Its like a sac filled with liquid, etc etc. Sometimes, it goes away on its own. At other times, it may leak, and then infect.
You may need to get an operation on it.
But you should really see a doctor to confirm this.
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16/f when I masturbate I but this body moisturizer all around my vagina and on my hands, is it normal to do this or am I just weird? (link)
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This is normal. The lubrication provided by lotion makes things easier and more pleasant.
Try to avoid strong, perfumed, chemically typed products. This can be irritating, and can cause infections, rashes, etc etc.
There are a wide range of water based lubricants available at stores. Durex, and other companies produce good ones. You can find these near the condoms/ sexual health section.
You could try using a natural, organic lotion. I'm not sure if this would infect, but I doubt it. But purpose made lubricants should be used if possible.
Good luck!
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How to have sex without getting really nervous (link)
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I don't know your age, but i'll have a go at answering :
Well, we all get nervous on our first time. We think that we may do something wrong, or whatever. That is normal.
But if you feel VERY nervous, maybe it's a sign that you're not ready. Either with that person, or in general. You should speak to your partner about it.
You should only have sex when you are totally comfortable with the person in question. You should never have sex because you feel you have to.
In all, relax. But don't have sex because you feel you are being pressured to. Do it in your own time, with someone you are comfortable with.
P.S. don't forget to use protection.
Good luck.
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I m just sick of my fucking lyf,,i got failed in my final sem for which I have to burn my ass for another six months in filthy southern part of india.My friends cousin everyone left meh alone in this solitery planet.My girlfriend is also fed up with me now a days.I havent told all this things to my parents as I know how much they will hurt.Please give me one solid way to leave this era forever...Ron Goth
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Hello.
This seems to be a suicide question. Please realise that suicide is never the answer. Things will always get better in the end. Life has true value in itself. You yourself, are a miracle of science. Do you know the incredible journey that one sperm cell had to make? Out of MILLIONS, it fought it's way through a maze of a journey, and fertilised that one egg, while all the odds were against it. Truly a miracle than we can never fully comprehend. You also state that you don't want to tell your parents as they will be hurt? You obviously have a family you love, and that love you. Would you rather hurt them, by losing their child?
On to your situation. Education is hard. But it is so valuable in this world. Not as a means to get a good job, but as an end in itself. A way to broaden your horizons, to learn things which you do not know. But it is so worth it, putting in them extra hours, working as hard as you can, just so that one day, you will get a certificate, telling you how good you did.
And with that, you can leave 'filthy southern...India' as you put it. I know India, I've visited a couple times. There are always bad parts of the world, wherever you go, but the vast majority of India is great. Dream of the day, where one day, you will go to make yourself. Delhi? Mumbai? Goa maybe? Maybe China? Or Europe? The world is your oyster dear boy!
In regards to romance. If your girlfriend is 'fed up' with you, speak to her. Ask her what the problem is. If you feel the same way, then end the relationship. It may be hard, but eventually, YOU WILL get over it. However bad you feel. And there are plenty of more fish in the sea. Did you know there are 591,400,000 women in India? Roughly 3,510,918,015 in the world? You will find someone else, someone better.
Also, be sure to go out and meet new people! Make friends! That's what makes life better! And you won't find friends at home. You need to go out there. Play sport, play music, enjoy life, and you will meet excellent people to enjoy life with.
Good Luck :)
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Over a year ago, I had just gotten out of an abusive relationship, had a miscarriage (in which my ex told me he was happy that my baby had gone to hell), was struggling with bulimis, and my father figure died of a really painful cancer. I was in the military, away from everyone I knew and had only one friend who knew all of this. I felt ugly, worthless, and insecure. This friend told me the only way a man would love me was if I got more "sexual experience" (I had only ever slept with my ex.) I idiotically followed this advice and slept with four rather random people. This friend who had given me said advice grew to be my best friend, then my boy friend, and now is my fiancé. He constantly calls me a whore for those four times, and repeatedly tells me how disgusting I am. How do I fix this? (link)
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Hello,
First, the advice your friend gave you, was terrible. A man will love you for who you are, not how many people you've slept with.
Secondly, is your fiance calling you a whore as a joke? Or seriously? If it's a joke, explain that it hurts you. If it's serious, then you need to speak to him. Explain how it makes you feel. Hopefully this will work. But if it doesn't then you need to realise that this isn't the relationship for you. Would you rather be stuck in an abusive relationship again? Or find someone who loves you for who you truly are? Because him calling you a whore, is obviously abuse.
Also, on a side note, you say this relationship has been going on for only 8months? Do you not think that is a bit premature to be engaged to be married? You give the impression that you are rushing into things, because you are worried you won't find someone that loves you?
Be sure to realise that rushing into a relationship won't make it work. I know people who have been together 8years, and are only now starting to talk about marriage. One of my shortest relationships was only 6 months, and I would never had even thought about marriage.
My advice is to think about whether this is the man for you. If not, then you need to leave the relationship sooner, rather than later to ensure you don't get in too deep. Eventually, you will find someone that loves you, for you. Of course, you will need to go out, and meet people. But that doesn't mean you should drop your underwear, just in the hope than maybe you'll get somewhere with them.
Good Luck :)
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When i went to the restroom and poop and i wiped myself, thiers was blood on the tissue , this has been going on for likee 3 times now but thier not constant .
is this bad ? (link)
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Hello,
The best option is to see a doctor to be honest.
There are many reasons that blood can appear in your waste. Sometimes, a bit of muscle tissue is torn and this heals itself. But sometimes, its bowel cancer and is life threatening.
Only a doctor will be able to tell, so please do visit them, and let them know.
Good luck! :)
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My sister in law was living in a trailer. Which was my husbands and mine. She moved out this past week ( I had not been in the trailer while she lived there) She moved 300 miles away. She has two children and a husband she used to have a dog. We decided to remodel the trailer when she moved out so after she moved we go into the trailer and there is trash every where clothes dirty diapers used condoms. ETC, The toilet was filled with crap. There was pee soaked carpets, black mold in the fridge roaches etc. She is living with a friend in another state now. The kids are away from it now but it is bothering me so much. (when she moved into the trailer it was not this way we had it cleaned up good.) (link)
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Hello,
This is one of those situations where if you don't handle it properly, your family could break apart for a long time.
The first question for me is whether you (you and your husband) had a good relationship with her before this incident? I assume so, because she was staying in your trailer? This is important, as it helps to figure out whether she trashed the trailer on purpose, of this is just the way she lived?
Also, are you sure it was her? Did it go un-occipied for a while after she moved out? Maybe some vandals can in and trashed it? You should investigate this before pointing the finger at your sister, just to ensure it wasn't her.
Let us assume you went in and saw this straight after she moved out, and it was her that did it. I think what you should do is to give her a call, or write to her if you can. Make sure you're calm, and I advise your husband makes the call. The reason I say this, is because sister-in-laws usually don't get on great. And she would maybe be more open if it were her brother calling. Maybe I'm wrong through, maybe you two had a good relationship. Either way, give her a call and say:
"Hey. How are you? Are you settling in well? That's good. Well, we just came into the trailer, and we just wondered what happened? Its really messy, with the toilet blocked up, etc etc etc".
-Note the calm nature, and starting it friendly. If you go in, all guns blazing, screaming down the phone and making accusations, it really will make her deny it all, and put the phone down. Ask her what happened, and explain that it's going to cost you a lot of money to fix this up. If she volunteers to help with the clean up, then you are in! If she denies it, then send pictures, and make sure she admits to it (if she did it).
You will also need to take some photographs (In-case you need them). Do this before clearing everything up. A camera costs all of $5 for a disposable one from a drug store, so don't put this off.
In regards to cleaning, you should do as much as you can after taking the pictures. Like clearing diapers, etc etc. Anything that you can do, do it. Stuff that needs speciality care that you will have to pay for, you can keep the bills.
Now, you can either sue her (small claims), try and convince her out of court to pay the costs, or just pay for it yourself. This is an option for you, but realise that the Courts should be a last resort, and the photo's will be useful there.
In regards to the children, were they staying here? If you are really worried about their welfare, you can file an anonymous report with child protective services, but be sure that you have reasonable proof i.e. photo's again. Be sure not to do this out of spite though, and only if you genuinely are concerned.
Good luck, and I hope I helped :)
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I'm looking for a car that's around $2000 or less. What are the best websites to look at for my search? Also, how big of a loan could I get with some credit? (link)
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Hello,
Autotrader is a great website, where you can put in exactly what you want. You can also just google "used car sale *CITY NAME*".
It would have to be a used car at that price. If you buy private i.e. from a person then you would have to get a loan from the bank. If you buy from a dealership, they can figure out a payment plan/you can get a loan from the bank.
The problem with the question is, 'some' credit isn't very precise, and because your exact credit makes such a big difference, we wouldn't be able to go into alot of detail. Even if we know your credit rating/score, it would still be up to the bank/dealership to assess how good of an investment you are, in your individual circumstances.
But what you can do, is to approach a bank and see if they would be able to let you know how much money they can lend you with your credit?
Good luck!
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"Jesus loves you." A nice gesture in church. A horrific thing to hear in a Mexican prison. (link)
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Well, let us de-construct this:
1. Jesus loves you - something nice to hear if you are a christian
2. Prisons are all male. I.e. Everyone in a prison is of the same sex.
3. Jesus is a mexican name, pronounced hay-zeus or hay-sous (soos). Jesus is also the name of the son of god.
4. If someone in a mexican prison tells you that "Jesus loves you", they are referring to a Man called Jesus.
In short, Jesus is a mexican name. If a man loves you in prison, there is a stereotypical bad tasted joke that you will get raped.
I'm terrible at explaining things, so hopefully you understood -_-
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I'm 19 year old female and I been having a pain in my right lower abdominal for a month now two weeks after it traveled to my back well right behind that spot and just a week ago my right side like my ribs area will hurt when I laughed or breathed in. Two days after it just got worse it just hurt without doing anything and I feel it right above my stomach under my breast area. Well I just been feeling alot of pain and I never cry ever for anything emotional or pain but one day I hurt so bad they just came out. Also they have done an ultra sound the first week of me feeling my lower abdominal pain and they said everything looked good. Idk if my drs an idiot or there's nothing wrong but I been in alot of physical pain for awhile now and I just want it to go away. So if anyone can help me out or if they nothing anything to this I'd really like to hear what you have to say. Ty (link)
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The best option in these types of situations is to see a doctor. Fortunately, you have already done that. Your only other option is to get a second opinion. Is there another doctor you can see?
Atleast then you can see if your first doctor got it wrong.
These types of questions are hard to answer, as each country has it's own healthcare system. In the UK, I would suggest someone call NHS direct, or maybe get a second opinion by going private. We also have websites to help with symptoms. Of course, this is all state run, and so can't be used by non British citizens.
In short though, you should try to get a second opinion. It's difficult for me to really go into it further, as I'm not very familiar with US or other healthcare systems.
Good Luck however :)
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I recently met a guy in my area from a dating website. We exchanged numbers, talked pretty consistently for about a week and finally decided to meet up under the agreement that if we weren't attracted to each other, we'd go on our merry ways. However, things turned out very differently than how I initially expected. After an entire evening of talking, we ended up hooking up (no sex; only making out and petting) in the back of his car. So as of now, we're dating.
The catch is that he's graduating school soon and will only be around for three months, and considering both of our busy schedules, we wont really have the opportunity to spend very much time together. He's 23, which most people would consider a significant age gap. Not only are we in completely different phases in life, but there's also the question of legality.
I was just wondering if someone could give me advice on how I should address the sexual aspect of the temporary relationship I'm getting myself into. Because, we're obviously going to have to address the question of whether or not we're going to have sex (he'll obviously want to). Thanks. (link)
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Hello. I have a few points to make, and so i'll bullet point them:
1. You clearly state that this was going to simply be a physical relationship, as you would part ways if you were not attracted to each other. So this isn't really an emotional thing so much.
2. You also state that you are only Dating. So we know it's not serious. Also you say "he'll obviously want to", which makes it sound that this is purely a sexual thing. He'll want sex, so you may as well. That's not necessarily right.
3. He will soon be going away, and so if you do get into something serious, it will be difficult when eventually he has to go. For both of you.
4. You state the legal problem. 17 & 23 is not only stupid, but illegal. Technically, it is rape. Even if you consent. Depending on the judge, He could be convicted of Rape, and Paedophilia. He would be a sex offender. Imagine that: Your whole life ahead of you, just graduated from school, and no one will employ you because you raped a young girl. Surely, if his vision is too clouded to realise the consequences, you should step up and realise why it is wrong.
5. If you were older, or similar aged adults, my advice would be different: Realise that you may suffer heartache when he leaves, but if you are both consenting adults who just want to have fun, go for it.
Solution: Don't do it dear. The consequences far outweigh the benefits of this situation. You could end up being hurt. He could end up being an unemployable sex offender. Simply move on, and find someone of a similar age to you.
Good luck.
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I've been in a long distance relationship for over a year now with my best friend. We met online and just a few months ago met face to face for the first time. I am 19 and female. He is 18 and male.
Sine the beginning of the relastionship I have questioned if I really want to be together. I've told him before that I question it and have been close a few times to breaking up. I love him, but as just a friend or a love interesting I am unsure. I dislike hurting him, and feel I do so no matter what choice I choose to do; break up or stay together and keep question it. Which is why I seek advice and get another point of view. (link)
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Hello.
Someone will be hurt, whatever your decision. But keep in mind that you are very young. The pain will last for a tiny fraction in the grand scheme of things.
Is it worse that he is hurt for a few weeks (maximum), or that you are hurt from all this confusion for the rest of the relationship? It sounds selfish, but you need to break up with him as soon as possible to ensure that you do not lead him on, and to ensure that no-one is seriously hurt before it gets too deep into the relationship.
Good luck :)
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So I'm 23 and thinking lots of death lately....my brother. Killed himself in front of me when I was 15 I watched my aunt die of cancer all my grandparents died I was a foster. Child in many different homes and badly abused as a child ... I get a lot of bad thoughts about ending life what should I do ps... I'm a girl I'm from Canada (link)
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Hello.
What you really need to do, is to see a medical professional. Someone like a councillor or a psychiatrist. The reason I say this is because you seem to have suffered much trauma, that must have inevitably made an impression in your psyche.
Suicide however, is not an option. It is a long term solution to short term problems. You say your brother killed himself. You seem to be very affected by that, and this is the deep pain that can be caused when one decides to kill one's self.
In short, suicide really is not the answer, as things will eventually get better. But be sure to see a medical professional as soon as possible (It may be awkward or nerving at first, but you must persevere) as it will help you greatly. Local government can put you in touch with a local professional, as can your doctor.
Good Luck :)
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i'm a crosdresser 58 yeas old and want to be apart time maid for a couple or single person i have a few proper maids outfits
where could i find people to work for (link)
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I don't understand: Do you want to do this thing as a sexual act, or as a profession?
Sexual act: There are many adult dating websites available. I won't post links to them, but a simple google search with reveal many. Adult friend finder is very popular. Craigslist is also an option. Also, answering/making newspaper adverts.
Profession: You can apply to jobs in the paper, or advertise your services. Keep in mind that many people would be uncomfortable with a cross-dressing maid (no offence intended).
Good Luck :)
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Gotta problem with my ex. Got in a huge fight. I was NOT an angle, but neither was she. She wants a break. She only hangs out with other guys. She just renewed a lease on our appartment with me, still has sex with me then makes sure she spends as much time as she can away from me. What the hell is going on? Im 30 and she's 24 and has always been totally devoted (link)
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You really need to speak to her. For the sake of the relationship.
If she wants a break, that's fine. But explain how you feel. You need to tell her that she is sending you mixed signals. If you accept that she needs a break and you agree, go through the practicalities with her. I.e. The living situation, how this affects whether you will see other people etc etc.
Be sure to tell her however that she needs to make a decision about what she wants to do. You both cannot be in a dead end relationship that isn't going anywhere, with the burden of a lease.
Also ask what she needs a break from. This may sound harsh, but maybe she needs a break from you? Maybe you're doing something she doesn't like. But do explain that she needs to tell you this to prevent it from building.
But in short, you really need to sit down with her when you are both free (so there is no excuse of having to meet someone, or having to make dinner or whatever), and talk it out. This may not seem like the most comfortable, or un-awkward thing to do, but it is literally the only way to solve this issue.
Good Luck, and I hope I helped :)
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There is this dude I dated for 2 days. The I broke up with him. Ever since then he has been really close to me. He gives me a lot of hugs. He hangs around me a lot. He is always around me. He also wrote me a poem. In the poem he calls me his girl and talks about getti g back together. I really dont want too. He also ask my friends about how I feel or what I think about things before and after he does them. It is really starting to get annoying and irratating. How do I let him dow without hurting his feelings. He is a good friend and I dont want to break his heart or hurt his feelings. (link)
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There is only one real, effective way to solve this problem. Its quick, simple, and easy to explain, so forgive the shortness of my answer.
All you have to do is speak to him. Tell him how you feel, and how it would be best if he would re-examine his own actions. Tell him calmly, and respectfully. Make sure you do it alone though, you don't want to embarrass him.
So in short, just explain how it makes you feel i.e. uncomfortable, and explain that you don't like him in that way anymore, but you still really enjoy his company as a friend.
Hope I helped :)
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I am in a happy long term relationship with my boyfriend - 3 years
However last year I slept with another boy, which meant id given this boy my virginity not my boyfriend. I have repented and so on and he has forgiven me.
But my boyfriend wants a virgin to sleep with, as i made him wait so long and then just gave it away meaninglessly. I just dont know what to do. I dont know how to make this happen (link)
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I don't want to offend you, but this is totally ludicrous!
Okay, I understand that you slept with someone else and so you are not a virgin. But you're okay with the fact that your boyfriend wants to sleep with a virgin, instead of you? I don't know why he wants a virgin, but that's really irrelevant.
You then say 'he loves (you) eternally'. Are you serious? How can he love you, if not only can he not accept that you're not a virgin, but he wants you to be okay with the fact that he wants to have sex with a virgin instead of you?
And it sounds like he hasn't forgiven you. If he can't accept it, then he clearly hasn't.
What is worst, is that you're okay about this. Your question is how you go about arranging this. Not "This is wrong, what do I do?".
Two wrongs do not make a right. You have to fundamentally ask yourself this: "Do I stay with this boy who cannot accept me as I am, and instead wants to sleep with someone else because I'm not a virgin?" - which, is CLEARLY a sign that he doesn't love you- or would you rather dump him, and find someone that 1. Doesn't want to cheat on you and wants you to be okay about it and 2. Is fine about who and what you are.
I think the choice is obvious, and I urge you to make the right choice. However much you think you may love this boy, he is clearly an amoral person that doesn't seem to love you the same way you love him.
Harsh advice, but it sounds like you need to get back down the reality.
Hope I helped.
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so i'm a 17 yr old male. my hair has been falling out for a while. since i was like in 7th grade.back then it was bad. when i took a shower alot of hair would come out i mean alot however not chunks. after a while it started falling out less. i have had alot of stress in my life and 7th and 8th grade were very stressful. after i'd say freshmen year my hair started to fall out less but it stil constantly falls out. way less but still. can this possibly caused by stress or maybe genetic since my dad went bald at a fairly young age. any ideas? (link)
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It can be a mixture of both. Hair loss is genetic, and stress can lead to hair loss. So with them two affecting you, you're chances are not great!
There are products for hair loss, like regain, and other more expensive serums.
But the best thing would be to go to a doctor and check it out. You may not think it to be too serious, but it's not particularly normal for a child in 7th grade to start to lose hair, and there may be an underlying issue.
You should atleast go to the pharmacist, and see if they reckon it's worth going to a doctor for.
Good luck, and I hope I helped :)
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I'm 17/f. Ever since I was 11 or 12 , I've developed little dots on my leg. They look like black heads, but they're not. It makes m ea little self-conscious to wear shorts, bikini bottoms, etc. Does anyone know what these might be & how to get rid of them? (link)
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These sound like ingrown hairs. This happens when you shave, and the hair tries to grow back, but instead of going straight up, curls in and grows beneath the skin. The black dot is actually the hair, under the skin.
It happens to virtually everyone. Men get it on their face, women get it everywhere.
There are some serums for ingrown hairs, but I've never really tried them.
Instead, I exfoliate daily. Try using a shower gel/soap with exfoliating beads or stuff in. Radox do a shower gel with bits of passionfruit in. You'll see it in the store, as they have little bits of stone/salt/etc in. Also, use a loofah to scrub the skin. This will get rid of the skin covering the hair, and expose it.
Waxing prevents ingrown hairs, but it hurts (apparently), so you may not want to go down that route.
Good luck :)
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So I was on twitter and I saw someone that I follow (who I don't know personally) posted this website and how it works and they got money out of it. I was just wondering if you guys have ever tried this or do you think its a scam? Here is the website. http://mylikes.com/l/1u94b . Its about making money online. Does anyone know any legit websites that actually do work and where you can make money online ?
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Katie (link)
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Its clearly a scam. I went onto it, and miraculously, it refers to my home town a million times.
Most twitter accounts that tweet links like that are actually just spam accounts. They follow hundreds of people, hoping a percentage of them will follow back. They then tweet the link and make it sound real e.g. "Hey @flare ! Was good to see you yday, this is the link! www.nonsensewebsitenamehere.com check it out quick !"
There are some questionnaires you can do online, that helps with market research etc, but the money you earn is like $0.001, and so not really worth it to be honest.
Hope I helped :)
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