When life gives u lemons, make lemonade. Then, throw it in the face of the person who should've gotten you the oranges you orginally asked for.
What we do is determined by what we are. What we are is determined by what we think. What we think is determined by what we experience. What we experience is determined by what we are exposed to and what we do with that exposure.
(MIKE VANCE and DIANE DEACON)
Life is like a book with many different chapters. Some tell of tragedy, others of triumph. Some chapters are dull and ordinary, others intense and exciting. The key to being a success in life is to never stop on a difficult page, to never quit on a tough chapter. Champions have the courage to keep turning the pages because they know a better chapter lies ahead.
(RICH RUFFALO)
Because you're able to do it and because you have the right to do it, doesn't mean it's right to do it.
(Dr.LAURA SCHLESSINGER)
We are born with our eyes closed and our mouths open, and we spend our whole lives trying to reverse that mistake of nature.
(DALE E.TURNER)
You can have anything you want if you want it desperately enough. You must want it with an inner exuberance that erupts through the skin and joins the energy that created the world.
(SHEILAH GRAHAM)
We all have the ability. The difference is how we use it.
(STEVIE WONDER)
Everything is a once-in-a-lifetime experience.
Every great mistake has a halfway moment, a split second when it can be recalled and perhaps remedied.
One person can make a difference and every person should try.
The one thing worse than being alone is not being alone and wishing you were.
Real difficulties can be overcome, it is only the imaginary ones that are unconquerable.
(THEODORE N.VAIL)
The goal in marriage is not to think alike, but to think together.
(ROBERT C. DODDS)
Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not, but remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.
(EPICURUS)
When you look in the mirror, you are looking at the problem, but remember, you are also looking at the solution.
Live your life, so you don't have to hide your diary.
Dream what you dare to dream. Go where you want to go. Be what you want to be.
(CALVIN COOLIDGE)
The first thing of importance is to have confidence in yourself, in your abilities.
(KATHARINE GIBBS)
Become a 'possibilitarian'. No matter how dark things seem to be or actually are, raise your sights and see the possibilities-always see them, for they are always there.
(NORMAN VINCENT PEALE)
DAVID COPPERFIELD just might be the greatest magician and illusionist of all time. He is definitely a legend in his own time. Here are some of his most inspiring quotes...
'The easiest thing in the world is to come up with an excuse not to do something. I found that the most important thing in life is to stop saying,'I wish,' and to start saying,'I will.'
'Before there can be wonders, there must be wonder.'
'Whenever I pursued my dreams, I discovered something astonishing-I discovered myself. My secret has been to consider nothing impossible. Then to treat possibilities as probabilities.'
'Passion is everything.'
'I learned that there were two ways I could live my life: following my dreams or doing something else. Dreams aren't a matter of chance, but a matter of choice. When I dream, I believe I am rehearsing my future.'
Miracles do not happen in contradiction to nature, but only in contradiction to that which is known to us of nature.
(SAINT AUGUSTINE)
The world is composed of givers and takers... the takers may eat better, but the givers sleep better.
Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired.
(ROBERT FROST)
Love is a fruit in season at all times and within reach of every hand.
(MOTHER TERESA)
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hey my name is ashley... and almost everyday afetr school i come home crying because i am always being made fun of because i smell... i have no reason to smell. whats going on, how do i get them to stop, what should i do about the smell? (link)
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Hey,
i've read your problem, and that seems really tough and harsh. I've answered alot of questions before about people who are made fun of, and i have actually met some of them, and besides the fact that i was once on of them.
Every person has something that others criticize or don't like. But the whole smell thing, is not the thing that you should make them hate about you, i mean.. why would you go around the school and stand with people and meet your friends when you smell like that? YOu have to take care of the way you look, and your whole appearance infront of people and you have to make sure that you smell good and your breath smells good.
So don't let people hate you and get disgusted of you and call you names and make fun of you.
There are million of stores out there which sell original strong smelling perfumes, which smell really great and alot of people like it.
So why don't you go down and buy your self one, and buy deodrants and sprays ,and alot of stuff to make yourself smell good. Moreover, you should also shower constantly and everyday.
And then when you go to school,i am sure that you will hear a couple of other comments for the next few days, like' oh my god! she finally showered!" and stuff like that, and believe me i know alot of people who experienced that, but then people would start changing their minds and ideas about you again, and if they ever mention it again, it would be a joke which you'd enjoy and laugh about too.
So goodluck and consider what i advised you with,and if you need any further help, please be free to contact me.
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What the hell is wrong with boys? I don't understand them. When I don't talk to them, they say that I'm being unfriendly. And when I try to tell them and talk to them bout emotional stuff, they run away thinking that I'm in love with them. And when I try to tell them bout more emotional and philosophical stuff, they tell me that they dun understand wat I'm talking bout. Can someone please freaking tell me what wrong am I doing? I freaking pissed with boys! UGH! I hate them. (link)
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Hey,
I've read your problem, and i'd like to tell you what is it that your doing wrong.
You are either ignoring the boys and being unfreindly or your either talking about emotional stuff, why wouldn't you just talk about something normal any girl talks about with guys.
Number1, if you be unfriendly, then they will think that you are trying to be cool and that you are arrogant and you think you are better than them,and Number 2, if you talk to them about emotional stuff, they will think that you are hitting on them and you have a crush on them or something. So why don't you try to be a little sensible and reasonable , no offense meant, and when you go and talk to them, talk in a mature way, say hi and ask about them, and hang around for a while and enjoy a joke and laugh a bit. But let me tell you something, boys are the least important thing in this whole entire world, and there are much more better things that a person can do with his life instead of wasting it on some stupid childish and naive boys ,and who you waste your time getting pissed off and hate so much, that you can't concentrate on anything else because you can't stop thinking about them. If they want to talk, they are welcome to, and if they don't, then just do what i told you to do and say, but other than that, you are a much wiser person and you have more important things in your life.
So goodluck and if you need any other help or advice, and if you have any further problems, troubles ,worries and concerns, then please be free to contact me.
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i am very much into track and cross country, i have just started my summer cross country training for the season which begins in late august. one problem i am having is for two weeks i am going to an acting camp, one i have been to before which begins at 7 am (ill leave my house earlier) and i wont be home until 8:15 pm. at the camp, sitting is mainly what you are doing. the people there are much more theatre people and dont think alot about fitness. i really dont want to mess up my training schedule/the fitness ive been doing. any suggestions? (link)
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hey,
I've read your problem,and believe me, i understand how tiring it is. But i have a suggestion and i would like to tell you about it ,because it could help you. Now you said that you leave your house early in the morning ,and then you come home at about 8:15, will i suggest that after you finish that camp, you go immediately to the gymnasium, and you work out and run the track and make alot of exercises, and even one hour in the gymnasium every night after camp will do you good. So try to consider this and ask your mom and know if its okay with her. More and More, another thing is that you should do some stretches and exercises when you wake up in the morning.
Finally, if you need any other help or advice, please let me know.
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what are some good idie/rock/emo
songs or bands.
i need a new myspace song but ive had like every single song!
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Hey,
i know alot of rock bands so i'll give you some suggestions.
Foo Fighters- Nirvana- Queens of the stone age-
Alice in Chains- Radio head- Green day- Muse-
Thats it for now, you can try them and if you need any other suggestions for bands, please be free to contact me.
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15/f -- me and this guy ["jack"] have been friends for about 4 months and lately weve both started to "like" each other more and he's been wantin to ask me out for awhile [he told me so himself] but he knew that although i liked him too, i was really enjoying the single life and wasnt ready to be in another relationship. his brother was talkin to me a lil while back and said that if/when i decided i was ready to go out with jack, i could let him kno and then he'd tell jack he should ask me out. but i wanna put a spin on things and just ask him myself. the prob is, i dont kno how. ive never asked anyone out before. we only get to see each other about once a week cuz he works almost every day and stuff but we talk on the phone every night. so i was wondering should i ask him on the phone like tonight or wait till this weekend when i see him in person? and what would be a good way to do it? like when he says i love you, should i say something like .. i love you too, wanna make it official? or something like that? i wanna make it good but not complicated you kno? :]
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hey,
i've read your problem and i think i could give you my point of you in this situation.
First of all, you say that you are enjoying the singel life and you are not ready to be in another relationship. why? because when you broke up with your previous boyfriend, you were heart broken,hurt and in so much pain,is that why?
Let me tell you something, we all fall in love and are crazy about our boyfriends, and sometimes this relationship works out and sometimes it doesn't, and when it doesn't , we keep crying and feel so upset about it ,but then what, do we just simply give up and say that we will never date again, and when someone comes forward and says that he likes you and wants to be with you, do you just turn him down and practically say that you are afraid to be with him, because you were heart broken last time.
We were all meant to make mistakes, for example, to date someone and when they dump us, we will have to cry and feel sad, but then we learn from our mistakes and move on and date someone better.
Now this guy was your friend, so he knows you well, and he cares about you, and he said he likes you and you said you do too,then what is stopping you. Go on,and forget what had happened, and fall in love, and live your love, and always know that the greatest thing is to love and be loved in return ,so if you have that, then why not take advantage of it? It wil feel great to have someone to hang out with , and love an care about ,and someone to be there for you and ask about you.
So here is what you should do, you should ask him on the phone, when he says that he loves, you say that you love him too, and then you tell him how you were wondering if he'd like to go out with you during the weekend when you see each other, and he;s not dumb, and he'll understand that you are asking him out. And it will be good and simple and totally not complicated,and since this is what you want, then go for it.
Finally, if you need any other help or advice, or if you have any other problems troubles, worries or concerns, then please be free to contact me. Goodluck :)
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omg i'm really getting sick of my sister.(shes 2years older(15)) everyone is like obsessed with her. everyone just swarms to her and ignores me. it's basically been like this since we were babies. whenever my neighbors come to the door (which is like, every day) they're just like "is your sister here?" and if i say no they're just like o ok and walk away, and im just like hellooo i'm not invisible. and all adults are think shes like, the greatest thing ever. when shes around them, especially when we go to our grandparents house she acts all perfect. like when we ate she got up and started clearing the table and started cleaning all the dishes and cleans everything and acts like shes perfect just so people will think shes all good like that, but at home she'll just leave her crap everywhere. and tosay we were at my neighbors house and we were talking to his mom and she was talking about this time her boyfriend snuck over at like 2 and her excuse was ooh his parents were fighting and he had nowhere to go so he came to my house and my neighbors mom was all like awwww. and i was like noo unm he did that like, twice. so later she was like, o my god why did you say that?? its like she lies about stuff and then wants people to think she does nothing wrong. also, i really like to draw, and all of a sudden shes like oo i like arttt , all of a sudden and starts drawing eyes like, 24/7 and she thinks they're soo good. i drew all over my backpack one day because i was bored lol so my neighbor was over and she was like look how good this eye is so she drew it and i was like umm no offense that doesnt look real at all. so shes like fine show alex(my neighbor) the one you drew on your backpack and he'll rate them one to ten. so she draws this thing that basically look like an olive with a pupil and big straight eyelashes. and i showed him mine, (and i'm not bragging or anything. drawing is one of the few things i'm actually pretty good at) and i think it looked really good and realistic(so did my mom) and hes like to my sister, you get an 8. noo wait i mean a 10! and he saw mine and was like uuum a 5 or a 4. its like he went on my sisters side just because. its like no matter what i do my sister always has to do it better, even though i've been in her shadow basically my whole life. idk why everyone is so drawn to her, she has like, multiple personalities. shes mean to my mom and stuff but then she'll go see some other adult and act all nice and smart. same with people her own age. if shes around them and she doesnt really know them, she tries to act soo tough and stuff. it's like shes different depending on who shes around. it frustrates me soo bad because she always gets all the attention and everyone listens to her and. uugh i dunno. im just really sick of this. i'm sorry this is so long, i just really don't know what to do.
thanks (link)
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Hey,
I've read your problem and god! isn't that just really tough and hard for you. I under stand what your going through and how you feel and i've answered several problems before similar to yours.
First of all, i know that when she does all that, you just get really disgusted about how so sweet she;s acting and you just can't stand her and feel like your about to strangle her or spit on her since she's almost dripping of sweetness.
But deep deep inside you, you also have to accept the fact that she's your sister, and that this is your family, and these are your neighbours and that you love them and have a special place for them in your heart,just like they have one for you in their hearts. They may act like your sister is much better than you and they may also treat her better than you, but again, inside them they love you both the same and they want whats best for each one of you.
And in their minds, just like your sister does alot of good things that impress others and makes them very fond of her, you have talents of your own and things that you probably do, that makes people give you attention too.
And believe me, i am saying all that from past experiences i have had,so don't worry and don't feel so upset ,just try to act natural and don't show anyone that your jealous or feeling down. and just try to show them that your happy for your sister, and that you don't really care if they act as if you are invisible. Ofcourse it is so mean, rude and unfair from them to treat you like that.
But you always have to have some faith ,
confidence and trust in yourself that you are a good person and that you have something special inside you and talents that make you better than her. And you don't have to be like your sister, because your sister is simply showing of ,and she's arrogant and obnoxious and too proud of herself and cares about no one but herself, and no offense meant ,but this is the truth, and this is what proves her actions.So don't waste your time feeling jealous about someone like her,just be your self, and pretend that you don;t have a sister, and if she wants to talk then she's welcome to do that, but you don't wnat anything else from her. And i am sure that you have friends and other people that you know who care about you and love you and think that you are the best and give you all the attention you want.
So if you need any other help or advice, and if you there any further problems, troubles ,worries or concerns, then please be free to contact me.
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Ok i really like this guy. He goes to my school and i don't even think he knew that i even went to the same school or even was on the same plant. Well his brother asked me what if the guy i like would grap my hand when we are drivin around and i said i don't know. So then he was like HMMMMMMMMM. The only thing the guy that i like talks about is sex all the time. I have had sex but i dont' want to have sex till i am married. i like him but then i just don't know what i should do. Should i go out with him and give it up or should i just say that we need to be friends (link)
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Hey,
i've read your problem and i don't usually answer sex questions,but i had a point of veiw,and i'd like to tell you about it.
I think that you should just say that you need to be friends, and you can talk with him,and joke and laugh and fool around and do all you want, and mabye he'll start liking you and you'll like him too, than mabye you'd give it up yourself, and you'll find yourself with him talking about sex and having it and you'll change your opinion about not having sex before marriage. And mabye he'd also turn to be a really sweet guy, and when you;d get close to him, you;ll know that sex isn't the only thing on his mind ,and that he's lots of fun, and you;ll change your idea about him. So just get close to him as a friend first and then if you see that he's worth more than that ,then you can take a step forward and go out with him.
Finally, if you need any more help or advice, please be free to contact me.
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I am falling behind! My life is a bomb right now. I dunno what to do. Should I tell someone bout this? (link)
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hey,
I read your problem and i understand how you feel. Because there came a time, when i was falling behind too, and my life was so messed up, and everything was out of control. Thats why i am willing to help you and tell you what to do,but first of all, i would like to clarify a point for you.
Now life isn't all great and isn't all bad either, there are times when you could be laughing ,joking, gossiping with friends, hanging out with this and that and having the fun of your life,and then there are other times when you could be crying ,feeling depressed, melancholic, upset and you think that your whole life has just come to an end.
But either ways, we should always try to straighten things up and fix everything and to make it better, and we should always try to be optimistic, and have some hope and faith that things will be better.
So now you think that you are falling behindm why? is it because of your grades , or friends, or the person your dating ,or...etc.
There are many reasons for a person to fall down on his knees and say" I've fallen behind and i can't get up!" but then what, in a day or two, your back on your foot and your moving on, and everything is back to normal and even better.Therefore all life needs is someone to believe in it and someone to work hard and make it better for himself and others. And all you have to do is to concentrate on your studying and if you can't figure something out ,you could always ask for help, because its not wrong to ask for help. Moreover, you should just treat your friends good and with respect, and you could have all the fun you want, and just be a good person and be optimistic and believe in life and in your self. And obviously, there is no advice i can give you in that, because you didn't clarify what is going wrong in your life.
But i just want to tell you something, that no one is perfect and no one has a perfect life, but we all do out best to make it better and nicer and just as good as possible.
So try to consider what i said, and if you need any further help, plese be free to contact me.
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OK here goes....I dated this guy for a year and half exactly. I broke up with him bc i basically opened my eyes and seen that i wasnt being treated the right way and i sorta found someone who really cares about me but i really still care about my ex. He was my first love and i dont know how to make the hurt go away. I mean i dont want to get back with him but i do want the hurt and pain to go away. How do i make it go away. (link)
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Hey,
I have read your problem and i understand how you feel and how much it hurts to leave someone who you once loved so much and cared about.
But sometimes, there are relationships which work out and go on for years,and someones there are others which become really obvious in a week or two, that things aren't working out,like when your boyfriend ignores you alot and doesn't give you the attention you seek, and there is just no right communication or love or care,and i am sure you understand what i mean.
Therefore, it was really right for you to break up with him, because if he really did like you,then he would have treated you in the same way he had the first day he dated you.
If someone loves another, than that love between them shouldn't change even if years and years have passed.But your boyfriend, obviously got bored or something and in a day or two, you'll find him with a new girl, and he'll date her for another 2 years, then he'll stop treating her well and he'll let go.
Therefore, to ease the pain that he has caused, try to think of unfair he had treated you lately, and how he practically gave you no love and care at the end of your relationship. And i am sure that by now, you are so sick and tired of the way he used to treat you, that you can't stand him anymore and you don't want to see his face again.
And yet, i understand that a part of you from deep inside of you, still love him and is really hurt to break up with him. Thats why you should occupy your time with something else, and try to give all this love you gave him to someone else, someone worth all this love, someone who loves you back, cares about you, stands beside you when you need him, is there for you , and someone who is willing to treat you right and with respect till the end.And guess what? you have already found this love, and you have already found that person. Therefore, instead of thinking of someone who you have done nothing with but waste your time, think of this other person who cares about you,and take advantage of that, and hold on to him,and love him and show him what a terrific girlfriend you are and what an amazing person you can be and what loads of fun you can bring,because when your ex sees this all, he'll regret that he treated you like shit, and he could even come and talk or apologize or try to be with you by any means,and when that happens, you'll turn your back on him and put your hand your new boyfriend's hands and walk of someone who really cares about you and is willing to treat you right.
You are a great person, and i know it and i am sure of it, and you have just been treated like a shit by your ex, and fortunately, another sweet guy came and wants to be with you, then why don't you be with him, and love him and care about him,and give all your love to him?
I'll ask you a question, why do you still love someone who doesn't love you anymore, and who doesn't care about you anymore, and is practically treating you like shit, when you totally don't deserve this, and when there is someone else who is a much better person than your ex?
so consider what i said, and if you need any further help or advise, and if there are any further problems, or troubles or worries or concerns, please be free to contact me.
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Ok so there is this guy I like. Lets call him...Mark.
Well my friend introduced me to Mark and when I was talking to him on AIM my friend yells that he thinks I'm pretty.
Well after that we started talking more and more. Then later that night he told me that he has a girlfriend. It was fine with me because I was thinking of really getting together with him.
Then he was saying how he liked me and how he wanted to be with me but, then the next day all he could talk about was his girlfriend and how much she likes him and all of that.
I can't help but feel somewhat jealous.
I really don't know what to do. I do like him even after I am trying not to but it's hard.
Part of me wants to think he likes me really and then another part of me just says that he does it to all the girls he talks to.
What should I say to him? (link)
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Hey,
I read your problem and i understand what your going through and how tought it is to love someone ,but not be sure if you should be with that person or not.
But first of all, the thing is that this boy has a girlfriend and he likes her, and she likes him,and therefore this is the first reason that would not make him be with you or even have time to think about you and love you, because he will never break up with his girlfriend to be with you. Second of all, Your best friend likes him, and his girlfriend likes him, and you like him, therefor don't you think that this is going out of hand and that it makes it harder for him to be with you.
All in all, i think that you are really good friends, and that you talk,chat, gossip and have loads of fun. And moreover, when he felt that he wanted to talk to someone about his girlfriend , he came to you and he talked to you about it,because you listen and he trusts you and likes you as a friend. He may have said that he liked you and wanted to be with you,but that was only because he was probably in a fight with his girlfriend,and then the next day they probably made up,so he was happy and couldn't talk about nothing but his girlfriend and how much she likes him.Right? isn't that what happened? this is exactly what made him change his way, and in a day, he's all over you and wants you,and in the next day, he's back with his girlfriend and she likes him and he likes her. That doesn' show him to be a bad friend, but it just shows that he is not serious about loving you and taking a step forward and being your boyfriend, but it was just more like wasting time, or because he was feeling down because of his girlfriend .
So you shouldn't say anything to him,and you shouldn't even ask him about how he said that he liked you,but just act natural and be a good friend and listen to what he has to say and be there for him,because he will do the same to you.But this will only be as friends, but you and him in a relationship will not work. So i know that you like him and i understand how you feel, but sometimes its much better to stay as friends,instead of saying i love you to each other, and then mabye your relationship would not work ,and then you would neither be dating nor would you be friends. So just leave things that way,and don't take a step back wards or forwards.
Finally, if you need any further help or advice,and if you have any troubles, problems ,worries or concerns, then please be free to contact me.
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i love to compliment my boyfriend and make him feel good, but sometimes i run out of things to say! what kind of compliments do guys like most? and how do you let them know how attractive you think they are without simply using words such as hot? i know it should be easy but i wanna know what kind of compliments make guys feel the BEST and how i should word things (link)
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Hey,
I read your problem, and i have a point of view i'd like to share with you.
Guys hate girls who go around and tell them that he looks nice ,hot, sexy...blah blah blah. Its like your complimenting him just so he wouldn't leave you. Did HE ever compliment you? or at least, does he ever compliment you as much as you do to him? I mean .. sometimes there are times when a compliment should be said, but you can't go around everytime you see him and tell him fake compliments that you don't really mean, just to attract him to you. Instead, you can go out with him, have fun ,show him that you love him, make out with and do what any girl does.But if you keep complimenting him, he'll get kind of annoyed, and he'll notice that you have complimenting a little to much .
Besides, i am telling you this, because there were two guys that i knew, and i thought that if i wanted to attract them , then i should just keep complimenting them, and later on, they got really annoyed how everytime i see them, i just point out something good about them, and they hated me and kept making fun of me.
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i love to compliment my boyfriend and make him feel good, but sometimes i run out of things to say! what kind of compliments do guys like most? and how do you let them know how attractive you think they are without simply using words such as hot? i know it should be easy but i wanna know what kind of compliments make guys feel the BEST and how i should word things (link)
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Hey,
I read your problem, and i have a point of view i'd like to share with you.
Guys hate girls who go around and tell them that he looks nice ,hot, sexy...blah blah blah. Its like your complimenting him just so he wouldn't leave you. Did HE ever compliment you? or at least, does he ever compliment you as much as you do to him? I mean .. sometimes there are times when a compliment should be said, but you can't go around everytime you see him and tell him fake compliments that you don't really mean, just to attract him to you. Instead, you can go out with him, have fun ,show him that you love him, make out with and do what any girl does.But if you keep complimenting him, he'll get kind of annoyed, and he'll notice that you have complimenting a little to much .
Besides, i am telling you this, because there were two guys that i knew, and i thought that if i wanted to attract them , then i should just keep complimenting them, and later on, they got really annoyed how everytime i see them, i just point out something good about them, and they hated me and kept making fun of me.
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This is kind of long, so sorry in advance.
one of my friends did a chat room on AIM with his friends and me. one of his friends was the only other person there my age and we talked for a bit. a few weeks later he IMed me again and we talked a little more and i enjoyed talking to him (not sure about him). We have a lot of similar interests. I met him once at youth group but we didnt talk much and now we hardly talk on AIm either.
I want to be friends with him, but i can't really figure out a way to do that if he doesnt really talk to me anymore and the idea of just asking him "will you be my friend" sounds really retarded, even in my mind. He goes to a different school and i only know him through my other friend.
So basically my question is... how i can become friends with him if he hardly talks to me and i only see him rarely at youth group? (link)
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Hey,
I read your problem and i understand what your trying to say. And he sounds like a really sweet guy and all.
I don't think i really have anything to say about this topic, but i have suggestion i though mabye i could tell you about. umm...why don't you IM him as he IMed you,and then mabye you could talk together.
Look, everyone likes to make friends and have freinds, and there are alot of friendly people in this world, and i am sure that he is one of them too. So next time when you see him in youth group, start talking about anything that comes to your mind. You said that you have alot in common and alot of similat interests , than just open any topic with him ,and keep talking. Be really sweet and funny and lots of fun, because thats why guys like, and sit with him, and hang around,and then he'll start talking to,and you will be good friends. Because all it needs is just communication. You can't go and tell him " i want you to be my freind" because he's just gonna look at you and say" we are already friends",and he won't understand what you really want from him. But these things happen natural, we can't tell one another that we are friends or best friends, thats just who we are.
so goodluck and try to go with some of the suggestions i said and consider it, and if you need any further help or advice, please be free to contact me.
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First, thanks for reading this. I've been dating a 40 yr old man, Chris, for a couple of weeks, and we get along really well, I like him a lot, and he feels the same way. Last week, I met a guy online, Jon, who is 26, much closer to my age of 22. Jon and I have an amazing connection, he's everything I ever wanted in a man, except that he smokes...and he lives two hours away. I'm having trouble deciding which relationship to pursue. Should I drop Chris and see where things go with Jon, even if I'd only see him once or twice a week, or forget about Jon and keep seeing Chris, who lives in my town? I'm so confused, and I really need help! Do you have any suggestions on what I should do to decide? Thanks! (link)
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hey,
I have a point of you, and i will share it with you. i have answered alot of questions before about people who do online dating, or you know, meet someone on the internet and start loving him and stuff.
First of all, i was going to tell you about how i don't believe in online dating and that it never works out,but since you are going to see him and meet him ,than its not a problem.
More and More, in this situation, its not important how many days a week you'll see anyone one of them, or how long the distance takes to their houses, but the most important thing is to figure out which one that your more attract to,and which one shares alot of stuff with you and you have alot in common,and which one do you really like. And i can't help you with that, because that goes back to you,therefore, you have to follow your heart, and see to where does it lead you and which person does it choose,and trust your instincts.
There fore, i think that i've said all i can to help you,but there is another point i want to clarify to you. I have always thought that age gaps do not really matter unless they are more than six years maximum,but don't you think that chris is a little to old, no offense, but don't you think that oneday, you will still be 33 and he'll be 50, a little to old? don't you think?
I guess what i am trying to say, that jon, does actually happen to be your age, and there is alot in common between you and him,besides that he's really sweet and understanding.
But all in all, it goes back to you in choosing who you really want, i clarified some points for you and made things clearer, but i can't decide your own future and love life for you,but i am always there to advise you,therefore if you need any furthere help ,please be free to contact me.
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my boyfriend and i have known eachother for a year but we have only been dating for 4 months...we liked eachother longer than that but its a long story but anyways, almsot every girl i know likes him and i get really jealous which starts fights because i am so scared he is going to leave me, but i dont know how to stop being so jealous..i love him and he says he loves me but i feel like one day he is going to realize he can do better and i will be left by myself. i also have really bad trust issues because while i was at the beach about a month ago he went over to his ex's house and he said they didnt do anything but after i asked him if he went he lied and said he didnt which makes me wonder if he lies about other stuff so i just dont know when i can trust him, i have started trusting him morebut its just really hard whenso many girls like him...so how can i start trusting him and get over my jealousy? (link)
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Hey,
When i was reading your problem, a thought crossed my mind. You have a terrific boyfriend,
who loves you and cares about you, and the best thing is that you own him and have him all to yourself,and your wasting all this because your too busy thinking if he will,in the future, like another girl and dump you,or if he will,in the future, betray you or cheat on you.
Your actions of jealousy, and your fights that are very unreasonable and meaningless to your own boyfriend who tells you i love you everyday.
These actioins WILL make him leave you, and start ditching you. i mean... its actually as if you are telling him" i don't trust you !and i think that you could be cheating on me with your ex!" and yet he still loves you and says nothing about it. But now, i am advising you and telling you to change that before its to late.
YOur boyfriend loves, cares about you and he trusts you. Therefore he did this part,and now,i know that you love him too and care about him, but there has to be trust, or else this whole relationship will have to end,and if there is trust then there will not be any jealousy of any sort.
And instead of thinking of all these thoughts you think about,why don't you think "oh my god! my boyfriend is sweet,because although alot of girls like him, he's still sticking by my side and loving me and wanting me"
Therefore, i am will tell you how to overcome this feeling of jealousy, to trust your boyfriend, and believe in him and his love to you. Because he does, and therefore, you have to be loyal too and do your part,because you don't want to be the wrong one in the situation. So show him that you are happy,and that you are lots of fun, and see what he likes to do, and do it with him, and change things about you that would make him like you and attract to you even more. You have something very precious in your hands, so don't lose that, because if you do ,then you will regret it so much, and not only that, but you will regret all the fights and dis-trust and jealousy you showed him.
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im not really sure my boyfriend likes me. there is a 3 year age difference. and he thinks i dont trust him. what should i do?? (link)
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Hey,
First of all,the age gap is totally no big deal and has noting to do with your boyfriend not liking you.
Second of all, there is no reaseon for him to think that way, because unless there is ,then he's wasting your time.
Look, its a very sweet thing to worry about your boyfriend, and that he may not like you,but you have to be reasonable to try and figure out things around you and things that happen.
Now if there is no reason for him to think that you don't trust him,and if the age gap has nothing to do with the situation, then why would you think that he doesn't like you.
I mean.. i don't think that he will come and ask you out ,and be your boyfriend,and then tell you that he thinks that you don't trust him.Doesn't that sound alittle silly to you, because it does to me. Now, you are a good person and you care and love your boyfriend, then why don't you try and ask him what is it that makes him feel that way or think that way,mabye its just something bothering him or he's upset about something.And if he doesn't tell you in the first time, then ask him in the second time, then the third time,and if he still says that he simply has that feeling, then let go of the topic, and just pretend as if he didn't ever tell you. Because your not going to waste your time with some pathetic meaningless thing, as "i think you don't trust me for no reason". So, just consider what i said, and take it easy, its no big deal.
And if there any further problems, troubles ,worries or concerns,then please be free to contact me.
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i have this really embaressing problem with underarm sweating. i've always had this problem ever since i started puberty and my sweat glands started, for lack of a better word at the moment, working. now, it seems like i start sweating at random times. heat isn't even a factor, somtimes i sweat after i come out of the shower or a few minutes after i wake up, even if i haven't done anything physical. what's happening to me? and how can i get rid of this problem? please don't tell me to buy those expensive sweat reducing chemical things because i can't afford it. thank you (link)
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hey,
I've read your problem,and i don't see anything ubnormal in what your saying. We all start that stage of puberty, and start sweating alot especially under the arm. Its no problem, and it can't be dealt with except if you shower,(even if you start sweating after that) at least you will smell good,and we can put on the airconditioner,and there are certain sprays that you could put and they are not that expensive, and sometimes actually very cheap.
So don't worry at all, this is totally normal, and all connected to the puberty stage.
Finally, if there are any more troubles,worries,or concerns, then please be free to contact me.
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hi am 13 female i need some advice my best friend lets call her ciara is mad at me because i didnt tell her my secret first. but i didnt tell that other person named courtney she just found out i try to explain to her that i didnt tell her but she wont believe me and i dont want us to stop talking to each other again what should i do?thanks (link)
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Hey,
I've read your problem and i understand what your trying to saying.But first of all, i need to clarify a point for you.
Umm.. I have a best friend called monica,and we have been best friends for 6 years now,and then one time , i had this huge secret, and i wasn't even sure if i was going to tell her or not,and then one way or another, the secret got spread around,and alot of people knew about it, and one girl called nancy came and kept talking about it to me, and so monica got mad, and she told me "you always tell me your secrets first before anyone else" and so i told her that I was wrong and that i am sorry and that i should have told her before the word spread out, and do you know what she did? She accepted my apology, right there at at the spur of moment,because i have always known my best friend, and she had always known that i trust her and tell her my secrets before i tell anyone else.
So here in your situation, this is really similar to my story.And your not wrong about anything, because you were going to tell her ,before this courtney found out about it,so its definitely not your fault.
Besides ,number 1,she may be your best freind,but that doesn't mean that you have to tell her about all your secrets.
Number2, and if you do tell her your secrets, you have the right not to tell her completely everything that goes on with your life, because sometimes a person feels better when he keeps something to himself in stead of saying it to others.
So what you should do is, to make sure that you apologized and promised that next time you will tell her before any one else knows,and because you guys are really good and close friends, and i know it, then she will believe in what you say, and in a day or two, she will come around,and she'll start talking as if nothing happened, but on the other hand, when she does that, you'll still have to keep your promise.
Finally, if there is any further trouble, problems, worries or concerns, please be free to contact me.
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i have to get into shape.....this guy i loke is so cute and i want him..and i just wanna make sure my belly is flat...cuz i am not fat i just wanna get nice so he will notice me...but i am 115 lbs. and i am like 5 feet 1 inch
but please help me find ways to get him...cuz he likes me and i like him....and if this helps i go to water polo and swim training everday
and i play soccer and cross country
so i am fit!!
thanks
meghan (link)
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Hey,
I have answer some similar problems before, so i am going to tell you some methods you could do to lose weight and be more fit:
1-You can go to the club everyday after or before the practise, and go to the gym and work out some exercises for losing weight and being in shape, and there you could consult a trainer and he will help you and tell you the suitable exercises for losing weight.
2-You can consult a doctor to make you a healthy food plan containing the 4 food group
3- Quit all possible junk food
4-If you get hungry ,you can drink lots of water
5-You can go for long walks everyday
6-and you could buy some of those electronic machines to your own home, and work out every morning when you wake up.
I can't think of anything else, so you could look at my advice column,and if you need anymore help, please be free to contact me.
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so, i recently transfered to an girls school from a coed school. so i'm kinda new to the environment. its been about a month of classes alredy and suddenly, i feel a bit different to this popular lesbian. and it MIGHT because i'm starting to like her!! but this can't be happening! i think a girl having a crush on a girl is gRoSS!!! but then, what can i do about it?? how do i stop myself before i do anything stupid!!?? please help me!!
-Carlotta (link)
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hey,
I've read your problem and i understand what your trying to say, and i am sure that its all strange and hard for you this whole transfer to a new school.
First of all, i would like to clarify a point for you, when a person( for example a female), meets another female, and really likes her personality and character, and even appearance, and sometimes gets these weird thoughts. But this is all because this female likes the opposite one, and is so fond of her, and even takes her as her ideal person. But it doesn't actually mean that you are a lesbian like her, or that your going to do something stupid with her. I mean... think about this, do you really want to end up being a lesbian, and kissing a girl and doing this and that with her? OR would you rather do all these stuff with a boy ,who would love you and care about you, and your relationship could be serious and people would respect you.On the other hand, if you do something with this girl and get serious with her, than people will start to disrespect you and will not want to be friends with you, mabye some will, but most of them won't.
And if you weren't a good person,cared about her reputation, you wouldn't have came here to post this question and ask for someone's help.
She can't force you to do something with her,and as long as you think that two girls hooking up together is gross, than you will never doing anything stupid that you'll regret.
Besides, you have just been transfered to a new school, so make new friends and know other people who are good and respectable and concentrate on your studying and stuff. Because if you do something stupid and become a lesbian like her,than believe me when i say that you will regret it for the rest of your life, and than if you try to change again to be straight, you would have already built a bad reputation, and nobody would want to be friends with you, and no guy would date you. So do you see what i am trying to say, that a girl like her could ruin your entire social life and reputation.But i know that you are better than that, and i am sure that you have other friends,so get to know them better and get close to them. And you can still talk to that other girl,but show her that your not interested in anything of the whole"lesbian"thing, and just be good friends,and ask about her and stuff, but not more than that.
Finally, if there any further problems, troubles ,worries and concerns, please be free to contact me.
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