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Boyfriend flirts with other girls
im 14/f. my bf and i have been going out for almost 2 years. he is really cute and funny and everyone likes him... including half the girls at our school. he loves to be the center of attention and flirts with girls all the time. i dont like it but ive gotten used to it and i try not to let it bother me. after all, hes going out with me, not them, right? anyway, the problem is, his flirting makes girls think he likes them and they flirt right back. one time he actually cheated on me, and everyone said i should dump him, but he cried and begged me to forgive him and said he really loved me, so i forgave him. now hes started flirting with that same girl a lot again. im pretty sure they really like each other, even though he denies it. he insists that he loves me more than anything in the world and doesnt want to break up. but i cant stand it when he talks to her or when i hear about him flirting with her. agggghhhh!! what should i do?
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Hey. I know this is really tough, but speaking from experience, it hurts just as much to be the one he flirts with. Believe it or not, those girls have a lot less confidence then you would think, and trust me they all wish they could be you. I've felt like that more then once. Tell him how you feel but if he keeps it up, let him go. No point in having him break your heart. Good luck ♥ fabulous
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It's time to confront your boyfriend once and for all. Tell him straight up that he needs to choose between you and that girl. If he's "SO SORRY" then why is he even still talking to her? If I were you, I wouldn't have even given him a second chance. Once a cheater always a cheater. If he really cared about you, he wouldn't be spending all his time flirting with other girls.
Tell him right away that if he doesn't stop talking to that girl then you're breaking up with him to find a guy that actually respects and appreciates your love.
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There are a few things to keep in mind about guys and what they do in relationships.
Guys like to flirt, and they especially like it when they're good at it; it's an ego rush when they get a response. Guys notice pretty girls, and being in a relationship doesn't turn this off. A guy who stops noticing other girls has also stopped noticing you.
HOWEVER...
What your BF did wasn't just harmless flirting - it was cheating. That's something else entirely. It was good of you to forgive him, but he seems to have taken that forgiveness as an indication that everything has been reset back to the way it was before, and he can just continue his old behaviors.
Wrong, wrong, WRONG.
This girl with whom he cheated is no longer just another girl he's flirting with. Out of respect for you, he should have as little contact with her as possible. You have every right to be upset about it, and to demand that he stop acting flirtatious with her as a price of your continued relationship.
Give him an ultimatum: tell him that he either stops talking to her, or you stop talking to him. He may try to make it sound like you're being unreasonable or too demanding, but the fact is that HE CHEATED ON YOU, and you have reason not to entirely trust him. It is NOT unreasonable for you to ask that he break off all contact with the girl he cheated on you with; if he were considering your feelings as much as he should be, he would have done so of his own accord.
Honestly, I think you probably ought to cut him loose. You've shown quite a lot of patience, and he's shown quite a lot of disregard for your feelings.
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Hello.
I have to admit it's a little insensitive of him to start flirting around in this way with the very girl he cheated on you with - it's a stupid move. I think although you allow him to get away with a lot you may need to talk to him and make your feelings known about what is acceptable and what, when he does it, is pushing his luck. I can understand how being young he wants to be the center of attention but I can only imagine how he would feel if it was happening the other way around. He wouldn't like it (I can pretty much guarantee it) so he needs to be a bit more understanding on how this is all making you feel.
Flirting is something everyone does ost times even without knowing it but if he's out to get girls' attention in a way someone would do if they were single then maybe it would be for the best that he was single? He needs to get his act together and seriously I think you've been more than an understanding girlfriend to have put up with this for so long. But as I said there are some lines that shouldn't be crossed and you need to make it clear to him about this. If you don't like him talking and flirting with this other girl make it clear to him. At the end of the day the way I see it he should expect it given his past with her.
Hope everything works out.
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