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Explaining to him.
I really want to have sex with my boyfriend, and I'm ready to. I'm 19/F and he's 22. We've been together for about a year and I love him so much, and I know he loves me. He said he would wait until I was ready, I am.
The problem is everytime we get close to actually having sex I freak out, and it's not that I'm having second thoughts or anything. I'm a virgin and I'm a little scared/nervous because it would be my first time and I don't really know what to expect or do. Were you guys nervous your first time? What even happens after you have sex, I wouldn't know what to do. And I guess I'm kinda scared that it won't be any good, for him, if that makes sense. I can't really describe what I'm feeling everytime I freak out.
Anyway, he can tell I'm freaking out and stops. I don't want him to. How can I tell him that I don't want him to stop. How can I explain why I'm freaking out? Any other advice would also be helpful.
Thank-you, and sorry for any grammatical errors. I typed this very fast.
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oh my gosh that is exactly hte situation with me only my man is 23 lol. its natural to be scared, i will tell ya right here and now i am scared. Scared its going to hurt and you just have to talk to him. Tell him your scared. tell him your ready. tell him you are nto afraid of the sex itself or having doubts, tell him you are afraid of the pain. just be sure it is what you really want to do before you do it. You have to be open and honest with him. becuase if he knows why are are freaking out, he can help calm your nerves. He can take it easy and be gentle. So just suck up your pride and say something, or it is never gonna happen
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hi there; i only waited 2 months before i had sex with my boyfriend (not current, my first), i knew i would freak out, so i just said one day "lets do it", and we did it there and then. and it wasnt that great, but the first time is never brilliant, when its your actual first time.
I was 17 when i had my first time, i live in the uk though.
the best thing to do is not to worry so much; if you love eachother then you will do it, then please each other, then cuddle, and be glad that it happened.
nothing bad will happen, it will be sweet and lovely.
i hope you enjoy making it better after your first time!
charming ashlie
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My first time, my boyfriend kept getting frustrated with me. I would tell him I was ready & then he'd go to do it, and I'd be like "OMG NO NEVERMIND." and I'd always do it. I finally sucked it up & went through with it. After you have sex, that's up to you. You guys can go to sleep, take a shower after [you might get a little dirty & you get sweaty], use the bathroom or just lay together & watch tv.
You're just nervous & scared. That's perfectly normal. Explain it to your boyfriend & I'm sure he'll understand what you're going through. Everyone's scared their first time.
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I completely understand what you are going through. It is a big decision and it can be nerve wracking even if you are ready. I would recommend talking to your bf about all of your fears. If he loves you as much as he seems to he will understand all of this. Plus, maybe he has the same fears!
I was very nervous my first time. It might hurt a little but it's nothing that you can't stand. Just go slow and don't stress out because that will just make you tense up and it will hurt more. Afterwards, most people just snuggle and enjoy the moment. You don't really have to do anything. And don't worry if it's not great the first time... trust me, it gets better. Like everything else you just need practice. Besides, it's usually the guy worrying if the girl will enjoy herself. Believe me, it's not as hard to make a man happy as a woman. :)
Oh and this is completely off topic, but please be safe and I would definately get on birth control first. That way you won't have anything else to freak out about. Good luck!
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