Ok I feel stupid for asking this but are girl boxers worn like instead of an underwear or do you wear underwear underneath? Can you wear it as shorts?
I think theres a slight difference between boxers and shorts so I would say boxers would be best work under any shorts you need to wear. :]
Generally boxers are worn instead of underwear (they are just another form of underwear) but if you feel uncomfortable wearing boxers on their own then by all means feel free to wear underwear under then too but beware of the type of boxers you get when wanting to do this. I'm not really all that familiar with female boxers but a lot of male ones can be tight fitting (like underwear) as well as loose ones (which are the ones I wear and prefer). So if you want to wear underwear under them go with the loose ones so you'll be more comfortable as it'll be like wearing 2 underwear.
Hope that was some help. :]
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i recieved positive feedback on this item i bought on ebay, saying i paid quickly... all that
so when i got the item i bought, it didnt work! i want to leave negative feedback, but im not sure if then theyll change my feedback to negative...?
Feedback cannot be changed once it has been left at all.
The best thing to do is to first contact the seller and let them know you had a problem with the item (with it not working) and see if you can both come up with a way to resolve this issue i.e. get a full refund, send it back for a replacement etc.
If none of this works then by all means leave negative feedback to say the item didn't work and the seller was not co-operative in resolving the matter with you. Just remember that I 'think' you can only leave feedback for items within 30 days so after that you will lose your chance to leave feedback so whatever is decided it needs to be sorted out by then so you are able to leave feedback (basicaly avoid the seller longing the whole thing out to the point you are unable to leave any kind of feedback).
Hope this has helped, it's generally how I handle things on there and has worked perfectly thus far.
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I just graduated from High School. I'm worried about going through the rest of my life without having any friends. The friends I had in high school really weren't friends at all. I only saw them in school. If there was ever a chance to hang out, it was always me that did the inviting. They never included me in anything. When I confronted them about not including me, they'd make up lame excuses. It hurts my feelings that they did that and now that we're out of high school, I know I'll probably be even more left out than before.
All I have right now is my boyfriend. He is my best friend and the only person out of all my friends that actually calls ME to make plans. He's the only friend that actually wants to hang out with me.
Since my other friends never want to see me, I just spend all my time with my boyfriend. Which is fine, but I don't want to go through the rest of my life having only one true friend.
My question is, how can I make things better with the "friends" I have now? How can I get them to include me? Should I even waste my time with them anymore?
When I go to college, will I be able to make new friends? How should I go about meeting people? Has anyone else been in this same situation?
Hello.
I've been in pretty much the same situation as well the only difference with me was that I had no girlfriend either. So when I had started college I had no friends at all (at least not locally who I could meet up with all the time).
To be honest those people you know, they don't sound like friends to me at all so I think you're better off without them. Friendship is all about taking and giving and they seem to not know that. When you start at college you'll make a lot of new friends, don't worry about that. As for how to meet people, just talk. :D Where I had started college it wa awkward at first but we all had got put into groups and talk so wecould all get to know each other. It was a great exercise and it worked really well. There will be group assignments and such so you'll be forced to work with other people (whether you like it or not) so you'll certainly get to know more people. I really wouldn't worry at all. :]
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Alright, so.. my grandma died.. and I really really really loved her. I'm crying my eyes out right now, and I feel so incredibly horrible. All she wanted to do was see me, but I couldn't make it.. I really couldn't without jeopardizing my own life (long story, but trust me there was no way) and my mother told me that when she heard I couldn't be there, she was extremely depressed.. and died the next day. But now, the real trouble is.. Why didn't I call her?! I guess, in some way I was naive and thought she would get better and I would be able to talk to her later.
But I am so stupid. She didn't get better at all. I can't deal with myself now. I feel so guilty for not calling her when she needed me. Of course, I did try several times, and a lot of the times she wasn't home, or they didn't pick up, or something.. And sometimes I couldn't get a phone card to call her.. and sometimes I just had nothing to say.. But damnit, why didn't I call her anyway!?
I hate myself so much.. And I miss her so terribly. Everything reminds me of her too. I don't know at all how to deal with this. I know she's gone and I can't do anything, but.. I am just so so regretful :(
I'm sorry to hear about your grandma but these things DO happen. My uncle only lived 10mins walk away from me and I used to hardly see him becuase I always used to think I can see him anytime I want. Then all of a sudden he passed away, just like that. I felt so low because he was just down the road all this time but I never took the time to go see him enough. It took me a long time to forgive myself but I eventually did because no one could have known what happen was going to happen.
When someone is ill the only thing we usually think about is they will get better so you shouldnt kick yourself for thinking that way but you seem to be holding onto a lot of guilt. Just know though that no matter how much you want to blame yourself you couldnt have changed what happen and to a degree there was nothing you could have done (that part you said about jeopardizing your own life). If your grandma knew all of this she would have totally understood.
Also you said you did try several times to try call her but couldnt get hold of her - this was all down to fate and it played out this way, you shouldn't blame yourself. We all eventually pass on, no exceptions. But there is one thing that makes us all emortal and that is the memories that everyone carry on in your name. The lives that are touched. By remembering her so much it's not a bad thing but ask yourself how would she want you to remember her? As someone who made you blame yourself for what happen or as someone who made a positive difference and influence in your life?
It all comes down to faith but just because she is no longer physically here anymore it doesn't mean she won't hear you. Talk to her, tell her how you feel. She will understand and I have no doubt she would have forgiven you. The hardest part will be you forgiving yourself.
"We achieve inner health only through forgiveness - the forgiveness not only of others but also of ourselves."
-Joshua Loth Liebman
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Ok, so this happened about a month or so ago.
Ok, so my parents had company over and I was bored. So I decided to text my best friend, and I texted her and said "Hey...!" and she never replied and about half an hour after I sent the text her new BOYFRIEND called me! And said, "Dude, could you just leave my girlfriend alone...!?" and then he hung up. And about another thirty minutes later, he called back and said, "Dude, I was just playing..." and hung up. Which made me even angrier than I already was, but I didn't do anything that DAY. So the next day, I was still pretty steamed so I decided to text her and tell her, her boyfriend was a jerk and then we got into a huge fight and everything just snowballed from there...
Do you you think me and her will ever be friends again, or could you give me some ways to earn her friendship back again.
I'm going to assume that you're a guy in which case chances are that her bpoyfriend may just be jealous (has happen to me before too).
I think the biggest mistake you made was telling her that her boyfriend was a jerk, even though I'd have to agree that he was acting it. The reason he called back to say he was only kidding may even have been because of your friend telling him to do so. I'm not sure why she didn't text you back but if they were together it may even be that he had her phone when you had sent the text so she never even got it. It could be a number of things really.
Whichever it may be though if you want to save your friendship you need to make sure she knows your sorry and that you acted the way you did because you was angry at what her boyfriend did. Talk to her about this (try to do so in person if you can). All you can really do is ask for forgiveness and that's it - the rest will really be up to her. You should also though try to ask her to understand this situation from your side as well as ask her what was going on with her boyfriend and her... like why he had called you after you txt her just sayin hi. As I said tho it may all just be down to her and if she want's to forgive you and still be friends but if her boyfriend is the cause of you both breaking up then it'll be something she will eventually regret.
Good luck dude.
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im 14/f. my bf and i have been going out for almost 2 years. he is really cute and funny and everyone likes him... including half the girls at our school. he loves to be the center of attention and flirts with girls all the time. i dont like it but ive gotten used to it and i try not to let it bother me. after all, hes going out with me, not them, right? anyway, the problem is, his flirting makes girls think he likes them and they flirt right back. one time he actually cheated on me, and everyone said i should dump him, but he cried and begged me to forgive him and said he really loved me, so i forgave him. now hes started flirting with that same girl a lot again. im pretty sure they really like each other, even though he denies it. he insists that he loves me more than anything in the world and doesnt want to break up. but i cant stand it when he talks to her or when i hear about him flirting with her. agggghhhh!! what should i do?
Hello.
I have to admit it's a little insensitive of him to start flirting around in this way with the very girl he cheated on you with - it's a stupid move. I think although you allow him to get away with a lot you may need to talk to him and make your feelings known about what is acceptable and what, when he does it, is pushing his luck. I can understand how being young he wants to be the center of attention but I can only imagine how he would feel if it was happening the other way around. He wouldn't like it (I can pretty much guarantee it) so he needs to be a bit more understanding on how this is all making you feel.
Flirting is something everyone does ost times even without knowing it but if he's out to get girls' attention in a way someone would do if they were single then maybe it would be for the best that he was single? He needs to get his act together and seriously I think you've been more than an understanding girlfriend to have put up with this for so long. But as I said there are some lines that shouldn't be crossed and you need to make it clear to him about this. If you don't like him talking and flirting with this other girl make it clear to him. At the end of the day the way I see it he should expect it given his past with her.
Hope everything works out.
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okay well it's back to the thing with my ex. I really like him but I don't think that he will ever forgive me for breaking up with him so rudely. I've said sorry and I've said that I like him again but he just doesn't seem to care. I just wish he would tell me something because it doesn't seem like he can answer. So what do I do? I've told him that I'm sorry and that I still like him but he doesn't say anything? What do I do?
Hi.
I'm afraid there is nothing more you can do. If you've told him you're sorry already and that you like him and want him back (if that's what you want) then the proverbial ball is in his court so the nextmore is typically his. All you can really do now is wait if you choose to do so or more on having said you're sorry.
If you do decide to wait on him it may be what he needs to see that you really mean what you say but you have to also understand the reason he didn't say anything is because he cannot forgive you yet. And it could take time and even after all that time he may never forgive you for whatever it is that happen.
All you can really do at this point is wait. I imagine he will come to you and talk to you when he is ready to do so.
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is it a turn off if a girl isn't wearing sexy underwear like not nasty underwear but not all lacy or silky..like vs pink???
I personally don't think it's a turn off at all. I would rather my girlfriend wear what makes her comfortable than have her wearing something she's uncomfortable in just to please or turn me on in.
Every guy is different though so for some certain underwear may be a turn off and for others it won't be. It really all depends on the guy in question.
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Ok well I was playing on the computer when there was a power out and when it came back I turned on the computer again but now it's running very slow (took 30 mins to open this page!)
Whhat's wrong?
Since your computer has just recovered from a power cut it may have just started up in shambles (best way to describe it, lol). This has happen to me many times when everything will be extremely slow and in the task manager I will find that everything (especially Internet Explorer and Explorer in general are both eating up system resources at an incredibly fast rate). The best thing to do if this happens is first start up the computer again and if it asks you if you want to boot into safe mode, select yes. Once booted up in safe mode shut the computer down and then reboot into normal mode as per normal.
If it booted up normally after the power cut and you had the problem of everything slowing down then I suggest shutting the computer down completely, waiting 5 mins and then restarting. It should now work perfectly fine again. If it doesn't and it's only the internet which is the problem it could just be the ISP having bandwidth problems (you can get huge bandwidth problems with extremely bad weather like a lightening storm or heavy rainfall).
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16/f (I'm not overweight- 5'5" 135 lbs 25% body fat)
I'll get straight to the point. I don't eat healthy and the only exercise I get is rolling around in my sleep. I am going to change my eating and exercise habits. Not WANTING to, GOING to. I just want to know if I run for an hour and only eat healthy foods (mainly organic food) how long will it take for me to notice a difference? Like how much weight will I lose in, say, a week or something?
This will all depend on your motabalism and such. I don't think anyone can give you anything specific here becuase very person is different.
I would also suggest since you have beenvery inactive that you don't jump straight into a diet as well as an extreme exercise routing right away. It'll be a big shock to your system so you need to get into it gradually. I noticed a big difference with myself after a month of healthy eating (no chocolate, fizzy drinks, junk food, fatty/deep fried foods etc) and that was only because I was not allowed to exercise because of an injury. You may even notice changes before then.
The best way to go about it is to weigh yourself at a set time (morning and evening before bed each day should be good) and continue to do this every once a week. After a month you can check the results and see if you've made much of an improvement (also taking note of any major changes you may have made to your diet or exercise routines).
With the running for an hour try to start out just jogging for as long as you can. Start the clock and then jog without looking at it. Then when you just can't carry on more stop and stop the clock to see how long you were able to run for. Continue to do this every day and keep records so you can check your times and see each week if you're making improvements in your endurance. You'll more than likely find you can run for longer and longer as you go and your body begins to get into the routine. Also, swimming (if you have access to a swimming pool as well as being able to swim) is a very good form of exercise as it works every part of your body so you may want to think about trying that too.
Hope all this was helpful. If you need any more help feel free to write me but just remember to take it easy, don't overdo it and injure yourself. :] good luck and I hope you manage to reach your target. :]
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I'm a teenage girl who has been overweight (and, at times, obese) for her whole life. I am now only about 20 pounds overweight, and I look good because I'm an hourglass body type. But I feel like people view me as "this fat redheaded girl" instead of a normal person and it makes me very depressed and inhibited and self-conscious.
My main problem is my obsession with my body and my weight. For my whole life (even as a 3-year-old) all I have ever been able to think is "oh my god im sosososososo fat and disgusting. ew. my thighs are so gross ohmygodddd and my stomach hangs over my shorts EW!" and those are the constant thoughts going through my head. (meaning that I don't think normal thoughts like "oh what a pretty day" or "i can't wait to go shopping this weekend"
It seems like other overweight people I know are perfectly happy and don't seem to view themselves as different. I'm afraid to talk to people because i can't bare the thought of them judging me because of 20 pounds.
Everyone else in my town is anorexic and perfect and athletic (i live in a rich town). So maybe that contributes to it?
I'm also on a diet right now and I want to know if it's normal for me to only think about my diet and how many calories I'm consuming, etc. Like literally these are the only thoughts that go through my head all day: "oh my god i can't eat doritos even though everyone else is, i'm fat and disgusting and it will make me gain weight. how many calories does this have in it? i wonder if 1200 is too many. What if 1500 is too many? Ew everyone else is eating cake. I wish i could. Ew i'm so gross and fat and ew. Ew my thighs are still exploding into each other. I'm going to work out for 20200229882 hours today because i ate like one broccoli sprig too many."
and just please tell me if this is normal.
Hi.
from what you have said, no, I don't think this is normal at all... that is to say, it's certainly not healthy to be so consumed by your weight and your appearence that is takes over your life.
Believe me from what you have said you sound fine (you'd be so surprised how many guys find that hourglass body type to be extremely sexy).
If you're overweight and you personally want to diet because you want to be more healthy then by all means do so but don't let it take over your life. Otherwise you will just be consumed by stress and stress will certainly not help you with your weight problem at all and it's certainly not good for you anyway.
As for the anorexic chicks where you live - there's nothing perfect about looking anorexic at all. I personally find the look very unsexy and unattractive which is probably why I have never seen a model who I have actually thought looked sexy.
It's hard to just suddenly change how you think about things over night so you will need to give yourself time but enjoy life. You only get to do it once and believe me when I say this, life IS short. You should be enjoying yourself not worrying 24/7 about things which you can't change by stressing over. Also, dieting is one thing but remember that just because you eat some cake or some doritos it's not going to make a huge difference. Limit yourself to a treat once a week or something. Eventually you'll find you just won't need these treats at all. Also when you're dieting make sure it's something that works well and is not based around starving yourself because that will only do more harm than good. Also, if you feel this is all getting totally out of control you may want to speak to a councillor about this so you canget more professional help with things especially since this stems deep into your past/childhood.
As for people judging you - seriously, if they need to judge you and think of you as anything less than just a person then they are not worth your time or effort. People like that are the kind of people who are just not worth knowing so to hell with them. At the end of the day no one has any right to judge you.
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my dad is the biggest jerk. technically he buys my affection with materialistic things but we don't spend time together because he's an a** hole. he always throws mine and my moms stuff around and thinks its "junk" but he thinks his stuff is so valuable. today he went through our shed outside and threw out all of my stuff. stuff from my childhood, stuff that i had emotional attachment to and all of my sleds for winter because i haven't used them...of course i haven't used them it summer!! he always says we have stuff we dont use and we should throw it out but we do use it he just doesn't believe us. my mom has been thinking about divorce because he's always been like this and he makes me and my mom wait on him hand and foot and whenever we ask what he did that day he says "i did the laundry" and thats it, meanwhile my mom and i vaccum every weekend, make him dinner, make him coffee no matter what hour of the night, get him dessert, clean every room of the house, take care of our five cats, although he does feed our one dog, once a day. its just rediculous and we cant take it anymore but my mom can't afford the legal fees for a divorce and my dad doesn't believe in divorce. and he complains every weekend when i leave the house to regain my sanity! i don't know what to say to him to make him realize what a jerk he is, he's extremely stubborn and thinks he's always right even if he knows he's wrong. please help me with this jerk
Hi.
I wasn't really going to answer this one at first but I really feel for you because to a degree I've had this same problem with my dad too although he's improved a lot from how he was before.
I think the best thing I can recommend is that you all sit down and talk about this. He won't know there's a problem unless you and your mom sit down and talk about it to him. As stubborn as he might be there is obviously a very serious problem here if your mom is considering divorce to solve this. Perhaps talking to your mom about them (your mom and dad) seeing a marriage councillor may help to improve things? At this point I would think anything is an option considering the grim alternative of divorce.
I will say this though, it won't happen over night. Your dad has been like this for years and it'snow just become second nature to him. Breaking that will be like breaking a habit or an addiction - it will take time, effort and understanding. Provided your mom and yourself are willing to give your dad time to change then I think the best thing you all can do is seek professional help with the marriage. Even a group session with a professional councillor may help. It all depends on how willing everyone will be to try but obviously the initial step will be to talk to your mom about it and then see about getting your dad to agree to attend. If he refuses to then it may simply be a matter of making him see that this is not just a problem that will go away by pretending it will or willing it to go away - this is a problem he needs to address. His family is unhappy and he should take some resposibility in changing that.
I'm sorry if this is not much but I really hope I helped a little. If you need to talk more feel free towrite to my inbox, I hope everything works out.
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My menu bar moved to the right side of my screen!
my sister was just typing and i guess she pressed the wrong buttons and it is on the right side of the screen instead of the botton.
it's really annoying!
please tell me how to get it back?
Hi.
This is very common and has happen to me SO many times until I learnt to lock the toolbar. :D
If it's on the right, move the mouse pointer to the bottom of the bar (bottom right corner of the screen) to the space where the date and time and system tray area is. Click and hold the Left Mouse button and then if you move the mouse pointer to the bottom middle of the screen the bar will move back to its original position. :]
To prevent this happening again (I didn't know of any key presses that can change it's location but if there are hopefully this will disable those as well) you right click in the bar with the mouse and then from the menu that pops up click on the option that says 'Lock The Taskbar'. This should now prevent it being moved again by accident. :]
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Okay so I made a video with Windows Movie Maker.
And now I want to put the video on a disk to be viewed in a dvd player. I tried a CD-RW and a CD-R disk. But those wouldnt play the movie in my DVD player. Then I tried DVD-R disks and my computer wont even read them. So what's going on? The program I use to burn is called Record Now. Do I need a DVD burner for this stuff?? HELP!!!!
Hello.
Windows Media Player will produce a video clip that is in WMV format but to be able to play this clip on your DVD player (be it one on a computer DVD player or a DVD player connected to your TV) it must first be converted to a DVD format.
There are a number of DVD recorders out there that will be able to help you in making this conversion but be warned that the longer the movie the longer it will take to convert and you may need a sufficiant amount of space on your hard drive.
There are programs out there that will perform the convertion as well as the burning process in one go for you so you don't have to do it all yourself in parts whichmakes the whole process very easy. I THINK that the popular Nero programn can do this for you but I am uncertain in this so if someone can verify that would be helpful.
The following programs were ones I was able to find for you but some of these may need you to purchase them before they will burn the DVD files to disk for you, you may just need to try them and see which work for you.
Easy WMV/ASF/ASX to DVD Burner 1.4.0 which you can find at the following site: http://www.freedownloadscenter.com/Multimedia_and_Graphics/Video_and_Animation_Tools/Easy_WMV_ASF_ASX_to_DVD_Burner.html
Smart DVD Creator at the following site: http://smartdvdcreator.com/index.htm?gclid=CM7OwrLZsYwCFSdPEgodlQwDSw
Also, when burning I recommend using a DVD-R disk as opposed to the DVD+R since some of the older DVD players can't read DVD+R disks.
I hope this was some help. :]
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My best guy friend and I (16/f) have been getting in lots of fights, and it's because I'm so dependent on him. Well, ever since May I haven't been. I've been with other people, doing things, always busy, etc. I maybe hang out with him once a week, or two weeks. We never talk on the phone. But last night he went camping with 3 friends, and left me 3 voicemails. They're all talking about our friendship. He says things like, "I don't deserve a friend like you" and "you stick with me even though I treat you pretty poorly sometimes" and "i'd rather fight with you than anyone else" and "i feel like we're drifting, we need to hang out more". Yeah, that's just hitting the main things in each msg I guess.
What I'm asking is why did he do that? Why did he send msgs NOW about how he doesn't think he deserves me, and all the things I typed up there? You have to understand, I used to be very clingy, like, call him to see where he was, have to hang out with him like 4 times a week or more. Then for some reason in May, I felt he was drifting away from me (and I never want this) so I cut it out, and hung out with other people. I've barely talked to him, except yesterday, after I listened to his msgs. I just asked if he had anything else to say, etc, and he just said he wanted to talk to me about his problems. (Which is what he did in his msgs I guess) He also told me when I called him back, that he feels it was too late to be telling me all that. (I guess because we don't see eachother as much or something?) Honestly, he has treated me very badly, and I've always been the most loyal and greatest friend to him. I HAVE recently, in May, started to not care so much. I rarely even think about him, and I used to every minute of every day.
So yeah, if anyone can tell me why all of a sudden he actually CARES about our friendship now please tell me, haha. I just need anything you can say because I'm confused.
Hello.
Thank you for wanting to ask me, I'm flattered. :]
Hmm, it seems like a simple case of not knowing what you had until it was gone. It happens all the time and from experience it seems to happen more to guys than it does to girls.
Since you was always around him and always calling him and pretty much always in contact he may only now have seen that although it was clingy and annoying sometimes it was also a sign if how much you liked him as a friend. The fact it all suddenly changed and you stopped - he may now have seen that and maybe even misses it in a way. You hadn't said in what way he was a bad friend to you so being away at camp and spending time with his friends he may have also learned a thing or two about what being friends really means so have realised how he was a bad friend to you whereas all you did was try to be there for him always.
Now that you don't cling to him so much and stuff I think he realised he lost an important part of your friendship. He just didn't realise what he had right there infront of him (in you and our friendship) until it was gone/changed and you moved on. How you go from here will really be up to you - you can try rebuild the friendship again but he may need to understand that it may never be exactly the same as before because you did move on (other friends and such).
Hope I was able to help a little. Good luck. :]
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15/f
Is it worth it to wait till I'm done high school to start dating again?
I got this idea from my friend, since most guys in high school ( in mine/hers anyway ) are absolute idiots, whether it be logically, academically, or just in general.
Hi.
I guess this doesn't really hasve a definitive answer. If guy where you're at happen to be idiots and morons then by all means don't feel you have to date them if you don't want to. When you do find someone you like then go for it. You may even end up meeting someone next week or something who may turn out to be someone half decent who you may never have thought of or even considered - sometimes it just happens. :]
On the other hand don't feel you have to date someone just to fit in or something like that especially if you feel non of the guys there are suitable enough (because of how you described they are).
I guess what I'm saying is if you prefer to wait then by all means wait until you find someone nice and someone you can relate to and like but know that we can't control who we like so planning that you won't date until your in high school may not work if tomorrow you meet the guy of your dreams. :]
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Well we just changed our internet to make it faster but it's been running slow and freezes at times which never happened before. Why?
Hi.
This could be due to a couple of reasons.
First there's the obvious which is the massing of spyware and malware on your computer which can cause theinternet to slow down a large amount because of the bandwidth that gets eaten up by the spyware. I would suggest a good spyware detector to help you remove these and the best one that I know of (which is also free to download and use) is called 'Spybot: Search & Destroy', a simple search on google should get you to their web site where you can download it. :]
The other thing that can be the problem is the actual ISP. A lot of ISP's (especially those who are now offering the 8MB connection speed) have included a clause in their terms and conditions that allow them to 'strangle' the connection speeds at peak times to ensure 'fair usage', so that people on fast connection don't hog all the bandwidth. I think the best thing to do will be to check the terms and conditions of the new company you have joined to check for anything like this since it is something they seem to be doing a lot. Atleast in the UK they are I am uncertain about ISP's in the USA.
Hope this was able to help a little.
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14, Female
LONG but please it ALL!
Ok a few night ago I was hanging out with my boyfriend for 2 months and yes I know it doesnt sound like a lot but we've thru a lot that his sister passing away. She had cance from birth so I had to be with him and comfort him and I wouldnt want it any other way and I truely like him but we were hanging out and watching movies when he told me he loved me.. I dont know about you but when I tell someone I love them I mean it its not something i say/ but i couldnt say it back!!!! I like him SO MUCH but im only 14 I dont know what love is yet I hope what im feeling is love but im just not sure Im only 14!!! I want to explain it to him why I couldnt say it but without him thinking that I dont care about him I wanna say I like you I DO but im only 14 and im not really sure what love is.. i dont want to hurt him i mean his moms an alcoholic sence his sister passed away, and his little brother Kile has been staying like everyother night here so he wont go hungry becuase the moms not working and the Dad left before Miranda was born so Kile has a diffrent Dad that didnt stick aroumd either! Im like begging him to come and live here with me and my family I know my parents wouldnt mind because ive been telling my mom everything and she wants to beat his mom because shes not working.. so there like no food in the house but every time he says he cant leave him mom because if it was just her she'd drink and drink and starve herself! all she does is lay on the couch! Kile is hopefully soon becoming a full member in this household and thats how my boyfriend wants it but he still has to be like a father and make sure his moms ok but its too much for him and i think last night he got drunk with his mom and i cant say im dissipointed because it would kill him and i hate it because its like walking on eggshells with him you dont know what will happen
ok I know its alot I just dont want him getting mad at me and trying to handle everything on his own because it'll kill him! I dont want to keep pushing the issue about him living her but i dont want him taking Kile because kiles only 8 and wont understand why he'll be hungry And every night before kile goes to sleep I tell him i love him but i cant tell my boyfriend???? so either i explain it to him why I cant say i love you to him OR just say it but mean it but how do you mean it??? please help me im being Girlfriend, Mother, but not a good girlfriend!! please i know this is long but answer me and i never said my boyfriends name so i dont think its something everyone has to know
Hi.
It's perfectly understandable that you don't want to just say you love him purely just becuase he has said it you. You want to wait until you know you do love him, when it will actually mean something. I can appreciate that and I think if you told him then he will also understand.
With everything that is going on with his family it's really nice that you and your family are so willing to help. His mother may seem like a dead beat and an alcoholic at the moment but I think it's more down to her not knowing how to cope with the situation and her loss. She needs time and more importantly, some professional help to deal with what's happened (and made aware although she lost one kid the way she is going at the moment she may lose all the family she has left). Maybe your own parents can help here by trying to talk to her but the key word here is talk, not yell. Yelling and screaming at her (or beating her up for how she's treating her kids at the moment) will serve no purpose. She's an emotional wreck and although she feels the alcohol helps - it generally just makes it worse (especially the depression).
Also, you said you can tell his brother you love him but not your boyfriend. This is simple enough to explain - the love you feel for his little brother is different to that of the love you feel for your boyfriend. That's why. Good luck with everything and I hope all works out well.
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Okay im 15 years old about 5'4 and weigh i think around 77 kilos. Personally i dont think my face is that ugly i mean its not wonderfull but im satisfied with it, its just the rest of my body. Since about year 9 i noticed all the bad things about my body. Like how i have this tan line half way up my arms so i dont like showing them and that they are quite flabby. Same with my legs and tummy. Around the end of last year i started getting stretch marks and i absolutely hate them. Not alot of people realise how hard it is to lose weight. I mean i have always been a little chubby but now i feel so ugly and i just want to be able to be confident in myself. I go to the gym as a school thing every thursday for like an hour and try to do sit ups and playin soccer with my little bro outside every day but theres only so much i can do. I'd love to take my dog for walks or go for a jog everyday but my dog gets scared easily and most days we walk for 5 mins then she wants to walk back. Im to ashamed to go out for runs by myself. I eat healthy home cooked meals and drink mostly water. I dont over eat and dont under eat. i think everyone should be proud of how they look but i dont feel that way about myself. At home in my bedroom i can wear my clothes and feel beautiful how i am but when i go outside my door i feel out of place and so hideous. I wanted to apply for a gym membership but im a year too young, and i dont know any adults who would go with me. Its hard because my sister and brother are both skinny and goodlooking and can eat everything they want without gaining weight, unfortunatley i was given the slow metabolism. i need like ways or tips on losing weight or ways to help stay on diets and exercise schedules. If i had someone to do this with, it would be easier, but its just me and i feel so alone sometimes that i just give up. Please help me, i just want to feel beautiful in my own skin! Sorry its so long.
First of all, you ARE beautiful. DOn't ever let ANYONE ever tell you or let you think otherwise. I say that with utmost confidence too even though I have never seen you. You ARE beautiful.
I can understand however that you need to improve on yourself and there's nothing wrong with that at all. I'm happy with myself as far as looks go (I'm far from perfect or looking like a model but I don't consider myself all that bad either) but like you I also feel I need to lose some extra weight I have to just improve myself physically and become more fit (health wise).
From the sounds of things though you are doing everything you can to get into shape so stick to that, you shouldn't overdo it at all. You could also try swimming instead of jogging. You'd be able to join a leisure center where they have a swimming pool very easly and swimming is very good and healthy to do (only reason I don't do it is because I can't swim). It works every muscle in your body as well as helping you with endurance, which is great for the heart.
Stick to a good diet as well but don't limit yourself too much to start off with, gradually work on it as it's easier that way to get into it and stick to it. If you (or your brother or sister) have a Nintendo Wii then use that 30 mins a day and you'll notice a big difference (use the standard sports game that it comes with - they give you one heck of a work out).
I know how it is about jogging on your own - having someone with you really does make a difference so ask your brother or sister if they will join you? Maybe even ask a friend if they will come with you, they don't even have to jog, if they have a bike they can ride along side you. At the moment that's all I can think of but getting into a diet is not easy at all (I know trust me) but as I had said give yourself some slack and get into it gradually. Another thing that really helps is letting whoever cooks or buys the food know as well about your diet routine. That way they can buy the foods that you need for your diet and also provide support and help in sticking to it - this really made a big difference with me.
I hope I was able to help a little.
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I've been giving my boyfriend handjobs and recently a blowjob.
And in those times.. he has stopped pleasuring me. He doesn't really touch me/finger me.
Is it rude to ask if he would do something to me ..?
Is there a good way to ask?
I'm kinda shy haha.
Hi.
Nope it's not rude to ask at all, the way I see it oral is all about pleasing 'each other'. You give as well as you get, or at least that's always how I've seen it (maybe it's why I've never really had much complaints in that department - take notes guys reading this, lol).
Anyway, this is your boyfriend and obviously your both close since you both have been doing this 'stuff' with each other so don't feel shy at all to ask him to do something for you as well. :] A playful wy to do it -- when he asks you to do something for him blowjob or handjob - whichever it might be) playfully ask him what he's going to do for you in return. ;) That should do it, hehe. If not then by all means be more direct about it and talk to him about it - there's nothing wrong at all in talking about it and also wanting to be pleasured yourself as well.
Even for future reference don't be afraid to ask/say what you want or how you want it. He could very well do something which doesn't feel good for you yet if you say nothing it will never get solved (and he may wonder what he's doing wrong and moreover why you're not saying anything about it). This works both ways too - neither of you should be afraid to talk to eachother and say what feels good and what doesn't and what you want and what you don't want (and when you want it). :] I hope I was a little help, good luck. :D
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