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Is it rude to ask.. ?
I've been giving my boyfriend handjobs and recently a blowjob.
And in those times.. he has stopped pleasuring me. He doesn't really touch me/finger me.
Is it rude to ask if he would do something to me ..?
Is there a good way to ask?
I'm kinda shy haha.
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If you can't get your rocks off every now and again, then he doesn't deserve to have you help him get his off. I mean, he has two hands and I'm sure he can nuke a cantelope.
It is not rude to ask to get something back since you're doing to much work to pleasure him.
I understand that you're shy, but you should be comfortable enough with your boyfriend to just ask him for what you want.
To get what you want before he starts pushing your head lower, you start the action yourself. If you want to be fingered, guide his hand under your skirt and surprise him with no panties. Or if you want him to perform oral on you, lay down on his bed and tell him to come here. Then just tell him to keep going lower until he gets where you want him to be.
Or, the next time he wants you to give him a blowjob, say 'me first' and sprawl out on your or his bed, or wherever you are.
You can also just be straight up and tell him that if he's not even going to try to pleasure you, then he can just go get himself off.
Hope this helps!
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sweetie,
i understand that you're shy, but you have the right to be pleasured too! haha! when it comes to that, make yourself be heard... either talk to him beforehand... (no pun ntended haha!) about your wants..
or while in the mood, while its all going on, in a sexy voice, very seductively ask him to ...whatever you want him to do.. teell him... he'll be very turned on by that.. most guys are.. so don't be shy! =D
And f that doesn't work.. try doing it yoursellf.... MAybe like that he'll get the message! haha! ;-) because for sure he'll get super turned on by it, and he'll want to go at it himself!
hope this helps/works! =D
VB
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You shouldn't be so willing in the future to give if you are not receiving. It's a two way street here and you are in control. You should use tact to let him know you expect him to give back sometimes.
Say to him "I don't mind pleasuring you but perhaps you can reciporate more as i like that." There's nothing wrong with letting him know you want it to be a two way street. If he doesn't get it then stop giving for a while.
He'll understand then. Just tell him what I said above in the quotes verbatum and he'll understand. You can also try another method such as "I see you're enjoying this. I really enjoy it when we do X." That let's him know that you are interested in him doing something in return.
If you enjoy doing certain sexual things with him for your own pleasure you can always initiate things with him by telling him you'd like to have a bit of fun doing X together etc.
There's nothing wrong in asking him what you want or telling him or even suggesting it to him. You shouldn't be shy at all as there is trust here and he's only going to react well to it. If he's not shy to ask for what he enjoys or wants from you why should you be? There's no difference.
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there is nothing wrong with asking your man to please you along with you pleasing him. Shoot, why not ask him to do something that pleases you both at the same time? That way you both are enjoying.
Be playful. I was in the same situation as you and you just gotta be cute and playful. don't be forceful and dont say "if you do nothing for me i wont do anything for you" cuz that is like giving an ultimatum and that never works trust me.
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Hi.
Nope it's not rude to ask at all, the way I see it oral is all about pleasing 'each other'. You give as well as you get, or at least that's always how I've seen it (maybe it's why I've never really had much complaints in that department - take notes guys reading this, lol).
Anyway, this is your boyfriend and obviously your both close since you both have been doing this 'stuff' with each other so don't feel shy at all to ask him to do something for you as well. :] A playful wy to do it -- when he asks you to do something for him blowjob or handjob - whichever it might be) playfully ask him what he's going to do for you in return. ;) That should do it, hehe. If not then by all means be more direct about it and talk to him about it - there's nothing wrong at all in talking about it and also wanting to be pleasured yourself as well.
Even for future reference don't be afraid to ask/say what you want or how you want it. He could very well do something which doesn't feel good for you yet if you say nothing it will never get solved (and he may wonder what he's doing wrong and moreover why you're not saying anything about it). This works both ways too - neither of you should be afraid to talk to eachother and say what feels good and what doesn't and what you want and what you don't want (and when you want it). :] I hope I was a little help, good luck. :D
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He may not even realize that he has been slacking in that department. Maybe he's enjoying himself so much that he doesn't think about it. You could just take his hand and put it where you want while you are doing the same things to him. Or tell him you wish he'd do it more because you like it. It isn't rude and he'll probably be flattered that you like it so much.
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well, you dont sound all that shy. i have encountered this problem before... and do you know the best way to deal with this? STOP TOUCHING HIM!
when he asks; ask him when was the last time he touched you? and make it clear that its a two way thing, and not just about him!!
although he sounds really selfish, and if it were me, i wouldnt waste my time on him!!
charming ashlie
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