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Friendship Issues
I just graduated from High School. I'm worried about going through the rest of my life without having any friends. The friends I had in high school really weren't friends at all. I only saw them in school. If there was ever a chance to hang out, it was always me that did the inviting. They never included me in anything. When I confronted them about not including me, they'd make up lame excuses. It hurts my feelings that they did that and now that we're out of high school, I know I'll probably be even more left out than before.
All I have right now is my boyfriend. He is my best friend and the only person out of all my friends that actually calls ME to make plans. He's the only friend that actually wants to hang out with me.
Since my other friends never want to see me, I just spend all my time with my boyfriend. Which is fine, but I don't want to go through the rest of my life having only one true friend.
My question is, how can I make things better with the "friends" I have now? How can I get them to include me? Should I even waste my time with them anymore?
When I go to college, will I be able to make new friends? How should I go about meeting people? Has anyone else been in this same situation?
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I wouldnt worry about you old "friends". It doesnt sound like they are good ones. I think its great that you and your boyfriend are so close. You can definitly trust one another.
In college you will make a bunch of friends! There are other people experiencing the same situation. When you go to school try to be outgoing and be nice to people. People will remember your pleasent personality and will probably come to you a lot.You can also join some clubs. That way you can make some friends that share the same interests as you. Hope my advice helps!
♥ Jenny
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Hi there :)
I can't really say I've ever had this problem
before because I'm a very outgoing person and
I'll talk to a wall if I have to. Lol, anyways
I think I can help.
Does your boyfriend have any good friends?
I've made alot of new friends through my
boyfriend which is nice to have a different
crowd to be with sometimes and we're both
comfortable around them. I also don't stick to
one group. I'm friends with people from every
clique or group which is also very nice because
I don't have to act/be one certain way.
Now, to make new friends, act friendly!
Say hi to people when you start college,
attempt to start conversation in your new classes
College is a great oppurtunity and there are
so many conversation starters.
"whats your major?"
"you from around here?"
"what carreer are you headed into?"
"how do you like the campus?"
.. the list goes on and on.
As for your old friends, I wouldn't worry
about them. Try calling up some neighbors or
some kids that you talked to in school but never
really took the time to get to know. Or
once again, go for your boyfriend's friends.
I'm sure he'd be willing to help you out in
your situation.
Good Luck<3
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Hello.
I've been in pretty much the same situation as well the only difference with me was that I had no girlfriend either. So when I had started college I had no friends at all (at least not locally who I could meet up with all the time).
To be honest those people you know, they don't sound like friends to me at all so I think you're better off without them. Friendship is all about taking and giving and they seem to not know that. When you start at college you'll make a lot of new friends, don't worry about that. As for how to meet people, just talk. :D Where I had started college it wa awkward at first but we all had got put into groups and talk so wecould all get to know each other. It was a great exercise and it worked really well. There will be group assignments and such so you'll be forced to work with other people (whether you like it or not) so you'll certainly get to know more people. I really wouldn't worry at all. :]
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