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Destroyed friendship
Ok, so this happened about a month or so ago.
Ok, so my parents had company over and I was bored. So I decided to text my best friend, and I texted her and said "Hey...!" and she never replied and about half an hour after I sent the text her new BOYFRIEND called me! And said, "Dude, could you just leave my girlfriend alone...!?" and then he hung up. And about another thirty minutes later, he called back and said, "Dude, I was just playing..." and hung up. Which made me even angrier than I already was, but I didn't do anything that DAY. So the next day, I was still pretty steamed so I decided to text her and tell her, her boyfriend was a jerk and then we got into a huge fight and everything just snowballed from there...
Do you you think me and her will ever be friends again, or could you give me some ways to earn her friendship back again.
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First of all, you shouldn't have to "regain her friendship back" You shouldn't of lost it in the first place. If she doesn't understand YOUR point of view, then she has a lot to learn. I would of been mad if my best friends boyfriend did that to me too! That's rude. HOWEVER I wouldn't of texted her saying he's a jerk. There are better, more mature ways to handle something like this. You should of called her and told her how you felt about the situation. You should call her asap and tell her sorry for calling him a jerk and that that wasn't the right way to handle it BUT she needs to understand where your coming from.
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I'm going to assume that you're a guy in which case chances are that her bpoyfriend may just be jealous (has happen to me before too).
I think the biggest mistake you made was telling her that her boyfriend was a jerk, even though I'd have to agree that he was acting it. The reason he called back to say he was only kidding may even have been because of your friend telling him to do so. I'm not sure why she didn't text you back but if they were together it may even be that he had her phone when you had sent the text so she never even got it. It could be a number of things really.
Whichever it may be though if you want to save your friendship you need to make sure she knows your sorry and that you acted the way you did because you was angry at what her boyfriend did. Talk to her about this (try to do so in person if you can). All you can really do is ask for forgiveness and that's it - the rest will really be up to her. You should also though try to ask her to understand this situation from your side as well as ask her what was going on with her boyfriend and her... like why he had called you after you txt her just sayin hi. As I said tho it may all just be down to her and if she want's to forgive you and still be friends but if her boyfriend is the cause of you both breaking up then it'll be something she will eventually regret.
Good luck dude.
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